So my 25 year old friend is dating a 16 year old

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spidey07

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Originally posted by: opticalmace
Originally posted by: jagec
Don't snitch on him, but give him a good talking to. 25/2 + 6 = 18.5, and not a bit younger.

actually it's age/2 + 7, pervert!

word. If you are breaking that rule then you are a pervert/molester.

Especially a 25 year old "supposed man" dating a child.

it's just wrong and OP needs to tell his friend he is a sicko for it.

In all seriousness I would tell him that and if he disagrees then I'd tell him I'm reporting him. You're his friend, this is what a friend would do for another friend.
 

91TTZ

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Originally posted by: spidey07

word. If you are breaking that rule then you are a pervert/molester.

Especially a 25 year old "supposed man" dating a child.

it's just wrong and OP needs to tell his friend he is a sicko for it.

In all seriousness I would tell him that and if he disagrees then I'd tell him I'm reporting him. You're his friend, this is what a friend would do for another friend.


Ditches are for snitches.
 

LcarsSystem

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Originally posted by: hysperion
Originally posted by: aidanjm
Originally posted by: tranceport
If he's banging her...that should land him with a sex offenders mark and a little time in jail.

people like you have turned your nation into the international joke it is now

international joke huh? ya, the most powerful nation in the world is a joke.......guess who's currency you guys use to buy your oil? Yep- ours.......We trade you our paper for your product because you need our paper to buy your oil....funny huh? Sucker......

Wow, that is the most moronic reasoning I have seen in this thread thus far...

Might doesn't make right, think harder. :disgust:
 

CVSiN

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Originally posted by: Chryso
Originally posted by: CVSiN
you know I have watched ya'll for a few years now...

and yall never cease to amaze me in your hypocrasy at times..
ive seen threads about how people like Hugh Hefner @ 80 and his harem of barely legal girls he keeps being called a god among men..
Ive seen some of you 30+ crowd drooling on pics of women barely 20 years old..
Ive seen porn posted here that the models are known to be @19 years old and thats ok..

hypocrites everyone of you almost...

like was said at least 100x in this thread not all things are so cut and dry.. 16 and 25 is not a huge age gap. the main thing that is the problem to some of you is that most of the US law makers have decided that old enough to drive is also old enough to have sex.

but yall seem to have issues with that.
and in 2 years when she hits 18 not 1 of you would say a word.. in fact if shes hot most of you would pat the guy on the back for a nice catch..

so funny..

In two years it will be legal everywhere.

Seriously, rub both of your brain cells together and tell me which part of "underage" and "of age" you don't understand.

Exactly what I posted there pal... Unless hes banging her and you can proove it its a moot point..
the OP never listed a state of residence and the state law matrix was posted above.. the majority of states she is considred a legal woman for making her own mind up about sex.

and then again we also dont know if the parents are involved and maybe approve of him..

and your point that in 2 years it will be legal is pointless and just furthers my post as the entire board all being hypocrites when it comes to age.

so funny at 16 you are mature enough to hold lives in your hand by driving a tool of death..
at 17 you are old enough to serve and die for your country (yes I did it so I know it can be done)
but according to you guys those same ages cant make up thier mind who they want to fvck?
 

SP33Demon

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Originally posted by: CVSiN
Originally posted by: Chryso
Originally posted by: CVSiN
you know I have watched ya'll for a few years now...

and yall never cease to amaze me in your hypocrasy at times..
ive seen threads about how people like Hugh Hefner @ 80 and his harem of barely legal girls he keeps being called a god among men..
Ive seen some of you 30+ crowd drooling on pics of women barely 20 years old..
Ive seen porn posted here that the models are known to be @19 years old and thats ok..

hypocrites everyone of you almost...

like was said at least 100x in this thread not all things are so cut and dry.. 16 and 25 is not a huge age gap. the main thing that is the problem to some of you is that most of the US law makers have decided that old enough to drive is also old enough to have sex.

but yall seem to have issues with that.
and in 2 years when she hits 18 not 1 of you would say a word.. in fact if shes hot most of you would pat the guy on the back for a nice catch..

so funny..

In two years it will be legal everywhere.

Seriously, rub both of your brain cells together and tell me which part of "underage" and "of age" you don't understand.

Exactly what I posted there pal... Unless hes banging her and you can proove it its a moot point..
the OP never listed a state of residence and the state law matrix was posted above.. the majority of states she is considred a legal woman for making her own mind up about sex.

and then again we also dont know if the parents are involved and maybe approve of him..

and your point that in 2 years it will be legal is pointless and just furthers my post as the entire board all being hypocrites when it comes to age.

so funny at 16 you are mature enough to hold lives in your hand by driving a tool of death..
at 17 you are old enough to serve and die for your country (yes I did it so I know it can be done)
but according to you guys those same ages cant make up thier mind who they want to fvck?
Yup, that's a good point. We give 16 yr olds the power to drive and kill someone, yet we make a huge deal over the sex issue.

When I was 20 I was dating a 16 yr old, she was pretty dam mature and had her sht together. Parents approved of me, her mom was a high school teacher too. Lasted 3.5 years till she decided to get into drugs.
 

Chunkee

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some people have older souls...perhaps this girl is one of those people....in college i dated a freshman when i was around 24/25 she was 19...very together mature,focused etc...not to mention very attractive..

but the point is, that some people reach levels of maturity before others... not saying this is the case...only problem with this is, he could get in legal trouble, and these days, not such a good idea.

jC
 

g8wayrebel

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Originally posted by: CVSiN
Originally posted by: Chryso
Originally posted by: CVSiN

Exactly what I posted there pal... Unless hes banging her and you can proove it its a moot point..


NOT!!! You can be prosecuted for statutory rape for just whistling at an underaged girl in some states.
In any case , and all states , if you have "intimate" contact with her you can be prosecuted.
 

blackangst1

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Originally posted by: g8wayrebel
Not good. It is totally unacceptable.
If it were my duaghter , I would show up at his place with the law or he would have an accident.
That decision would be made by his attitude when I confronted him and told him to stay the hell away from my daughter.

23 and 17 is a long way from 25 and 16


And how, pre tell, would you prove anything illegal happened? Hmmm? It's not illegal do date someone is it? And here's apoint no one has brought up...who's to say SHE isnt in this relationship willingly? Are you people saying at 16 a woman cant decide who she is attracted to? How naive of you. The law says she's old enough to get an abortion without consent.
 

blackangst1

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Originally posted by: g8wayrebel
Yes , I do. Once she is of a reasonable age , I would allow her to make decisions on her own. I don't feel that sixteen is anywhere near that age.
Granted , I would do what I could to convince her to make a rational decision for herself at 21 , 25 or any age , but at 16 , I still have the responsibility for her and no 25 year old is going to be associating with her closely enough to consider dating her if I can prevent it. They damn sure won't continue to do so if they were to start dating her.
You can't fall in love with someone you never get to know , and I can stop it if it would start.
I honestly believe that females are in their mid twenties , and males in the late twenties to early thirties before they mature enough that they truly have a clue what life is about.
That is an effect of the lack of discipline , structure ,and responsible parenting in this society , which in turn is a result of social engineering by narcissistic liberal lawyers/ politicians and lazy, greedy ,apethetic and narcissistic citizenry in this nation.


Blackgangst1:


You are actually the reason I responded to this.
I resent the fact that you implied we all agree it is OK for our daughters to get an abortion without parents consent. If the parents would do their job in the first place and raise kids properly and know where they are and what they are doing , it wouldn;t be an issue.
I have seen it many many times. It is easier to let the kid do what they want ,than to be responsible and take the time to raise and teach them.
I personally believe the parents ought to be held responsible for the actions of their chldren until they are of age.
If my dog gets out of the yard and bites someone , I am responsible.
How can I not ,then ,be responsible for a chld who I have the ability to teach right and wrong?
The dog is instinctive , the chld is not.
The problem lies with the parents. Too many have children they don't want and don't want to be bothered with. It's as if , as long as the kid is fed long enough to get out on their own . the parents job is done.
I don't see it that way.
DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOUR KIDS ARE RIGHT NOW?

I was simply pointing out the legal conundrum of the thread. If your daughter were 21 dating a 39 year old, you, as a father, would have a problem with it. It's parental nature to protect your kids. I'm not addressing the emotion of it, only the logic.

 

aboothman

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you people are strange. Why is a number so important when determining maturity? I am sure many of you have known people who
are 'underage' and they give the impression of being older...and I am only speaking of mental impressions so keep it in your pants.

Then again, I know people who are 30, 40, 50 and on up who cannot tell their ass from a hole in the ground. I mean, people who are still mentally in the 3rd grade. If this is the
case then some people should not date until 21, 30, or EVER!!!

So as far as I am concerned, there is no reason that someone who is so close to being an 'adult' cannot begin to make adult decisions.
As someone has already said, it is not like his friend is screwing every 16 year old female he can. It then becomes a matter of whether someone
is being hurt because of the age difference. If they stay together for several years, or even get married, will this really matter in a few years? OF COURSE NOT
When he is 50, she will be 41...for example.

This is not to try justifing dating underage people...I am simply saying that it is a HIGHLY subjective situation.

It all comes down to this: The 'legal' age of 18 is a guideline for adulthood....but it is NOT black and white. A person does not grow up in the course of 1 day, or year for that matter.
 

batmanuel

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"That's what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age."
 

DrZDO

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16 is "legal" in almost every state.

Since age of consent laws are state laws, you wouldn't go to FEDERAL prison anyway. Not like you'd want to go to state prison.

If she's 16, physically mature, and hot, homeboy is not a loser. If she's 16 and gross, yeah.