Social anxiety disorder or do I just hate people?

[Jeff7]

but it's such a fun lawn

9/10 UPS workers rate it "Most peeable."

 

[bobsmith1492]

Cool, a loner's club. Have fun, I'm gonna have to bow out. Too many people...

 

[destrekor]

9/10 UPS workers rate it "Most peeable."

ninja-piss

:ninja:

 

[destrekor]

Cool, a loner's club. Have fun, I'm gonna have to bow out. Too many people...

now now, loners can be apart of clubs.
We just don't, well... we don't exactly do anything. It's a club without meetings, see. Just a "sign your name and maybe we'll run into each other again" type club, see.

 

[olds]

now now, loners can be apart of clubs...

 

[pontifex]

OP hates people yet feels the need to share all his problems on an internet forum?

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

The issue isn't whether you are a loner or gregarious, but why you feel the need to worry about it.

If you like solitude, then that's fine. I'm like that.
If you like to hang out with a crowd then do it.

It seems you are looking for a metric that cannot exist, AKA "normal". There is no such thing, and if there is I hope I'm never that. How boring would it be to live a stereotyped existence?

You'll never be all things to all people, so don't try to fit into some fictitious form.

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

People click with me all the time. It's just that I'd rather not socialize that much. I have a friend that used to call once a week just to chat. What kind of guy does that? He even has a wife.

We're a lot alike. I'm just not as nice.

 

[bobsmith1492]

Ok, sign me up but you have to promise not to invite me to anything. That's the worst conundrum.

 

[olds]

we're a lot alike. I'm just not as nice.

bwahahahahahahaha

 

[Zebo]

You sound like me I think it's normal. My biggest issue is all my good friends I've known since HS of College and can't seem to make new ones for last 10 years. Sure I have acquaintances, poker buddies, fishing buddies, business partners but not really friends. My friends I all get together once a year from over 20 years ago and we are still best friends.

 

[destrekor]

 

[Zebo]

we should start an ATOT loners crew

um you're in it already & P&N if you can stand ulcers.

 

[Slapstick]

I feel pretty much the same way. Aside from a select group of people I hang out with occasionally, I don't feel the need to be bothered. I just attribute it to getting older and more mature, while my acquaintances seem to be just getting older. I can still have fun, but it seems I'm more content with my life than many others that I know.

This Sums it up nicely.

 

[IGBT]

dope smokers eventually have similar symptoms. are you a doper??

 

[slackerinabox]

You guys saying that all people let you down, are stupid, and any conversations you have with them are dumbed down well have you guys ever thought that maybe you are the problem? They way you are attracts certain types of people. Just like a woman who always gets guys who beat her, you guys attract a certain type of person. If you changed things about yourself you'll attract different types of people that you'll enjoy and click with. You guys probably need to see counseling and see what the problem is if you want to change since that's the only way it'll work.

I think you don't get it. I like the idea of people, and really do like the company of individuals/couples. People find me funny (I'm the fat funny guy).. But I hate putting on a performance. I hate having to go to parties for the obligation of it all. I'd just rather be with the people I love, not just like. And listening to people who I don't think are dumb, but are just playing the superficial game, talk about music/movies/politics..People who want to be the center of the conversation - dance around, scream.. be seen.,. i'd just rather not, but can see why others like all that..

 

[lxskllr]

I think you don't get it. I like the idea of people, and really do like the company of individuals/couples. People find me funny (I'm the fat funny guy).. But I hate putting on a performance. I hate having to go to parties for the obligation of it all. I'd just rather be with the people I love, not just like. And listening to people who I don't think are dumb, but are just playing the superficial game, talk about music/movies/politics..People who want to be the center of the conversation - dance around, scream.. be seen.,. i'd just rather not, but can see why others like all that..

I've NEVER had a lot of friends; no more than a couple close ones at a time, and that was by choice. If I thought someone was getting too close, I'd increase the distance. I like other people on occasion, but I also like my time alone. I don't want to make the time for large groups of people, and have something going on every night of the week.

Honestly, I'm pretty happy with AT and a couple other forums I'm on. I can shoot the shit for awhile, and then walk away from the machine with no one expecting anything else from me. I have a couple of online responsibilities, but they don't require pointless socialization.

 

[Anubis]

im one of you

also i dont get the wolf shirt. ive missed some Internet meme i think

 

[SunSamurai]

Youre basically saying you want to be around adults more.

Lets not forget that age has no indication of adult. Just look at TridenT and Spider07

 

[Fritzo]

I personally think people who are major social are way to needy and dependent. And have way more issues. Yet it's us independent self sufficient ones that are looked at like WE have the problem. Pfff please.

I know how to be social and what people like. It's just I don't care so much and it's way more hassle and drama than it's worth. I find happiness in SOME socializing. But I like doing other things in nature, gardening, hikes, exploring, painting, photography, computers, playing a game etc. I guess I like to live in my own little Kingdom and paradise. Bring to many other people in and they leave trash, make noise, cause problems.

And with me I usually don't like pointless, breath wasting, shallow chitchat. I get sick of those one liner jokes that come one after another that most people do. Come on give me something with a little depth to talk about please. You bring up anything serious or real and they look at you like "what the hell, can't compute!" But I know you do have to keep it shallow and fun at times, I'll admit I could work on that a little more at least (but I am fun when I want to be or need to be).

Wow- this is me to a "T". I hate conversation, and I hate socializing because it always ends with "HEY! YOU HAVE SKILLS I DON'T HAVE!!!! YOU CAN DO THINGS FOR ME FOR FREE!!!!"

 

[Bryf50]

Not really the same but its holiday season and I work retail. I seriously hate everyone.

 

[Imp]

I've NEVER had a lot of friends; no more than a couple close ones at a time, and that was by choice. If I thought someone was getting too close, I'd increase the distance. I like other people on occasion, but I also like my time alone. I don't want to make the time for large groups of people, and have something going on every night of the week.

Honestly, I'm pretty happy with AT and a couple other forums I'm on. I can shoot the shit for awhile, and then walk away from the machine with no one expecting anything else from me. I have a couple of online responsibilities, but they don't require pointless socialization.

Wow. That's exactly what I use to do, and still do. People try to get close, I make excuses or push them away. Lost count of how many people who showed interest in me (both male and female), asked me 'out', and I either completely ignored the suggestion/question, or walked away.

I'm trying to be more 'social', but I'm satisfied with the way things are. Most of the super social people I talk to are probably among the most unhappy people I know. 200 Facebook friends, but always comining into work depressed or with an attitude. Too bad I'm not more like them.

 

[OverVolt]

I'm an INTP, am I borked?

 

[zerocool84]

I think you don't get it. I like the idea of people, and really do like the company of individuals/couples. People find me funny (I'm the fat funny guy).. But I hate putting on a performance. I hate having to go to parties for the obligation of it all. I'd just rather be with the people I love, not just like. And listening to people who I don't think are dumb, but are just playing the superficial game, talk about music/movies/politics..People who want to be the center of the conversation - dance around, scream.. be seen.,. i'd just rather not, but can see why others like all that..

Why do you feel you have to perform for anyone or feel obligated to go anywhere? Do you feel you have to do things for people to like you? Also why do you feel people are superficial just because they want to talk about things with other people? We are social creatures. It just seems like you need to find other people to be around. Like I said, you're going to have to find people you enjoy being with that share similar interests instead of just losing all hope because of some bad experiences. Just be yourself and you'll find others who are like you and share similar interests.

 

[Red Dawn]

I'm beginning to thing that I don't have social anxiety disorder and that I may just be a total asshole...

Well look where you live.I bet if you lived in a more rural setting where there isn't wall to wall people you probably wouldn't be such a social loser.