So a friend thinks shes preg

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
butt out, you were locked in the friend zone way before this happened.

I think you are believing she took morning after pills or something and trying to judge her on this.

I wouldn't be judging her either way. If she took something okay, if not okay. I would just be surprised if it was a contraceptive because of who SHE is. It just would surprise me is all.

I know I am in the friend zone because she was doing stuff with this guy when I thought we were going some place. This has told me I am 100% in the friend zone. Which is fine because she is a fun person to hang out with.

 

[BoomerD]

Originally posted by: Injury
How about mind your own damn business and when she's ready to tell you she will.

You have NO RIGHT to know ANY of this unless SHE wants you to.

All you need to say is that you're there for her if she needs you.

Thanks for someone finally saying this.


Dude, Mind Your Own Fucking Business.

You admit that it's not your kid if she's pregnant, so what she does is none of your business...friend or not, it's her decision to make.

 

[Modeps]

If she took a "cheapo CVS test" and it came back positive, then she went to her OB to confirm the pregnancy, they wouldn't tell her to come back in 2 weeks to be sure... they'd know right away. That being said, you clearly don't know shit about pregnancies, or life in general for that matter.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

Originally posted by: alkemyst
butt out, you were locked in the friend zone way before this happened.

I think you are believing she took morning after pills or something and trying to judge her on this.

I wouldn't be judging her either way. If she took something okay, if not okay. I would just be surprised if it was a contraceptive because of who SHE is. It just would surprise me is all.

I know I am in the friend zone because she was doing stuff with this guy when I thought we were going some place. This has told me I am 100% in the friend zone. Which is fine because she is a fun person to hang out with.

how is she fun when you were interested as more than friends and she does things you don't agree with and are now prying into?

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Gothgar

Originally posted by: mrCide
Why are you being so nosy?

can't you tell... he wants that tang

can't get her more pregnant

 

[Vehemence]

Not believin a word of it until there's :camera:s

 

[Chiropteran]

She is taking drugs to kill the baby. You have to save the baby! Lure the girl into a van and tie her up, and then take her to your basement. Tie her to a chair so she can't escape and force her to eat healthy and fattening food for the next nine months.

It's the only way you can save the baby, she is trying to kill it!

 

[amicold]

Either chemical abortion or morning after pill but they can be obtained OTC.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

Originally posted by: alkemyst
butt out, you were locked in the friend zone way before this happened.

I think you are believing she took morning after pills or something and trying to judge her on this.

I wouldn't be judging her either way. If she took something okay, if not okay. I would just be surprised if it was a contraceptive because of who SHE is. It just would surprise me is all.

I know I am in the friend zone because she was doing stuff with this guy when I thought we were going some place. This has told me I am 100% in the friend zone. Which is fine because she is a fun person to hang out with.

how is she fun when you were interested as more than friends and she does things you don't agree with and are now prying into?

When did I say I don't agree with anything she is doing? I never said I don't agree with anything. I said that her choice to do an adoption I agree with, because I do on my own. I have not told her if I agree with it or not, because unless she asks it doesnt matter what I think.

She is fun to hang out with being more then friends, or just being friends. Yes I wanted more then just friends, but now because of a few different unrelated things I know it wouldn't work as more then friends. That being said we have a great time together, and enjoy her company. I fail to see how I am prying into anything, and I am not prying into anything. She came to me about her thinking she is preg, she has been the one to volunteer this information. I am here for her as somebody to talk to and a friend. She will tell me what she wants, and leave out what she doesn't want to. That is perfectly fine with me as well.

As I have stated I just wanted to know if there was something else that it could have been the doc gave her. Because I want to educate myself on the topic I am prying?

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
I said that her choice to do an adoption I agree with

The impression I get from this thread is that she is likely going the RU486 route, and that you DON'T agree with that.

I agree with the sentiment that you need to get the fuck out of her business. Grow up.

 

[jaqie]

Originally posted by: Kadarin
you need to get the fuck out of her business. Grow up.

Yes. I had been trying to say the same thing more subtly, but it seems to have gone unheard. I doubt this more direct and less nice approach will have any more effect, though.

 

[Chiropteran]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
I said that her choice to do an adoption I agree with, because I do on my own.

You agree with her as long as she chooses adoption? Just mind your own business, maybe she doesn't want to do adoption.

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: jaqie

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
IMO is the best choice for her.

Just a question - are you saying here that you think you know better then her what is best for her? Again, this is just a question, not suggesting anything at all, even what it seems like I may be suggesting.

luckily, opinions arent fact. he can feel any way he chooses, based on his knowledge of her life. maybe he has insight into her capacity to be a mother far beyond yours.

 

[SunnyD]

Originally posted by: Chiropteran
She is taking drugs to kill the baby. You have to save the baby! Lure the girl into a van and tie her up, and then take her to your basement. Tie her to a chair so she can't escape and force her to eat healthy and fattening food for the next nine months.

It's the only way you can save the baby, she is trying to kill it!

lulz.

Originally posted by: amicold
Either chemical abortion or morning after pill but they can be obtained OTC.

So can Tylenol, but docs give scripts for it all the time!

Originally posted by: Modeps
If she took a "cheapo CVS test" and it came back positive, then she went to her OB to confirm the pregnancy, they wouldn't tell her to come back in 2 weeks to be sure... they'd know right away. That being said, you clearly don't know shit about pregnancies, or life in general for that matter.

Bingo.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: Chiropteran

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
I said that her choice to do an adoption I agree with, because I do on my own.

You agree with her as long as she chooses adoption? Just mind your own business, maybe she doesn't want to do adoption.

Frankly I don't care if she does adoption, abortion, or keeps the child (if in fact she is). I am pro-choice actually, and believe abortion should be legal at least through the second trimester if not the third. That is completely another topic entirely though so we won't go into it.

I have yet to see how I am not minding my own business. I am curious as to if thats what it could be or not. It has no bearing on me if it is or isnt. I am not saying anything to her about it, she is the one who says it to me. I have not brought it up or even talked about it, unless she brings it up. As I have said I told her I am here for her, and from there on it is her choice if she wants to talk to me about things or not.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
When did I say I don't agree with anything she is doing? I never said I don't agree with anything. I said that her choice to do an adoption I agree with, because I do on my own. I have not told her if I agree with it or not, because unless she asks it doesnt matter what I think.

She is fun to hang out with being more then friends, or just being friends. Yes I wanted more then just friends, but now because of a few different unrelated things I know it wouldn't work as more then friends. That being said we have a great time together, and enjoy her company. I fail to see how I am prying into anything, and I am not prying into anything. She came to me about her thinking she is preg, she has been the one to volunteer this information. I am here for her as somebody to talk to and a friend. She will tell me what she wants, and leave out what she doesn't want to. That is perfectly fine with me as well.

As I have stated I just wanted to know if there was something else that it could have been the doc gave her. Because I want to educate myself on the topic I am prying?

Since she is such a great friend, why not just ask her? If she will not answer then you are prying.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: Modeps
If she took a "cheapo CVS test" and it came back positive, then she went to her OB to confirm the pregnancy, they wouldn't tell her to come back in 2 weeks to be sure... they'd know right away. That being said, you clearly don't know shit about pregnancies, or life in general for that matter.

I have stated I don't know sh*t about pregnancies. I stated that in the first sentence of my OP, because I know I don't know jack when it comes to them. I have never had one with a SO, or close friend or anything until now. Sure I have had friends that have been preg, but its just a "btw I am preg" "oh congratulations" and left at that.

I am trying to learn more about them so if she wants to talk about it I can be educated on the subject, and actually be able to have a conversation with her about it. I did not once say I was going to ask her about it, or would even bring it up.

I also fail to see how I don't know shit about life in general because I am very uneducated about pregnancies. Oh well, you're entitled to your opinion.

 

[Chiropteran]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

Originally posted by: Chiropteran

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
I said that her choice to do an adoption I agree with, because I do on my own.

You agree with her as long as she chooses adoption? Just mind your own business, maybe she doesn't want to do adoption.

Frankly I don't care if she does adoption, abortion, or keeps the child (if in fact she is). I am pro-choice actually, and believe abortion should be legal at least through the second trimester if not the third. That is completely another topic entirely though so we won't go into it.

I have yet to see how I am not minding my own business. I am curious as to if thats what it could be or not. It has no bearing on me if it is or isnt. I am not saying anything to her about it, she is the one who says it to me. I have not brought it up or even talked about it, unless she brings it up. As I have said I told her I am here for her, and from there on it is her choice if she wants to talk to me about things or not.

It's just the way you phrased it. You could have said "I would agree with any choice she made", but you didn't - you said you would agree with the choice of adoption. Which implies you would be against her decision if she ended up choosing to do anything other than adoption.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: Chiropteran

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

Originally posted by: Chiropteran

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
I said that her choice to do an adoption I agree with, because I do on my own.

You agree with her as long as she chooses adoption? Just mind your own business, maybe she doesn't want to do adoption.

Frankly I don't care if she does adoption, abortion, or keeps the child (if in fact she is). I am pro-choice actually, and believe abortion should be legal at least through the second trimester if not the third. That is completely another topic entirely though so we won't go into it.

I have yet to see how I am not minding my own business. I am curious as to if thats what it could be or not. It has no bearing on me if it is or isnt. I am not saying anything to her about it, she is the one who says it to me. I have not brought it up or even talked about it, unless she brings it up. As I have said I told her I am here for her, and from there on it is her choice if she wants to talk to me about things or not.

It's just the way you phrased it. You could have said "I would agree with any choice she made", but you didn't - you said you would agree with the choice of adoption. Which implies you would be against her decision if she ended up choosing to do anything other than adoption.

Then forgive me for my phrasing.

What I meant by that was that she stated if she is pregnant she would carry the baby to term and give it up for adoption. If that is what she does I would be supportive of that and think that is the better option IMO based on what I know of her then keeping the child. If she decided to keep the child I would be supportive of that as well. Finally if she did in fact take something for a chemical abortion I would be supportive of that.

I don't have any issue with it if she did do a chemical abortion, I just would be a bit surprised by it is all. Whatever she chooses is her choice and I will support her in any choice she makes, and won't offer my opinion on it unless she asks for it because it is not my place.

 

[imported_mateo]

1) Its none of your business. If she wants you to know whats up she will tell you.

2) FYI, seems to be some misinformation based on the responses: The morning after pill is not the same thing as a chemical abortion pill. The morning after pill is taken soon after sex to avoid getting pregnant. (i.e. the morning after part...) Its essentially a large one time dose of standard contraceptives. It will NOT terminate a pregnancy.

3) The morning after pill IS available OTC in many states. Its usually kept behind the counter and you have to ask for it.

4) Meds could be for just about anything...no need to speculate. You will be wrong.

5) Its none of your business.

 

[Superrock]

So are you asking the AT community to help you pry into her private life and discover if she's trying to do a chemically induced abortion?

 

[lizardth]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
Ok I am a moron about pregnancy, and have no clue about anything with it really. So a friend and I were suppossed to hang out last thursday, and she wasn't feeling good (told me nauseous and her heart was racing) and canceled on me. So I was talking to her throughout the night and she mentioned she was going to the Dr.'s in the AM, which struck me as odd if you just feel nauseous. So I came to the conclusion she thinks she is pregnant, as there were a few signs (nauseous, going to the dr's, the way she has been acting recently, etc). The next day she goes to the docs and I ask how it went, she says good but she has to go back in two weeks but they gave her some meds. So I inquire as to the meds, and she won't tell me what they are just that she had to take one and 12 hours later take the second.

She told me Saturday she does think she is preg (cheapo CVS type test said she was, but the doc wants her to come back in 2 weeks to find out for sure), but she still wont tell me what the meds were. I was thinking something like the morning after pill (obviously not that b/c it was way past 72 hours), but is there anything similar to that but that you can take after the initial 72 hours? Is there anything else it could be? It would kind of surprise me if it was some kind of abortion type pill because if she is pregnant she would have the baby and put it up for adoption (which IMO is the best choice for her). She doesn't believe in abortion either.

And no I am not the father, I havn't done anything with her. I was interested in her until this came up but thats another topic entirely.

Those are the instructions for the "Plan B" meds. and if it is that then she'll prolly feel like crap for 3-4 days. Also the 2 week check-up fits. Just be there for her.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: Superrock
So are you asking the AT community to help you pry into her private life and discover if she's trying to do a chemically induced abortion?

No I am not asking AT to pry into anything, I am just asking if there was any other ideas as to what the medicine could be. I know that it could be a thousand things, but in the given situation my guess is it is a chemical abortion. If she wants to talk/tell me about it she will, but I don't see any reason I can't/shouldn't try to put 2+2 together.

I am just asking people that are much more knowledgeable on pregnancies if that is what it most likely is. The reason I am curious is because I am interested in her, and if that is in fact what it is then while I am fairly confident I am "in the friend zone" I might not be. If she is pregnant then we definitely will just be friends, because I know for a fact she wouldn't want to get into a relationship if she was (and for that matter I doubt I would either).

I am not prying into anything, as she told me all the information without me asking for any of it.

 

[imported_mateo]

I am not prying into anything, as she told me all the information without me asking for any of it.

Obviously she did not tell you ALL the information. If you want more details ask her rather than anantech. If you are not comfortable asking then perhaps you ARE over stepping your bounds.

 

[AbsolutDealage]

Not that this is particularily your business... but...

If she took a pregnancy test and it came back positive, she is pregnant. The 99% accuracy is due only to the cases in which the test will give a false negative. If the test says she is pregnant, she is pregnant.

She went to the doctor to see what she could/should do about it. They gave her "Plan B", and told her to come back in 2 weeks to make sure it worked.

She told you a cover story, saying that they need to do another pregnancy test in 2 weeks. Invariably, she will come back to you saying that the test came back negative, and she was never pregnant.