• We’re currently investigating an issue related to the forum theme and styling that is impacting page layout and visual formatting. The problem has been identified, and we are actively working on a resolution. There is no impact to user data or functionality, this is strictly a front-end display issue. We’ll post an update once the fix has been deployed. Thanks for your patience while we get this sorted.

This guy was blowing money on strippers

Page 5 - Seeking answers? Join the AnandTech community: where nearly half-a-million members share solutions and discuss the latest tech.
I thought the entire point of going to a 'gentlemans' club is to buy attention from people you could never really have/want. Such clubs are probably making an effort to grab money (minimum drinks?), so....huh?
 
Originally posted by: mcurphy
The bouncers wouldn't get invloved with something as trivial as this.
Click to expand...

If the dancers found out you were messing with their money they would, because the dancer's money is also the bouncer's money.

And I still say you're an egotistical asshole and deserve an ass whooping just for that fact alone. You need to be put back in your place.
 
Originally posted by: mcurphy
So I went to a strip club tonight in Rockford, IL

Per city rules, they can not get completely nude. Pretty much they can strip down to a bikini. No bare tops or bottoms. (I know...it is lame as hell!) I'm glad I live in Wisconsin and can see some real strippers when I want to 🙂

So, anyhow, I sat at the bar having a few drinks and I notice this guy next to me at the end of the bar, has all the girls coming up to him. He is not a good looking male. He is overweight, with glasses, and has frizzy hair. Definitely not the type of guy you would think is getting all of the girls attention.

But...he is feeding the strippers money like it is growing on trees, and buying them drinks left and right.

I could tell this poor soul was just starving for attention. I watched this go on for awhile, and as soon as he had a break from the strippers, I took it upon myself to lay it all out for him and tell him the truth.

I said, "Hey man! Seriously, can't you see that all these chicks are just after your money?"

He mumbles, "ummm, nah, uh uh"

I say back, "You're just giving them all your cash for nothing. They aren't going to go home with you. They just want your money."

And again he mumbles something or another that wasn't coherent. But he wasn't drunk or messed up, he was just shy and didn't want to talk...

He wasn't drunk. He just didn't want to admit to the truth.

He was enjoying the attention he got from these half naked girls, and was living out a fantasy.

I tried to tell him not to spend his money (he threw out at least $200 from what I saw). All for nothing...except maybe his own personal pleasure (although I can't see what that could possibly be if it wasn't going further than chit chat at the bar!)

So should I have told him that he was wasting his money?

Or should I have just let him be, in his fantasy world, letting the whores take advantage of him?
Click to expand...

welcome to the world of life. It's money that really calls the shots.

However; I haven't seen any strip club other than low end rauch that allows the dancers to drink. I am sure if they are following the 'keep your clothes' on rule; they aren't going to risk drinking.

Also you are wasting your money too in theory...why can't you get the same show for free since you are faulting the guy?

Fact of the matter is, that guy has a really good chance that one of those girls will solicit a private show later in the night via outcall. It may just be a show, it may be more.

There are two types of women in stripping...those looking for a career in it and those using it and the men to move forward to something else.

You need to keep your morals out of places like strip clubs...no one wants to hear it and everyone already knows it's not necessarily something their mom's would be happy with.
 
Originally posted by: mcurphy
Originally posted by: GPett
As sad as this response is, I aree you should shut your trap.

The dude was feeling good. Sure it was costing him money. But who are you to ruin his experience? Of course we all know that it as a waste of money but to him it was a night where he could live like the dudes in the rap videos. Don't bring him back down to earth. He spent his money, let him enjoy what he bought. You saying something might have brought him back to earth too soon.

Of course he will wonder what happened to his money they next day. But you reminding him about it that night wont do any good.
Click to expand...

I thought about this, but then I found out he was a regular there. And that's what finalized my decision to say something. This guy was a regular, speding a ton of money, on whore's / gold-diggers often. I felt that somebody (ME!) needed to let him know the facts.
Click to expand...

$200 is not a ton of money. That is usually around my drink tab just going out for the night.

If you do the math; it's seriously a lot cheaper for some guys / gals to just pay for the act than go on date after date with nothing to show for it.

If you have a halfway decent personality you should be able to get someone in bed at least once a month...pretty easy. However; chances are they are not going to be at your command the same way a stripper/escort is.

Some people aren't into it. They would not understand. Plain Jane for someone is total insanity for another.
 
Upon reading everything this liar wrote:

1) he admits he is a coward. He would not say anything to someone that he though could kick his a$$.

2) he is knocking a guy for being entertained, when he himself says (despite his wife that fulfills all his needs) he is just there for the entertainment of it. If that is the case then he is just jealous the other guy was hogging the women.

3) he states he had slept with several strippers. Fact is usually you can land 1, but if you are pulling in more than that you are feeding their lifestyle. All that said a guy questioning another man's morals wouldn't be able to handle his own g/f stripping.

4) If he did really hang with strippers he would know the bouncers will throw your a$$ out if your aren't tipping and sipping and also if you are harassing any of the big spenders. If this happened at the bar, the bartender would have witnessed it and called someone to bounce his butt.

5) any dude selling Legos in a sig has no life so he needs to make one up.
 
$200 is not a lot to spend in a strip club. Go to high end clubs and you will see guys that spend thousands of bucks for drinks and girls.

It is his money. It is up to him. Remember the old saying " a fool and his money will soon part".

<<<----- needs to continue the strip club research...for science of course..
 
You should have smacked him not for "feeding the habit" but for dropping $200 on strippers that aren't even going to strip. "No topless, no bottomless." Remind me never to hit up a lack-of-titty bar in Chicago or this pissant town.

- M4H
 
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Upon reading everything this liar wrote:

1) he admits he is a coward. He would not say anything to someone that he though could kick his a$$.

2) he is knocking a guy for being entertained, when he himself says (despite his wife that fulfills all his needs) he is just there for the entertainment of it. If that is the case then he is just jealous the other guy was hogging the women.

3) he states he had slept with several strippers. Fact is usually you can land 1, but if you are pulling in more than that you are feeding their lifestyle. All that said a guy questioning another man's morals wouldn't be able to handle his own g/f stripping.

4) If he did really hang with strippers he would know the bouncers will throw your a$$ out if your aren't tipping and sipping and also if you are harassing any of the big spenders. If this happened at the bar, the bartender would have witnessed it and called someone to bounce his butt.

5) any dude selling Legos in a sig has no life so he needs to make one up.
Click to expand...


:thumbsup:

Right on target
 
Look, I enjoy naked women as much as the next guy, but I can't stand strip clubs for this reason. Maybe it's just that I'm a cheap bastard, but I can't see why people piss away money at strip clubs. If I was single I would much rather go to a bar and try to pick up women then plop down money for strippers. Maybe it's just that the chase is more exciting to me. I just don't see how people get pleasure out of paying people to pay attention to them. I look at guys like the OP is describing in his post and feel the same way he does. But, I would never take it upon myself to tell them this. I'll feel sorry for them, but I don't know their situation. Maybe $200 for him is like buying a beer for me.
 
Originally posted by: mcurphy
So I went to a strip club tonight in Rockford, IL

Per city rules, they can not get completely nude. Pretty much they can strip down to a bikini. No bare tops or bottoms. (I know...it is lame as hell!) I'm glad I live in Wisconsin and can see some real strippers when I want to 🙂

So, anyhow, I sat at the bar having a few drinks and I notice this guy next to me at the end of the bar, has all the girls coming up to him. He is not a good looking male. He is overweight, with glasses, and has frizzy hair. Definitely not the type of guy you would think is getting all of the girls attention.

But...he is feeding the strippers money like it is growing on trees, and buying them drinks left and right.

I could tell this poor soul was just starving for attention. I watched this go on for awhile, and as soon as he had a break from the strippers, I took it upon myself to lay it all out for him and tell him the truth.

I said, "Hey man! Seriously, can't you see that all these chicks are just after your money?"

He mumbles, "ummm, nah, uh uh"

I say back, "You're just giving them all your cash for nothing. They aren't going to go home with you. They just want your money."

And again he mumbles something or another that wasn't coherent. But he wasn't drunk or messed up, he was just shy and didn't want to talk...

He wasn't drunk. He just didn't want to admit to the truth.

He was enjoying the attention he got from these half naked girls, and was living out a fantasy.

I tried to tell him not to spend his money (he threw out at least $200 from what I saw). All for nothing...except maybe his own personal pleasure (although I can't see what that could possibly be if it wasn't going further than chit chat at the bar!)

So should I have told him that he was wasting his money?

Or should I have just let him be, in his fantasy world, letting the whores take advantage of him?
Click to expand...

You're a money whore from 9-5 as well, what's the difference? Don't be so naive, while trying to act like such an upstanding citizen and person, in a strip club in Rockford, Illinois of all places. :roll:
 
pot, meet kettle. EVERY guy in there was there to blow money on girls they won't get to take home, because they aren't getting enough attention.
 
Did you think the strippers were there for you? Obviously, there is some reason they come to work. . . guys that don't give them money are not the reason they are there. . .
 
Just let him be, we know he is spending within his means.
And just give him the fund he needs.
He got the cash and wants to splash.. for some people.. thats the fun and satisfaction.. to be able to do so.

Doesn't matter if they are nude or if its value for money sometimes.
It makes him happy to see these girls collect cash with a smile.
I would say, let him be. Nonetheless, you had been a very considerate person.

two thumbs up for your good intention. But I would like to say.. hopefully u don't bump into someone who gets the wrong message and gets pissed off that you butt your nose into their personal will.
 
wow the OP got blasted by a majority of you.

i think it was sorta cool that the OP gave the guy a quick sermon (LOL) on the evils of the strippers. since the OP had no idea the guy was a regular, he was merely doing his manly duty in letting his fellow male peer know that any hopes of getting together with any of the dancers outside the establishment wasn't gonna happen.

a lot of you guys said the OP shouldn't have bothered, that he should have minded his own biz-ness. my guess is since the guy wasn't drunk but was still mumbling, he was probably soooo embarrassed that the OP was giving him the low-down. i'm thinking too that because the OP painted him as a naive, homely, hadn't-ever-gotten-a-GF kind of guy (in other words, he was not your normal, typically guy who has some social interaction with women) the cashola he was dishing out on a regular basis means little to him in terms of getting a few of these barely-clad women talk dirty to him or say the things he wants to hear for a few minutes in exchange for a drink. in a way, i gotta give the guy props 'cause instead of logging into the 'net for pr0n or calling a 900 # for roughly the same thing (a few minutes/hours of fantasy where some girl tells you "sweet nothings"), he was getting it in 3-D, in the flesh. nothing wrong with that. it was a consensual business transaction--he pays for their drinks, the strippers make him ummmmm happy at the very least. 😉

i gotta give props too to the OP. although this homely guy wasn't his friend, he somehow felt compelled to save him from making an even bigger mistake (in this case, shelling out more cash). i don't know about you but whenever someone i know & care about is seemingly make a mistake (& they're just not seeing it for whatever reason), i do step in & give my 2 cents...and it's up to them to take my advice or not. whether or not they take with my advice is irrelevant, the fact that i pointed out what they clearly weren't seeing in their decision making, they can't later come back and say "wow, i had nooooo idea whatsoever. why didn't you warn/tell me?" it's all about doing the right thang, ppl. like i said a big props to the OP.

 
Originally posted by: Xstatic1
i gotta give props too to the OP. although this homely guy wasn't his friend, he somehow felt compelled to save him from making an even bigger mistake (in this case, shelling out more cash). i don't know about you but whenever someone i know & care about is seemingly make a mistake (& they're just not seeing it for whatever reason), i do step in & give my 2 cents...and it's up to them to take my advice or not. whether or not they take with my advice is irrelevant, the fact that i pointed out what they clearly weren't seeing in their decision making, they can't later come back and say "wow, i had nooooo idea whatsoever. why didn't you warn/tell me?" it's all about doing the right thang, ppl. like i said a big props to the OP.
Click to expand...
Yet another youngster who thinks they're so wise in the ways of the world that everyone should be groveling at their feet, begging for a nugget of wisdom. :roll:

Get over your damn self. Nobody wants unsolicited advice.
 
Originally posted by: BoberFett
Originally posted by: Xstatic1
i gotta give props too to the OP. although this homely guy wasn't his friend, he somehow felt compelled to save him from making an even bigger mistake (in this case, shelling out more cash). i don't know about you but whenever someone i know & care about is seemingly make a mistake (& they're just not seeing it for whatever reason), i do step in & give my 2 cents...and it's up to them to take my advice or not. whether or not they take with my advice is irrelevant, the fact that i pointed out what they clearly weren't seeing in their decision making, they can't later come back and say "wow, i had nooooo idea whatsoever. why didn't you warn/tell me?" it's all about doing the right thang, ppl. like i said a big props to the OP.
Click to expand...
Yet another youngster who thinks they're so wise in the ways of the world that everyone should be groveling at their feet, begging for a nugget of wisdom. :roll:

Get over your damn self. Nobody wants unsolicited advice.
Click to expand...

i never made any claims that i'm wise. like you, i have an opinion about this thread.

and as far as giving unsolicited advice, there are ways of giving it if the overall underlying intent is the other person knows i care about them & have their best interest at heart. hmm, just maybe, nobody around YOU (i.e. your friends & family) gives a hoot or even wants YOUR advice. and just from reading your postings on this thread, you have a bad attitude...yet another case of "misery loves company".
 
Originally posted by: Xstatic1
wow the OP got blasted by a majority of you.

i think it was sorta cool that the OP gave the guy a quick sermon (LOL) on the evils of the strippers. since the OP had no idea the guy was a regular, he was merely doing his manly duty in letting his fellow male peer know that any hopes of getting together with any of the dancers outside the establishment wasn't gonna happen.
Click to expand...

I know you're a woman, so I understand the confusion, but one's manly duty in a "strip" club is to completely ignore the other patrons who are not in your party, and definitely not to lecture them on their spending habits.

That is a motherly duty. 😉
 
Originally posted by: MrPickins
Originally posted by: Xstatic1
wow the OP got blasted by a majority of you.

i think it was sorta cool that the OP gave the guy a quick sermon (LOL) on the evils of the strippers. since the OP had no idea the guy was a regular, he was merely doing his manly duty in letting his fellow male peer know that any hopes of getting together with any of the dancers outside the establishment wasn't gonna happen.

a lot of you guys said the OP shouldn't have bothered, that he should have minded his own biz-ness. my guess is since the guy wasn't drunk but was still mumbling, he was probably soooo embarrassed that the OP was giving him the low-down. i'm thinking too that because the OP painted him as a naive, homely, hadn't-ever-gotten-a-GF kind of guy (in other words, he was not your normal, typically guy who has some social interaction with women) the cashola he was dishing out on a regular basis means little to him in terms of getting a few of these barely-clad women talk dirty to him or say the things he wants to hear for a few minutes in exchange for a drink. in a way, i gotta give the guy props 'cause instead of logging into the 'net for pr0n or calling a 900 # for roughly the same thing (a few minutes/hours of fantasy where some girl tells you "sweet nothings"), he was getting it in 3-D, in the flesh. nothing wrong with that. it was a consensual business transaction--he pays for their drinks, the strippers make him ummmmm happy at the very least. 😉

i gotta give props too to the OP. although this homely guy wasn't his friend, he somehow felt compelled to save him from making an even bigger mistake (in this case, shelling out more cash). i don't know about you but whenever someone i know & care about is seemingly make a mistake (& they're just not seeing it for whatever reason), i do step in & give my 2 cents...and it's up to them to take my advice or not. whether or not they take with my advice is irrelevant, the fact that i pointed out what they clearly weren't seeing in their decision making, they can't later come back and say "wow, i had nooooo idea whatsoever. why didn't you warn/tell me?" it's all about doing the right thang, ppl. like i said a big props to the OP.
Click to expand...

I know you're a woman, so I understand the confusion, but one's manly duty in a "strip club" is to completely ignore the other patrons who are not in your party, and definitely not to lecture them on their spending habits.

That is a motherly duty. 😉
Click to expand...

i'm not sure why you think i'm confused. did you read ALL of the OP's posts on this thread? lemme post some of his sentences:
- It was so obvious that they were just using him.
- He didn't have a clue what was happeneing.
- But I really felt the need to help a brother out.
- But he seemed so innocent. Naive.

for the most part, everyone knows that going to a strip club means the dancers are there to earn as much $ (& drinks) as possible, by whatever reasonable means necessary. and yes, i understand that the patrons usually leave the OTHER patrons alone to get their jollies. so perhaps because it was the guy's homely looks....or maybe it was his character/disposition...but something convinced the OP to go out his way to tell this guy that he was getting screwed. the OP even alluded that he normally wouldn't preach to the other patrons.

it was a judgment call on the part of the OP, and i give him kudos for doing what he thought was right at the time.

 
Originally posted by: Xstatic1

i'm not sure why you think i'm confused. did you read ALL of the OP's posts on this thread? lemme post some of his sentences:
- It was so obvious that they were just using him.
- He didn't have a clue what was happeneing.
- But I really felt the need to help a brother out.
- But he seemed so innocent. Naive.

for the most part, everyone knows that going to a strip club means the dancers are there to earn as much $ (& drinks) as possible, by whatever reasonable means necessary. and yes, i understand that the patrons usually leave the OTHER patrons alone to get their jollies. so perhaps because it was the guy's homely looks....or maybe it was his character/disposition...but something convinced the OP to go out his way to tell this guy that he was getting screwed. the OP even alluded that he normally wouldn't preach to the other patrons.

it was a judgment call on the part of the OP, and i give him kudos for doing what he thought was right at the time.
Click to expand...

Did you read my previous post, which the OP agreed with, where I told him I felt he was assuming far too much about this man and the situation?

Sure the women were using him, but to assume he doesn't know that because he looks "homely" or "innocent" is silly. They were using each other, and most likely each was aware of that fact.

I was joking when I said you were confused, I was implying that a woman should not be dictating "manly duties". 😛
 
"Should I have told him not to feed the whores?" So all the women who work at strip clubs are now called whores? And you have a thing for whores?

Nice to know this forum is reaching for new lows 😕
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

TRENDING THREADS

Back
Top