Typically, how hard is it for a guy to get a girlfriend?

[zimu]

<< You are a cutie. >>



awwww!
guess you're just not trying hard enough!

 

[Urinal Mint]

Remedy: What I do is look at them until they catch my eye again, and then smile at them when they do, adding in a happy &quot;Hi&quot;. It's a good way to at least start a conversation... I mean, you're not trying to get in her pants on the bus! Just talk to them during the ride and get to know them a little better. Gotta get your foot in the door somehow.

 

[Urinal Mint]

Heh, I don't think a girl has ever told me I was cute or good looking.

/me stares at the wall, puzzled.

 

[kassy]

Urinal Mint - not true, I think I said you were a cutie.

(But I am an old fart, so my opinion may not be that helpful )

 

[zippy]

You should read this

Don't try too hard or worry about it...otherwise you're screwed before you even have a chance!

 

[VRoOMdesigns]

I'm having trouble getting over the CD cover from deeko...

hehehehe..

 

[thien_vu]

I found this formula regarding getting a girlfriend:

How hard you try is inversely proportional to your success.

I'm not saying being a jerk, but being a pushover makes you look desparate and undesirable.

But then again, I have a lassaiz-faire attitude toward that stuff. What ever happen will happen... I'll be doing my own thing and I'll meet her.

 

[jaydee]

<< Just try to avoid talking about the AT forums, overclocking, Radeon v. Geforce, Intel v. AMD >>


Bah! Don't listen to him. You want to turn a girl on, there's nothing like starting a conversation about the cpu utlilization of hardware RAID in a 4 disk array. I mean, what kind of girl can resist that?!?!

edit: SisSoft Sandra bandwidth bechmarks are also particularly good ice-breakers if you're not sure what to say.

 

[polm]

This is all SO true! But I still have the same problem. I see a girl, I find her attractive, I talk to her for a minute, I fall head over heels. I just cant control it! Why doesnt this happen to girls when they meet me? I am a wealthy, successful, attractive young man. I get so overwhelmed with infatioation that I become a bumbling bafoon. I lose all confidence. I need to figure out how to control this emotion. I try , but it never works.

 

[thien_vu]

<< This is all SO true! But I still have the same problem. I see a girl, I find her attractive, I talk to her for a minute, I fall head over heels. I just cant control it! Why doesnt this happen to girls when they meet me? I am a wealthy, successful, attractive young man. I get so overwhelmed with infatioation that I become a bumbling bafoon. I lose all confidence. I need to figure out how to control this emotion. I try , but it never works. >>



Try hedging your bets. That might not be the best way to put it, but meet a lot of people. So you don't put all your eggs in one basket. So if this girl goes away or whatever no worries cuz you'll have other ones. Guess what? If you find her cute/attractive/whatever there are other guys who are seeing that too, so if you disappear its all good on the other side too.

Doing this will get rid of the stink of desparate. Plus you have to not care if it doesn't go anywhere. Again, don't be a jerk, but realistically there has been no commitment or anything. You just met this girl. Ask her out to coffee. Talk to a little. If things go well, get her number and ask her out for a date later on. Do the coffee thing first so you don't spend 3hrs with her on a date and have it suck. You'll have something to work off of.

Yeah this advice is just for meeting people. But once you've narrowed it down to someone you want to see more of, the other ones will probably have to go.

 

[desertdweller]

I think your confusing getting a girlfriend with getting a first date.
You need to keep it light in the beginning.

The one trait I've found that attracts women more than anything else,
Confidence. You don't have to have the greatest body, or be the wittiest
person at the table but if your confident in what you say, think and
how you act you'll be alot more likely to attract someone for a first
date. This is especially true if you're looking for a woman who is
confident in herself. Its important to realize that you're looking for
a first date and not a relationship right off the bat, it'll take alot
of pressure off you and it will take undue pressure off any woman that
you do start dating.

The single best tip I can give: when you notice a woman looking at you,
you need to have the confidence to make eye contact and smile at her,
and then either talk to her or not depending on her response.

DD

P.S. Check the ring finger for a wedding ring before considering a
move

 

[polm]

See my problem is that I do not see this girl on any regular basis. I met her becasue I hit her car at a frinds house. It was actually a funny story. We ended up hagning out a little just squaring away all of this car stuff. Then I asked her out...she was busy that weekend, and said to call her this week. I now have had 2 weeks to ponder this and I have totally over analized it. I am probably not even going to call her to go out this weekend. It would have been cool 2 weeks ago cuz we had been seeing each other and we were talking, due to the car stuff. If I saw her regularly I would just play the casual hanging out game. But I dont have that luxury.

 

[polm]

Now that I have stressed this so much, it is probably best to leave it alone.....right ?

 

[rc5]

You probably need refine the question to &quot;How hard to get a good girlfriend&quot;

 

[polm]

Now that I have stressed this so much, it is probably best to leave it alone.....right ?

The girls that is.

 

[thien_vu]

<< I think your confusing getting a girlfriend with getting a first date.
You need to keep it light in the beginning.
>>



Excellent advice!



<<
The one trait I've found that attracts women more than anything else,
Confidence. You don't have to have the greatest body, or be the wittiest person at the table but if your confident in what you say, think and how you act you'll be alot more likely to attract someone for a first date.
>>


Being witty does help though. Good sense of humor. Quick thinker (can think while on the run). Rumor has it that these are attractive qualities.



<< P.S. Check the ring finger for a wedding ring before considering a
move >>



Depends on the move you wanna be making does it?

 

[eyecandy]

Hey! I think you're a cutie (do't tell cobalt). But seriously, when you stop looking, you'll find someone. When I found Cobalt, I wasn't looking and I didn't even want a boyfriend! It just happened.
Here's a hint: girls like guys who have a life, who are involved, who are their own person.
You wil eventually find the right one and when you do, you'll know it. Hey, if you're from where I'm from, I could set you up with some people!
Eyecandy

 

[eyecandy]

one more thing, smart girls don't care very much at all about looks. But they do help and you should have no problems with that, unless they're really stuck up.

 

[Urinal Mint]

eyecandy:

Are women intimidated by smart guys? I always feel like this is something that keeps me from getting what I want, which is a damned date. (And no, I don't go hunting)

 

[Bluga]

don't think too much.

just be yourself.

 

[Urinal Mint]

The trick is, I am myself. Shrug.

 

[unclebud]

i'm always looking and i still find pwenty
but then agin i'm nevah sabisfied
just decide you're enjoying yourself. i guarantee someone will come along and spoil it for ya and then you'll be really happy
good luck

 

[PCResources]

Actually, good looks and a great bod helps a lot, but the key is your attitude... If you know you look great and you are walking up to a girl, acting like you picked her of all girls in the universe... Then you will have a great night...

For girlfriends, well, charm is my key... That is what i use, i charm their asses off... (yeah, i know that is hard to believe for some of you, but just try me...)..

Patrick

 

[Urinal Mint]

Those of us who are shy and humble don't do too well in the &quot;walk up and charm them&quot; department, unfortunately. Looks and brawn I have, just not balls.

 

[PCResources]

<< Those of us who are shy and humble don't do too well in the &quot;walk up and charm them&quot; department, unfortunately. Looks and brawn I have, just not balls. >>



Well then, if you have the looks and the brawn, then just act like you do... Get the attitude to go with your looks...

You can be shy, but no one is going to get what you want for you, psych yourself up (as you have brawn i assume that you are used to heavy lifts) just like you do before a power lift like the benchpress, in your head you know that you can do it, and when all doubt is gone, you will make it...

I know it is not simple, but just act like you are the beef that she will be eating tonight and walk up to her like she has been waiting for you...

Patrick