Reasons You Stopped Going To Bars/Clubs?

Page 5 - Seeking answers? Join the AnandTech community: where nearly half-a-million members share solutions and discuss the latest tech.

zCypher

Diamond Member
Aug 18, 2002
6,115
171
116
A good club can be fun, but it's not really my scene. Never really "stopped" going because I never went that much to begin with, just once in a while. Bars and pubs on the other hand, there are many awesome ones in and around Montreal. I have no reason to stop going to those, I'm 29. The way I see it, you go to the places you know are good. You go to a place and it sucks? Don't go back there.

I personally have not encountered any horrible experiences while going out to clubs or bars. Some times were better than others obviously, but I've never gotten into fights or had my night ruined by idiots. I am pretty laid back and generally get along fine with anyone though.
 

tboo

Diamond Member
Jun 25, 2000
7,626
1
81
I stopped drinking 15 years ago. Thats when I stopped going to bars/clubs. I go occasionally with friends but being sober around a bunch of drunk people is so annoying.
 

xanis

Lifer
Sep 11, 2005
17,571
8
0
My top two reasons are: Too expensive, and hating big crowds. I like craft beer and good cocktails, and especially like not paying $7/pint or $10/cocktail. I'd much rather have a few friends over, get some good booze, and chill out.
 
Apr 17, 2003
37,622
0
76
for me it was a number of reasons.

1. Too much smoke. it was disgusting back then. your clothes needed to be washed badly after going out. yuck.

Can't smoke here, not really a problem.

2. drunk loud-mouthed jackasses. I am sure many on here have dealt with this. they are usually looking for a fight; acting all tough and shit. the women were almost as bad.

This is true but there are plenty laid back spots with astronomically lower odds of running into these asses.

3. dumbass bouncers. acting like they owned the place. trying to pick up any decent looking chic that came in. did you enjoy having your shoulder dislocated? next time don't put your hands on me for no reason.

Never had an issue with this.


4. lechers. random guys trying to pickup anything with a pulse. normally I don't care, but when you try this with my GF I tend to get angry. If a women tells you to get lost then do it. Don't make me have to do it for you. I shouldn't have to waste my time dealing with your stupid ass.

doesn't apply to me.

I was usually the designated driver, so I was sober and able to see all the BS around me. Going to bars was fun for a while but then it wore off and the fun was gone.

this is why you probably didn't like it.
 

AmdEmAll

Diamond Member
Aug 27, 2000
6,699
9
81
One day I just realized.. why the hell am I here. It's so boring.. douche bags everywhere.. expensive drinks.. 10 years of bars/clubs was enough for me.

There are exceptions though.. going to watch your favorite team with friends can be fun and im into electronic music so going to see a favorite dj can also be fun.
 
Apr 17, 2003
37,622
0
76
BTW, I don't know what kind of bars ATOT goes to, but there are plenty of successful/normal people at bars/clubs. My friends and I do the club scene a couple time a years (usually one time in Vegas)...the group of females I hang out with are all successful, well educated, etc. So as soon as they step in the club they become drunken wenches? Please. Step your own game up and go to a decent bar instead of a biker gang bar and then complain about the "inferior" people.

P.S. Most of your lovely wives probably went to a bar or two...
 

SheHateMe

Diamond Member
Jul 21, 2012
7,251
20
81
Too many stupid ass guys with no game trying to get my number, trying to buy drinks, tryna go home..etc.

Then, there's too many females who get salty when there is a girl in the club that looks better than them. So much drama pops off just because of that. Last time we went, a friend of mine had to leave because there was some silly girl all up in her face over some guy chatting her up

I don't go to clubs but I will hit a house party. That's way better imo.
 

sze5003

Lifer
Aug 18, 2012
14,320
683
126
I still go but very rarely. When I was younger I didn't go out at all. I'd go to a bar or two maybe a club. I only went to clubs and sometimes still do because in college I worked valet. Knew the owners, bouncers, the waitresses so my friends and I got in easy and free. Sometimes we got hooked up on drinks.

Now if I go I go to the places I know where I know I won't have any issues , and if I know the people are still working there. Too busy with work and life now to even go out and try to enjoy myself.
 

shortylickens

No Lifer
Jul 15, 2003
80,287
17,082
136
BTW, I don't know what kind of bars ATOT goes to, but there are plenty of successful/normal people at bars/clubs. My friends and I do the club scene a couple time a years (usually one time in Vegas)...the group of females I hang out with are all successful, well educated, etc. So as soon as they step in the club they become drunken wenches? Please. Step your own game up and go to a decent bar instead of a biker gang bar and then complain about the "inferior" people.

P.S. Most of your lovely wives probably went to a bar or two...

Like I was saying above, in many parts of the world theres no such thing as a "good" bar. It simply doesnt exist.
And bars by themselves are not interesting enough to go on a road trip just to find the nearest good experience. If you happen to have a nice one locally then more power to you. Not everyone is so fortunate.
 

SketchMaster

Diamond Member
Feb 23, 2005
3,100
149
116
HUGE difference between bars and clubs. Who doesn't go to bars- my dad and my gramps still do.

And asking this in a tech forum is going to bound in a circlejerk.

During my clubbing days (which wasn't much), my brush with such douchebags and drunken retards were always minimal.

Where do you guys go? You gotta go to places that are semi-classy and require proper dress 21+. Not 18+ trashy places by the beach like the ones in Jersey Shore show.

The troublemakers are rare or just simply avoid them. Most are friendly and have a good time.

I went through my clubbing days in a military town, so after a few close calls I learned who to stay away from and when it was time to move to another bar/club; for the most part if you don't act the fool then you'll be left alone. I've only gotten into one confrontation at a club, and that was me walking up behind the girl I was with and giving the drunk guy who was putting his hands all over her the "Back the **** off." look as I helped her put on her jacket. He was about to get in my face when his (mostly) sober friend grabbed him and brought him back to the bar.

90% of fights can be avoided by knowing when to let it go, and the other 9% by standing your ground when you need to. For the last 1% that you can't avoid? Just know that a bouncer doesn't care who started the fight or who was in the right... Both of you will kiss the curb.

I stopped going to techno/hip-hop clubs years ago because these days (27) I just can't stand loud places where I have to fight for a place to sit. Now I just go to Martini/jazz/underground places where I can enjoy some good food and well made drinks while I get to know the regulars. I only go maybe once a week for happy hour, so paying $10-$15 for a well made drink isn't a big deal.

[edit]
...maybe you should stop being a doormat designated driver and go to have fun for yourself. :) Fvck them you know? Life is too short to be so uptight and doing crap for others all the time.

I got over my shyness from traveling so much, and now I love going out by myself so I can go where I want and find new places. If there is a girl there worth talking to, she'll dig a guy that is comfortable enough with himself to go solo; you only look pathetic if you think/feel like you are. I got more numbers by myself than with any wing-man.
 
Apr 17, 2003
37,622
0
76
Like I was saying above, in many parts of the world theres no such thing as a "good" bar. It simply doesnt exist.
And bars by themselves are not interesting enough to go on a road trip just to find the nearest good experience. If you happen to have a nice one locally then more power to you. Not everyone is so fortunate.

Damn, that sucks. I'm lucky enough to not have that problem I guess.
 

shortylickens

No Lifer
Jul 15, 2003
80,287
17,082
136
Depends on how its being done...I don't know many college students who can throw down ~$600 for a bottle.

If I had the kind of income where I could just piss away thousands a night, I sure as shit wouldnt do it in a bar. I'd go on adventures around the world and get a good nights sleep. Way more fun than any club.
 
Apr 17, 2003
37,622
0
76
If I had the kind of income where I could just piss away thousands a night, I sure as shit wouldnt do it in a bar. I'd go on adventures around the world and get a good nights sleep. Way more fun than any club.

To each their own, but those are really two different levels of income. It's like saying instead of buying a Lexus, I'd rather get Bentley.

Keep in mind that a bottle is split between 4-5 people, with discounts for multiple bottles. So you walk way with a $1000 tab for two bottles, split between 8-10 people. So you're really looking at $100 - 125 per person. Take away the cover charge that's included in the price of the bottle, you are really spending $60 - $85 on the alcohol. Not a cheap night, but very doable a few times a year without going to the poorhouse. Certainly, this $100 - $125 doesn't compare to going on adventures around the world. Heck, I hate whiskey but I went to a whiskey bar for a friend's birthday and bought 2 old fashions (for others) and 2 beers (1 for myself), my tab came out to $50 without tip...
 
Last edited:

Orsorum

Lifer
Dec 26, 2001
27,631
5
81
I'm almost 30. Can't stand the bar or club scene. I do better one on one, or in coffee shops, or with mutual friends. In a crowded scene I get overwhelmed. The best I usually will do if I somehow end up in a club is to slip out to the patio (one of the few good things about Houston) and have a smoke and relax by myself and kill off the buzz.