So a friend thinks shes preg

[DisgruntledVirus]

Ok I am a moron about pregnancy, and have no clue about anything with it really. So a friend and I were suppossed to hang out last thursday, and she wasn't feeling good (told me nauseous and her heart was racing) and canceled on me. So I was talking to her throughout the night and she mentioned she was going to the Dr.'s in the AM, which struck me as odd if you just feel nauseous. So I came to the conclusion she thinks she is pregnant, as there were a few signs (nauseous, going to the dr's, the way she has been acting recently, etc). The next day she goes to the docs and I ask how it went, she says good but she has to go back in two weeks but they gave her some meds. So I inquire as to the meds, and she won't tell me what they are just that she had to take one and 12 hours later take the second.

She told me Saturday she does think she is preg (cheapo CVS type test said she was, but the doc wants her to come back in 2 weeks to find out for sure), but she still wont tell me what the meds were. I was thinking something like the morning after pill (obviously not that b/c it was way past 72 hours), but is there anything similar to that but that you can take after the initial 72 hours? Is there anything else it could be? It would kind of surprise me if it was some kind of abortion type pill because if she is pregnant she would have the baby and put it up for adoption (which IMO is the best choice for her). She doesn't believe in abortion either.

And no I am not the father, I havn't done anything with her. I was interested in her until this came up but thats another topic entirely.

 

[SunnyD]

Could be something for BP, could be something for nausea... or should could really believe in abortion privately.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: SunnyD
Could be something for BP, could be something for nausea... or should could really believe in abortion privately.

QFT

Medical abortion.

 

[JTsyo]

Probably pre-natal vitamins.

 

[Nitemare]

Alot of people don't believe in abortions until it happens to them

 

[captains]

prolly abort pills

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: SunnyD
Could be something for BP, could be something for nausea... or should could really believe in abortion privately.

QFT

Medical abortion.

That's what I was thinking, that she was going to do a medical abortion and just doesn't want to say anything to anybody.

It would also fit having to go back in two weeks to make sure it worked. She also has been having bad cramps for a few days now she told me last night. It would have been as near as I can tell about 3 weeks ago for conception, so they should be able to tell if she is or not at a doc's office I would think.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: Nitemare
Alot of people don't believe in abortions until it happens to them

Or the other way around

 

[jaqie]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
IMO is the best choice for her.

Just a question - are you saying here that you think you know better then her what is best for her? Again, this is just a question, not suggesting anything at all, even what it seems like I may be suggesting.

 

[clamum]

Pics?

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
Ok I am a moron about pregnancy, and have no clue about anything with it really. So a friend and I were suppossed to hang out last thursday, and she wasn't feeling good (told me nauseous and her heart was racing) and canceled on me. So I was talking to her throughout the night and she mentioned she was going to the Dr.'s in the AM, which struck me as odd if you just feel nauseous. So I came to the conclusion she thinks she is pregnant, as there were a few signs (nauseous, going to the dr's, the way she has been acting recently, etc). The next day she goes to the docs and I ask how it went, she says good but she has to go back in two weeks but they gave her some meds. So I inquire as to the meds, and she won't tell me what they are just that she had to take one and 12 hours later take the second.

She told me Saturday she does think she is preg (cheapo CVS type test said she was, but the doc wants her to come back in 2 weeks to find out for sure), but she still wont tell me what the meds were. I was thinking something like the morning after pill (obviously not that b/c it was way past 72 hours), but is there anything similar to that but that you can take after the initial 72 hours? Is there anything else it could be? It would kind of surprise me if it was some kind of abortion type pill because if she is pregnant she would have the baby and put it up for adoption (which IMO is the best choice for her). She doesn't believe in abortion either.

And no I am not the father, I havn't done anything with her. I was interested in her until this came up but thats another topic entirely.

RU-486?
You come off as pretty snoopy and overbearing here, though.

 

[mrCide]

Why are you being so nosy?

 

[Injury]

How about mind your own damn business and when she's ready to tell you she will.

You have NO RIGHT to know ANY of this unless SHE wants you to.

All you need to say is that you're there for her if she needs you.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: jaqie

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
IMO is the best choice for her.

Just a question - are you saying here that you think you know better then her what is best for her? Again, this is just a question, not suggesting anything at all, even what it seems like I may be suggesting.

I am just saying that IMO when an "accident" happens in a situation like this (she is 19, lives at home, in college, no stable career, etc) it is best to do an adoption. That is just my opinion, and I have not said that to her because it is her choice no matter what she does and I have no right to influence that one way or another. It is her life, and unless she asks me what I think she should do I will keep my mouth shut about what I think she should or should not do.

I just know that from seeing other friends that were in the same situation (19, accidental pregnancy, in college, no stable job, etc), they decided to keep the baby (which I respect, just personally don't agree with but once again it's their choice not mine) their life just goes down hill. Most have severe depression, live at home, work at a job like CVS, McDonalds, etc and both their lives are very difficult. I prefer a child to be given up for adoption to a family that is ready to raise a child, instead of a person being forced to take of a child they might not have wanted in the first place.

These are just my opinions and am just explaining my comment, not trying to flame at all sorry if it came off at all that way.

 

[Gothgar]

Originally posted by: mrCide
Why are you being so nosy?

can't you tell... he wants that tang

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
Ok I am a moron about pregnancy, and have no clue about anything with it really. So a friend and I were suppossed to hang out last thursday, and she wasn't feeling good (told me nauseous and her heart was racing) and canceled on me. So I was talking to her throughout the night and she mentioned she was going to the Dr.'s in the AM, which struck me as odd if you just feel nauseous. So I came to the conclusion she thinks she is pregnant, as there were a few signs (nauseous, going to the dr's, the way she has been acting recently, etc). The next day she goes to the docs and I ask how it went, she says good but she has to go back in two weeks but they gave her some meds. So I inquire as to the meds, and she won't tell me what they are just that she had to take one and 12 hours later take the second.

She told me Saturday she does think she is preg (cheapo CVS type test said she was, but the doc wants her to come back in 2 weeks to find out for sure), but she still wont tell me what the meds were. I was thinking something like the morning after pill (obviously not that b/c it was way past 72 hours), but is there anything similar to that but that you can take after the initial 72 hours? Is there anything else it could be? It would kind of surprise me if it was some kind of abortion type pill because if she is pregnant she would have the baby and put it up for adoption (which IMO is the best choice for her). She doesn't believe in abortion either.

And no I am not the father, I havn't done anything with her. I was interested in her until this came up but thats another topic entirely.

RU-486?
You come off as pretty snoopy and overbearing here, though.

The reason for that is because we were getting close, and were most likely going to date until she decided she had things to figure out first and we would just be friends for now. I totally agree with her choice, but she talks to me about it and it has been the topic of almost all conversations since Sat. I maybe "snoopy and overbearing", but I am clueless as to pregnancy. She wouldn't tell me what it was, and the only thing I could think of was something like the morning after pill. I wasn't sure if there was anything else it could be and figured people here might know.

She came to me and told me this stuff, I didn't ask her "do you think you are preg" or ask about any of this. She told me on her own, without me asking/prying/snooping.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: Injury
How about mind your own damn business and when she's ready to tell you she will.

You have NO RIGHT to know ANY of this unless SHE wants you to.

All you need to say is that you're there for her if she needs you.

And that is what I have told her from prior to her even mentioning the docs, when she said she didn't want to date right now because she had things to figure out (before any preg stuff was even thought of by me). As I have stated I did not ask her for any of this information, she has willingly provided all of it.

All I am asking is if there could be anything other then RU-486 (or something along those lines), based off what SHE told ME. It is for her to decide what she wants to tell me and what she doesn't. I won't ask her what the meds were, because it is not my business to know unless she WANTS to tell me. How is me asking any different then me just assuming that it is RU-486? I am trying to figure it out for myself, and be intelligent about it. I do not want to assume it is/isn't and make a comment because I am ignorant about pregnancy in general. In order to be there for her shouldn't I be informed about the topic at hand?

 

[SpunkyJones]

I vote for pre-natal vitamins. I would relax and not worry about the medication, if she doesn't want you to know, there is nothing you can do. Its not like she got them from a street corner pusher.

 

[jaqie]

I'd say by what I am reading so far that she doesn't want you to know anything more then she has told you, and it's best to just drop it out of your mind until and unless she breaches the subject again.

 

[radioouman]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

Originally posted by: jaqie

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
IMO is the best choice for her.

Just a question - are you saying here that you think you know better then her what is best for her? Again, this is just a question, not suggesting anything at all, even what it seems like I may be suggesting.

I am just saying that IMO when an "accident" happens in a situation like this (she is 19, lives at home, in college, no stable career, etc) it is best to do an adoption. That is just my opinion, and I have not said that to her because it is her choice no matter what she does and I have no right to influence that one way or another. It is her life, and unless she asks me what I think she should do I will keep my mouth shut about what I think she should or should not do.

I just know that from seeing other friends that were in the same situation (19, accidental pregnancy, in college, no stable job, etc), they decided to keep the baby (which I respect, just personally don't agree with but once again it's their choice not mine) their life just goes down hill. Most have severe depression, live at home, work at a job like CVS, McDonalds, etc and both their lives are very difficult. I prefer a child to be given up for adoption to a family that is ready to raise a child, instead of a person being forced to take of a child they might not have wanted in the first place.

These are just my opinions and am just explaining my comment, not trying to flame at all sorry if it came off at all that way.

Let me just just tell you that my sister got pregnant at 19 and decided to keep the child. She was not really in school at the time and was working in fast food. But she realized that was no life to be living and wanted to make a change. Therefore she applied to a medical school to get a degree in nursing, and applied for as many scholarships and financial aid as she could. My parents helped her a little (helped her finance a 5 year old minivan), and she got several part time jobs working for hospitals while she was in school. She graduated this month and already has a full time job at a hospital making good money ($25/hour). She got married in December and she and her new husband moved into a new house shortly after. She has worked hard and it paid off once she realized that she didn't want to raise her kids in poverty. Now, her 7 year old son is one of the brightest in his class in school and she isn't working some crumby McJob.

Anything is possible.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Why are you so concerned? She's going to see a doctor in the morning.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: SpunkyJones
I vote for pre-natal vitamins. I would relax and not worry about the medication, if she doesn't want you to know, there is nothing you can do. Its not like she got them from a street corner pusher.

AFAIK, you only take one pre-natal vitamin per day.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: radioouman

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

Originally posted by: jaqie

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
IMO is the best choice for her.

Just a question - are you saying here that you think you know better then her what is best for her? Again, this is just a question, not suggesting anything at all, even what it seems like I may be suggesting.

I am just saying that IMO when an "accident" happens in a situation like this (she is 19, lives at home, in college, no stable career, etc) it is best to do an adoption. That is just my opinion, and I have not said that to her because it is her choice no matter what she does and I have no right to influence that one way or another. It is her life, and unless she asks me what I think she should do I will keep my mouth shut about what I think she should or should not do.

I just know that from seeing other friends that were in the same situation (19, accidental pregnancy, in college, no stable job, etc), they decided to keep the baby (which I respect, just personally don't agree with but once again it's their choice not mine) their life just goes down hill. Most have severe depression, live at home, work at a job like CVS, McDonalds, etc and both their lives are very difficult. I prefer a child to be given up for adoption to a family that is ready to raise a child, instead of a person being forced to take of a child they might not have wanted in the first place.

These are just my opinions and am just explaining my comment, not trying to flame at all sorry if it came off at all that way.

Let me just just tell you that my sister got pregnant at 19 and decided to keep the child. She was not really in school at the time and was working in fast food. But she realized that was no life to be living and wanted to make a change. Therefore she applied to a medical school to get a degree in nursing, and applied for as many scholarships and financial aid as she could. My parents helped her a little (helped her finance a 5 year old minivan), and she got several part time jobs working for hospitals while she was in school. She graduated this month and already has a full time job at a hospital making good money ($25/hour). She got married in December and she and her new husband moved into a new house shortly after. She has worked hard and it paid off once she realized that she didn't want to raise her kids in poverty. Now, her 7 year old son is one of the brightest in his class in school and she isn't working some crumby McJob.

Anything is possible.

Very true, but for every story like your sister there are many more that happen to have the McJob deal. Props to your sister for being determined enough to do that. Unfortunately stories like that are kind of rare, at least in my experience. Very true it can be a great thing for some people, and adoption isn't always the best choice. IMO though, adoption usually is the best option for both the mother and child most of the time. It is her choice no matter what, and if she did keep it (she says she will do an adoption though, but once again her choice) I hope she does as your sister did and work that hard to make something out of it.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
Why are you so concerned? She's going to see a doctor in the morning.

She already went to the docs for one visit, and goes again in 2 weeks. Also I am not really concerned, just curious is all.

I am just wondering what else the meds could be that you take one and then a second 12 hours later. AFAIK the only thing that fits that description would be contraceptives. I am just wondering if it could be anything else.

 

[alkemyst]

butt out, you were locked in the friend zone way before this happened.

I think you are believing she took morning after pills or something and trying to judge her on this.