Social anxiety disorder or do I just hate people?

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slackerinabox

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I used to take medication for social anxiety disorder, but have been off of Lexapro/Celaxa/ritalin (ADHD that I do have, but I'm trying to work that out) for quite a while ... While medicated I turned from very shy to a party maniac. I constantly cared about what other people thought about me.. It was exhausting and I wasn't exactly happy, just always on. I was social, hilarious, and people liked me. Now I'm back to my old self and wonder - is there something wrong with me, or do I just not like people? I don't really care about their discussions of indie rock groups.. I don't really need to discuss politics, especially since all of my acquaintances already share my politics.. I don't really want to hear boyfriend/girlfriend drama... I'm anti-social to the point of spending 99% of my time with my wife and dogs, but don't really give a shit about any of my peripheral friends petty shit anymore, and especially don't care about friends of friends (parties, etc.). Now, if a friend calls me and has a genuine concern, I'm likely to jump in the car and help them out.. I don't feel particularly selfish, and do enjoy the occassional dinner/movie with friends, I just find socializing completely over rated...

I'm beginning to thing that I don't have social anxiety disorder and that I may just be a total asshole...
 
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OILFIELDTRASH

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I have the same problem except I am to the point it's just the wife and the dog minus any friends.
 
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OP sounds like me.
Most people annoy me. I'll help a friend if they genuinely need it but I am not big on socializing. You could plant me in the middle of 1000 acres with my toys and I would never need to see another person. My wife on the other hand needs people around and needs to socialize.
People will always let you down.
 
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oldsmoboat said:
OP sounds like me.
Most people annoy me. I'll help a friend if they genuinely need it but I am not big on socializing. You could plant me in the middle of 1000 acres with my toys and I would never need to see another person. My wife on the other hand needs people around and needs to socialize.
People will always let you down.
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yet most loners are viewed in a negative light. sucks for us.
 
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"tell someone you're a loner, right away they think you're lonely; it's not the same thing." - frank sinatra song :awe:
 
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slackerinabox

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OILFIELDTRASH said:
I have the same problem except I am to the point it's just the wife and the dog minus any friends.
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I'm kinda afraid that's what's going to happen to us, extrapolating things out a bit. It's funny - 40 people came to my birthday bar crawl 2 years ago.. 20-something came last year.. This year? I just want a really flippin awesome steak, and don't want to see anyone but the Mrs. Hell, I don't even know 10 people anymore.
 
goobernoodles

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I'm 23... and as I've "lost touch" with a lot of high school friends. I mean, I could contact the person through facebook or what have you, but I just have no desire. It never really bothered me. I think I'm just slowly realizing that a few good friends is far better than having a ton of friends you don't really give a shit about.

I do hate a lot of people though.
 
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I feel pretty much the same way. Aside from a select group of people I hang out with occasionally, I don't feel the need to be bothered. I just attribute it to getting older and more mature, while my acquaintances seem to be just getting older. I can still have fun, but it seems I'm more content with my life than many others that I know.
 
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chin311

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ahh this thread is home for me.

for many years ive preferred being alone or with maybe one or two people over 'going-out' , parties blah blah.
 
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slackerinabox

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goobernoodles said:
I'm 23... and as I've "lost touch" with a lot of high school friends. I mean, I could contact the person through facebook or what have you, but I just have no desire. It never really bothered me. I think I'm just slowly realizing that a few good friends is far better than having a ton of friends you don't really give a shit about.

I do hate a lot of people though.
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I FUCKING HATE FACEBOOK. I've had too many awkward "I havent' seen or cared about you in 10 years, wanna catch up soon?" moments.. I hate hate hate it!
 
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This describes me so well, other than the whole being married part. I almost want to try the medications you describe to see how my life is actually caring about being parts of big groups and meeting new people.
 
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slackerinabox

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chin311 said:
ahh this thread is home for me.

for many years ive preferred being alone or with maybe one or two people over 'going-out' , parties blah blah.
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Same here - I can go on double dates, no problem. But groups of people who I know very little about? I just stand there..I come off as shy and awkward but, really, I just don't care that you listen to Boards of Canada.. Not because I never heard of them (I fell asleep to their shit years ago), but because I'm way too fucking old to have conversations about music... And most of these people are older than me!
 
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