Should I Get Back with My Ex?

[Eeezee]

Don't even meet with her this weekend. There are so many reasons NOT to do that.

A) She might have an STD that even she doesn't know about. It takes a long time for symptoms to appear for some diseases, and she had a one-night stand. It's risky.
B) She is not going to be your sex buddy. I guarantee that she has had sex with better partners by now, no offense. If she has sex with you, it's for manipulative purposes.
C) Stop giving her money, Stop talking to her, Stop all contact, STOP
D) You can find MUCH BETTER sex from other people. Go hire a high-class escort, blow a few grand on it, really go all-out. Go to dinner with her, tell her your story, and she'll probably make you feel a lot better. You're much more certain that you're with someone clean this way, and she'll probably give you a more fulfilling, loving experience than your ex.

Don't see her ever again. Don't do it. Chances are good that she'll change your mind or something and you'll fall further from making the RIGHT, SANE choice of running as far away as possible. Forget the money. She made a mistake, let her live with that, and don't let it become your mistake too.

Edit: She's probably off the pill and will try to have sex with you without a condom. You WILL get her pregnant and you WILL regret it for the next 18+ years as you support her. She can't find the father of her one-night stand by the very nature of the event, so she has no one else to turn to for child support. DO NOT MEET WITH HER! DO NOT EVEN THINK OF HAVING LUNCH OR SEEING A MOVIE TOGETHER!

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: Aztech
well, she started seeing other people and got pregnant in a one-night stand. Now she has a baby that's like 6 months old. She's moved back in with her mother.

...

Now she wants to get back with me.

...

But I should probably walk away. I'm pathetic right?

You already walked away. Move on bud, don't go back to someone you don't love, don't go back to fighting, don't raise another man's child whom I'm sure you will hold some resentment towards.

Haven't had a chance to date? Now is your chance. Get on with your life.

 

[murban135]

Originally posted by: Eeezee
Don't even meet with her this weekend. There are so many reasons NOT to do that.

A) She might have an STD that even she doesn't know about. It takes a long time for symptoms to appear for some diseases, and she had a one-night stand. It's risky.
B) She is not going to be your sex buddy. I guarantee that she has had sex with better partners by now, no offense. If she has sex with you, it's for manipulative purposes.
C) Stop giving her money, Stop talking to her, Stop all contact, STOP
D) You can find MUCH BETTER sex from other people. Go hire a high-class escort, blow a few grand on it, really go all-out. Go to dinner with her, tell her your story, and she'll probably make you feel a lot better. You're much more certain that you're with someone clean this way, and she'll probably give you a more fulfilling, loving experience than your ex.

Don't see her ever again. Don't do it. Chances are good that she'll change your mind or something and you'll fall further from making the RIGHT, SANE choice of running as far away as possible. Forget the money. She made a mistake, let her live with that, and don't let it become your mistake too.

Edit: She's probably off the pill and will try to have sex with you without a condom. You WILL get her pregnant and you WILL regret it for the next 18+ years as you support her. She can't find the father of her one-night stand by the very nature of the event, so she has no one else to turn to for child support. DO NOT MEET WITH HER! DO NOT EVEN THINK OF HAVING LUNCH OR SEEING A MOVIE TOGETHER!

QFT

 

[SearchMaster]

Wow - two pages and no pics?

 

[KarenMarie]

I would say


NO!!!!!

Don't wanna sound too mean here... but go and get your own life. You don't need her life and her kid.

If she cared about you while you were broken up, she wouldnt have been spreading for someone else.

 

[BigJ]

If you have sex with her, prepare for a "Honey I'm pregnant." She knows your stable, and will probably do anything to get you to give her support, at least for 9 months anyway.

She'll probably say she's on the pill, and I'm sure you'll use a condom, but I wouldn't put it past her to sleep with another guy without protection just to get herself pregnant and get you back in her life.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: Aztech I'm pathetic right?

Yes.

Run, very fast, away from her for good.

 

[Dragoon42]

Originally posted by: hjo3
Good God, no. Run and never look back.

 

[Vette73]

Originally posted by: Skeeedunt

Originally posted by: JS80
lol she's gonna try to get preggers with your seed.

++

If you are dumb enough to sleep with her, or if you think it will happen, PLEASE!!!! use a condom. You have no idea what STDs she will have. If she sleeps with sonmeone she just meet bareback (i.e. she got a kid...) then there is no telling what she has. 2nd if you get her preg. she will use that.


CONDOM!!! Go get some juts in case you do something dumb, like your ex. Better yet get condoms, tell her to F__K off, and then go out and hook up with a bar slut. Just ask your ex where she drinks I am sure there will be other like her.

 

[Aztech]

Originally posted by: Eeezee
Don't even meet with her this weekend. There are so many reasons NOT to do that.

A) She might have an STD that even she doesn't know about. It takes a long time for symptoms to appear for some diseases, and she had a one-night stand. It's risky.
B) She is not going to be your sex buddy. I guarantee that she has had sex with better partners by now, no offense. If she has sex with you, it's for manipulative purposes.
C) Stop giving her money, Stop talking to her, Stop all contact, STOP
D) You can find MUCH BETTER sex from other people. Go hire a high-class escort, blow a few grand on it, really go all-out. Go to dinner with her, tell her your story, and she'll probably make you feel a lot better. You're much more certain that you're with someone clean this way, and she'll probably give you a more fulfilling, loving experience than your ex.

Don't see her ever again. Don't do it. Chances are good that she'll change your mind or something and you'll fall further from making the RIGHT, SANE choice of running as far away as possible. Forget the money. She made a mistake, let her live with that, and don't let it become your mistake too.

Edit: She's probably off the pill and will try to have sex with you without a condom. You WILL get her pregnant and you WILL regret it for the next 18+ years as you support her. She can't find the father of her one-night stand by the very nature of the event, so she has no one else to turn to for child support. DO NOT MEET WITH HER! DO NOT EVEN THINK OF HAVING LUNCH OR SEEING A MOVIE TOGETHER!

The thing is, we've stayed "in touch" the whole time. I've already had multiple meals with her and watched movies with her. She's told me about her other men and yes, they were better than me. But when it's new, it's usually hot, so I expected that.

I'll be back to check this thread in a while, I'm gonna have dinner now. Right now, I'm leaning towards getting what I need this weekend, but breaking it off after that. I think we'll remain friends after that though, talking once in a long while. There's just too much history there. She's got nieces and nephews that like to spend time with me. And, she'll wanna attend my brother's funeral if it comes to that. So, I'll see her again...

 

[Dirigible]

Originally posted by: tk109

I don't know. We both have needs. I guess as long as we both know that that's all it is. But she's got many more friends and they hook her up with guys pretty easy, so she'd probably do that instead.

Like I say, I'm starting to see the light. We just can't be anymore. I guess we'll separate again this weekend after she tries to get me back using her body.

I want to punch you..... hard.... in the balls....

It will be less painfiul and drawn out than what you are going to be doing to yourself.

QFT

Break off all contact.

 

[murban135]

Originally posted by: Aztech

Originally posted by: Eeezee
Don't even meet with her this weekend. There are so many reasons NOT to do that.

A) She might have an STD that even she doesn't know about. It takes a long time for symptoms to appear for some diseases, and she had a one-night stand. It's risky.
B) She is not going to be your sex buddy. I guarantee that she has had sex with better partners by now, no offense. If she has sex with you, it's for manipulative purposes.
C) Stop giving her money, Stop talking to her, Stop all contact, STOP
D) You can find MUCH BETTER sex from other people. Go hire a high-class escort, blow a few grand on it, really go all-out. Go to dinner with her, tell her your story, and she'll probably make you feel a lot better. You're much more certain that you're with someone clean this way, and she'll probably give you a more fulfilling, loving experience than your ex.

Don't see her ever again. Don't do it. Chances are good that she'll change your mind or something and you'll fall further from making the RIGHT, SANE choice of running as far away as possible. Forget the money. She made a mistake, let her live with that, and don't let it become your mistake too.

Edit: She's probably off the pill and will try to have sex with you without a condom. You WILL get her pregnant and you WILL regret it for the next 18+ years as you support her. She can't find the father of her one-night stand by the very nature of the event, so she has no one else to turn to for child support. DO NOT MEET WITH HER! DO NOT EVEN THINK OF HAVING LUNCH OR SEEING A MOVIE TOGETHER!

The thing is, we've stayed "in touch" the whole time. I've already had multiple meals with her and watched movies with her. She's told me about her other men and yes, they were better than me. But when it's new, it's usually hot, so I expected that.

I'll be back to check this thread in a while, I'm gonna have dinner now. Right now, I'm leaning towards getting what I need this weekend, but breaking it off after that. I think we'll remain friends after that though, talking once in a long while. There's just too much history there. She's got nieces and nephews that like to spend time with me. And, she'll wanna attend my brother's funeral if it comes to that. So, I'll see her again...

Everyone has given you outstanding reasons to not get back with your ex. Now you decided to disregard all that advice and still see your ex. Good luck with that, I am afraid you will need it.

 

[Aztech]

Originally posted by: murban135

Originally posted by: Aztech

Originally posted by: Eeezee
Don't even meet with her this weekend. There are so many reasons NOT to do that.

A) She might have an STD that even she doesn't know about. It takes a long time for symptoms to appear for some diseases, and she had a one-night stand. It's risky.
B) She is not going to be your sex buddy. I guarantee that she has had sex with better partners by now, no offense. If she has sex with you, it's for manipulative purposes.
C) Stop giving her money, Stop talking to her, Stop all contact, STOP
D) You can find MUCH BETTER sex from other people. Go hire a high-class escort, blow a few grand on it, really go all-out. Go to dinner with her, tell her your story, and she'll probably make you feel a lot better. You're much more certain that you're with someone clean this way, and she'll probably give you a more fulfilling, loving experience than your ex.

Don't see her ever again. Don't do it. Chances are good that she'll change your mind or something and you'll fall further from making the RIGHT, SANE choice of running as far away as possible. Forget the money. She made a mistake, let her live with that, and don't let it become your mistake too.

Edit: She's probably off the pill and will try to have sex with you without a condom. You WILL get her pregnant and you WILL regret it for the next 18+ years as you support her. She can't find the father of her one-night stand by the very nature of the event, so she has no one else to turn to for child support. DO NOT MEET WITH HER! DO NOT EVEN THINK OF HAVING LUNCH OR SEEING A MOVIE TOGETHER!

The thing is, we've stayed "in touch" the whole time. I've already had multiple meals with her and watched movies with her. She's told me about her other men and yes, they were better than me. But when it's new, it's usually hot, so I expected that.

I'll be back to check this thread in a while, I'm gonna have dinner now. Right now, I'm leaning towards getting what I need this weekend, but breaking it off after that. I think we'll remain friends after that though, talking once in a long while. There's just too much history there. She's got nieces and nephews that like to spend time with me. And, she'll wanna attend my brother's funeral if it comes to that. So, I'll see her again...

Everyone has given you outstanding reasons to not get back with your ex. Now you decided to disregard all that advice and still see your ex. Good luck with that, I am afraid you will need it.

Yes, thanks for the help everyone. But I said I'm not gonna get back with her. I think I've come to a good compromise. What's wrong with my plan?

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: hjo3
Good God, no. Run and never look back.

geesus... cut off all contact w/her!!! delete her cell #, block her emails, etc!

you are just been setup to be USED, and used HARD!

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: Aztech

Originally posted by: murban135
Everyone has given you outstanding reasons to not get back with your ex. Now you decided to disregard all that advice and still see your ex. Good luck with that, I am afraid you will need it.

Yes, thanks for the help everyone. But I said I'm not gonna get back with her. I think I've come to a good compromise. What's wrong with my plan?

oh my freaking lord.. ARE YOU BRAIN DEAD?!

if your life is that sad+lonely, get a gun and play russian roulette. your problems will be solved either way...

i guarentee it

 

[lokiju]

Is this a parody or something?

If not, GTF out of there man, you're free of the B.S., keep it that way, move on to someone better for you.

 

[SlitheryDee]

Originally posted by: Aztech

Yes, thanks for the help everyone. But I said I'm not gonna get back with her. I think I've come to a good compromise. What's wrong with my plan?

Have you really thought about what it's going to be like?

After you have sex with her are you going to split or spend the night? If you spend the night what are you going to do when she's up making breakfast for you in the morning and being nicer than you've ever seen her be?

What are you going to do when she calls you later on in the day telling you how much she enjoyed your time together thought you were "really sweet" (she'll probably say this whether you're actually sweet or not)?

When she brings up the prospect of meeting again (she will no matter what you agree to beforehand) are you going to shoot her down then?

What is she breaks down crying and (apparently) spills her heart to you after showing you all the tricks she's learned from her other sexual encounters. This could be a vulnerable moment for you after having been so intimate with her. This meeting might turn out to be much MUCH more complicated that you see imagine it to be right now

 

[ubergoober]

Sounds to me like you are a needy soul. Also sounds to me like your confidence in yourself is SH*T! ..

you ever hear that saying that the first step is admitting you have a problem?.. well in this case the first step is NOT having sex with her. The fact that you WANT/NEED it from her so bad means she has your ass WRAPPED!.

I may have missed it, but how old are you and her?
If you are :
1) <=25y/o .. go clubbin, hang out at the coffee shop, join a gym.. whatever, just get out.. live life.. travel.. find some things to do you wouldn't do normally and try them. Bungee jump, skydive, oil paint... WHATEVER!! .. you WILL meet girls.
2) 26-35y/o ... go blow some money. New sportscar, motorcycle (any flavor), big house (move!! , new neighborhoods = new tail) .. but have a good time. Join a singles club. They are everywhere and do pretty cool activities all the time.
3) >=35y/o .. get serious now. you won't live forever. but sill have fun. and chase tail in the early 30's. They are hitting their sexual prime.

If she is:
<= 25y/o .. ???? you're considering a serious relationship with her WHY? .. wait until women are 28+. By that time they are starting their 'second life' as I like to call it. You can start to tell if they will hold their looks/figure. Also they (hopefully) are independent and not relying on their parents, meaning you either.
26-35y/o .. try before you buy, but good range to consider life long relationships with.
>= 36y/o .. keep your age in mind. You don't want to be 40 and her 65 (the other way around is perfect ). They will be hitting the big "M" soon and women are scary during that. Some lose their libido. That's risky and you want to enjoy more than a few years.

Now.. not everything is based on sex, but since you seem hung up on ruining youself by having it with the ex this weekend, it's focal.

 

[JackBurton]

Originally posted by: Aztech

Originally posted by: Eeezee
Don't even meet with her this weekend. There are so many reasons NOT to do that.

A) She might have an STD that even she doesn't know about. It takes a long time for symptoms to appear for some diseases, and she had a one-night stand. It's risky.
B) She is not going to be your sex buddy. I guarantee that she has had sex with better partners by now, no offense. If she has sex with you, it's for manipulative purposes.
C) Stop giving her money, Stop talking to her, Stop all contact, STOP
D) You can find MUCH BETTER sex from other people. Go hire a high-class escort, blow a few grand on it, really go all-out. Go to dinner with her, tell her your story, and she'll probably make you feel a lot better. You're much more certain that you're with someone clean this way, and she'll probably give you a more fulfilling, loving experience than your ex.

Don't see her ever again. Don't do it. Chances are good that she'll change your mind or something and you'll fall further from making the RIGHT, SANE choice of running as far away as possible. Forget the money. She made a mistake, let her live with that, and don't let it become your mistake too.

Edit: She's probably off the pill and will try to have sex with you without a condom. You WILL get her pregnant and you WILL regret it for the next 18+ years as you support her. She can't find the father of her one-night stand by the very nature of the event, so she has no one else to turn to for child support. DO NOT MEET WITH HER! DO NOT EVEN THINK OF HAVING LUNCH OR SEEING A MOVIE TOGETHER!

The thing is, we've stayed "in touch" the whole time. I've already had multiple meals with her and watched movies with her. She's told me about her other men and yes, they were better than me. But when it's new, it's usually hot, so I expected that.

I'll be back to check this thread in a while, I'm gonna have dinner now. Right now, I'm leaning towards getting what I need this weekend, but breaking it off after that. I think we'll remain friends after that though, talking once in a long while. There's just too much history there. She's got nieces and nephews that like to spend time with me. And, she'll wanna attend my brother's funeral if it comes to that. So, I'll see her again...

Did she actually tell you that?! :Q Dude, you've got to have the lowest self esteem if you are even THINKING about getting back together with her. Well I guess she should EXPECT for you to laugh your ass off if she even thinks you will come back to her and her kid. But judging by your tone, I'm betting you'll be back with her VERY soon. And if you do go back, consider yourself an official certified loser.

Oh, and please create a new thread when you get back with her so I can laugh at you. Thanks.

 

[IHateMyJob2004]

Originally posted by: hjo3
Good God, no. Run and never look back.

:thumbsup:

 

[saymyname]

Originally posted by: Aztech
I've only been with her, ever. We dated for about 5 years, then we were married for about 7 more. It was never great, but it was pretty good. We did fight about money a lot, and I never thought I was truly in love. We decided to try separating for a while... well, she started seeing other people and got pregnant in a one-night stand. Now she has a baby that's like 6 months old. She's moved back in with her mother. Now she wants to get back with me.

During our 18 months "apart" we did keep contact. On the phone, but also a few "sessions" together. I did miss her. I've only ever known her, all of my adult life. During the separation and divorce I got hit by Katrina and also my brother was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer. I've had no chance to meet other women, not that I'd begin to know how to approach dating at this point.

I certainly still have feelings for her. Our time apart has made me want her back. But I should probably walk away. I'm pathetic right?

I think you should get back together with her. But only if she only likes plain vanilla, gives no head, won't let you do her itb, and she's flat chested.

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: hjo3
Good God, no. Run and never look back.

 

[dirtboy]

Do what you must, but when you get necrotized penis, don't come around here looking for sympathy.

 

[bennylong]

Move on, dumbass. Why do people keep going back? There was a reason why you broke up

 

[Aztech]

Originally posted by: ubergoober
Sounds to me like you are a needy soul. Also sounds to me like your confidence in yourself is SH*T! ..

you ever hear that saying that the first step is admitting you have a problem?.. well in this case the first step is NOT having sex with her. The fact that you WANT/NEED it from her so bad means she has your ass WRAPPED!.

I may have missed it, but how old are you and her?
If you are :
1) <=25y/o .. go clubbin, hang out at the coffee shop, join a gym.. whatever, just get out.. live life.. travel.. find some things to do you wouldn't do normally and try them. Bungee jump, skydive, oil paint... WHATEVER!! .. you WILL meet girls.
2) 26-35y/o ... go blow some money. New sportscar, motorcycle (any flavor), big house (move!! , new neighborhoods = new tail) .. but have a good time. Join a singles club. They are everywhere and do pretty cool activities all the time.
3) >=35y/o .. get serious now. you won't live forever. but sill have fun. and chase tail in the early 30's. They are hitting their sexual prime.

If she is:
<= 25y/o .. ???? you're considering a serious relationship with her WHY? .. wait until women are 28+. By that time they are starting their 'second life' as I like to call it. You can start to tell if they will hold their looks/figure. Also they (hopefully) are independent and not relying on their parents, meaning you either.
26-35y/o .. try before you buy, but good range to consider life long relationships with.
>= 36y/o .. keep your age in mind. You don't want to be 40 and her 65 (the other way around is perfect ). They will be hitting the big "M" soon and women are scary during that. Some lose their libido. That's risky and you want to enjoy more than a few years.

Now.. not everything is based on sex, but since you seem hung up on ruining youself by having it with the ex this weekend, it's focal.

Man, you guys are rough. Or, I'm a certified loser. Probably the latter. Allright, I'm gonna have to come out and tell her it's over, tomorrow. Edit: even if it means no fooling around this weekend (which I'm sure it will)

By the Way, I'm 32 and she's 33. The singles club sounds good, I wonder if there's one around here. I haven't done much of anything since we separated. Just work, watch TV, surf the Net.