*UPDATE* Argument with the gf - Am I coldhearted?

[Geekbabe]

Your g/friend's family isn't helping "the loser" they're helping the girl and most importantly the baby.
It is very common to not really need to buy anything after the birth of your 1st child because you get so much stuff,using family handme downs on expensive items like cribs is also common and makes sense on a lot of levels.The family might not like the situation any better than you do but what's done is done and there's now an innocent child to be concerned about.Shunning the girl does no good and puts the infant at risk.

You have been asked to help by giving a total of 2 rides,yet you're going on and on as if you've been asked to do something huge or on an ongoing basis.I say look upon it as a favor to your g/friend and if you can't bring yourself to give the guy a ride as a favor to her just say no.

 

[Ameesh]

i will buy you a beer if you break up with her today, i'm sure other guys will match my offer.

 

[digitalsm]

Originally posted by: lilcam
oh ... i'm really starting to rethink this relationship. even my mom is mad and tells me i deserve better. why i still stay with her i dont know.

Asian traditions are all fvcked up if you ask me. I'm sorry if I offend the other asian ppl on this board. I'm not saying all asian, but I've seen enough especially dealing with this personally and seeing my cousins going through the same sh!t before. They got married a little over a year ago after they thought she was pregnant. I think she had a miscarriage or something. So, then I heard these two were trying to get pregnant but couldnt because he kept smoking that herb or whatever he was on. Now she actually got pregnant and they'll be messed up cuz I know damn well the girl's mother will be taking care of that kid. The 16 y/o doesnt know any better.

The guy stated awhile back that his kid would be getting a free ride from welfare. Thats cool and all if you really need it, but to abuse it and not work because you get "free" money aint coo.

and what's messed up is her mom keeps saying we make lots of money and we should contribute some to her monthly. this woman is in her mid 30s and needs to freakign work!!! my mom is in her 40s and she's working like every other folks! why should she be any different. I can't imagine what it would be like if we were rich.

Get out while you can, without problems. And Run. Run far.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Originally posted by: lilcam
oh ... i'm really starting to rethink this relationship. even my mom is mad and tells me i deserve better. why i still stay with her i dont know.

Asian traditions are all fvcked up if you ask me. I'm sorry if I offend the other asian ppl on this board. I'm not saying all asian, but I've seen enough especially dealing with this personally and seeing my cousins going through the same sh!t before. They got married a little over a year ago after they thought she was pregnant. I think she had a miscarriage or something. So, then I heard these two were trying to get pregnant but couldnt because he kept smoking that herb or whatever he was on. Now she actually got pregnant and they'll be messed up cuz I know damn well the girl's mother will be taking care of that kid. The 16 y/o doesnt know any better.

The guy stated awhile back that his kid would be getting a free ride from welfare. Thats cool and all if you really need it, but to abuse it and not work because you get "free" money aint coo.

and what's messed up is her mom keeps saying we make lots of money and we should contribute some to her monthly. this woman is in her mid 30s and needs to freakign work!!! my mom is in her 40s and she's working like every other folks! why should she be any different. I can't imagine what it would be like if we were rich.

Wtf? They got pregnant on purpose, and are on welfare? That's disgusting. Congratulations, you've taken up with some real trailer trash. Get rid of your dumb girlfriend and her family before they suck you in to their pathetic lifestyle.

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: Rage187
Dump your girlfriend, and for the love of god, please do NOT spread those genes she is caring.

The world has enough trailor trash as it is.

gf had the nerves to call me lazy because i didnt want to drive her mom to the hospital.
she said "wow ... i wonder if you would be the same if i was pregnant"
i told her to shut the fvck up because i wouldn't expect other people to drive me around and run errands for me and my family. i would make sure i'm ready to take responsibility to raise a family. not have a baby first and then have other folks support me and my family as her sister is doing now.

i really feel for the baby. it's embarrassing to know that her parents are expecting others to feed/raise/pamper her.

 

[Dissipate]

That is one messed up family. My suggestion is to dump your girlfriend and get the HELL out of dodge.

 

[DaWhim]

tell your girlfriend to be reasonable
tell your girlfriend's sister and her husband to be responsible

this is just absurd...

 

[digitalsm]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Your g/friend's family isn't helping "the loser" they're helping the girl and most importantly the baby.
It is very common to not really need to buy anything after the birth of your 1st child because you get so much stuff,using family handme downs on expensive items like cribs is also common and makes sense on a lot of levels.

You have been asked to help by giving a total of 2 rides,yet you're going on and on as if you've been asked to do something huge.I say look upon it as a favor to your g/friend and if you can't bring yourself to give the guy a ride as a favor to her just say no.

If two dumbass kids 16 and 20 plan to have a baby, they full well should atleast have one income.

 

[MystikMango]

Can we know what flavor Asians we are talking about? It might help.

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: Feldenak
Your girlfriend's 16 year old sister and husband just had a baby?

Christ, where do you live? West Virginia?

No Probably Tennessee



BEND OVER AND SQUEL LIKE A PIIIIG!!

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Your g/friend's family isn't helping "the loser" they're helping the girl and most importantly the baby.
It is very common to not really need to buy anything after the birth of your 1st child because you get so much stuff,using family handme downs on expensive items like cribs is also common and makes sense on a lot of levels.The family might not like the situation any better than you do but what's done is done and there's now an innocent child to be concerned about.Shunning the girl does no good and puts the infant at risk.

You have been asked to help by giving a total of 2 rides,yet you're going on and on as if you've been asked to do something huge or on an ongoing basis.I say look upon it as a favor to your g/friend and if you can't bring yourself to give the guy a ride as a favor to her just say no.

no ... it pisses me off they contemplated this whole thing. They wanted that baby and knew ppl were going to be there for them. Babies grow fast so the hand me downs won't last long. His sisters buying the baby formula and diapers won't last long either once they realize how much stuff a baby goes through.

So, basically I'm rebelling. They have enough help from other ppl. I wish it were that easy to have someone raise my kids when I do get around to having one. I can't knock the gf up tonight and figure out that my parents and friends will be there for me. I'm 24 and they'll beat my a$$ knowing I had a baby this young!

 

[Rage187]

She is going to drag you down to her families level.


One day I may even see you on COPS with your shirt off screaming "She hit me first!!!"

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: digitalsm

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Your g/friend's family isn't helping "the loser" they're helping the girl and most importantly the baby.
It is very common to not really need to buy anything after the birth of your 1st child because you get so much stuff,using family handme downs on expensive items like cribs is also common and makes sense on a lot of levels.

You have been asked to help by giving a total of 2 rides,yet you're going on and on as if you've been asked to do something huge.I say look upon it as a favor to your g/friend and if you can't bring yourself to give the guy a ride as a favor to her just say no.

If two dumbass kids 16 and 20 plan to have a baby, they full well should atleast have one income.

That's not the point here.His g/friend has requested that he give somebody a ride not that he fiscally back them for life.

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: MystikMango
Can we know what flavor Asians we are talking about? It might help.

if the answer is cambodian will it all make sense?

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: digitalsm

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Your g/friend's family isn't helping "the loser" they're helping the girl and most importantly the baby.
It is very common to not really need to buy anything after the birth of your 1st child because you get so much stuff,using family handme downs on expensive items like cribs is also common and makes sense on a lot of levels.

You have been asked to help by giving a total of 2 rides,yet you're going on and on as if you've been asked to do something huge.I say look upon it as a favor to your g/friend and if you can't bring yourself to give the guy a ride as a favor to her just say no.

If two dumbass kids 16 and 20 plan to have a baby, they full well should atleast have one income.

thank you ... i told my gf if it's ok for her sister to have a baby at that age and not have a job and expect someone else to contribute to the kids well-being then we mind as well help all the crack addicts out there!

we're cambodians ...

 

[Rage187]

^ wow Ameesh good guess.

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Your g/friend's family isn't helping "the loser" they're helping the girl and most importantly the baby.
It is very common to not really need to buy anything after the birth of your 1st child because you get so much stuff,using family handme downs on expensive items like cribs is also common and makes sense on a lot of levels.The family might not like the situation any better than you do but what's done is done and there's now an innocent child to be concerned about.Shunning the girl does no good and puts the infant at risk.

You have been asked to help by giving a total of 2 rides,yet you're going on and on as if you've been asked to do something huge or on an ongoing basis.I say look upon it as a favor to your g/friend and if you can't bring yourself to give the guy a ride as a favor to her just say no.

no ... it pisses me off they contemplated this whole thing. They wanted that baby and knew ppl were going to be there for them. Babies grow fast so the hand me downs won't last long. His sisters buying the baby formula and diapers won't last long either once they realize how much stuff a baby goes through.

So, basically I'm rebelling. They have enough help from other ppl. I wish it were that easy to have someone raise my kids when I do get around to having one. I can't knock the gf up tonight and figure out that my parents and friends will be there for me. I'm 24 and they'll beat my a$$ knowing I had a baby this young!

your parents are correct, you don't want to marry into that, think when you have kids what there uncles and aunts and grand parents will be like. I'll buy you two beers if you do it today and record it.

 

[SinnerWolf]

not cold at all. he knocked up a minor and married her. He needs to learn how to be an adult. I don't think that welfare is a bad thing in general, even if they're getting all the baby must-haves from relatives. They can use that money towards a car so they can leave you the hell alone! Your gf of course wants to be there for her sister, but your life should not be proxied to her loser husband because he likes them young but can't drive them anywhere.

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: digitalsm

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Your g/friend's family isn't helping "the loser" they're helping the girl and most importantly the baby.
It is very common to not really need to buy anything after the birth of your 1st child because you get so much stuff,using family handme downs on expensive items like cribs is also common and makes sense on a lot of levels.

You have been asked to help by giving a total of 2 rides,yet you're going on and on as if you've been asked to do something huge.I say look upon it as a favor to your g/friend and if you can't bring yourself to give the guy a ride as a favor to her just say no.

If two dumbass kids 16 and 20 plan to have a baby, they full well should atleast have one income.

That's not the point here.His g/friend has requested that he give somebody a ride not that he fiscally back them for life.

it starts with the rides. next thing you know, they'll want clothes and formula. can you imagine if i had a kid and my kid was there for a day or so. my poor baby would have to share his formula with their kid! come on now!

she already asked me for some of my clothes cuz she couldn't fit her clothes when she was pregnant. how ridiculous is that? i take care of my gf so why can't he take care of his wife?!

 

[SackOfAllTrades]

methinks for better answers you should have omitted the ages.

But what do I know? I see someone that would rather post here and judge someone that is in the hospital rather than just helping them out.

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: Rage187
^ wow Ameesh good guess.

holy sh!t i was stereotyping! no offense intended lilcam, i realize not all cambodians are the same.



i still say dump her.

 

[Rage187]

Dont let any of these soft hearted liberals give you a hard time lilcam.


That family is a leech looking to attach themselves to something they can leech off of.

Dont be a sucka.

 

[digitalsm]

Originally posted by: SackOfAllTrades
methinks for better answers you should have omitted the ages.

But what do I know? I see someone that would rather post here and judge someone that is in the hospital rather than just helping them out.

What I see is a fvcked up situation he should remove himself from. It his not his problem his g/fs sister got knocked up and has a husband that doesn't do a damn thing.

I guess if not helping dumbasses makes me a cold hearted bastard, I guess Im a cold hearted bastard. I feel sorry for two people the baby and lilcam...

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: Ameesh

Originally posted by: Rage187
^ wow Ameesh good guess.

holy sh!t i was stereotyping! no offense intended lilcam, i realize not all cambodians are the same.



i still say dump her.

np ... my mom is funny ... she sees this situation play itself out in many cambodian families. she's a counselor at a local school so she knows many cambodians. she told me "cambodian families are dumb. they marry their kids off at a young age, neglecting to push them towards high education. chinese ppl are better. they teach their kids good values and work hard for their money."

obviously it's not all cambodians, but enough to make me wonder. no wonder i hardly have any asian friends!

 

[DaWhim]

having baby at the age of 16 yo is not a friiking asian tradition :Q
I have never seen any of my asian friends marry that young. the youngest that got married and gave birth to a boy was 19 y/o!

well, I feel sorry that you are/were forced to help them. your g/f's sis doesn't deserve any sympathy at all.