So my 25 year old friend is dating a 16 year old

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DaiShan

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Originally posted by: aidanjm
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
if a 25yr old came sniffing around my daughter when she was 16yrs old.... the rest of his life would be spent in a wheelchair.

then it is YOU who will be going to jail.


Wrong again bro. In the great state of Florida you can use DEADLY force if you feel that you or your family is in imminent danger, and I think that rape qualifies. Maybe you should start wearing a vest?
 

DaiShan

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Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: Tobolo
oh hell no call police
Oh fscking CHRIST.

:roll:

STFU and mind your own business. If it's consentual, who fscking cares?!?

At 16, you're MORE than able to make your own decisions, etc. The puritian sex laws in this country are fscked up.

BTW, 16 is legal age of consent in many states. In some, it is 14. So stick that in your pipe and smoke it, you bunch of overreactive retards.

OMGSHE'S16CALLTHEPOLICE!!! :roll:


Missed my post didn't you? Additionally Iowa and Missouri are the only states where 14 is legal, and then only in very restricted circumstances.The point is, if you don't like the law you should strive to change it, breaking the law does NOT bring about social change.
 

DaiShan

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Originally posted by: Eli
I am curious, what do you all think of the cultures that have women hitched at 12?

Jeebus. I was 20 and my ex was 16 when we met. We were happy, and we were together for 4 years. That would've been just great if some jackass that didn't know what was going on called the cops on us. I mean.. the hell? Maybe if the 16 year old is mentally retarded or something.

Otherwise, what the hell is the problem? Again.. if it's consentual, it doesen't matter! It is none of your business. If her parents have a problem with it, let them be the ones to press charges.. You don't know whats going on, or how they feel..

People put WAY too much significance into the number we call age. As if you magically become cogent at 18. :roll:

You think this is a coherent argument?
 

Turkish

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Originally posted by: DaiShan
Originally posted by: aidanjm
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
if a 25yr old came sniffing around my daughter when she was 16yrs old.... the rest of his life would be spent in a wheelchair.

then it is YOU who will be going to jail.


Wrong again bro. In the great state of Florida you can use DEADLY force if you feel that you or your family is in imminent danger, and I think that rape qualifies. Maybe you should start wearing a vest?

Yes, only if you live in Florida of the Dreamy States of America.

Having sex with consent =! rape.
 

montanafan

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The question is, what is wrong with your friend that he can't attract women a little closer to his own age?
 

SupaDupaPan

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Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: SupaDupaPan
Originally posted by: Eli
I am curious, what do you all think of the cultures that have women hitched at 12?

Jeebus. I was 20 and my ex was 16 when we met. We were happy, and we were together for 4 years. That would've been just great if some jackass that didn't know what was going on called the cops on us. I mean.. the hell? Maybe if the 16 year old is mentally retarded or something.

Otherwise, what the hell is the problem? Again.. if it's consentual, it doesen't matter! It is none of your business. If her parents have a problem with it, let them be the ones to press charges.. You don't know whats going on, or how they feel..

People put WAY too much significance into the number we call age. As if you magically become cogent at 18. :roll:

I believe that in the cultures where women get hitched at age 12 it's alright for them. Because in their country and culture, they mature differently due to the environment they're in. However in a lot of the other countries where women get married later, because they've grown up in a different environment they usually are more immature and not ready for marriage.

I think it's all relative. To each person their own, however you should perhaps evaluate the situation and perhaps hang out or speak with the 16 year old girl yourself before smacking your friend upside the head for dating her. Perhaps she is more mature than most girls her age ... and perhaps your friend really is ... too immature for his age. In most cases the girls not ready for that sort of relationship or what not ... but each case is different like I said ... so you need to see it for yourself than basing it on what a bunch of people on a forum say.


You make some good points, and I agree about the "maturity" and "ready" points. However, you must live within the legal constraints of the society/nation you're in. In most states in the US, 16 is indeed jailbait. More and more these days, parents and nosy courts are interfering in matters of the heart...or crotch, depending on your POV.

Years ago (many) I was 15 and my GF was 15. We made mother nature proud...thousands of times. :D These days, my 15 year old butt would be locked up. Do I think that's BS? My opinion doesn't really matter if I'm in jail, now does it?

I agree, you do have to live in the legal constraints of the socitey you live in. However many laws are broken each and every day by citizens. Speeding for example. I do believe though, that if you're willing to break a law, you have to be ready for the consequence. Either way, I don't think it's the OP's place to meddle and turn him in or what not. I think he should evaluate the situation, speak to his friend, and if things take a dive for the worse and the relationship does prove to be harmful, then step in. Usually in a case like this, if no harm is being done, then it should be left alone. The only people who I think should be the ones stepping in, are the girl's parents if they disagree with it completely.
 

doze

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If you are 21 or over you should not be going for anyone under 18. 25 and 18 would be OK or even 16 and 20

Originally posted by: Nebor
What a diaper sniper.

awesome
 

DaiShan

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Originally posted by: Turkish
Originally posted by: DaiShan
Originally posted by: aidanjm
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
if a 25yr old came sniffing around my daughter when she was 16yrs old.... the rest of his life would be spent in a wheelchair.

then it is YOU who will be going to jail.


Wrong again bro. In the great state of Florida you can use DEADLY force if you feel that you or your family is in imminent danger, and I think that rape qualifies. Maybe you should start wearing a vest?

Yes, only if you live in Florida of the Dreamy States of America.

Having sex with consent =! rape.


Do you not have access to the public domain where you live? Statutory rape You're gonna need to up your game a bit to keep up...
 
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Regardless of the legalities involved, 25 and 16 don't mix. I know that if I were seeing a 16 year old she would be little more than a toy. I'm pretty sure your friend sees her as that too.

The "love" part of the equasion has more to do with the fact that he has absolute control over someone who is only now begining to express her independence (by having sex with an older man - not a good way to start) and the sense of conquest that one gets by being with someone that others in your age group can't/won't be with.

If your friend thinks he and his GF have a lot in common he needs to grow up.
 

jagec

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Don't snitch on him, but give him a good talking to. 25/2 + 6 = 18.5, and not a bit younger.
 

Turkish

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Originally posted by: DaiShan
Originally posted by: Turkish
Originally posted by: DaiShan
Originally posted by: aidanjm
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
if a 25yr old came sniffing around my daughter when she was 16yrs old.... the rest of his life would be spent in a wheelchair.

then it is YOU who will be going to jail.


Wrong again bro. In the great state of Florida you can use DEADLY force if you feel that you or your family is in imminent danger, and I think that rape qualifies. Maybe you should start wearing a vest?

Yes, only if you live in Florida of the Dreamy States of America.

Having sex with consent =! rape.


Do you not have access to the public domain where you live? Statutory rape You're gonna need to up your game a bit to keep up...

In court, its going to be very hard for you to use statutory rape as your motivation for killing someone as protecting your family. Good luck.
 

MichaelD

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"Diaper Sniper" = LMFAO! :D That's a new one for me! That's some funny shiat! :D

Hey, I'm as red-blooded as the next guy...my definition of "rape" does absolutely not agree with the governments' definition of "statuatory rape." That doesn't mean, though, that it's legal.

Consensual sex /= legal sex in the case of a minor, as defined, age-wise by the law of that state that the sex was had in. Sux, but that's the way it is.
 

Rock Hydra

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As long as she's the legal age of consent, I wouldn't care even though it is quite odd. Whether it's 16, 14...whatever. Though, if it is illegal, then you should talk with him and then diceide for yourself wheter you want yourself associated with him and his actions.
 

BigJ

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I'm torn.

I don't find it that wrong that your friend is dating someone else's 16yo girl.

However, once I become a father, if I EVER found some douchebag 25 year old dating my 16 year old daughter, they'd have to use dental records to identify him.
 

MetalMat

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Originally posted by: Compton
Originally posted by: MetalMat
My buddy broke up with his gf last year, and was always telling me and my gf that he was lonely and wanted a gf. Now is is dating a 16 year old girl and they are "in love". I think he is just taking what he can get personally, but he thinks that dating someone still in high school is ok. Anybody else find this wrong?

This doesnt sound unusual to me. It just sounds like Louisiana.


In Louisiana it is legal if the age is 17.
 

jagec

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Originally posted by: BigJ
I'm torn.

I don't find it that wrong that your friend is dating someone else's 16yo girl.

However, once I become a father, if I EVER found some douchebag 25 year old dating my 16 year old daughter, they'd have to use dental records to identify him.

Really? Because if it was MY daughter, dental records would be useless by the time I was done.
 

BigJ

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Originally posted by: jagec
Originally posted by: BigJ
I'm torn.

I don't find it that wrong that your friend is dating someone else's 16yo girl.

However, once I become a father, if I EVER found some douchebag 25 year old dating my 16 year old daughter, they'd have to use dental records to identify him.

Really? Because if it was MY daughter, dental records would be useless by the time I was done.

Quick question. Does hydrochloric acid destroy teeth and DNA?
 

altonb1

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Originally posted by: MetalMat
My buddy broke up with his gf last year, and was always telling me and my gf that he was lonely and wanted a gf. Now is is dating a 16 year old girl and they are "in love". I think he is just taking what he can get personally, but he thinks that dating someone still in high school is ok. Anybody else find this wrong?

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