Tell A 25yr old what u didnt know at 25

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DanTMWTMP

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i really have to agree that working w/ women in the workplace is very very unenjoyable. That's why i quit my recent job because there were 5 women in there, and all they do is nag and b!tch. Just hearing them talk makes me want to tear my ears out.

but talking to dudes is much better. males in the workplace are alot nicer and understanding.
 

Ricochet

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If you don't marry early on you'll find lots of reason later on not to marry. You become "set in your ways".
 

Borealis316

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Damn, after reading all this I think I seriously fvcked up somewhere along the line. Don't ask on which one, it's mostly all of them.

Now how do I unfvck it all???

I'm 25 btw.... :(
 

anno

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Originally posted by: jemcam
1. You're not always right.
2. You've got a hell of a lot more to learn about life.
3. The "old people" have a lot of wisdom to pass along if you'll listen.
4. No matter what your problem is, someone else HAS experienced it before.
5. You will grow old and fat.
6. Old people still feel the same inside as they did when they were 25.
7. Treasure your parents and family, you'll live longer than them and will miss them.
8. Your girlfriend/wife/SO cannot be fully trusted NO MATTER WHAT.
9. Friends will outlast marriages.
10. Stop drinking and drugging now. It only gets worse later.
11. Music really isn't that important after all.
12. If you think it's hard staying in shape at 25, try it when you're 40.
13. Your life gets infinitely more complex as you get older.


Ah, there's more, but I'm tired of typing.

I can't agree with all of your list but a lot of it is good. I especially like #6. that's so true. it struck me upside the head like a cinderblock a couple months ago when I was driving back home the morning my sister's husband died. I'm going to be 50 in january and I still feel 23 (when I'm not actually moving or looking in a mirror). in my head. that's weird. I mean.. it feels weird. heck.. the fact that I still call it driving "home" when I haven't lived there longer than I did, is kind of weird.

my marriage has outlasted most of my friendships, though.

the 2nd 25 years goes WAY faster than the first 25... I don't understand how that works but.. that's the way it is. enjoy your babies, when you get them.. you'll miss them for a lot longer than you'll have 'em.

Originally posted by: Ornery

  • Cars are just transportation
  • People don't change, so don't expect your spouse to EVER be any different than they are before marriage (happily married 26 years)
  • Don't have kids right away! No damn reason to, and I've seen PLENTY of examples why not!
  • Raise your own kids, not your parents, in-laws, other family or friends. In other words, don't have them till one of you can afford to stay home with them.
  • Forego new car(s) for the sake of owning your own property. A couple car payments would go a LONG way toward a mortgage payment on a nice home, instead of renting.
  • You're marrying your spouse's family as well, so THINK about that before you hook up. You will NOT come between your spouse and their family!
  • I could go on and on...

I like this list better.. except people do change, some. they just don't change to suit you.. so don't go into a relationship hoping for change.. go into it hoping you can live with the changes. :)

anno


 

skyking

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Originally posted by: 91TTZ
Originally posted by: Ornery

  • Cars are just transportation

I'm past 25 and I have one car that is just for transportation, and another car that is my toy. All the guys over 30 that own Porsches, Corvettes, Z's, Ferraris, and other enthusiast cars obviously feel that a car isn't just for minimal transportation. It's a hobby for a lot of people, including myself.

Good for you. As long as you can seperate the two, fine. So many young guys identify sucess and self worth with their wheels, and feel like a failure for not keeping up with some imaginary standard.
 

skyking

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Posessions and money can be had at any time. Go work for a while and get more if you need.
If the opportunity presents itself to go travel or do something unique, something that really hits your heart, go do it!! Things like that don't come along that often.
You can come back and get a job, get your posessions. Years later you'll be talking to your cohorts, and the ones with the nicer posessions and realtively boring lives will not have the memories and experiences that you will have. You would not likely trade those experiences for anything.
 

Googer

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Originally posted by: Drakkon
all that crap u hear about insurance decreasing phenomanally at 25...well unless u have a spotless driving record since 16 its bs...

My insurance was cut in half. I stuck with the same company for all of the years and always obeyed the speed limits. Never had a ticket.
 

gooseman

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There are a million things but a couple I think are important:

Live every day to it's fullest, it may be your last.
Spend as much time with your family as you can, they will be gone before you.
If you haven't already, immediately start a 401K, an IRA or SOMETHING to sustain you in later life, you will need it.
 

Pr0d1gy

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Have kids as young as you can. I wish we had our kids when we were 20 now. :)
 

Googer

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Originally posted by: gooseman
There are a million things but a couple I think are important:

Live every day to it's fullest, it may be your last.
Spend as much time with your family as you can, they will be gone before you.
If you haven't already, immediately start a 401K, an IRA or SOMETHING to sustain you in later life, you will need it.

Awesome advice!


Be a safe driver (racing is for race tracks), Get a Bank Account if you dont have one, Put more money in the bank than you take out (avoid credit cards), Get to know your grandparants on a very personal level: learn about their childhoods, their struggles and triumphs, and make a positive impact on someone younger than you (Join Boy Souts, Big Brothers and Sisters, etc)
 

CoolTech

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Originally posted by: MetalMat
Why they call it shipping when it is carried by a automobile, and why it is called cargo when it is carried by a ship

isn't shipping a verb and cargo a noun?
 

Ornery

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...people do change, some.

To be more specific, people don't change personalities. They may change appearance and habits, but they stay the same at heart their whole lives. A selfish soul will always be selfish, and a generous individual will be that way from birth to death. Only exceptions I can think of, are people who are altered by brain damage etc..
 

AMDZen

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I'm 25 now, as of 1 month ago. A lot of this is good, I'd ask that our eldest keep it coming. I think most 25 year olds I know are well into their "listen" stage, and way out of the post-teenage 21 years old and drinking stage where they still didn't listen.

In other words, anyone who says it doesn't matter and that 25 yo's won't listen any way, are pretty much wrong from my POV. And even if your right more often then your wrong in that, its still worth it for those of us who are taking this advice in and processing it
 

LostWanderer

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Originally posted by: skyking
If the opportunity presents itself to go travel or do something unique, something that really hits your heart, go do it!! Things like that don't come along that often.

That's a good one. Here's my contribution...

The secret to success isn't always what you know, but often how convincingly you are at making others think you know a lot.
 

Czar

Lifer
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excelent thread, makes me sad but also makes me feel a bit safer

I'm 25 now, few more months till 26, and this age is just horrible. You are just starting your career and are always questioning yourself if its the right choice to make. You basicly have very little, car, apartment, nothing special. The last place you knew where you were in life is when you were full time in school with years of more schooling ahead of you.

This is more for the younger people :)
 

Cooler

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Always find out who girls father is before you sleep with her. One of my friends had a rude awaking because of this.
 

shilala

Lifer
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It's much more important to accept things as they are than to try to torture them into submission.
 

Sheepathon

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Originally posted by: LostWanderer
Originally posted by: skyking
If the opportunity presents itself to go travel or do something unique, something that really hits your heart, go do it!! Things like that don't come along that often.

That's a good one. Here's my contribution...

The secret to success isn't always what you know, but often how convincingly you are at making others think you know a lot.

Cheers on first post :beer:
 

JonBarillari

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1. Your Network of friends/family/previous employers and co-workers are far more important and will improve your life and career much more than degrees/diplomas/grades/education/awards

2. When applying for post secondary programs remember: A field of employment that is thriving now may turn into an over saturated field upon graduation making it very difficult to get a decent job in that field (read: 'Apply for a program of interest, not a program that will 'make you money')