HumblePie
Lifer
- Oct 30, 2000
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For those saying this isn't true... Uhh, what's untrue about it? This is a very realistic and plauible situation that can occur. Don't think the thought hasn't crossed my mind. Oh wait it has, it's also another reason I'm still single but I don't regret it. I've spent TONS on first dates, second dates, third dates, and never got anywhere. Heck, I spent around $600 a few months ago on a first date that I thought might be a "sure" thing for me (ie maybe an actual start to a relationship as that's what I'm looking for now that I'm 27). This was the daughter of a guy I've known for years but hadn't seen in awhile. He got re-married and has a new daughter (the guy is like 50 something and used to work with my dad) and his daughter was around 21. I thought she was cute and inquired about it with a hint to him asking if she was single. Said yep and got the situation worked out to go on a first date. Got her number, started talking over the phone and seeing if she might be interested in a date. She says she likes going out and then I proceeded to do the normal stuff and find out what she likes to plan a first date the "correct way."
Turns out her 21st bday was coming up and around that time a concert she was wanting to go to was coming into town. I, being the guilible one, figured I'd impress and buy the tickets to take her out. Looked them up, and they were almost sold out and the only available seats through ticketmasters was going to be $151 each plus surcharges. I get it all arranged and we go out. Picked her up (my car, my gas) and drove 30 miles out of my way to the concert. Get there early for a good spot and paid for parking (my money again). Buy us something to eat before the show starts, which is a couple hours away since they have all the "festival" stuff to do. It was a big tour and they bring tons of stuff to do before the music starts but of course alot of it also costs more money. So I paid for the food, drinks, and even t-shirts for her and her "little sister" that just LOVES such-and-such. Frikking expensive t-shirts. Least the beer wasn't TOO expensive.
Several hours later dates over, it was a decent time. We were talking, I thought things were going great and we head back to my car. I start driving her home and talking random crap in the car (small talk). Asked if she liked the show, she loved it and started going on and on about it. Finally I hint, "maybe you'd like to do it again some time." "Sure, but oh, I forgot to mention if we do it's as friends, since I already have a boyfriend."
WTF?!?!? GRRRRRRR..... the whole point of me taking her out was because I thought she was SINGLE, and I even asked ahead of time. I got deceived, and used. She thought nothing of it. It was all I could do to smile at her and keep my tongue in my head to be civil enough on the way back to drop her off.
It wasn't the first time that has happened before (happened 3 times previously where I got lied to by a chick with "baggage" in the form of a boyfriend at the very least). Most of the time in the past, I was young, dumb, and moronic. I beleived in "chivalry" and all that crap, or I used to. Women for the most part have thoroughly peeved me. So now, I don't ask girls out first, I let them ask me (which hasn't worked so far but then again I don't waste hundreds on dates that would never go anywhere either) and if I get another first date I ain't paying for everything up front automatically.
Words can't describe how this is exactly how almost every young "eligible" women I've met thinks of guys and acts around them.
EDIT, and oh, don't get me started on how much a guy spends on a chick even BEFORE a date usually.
Do you know how often I see chicks, at least the decent looking to hot looking, go out all the time (even if they have boyfriends) but for whatever reason, he's not there with them but they go out to bars with other "chicks" to get hit on by guys. Why? free drinks, free food, or other perks. As a single guy looking for a nice girl you can spend tons of cash buying drinks just as an "ice breaker" and never get anywhere.
Turns out her 21st bday was coming up and around that time a concert she was wanting to go to was coming into town. I, being the guilible one, figured I'd impress and buy the tickets to take her out. Looked them up, and they were almost sold out and the only available seats through ticketmasters was going to be $151 each plus surcharges. I get it all arranged and we go out. Picked her up (my car, my gas) and drove 30 miles out of my way to the concert. Get there early for a good spot and paid for parking (my money again). Buy us something to eat before the show starts, which is a couple hours away since they have all the "festival" stuff to do. It was a big tour and they bring tons of stuff to do before the music starts but of course alot of it also costs more money. So I paid for the food, drinks, and even t-shirts for her and her "little sister" that just LOVES such-and-such. Frikking expensive t-shirts. Least the beer wasn't TOO expensive.
Several hours later dates over, it was a decent time. We were talking, I thought things were going great and we head back to my car. I start driving her home and talking random crap in the car (small talk). Asked if she liked the show, she loved it and started going on and on about it. Finally I hint, "maybe you'd like to do it again some time." "Sure, but oh, I forgot to mention if we do it's as friends, since I already have a boyfriend."
WTF?!?!? GRRRRRRR..... the whole point of me taking her out was because I thought she was SINGLE, and I even asked ahead of time. I got deceived, and used. She thought nothing of it. It was all I could do to smile at her and keep my tongue in my head to be civil enough on the way back to drop her off.
It wasn't the first time that has happened before (happened 3 times previously where I got lied to by a chick with "baggage" in the form of a boyfriend at the very least). Most of the time in the past, I was young, dumb, and moronic. I beleived in "chivalry" and all that crap, or I used to. Women for the most part have thoroughly peeved me. So now, I don't ask girls out first, I let them ask me (which hasn't worked so far but then again I don't waste hundreds on dates that would never go anywhere either) and if I get another first date I ain't paying for everything up front automatically.
Words can't describe how this is exactly how almost every young "eligible" women I've met thinks of guys and acts around them.
EDIT, and oh, don't get me started on how much a guy spends on a chick even BEFORE a date usually.
Do you know how often I see chicks, at least the decent looking to hot looking, go out all the time (even if they have boyfriends) but for whatever reason, he's not there with them but they go out to bars with other "chicks" to get hit on by guys. Why? free drinks, free food, or other perks. As a single guy looking for a nice girl you can spend tons of cash buying drinks just as an "ice breaker" and never get anywhere.
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