Reasons You Stopped Going To Bars/Clubs?

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alkemyst

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for me it was a number of reasons.

1. Too much smoke. it was disgusting back then. your clothes needed to be washed badly after going out. yuck.

I would expect to have to wash my clothes no matter where I went out at night.

2. drunk loud-mouthed jackasses. I am sure many on here have dealt with this. they are usually looking for a fight; acting all tough and shit. the women were almost as bad.

Never had a problem with them, but then again I am not the guy most would be looking to start shit with anyway.

3. dumbass bouncers. acting like they owned the place. trying to pick up any decent looking chic that came in. did you enjoy having your shoulder dislocated? next time don't put your hands on me for no reason.

Never had this problem. In most clubs/bars that matter the bouncers aren't supposed to mingle too much.

4. lechers. random guys trying to pickup anything with a pulse. normally I don't care, but when you try this with my GF I tend to get angry. If a women tells you to get lost then do it. Don't make me have to do it for you. I shouldn't have to waste my time dealing with your stupid ass.

It's pretty rare a dude doesn't just move on once rejected.

I was usually the designated driver, so I was sober and able to see all the BS around me. Going to bars was fun for a while but then it wore off and the fun was gone.

I'd just take a cab and enjoy myself instead of being the driver everytime.
 

SlitheryDee

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Feb 2, 2005
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Too much noise.
Too many people.

That's the main things. I was literally miserable the entire time I was in every bar or club I've been in. It's just not for me I guess.
 

TwiceOver

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Dec 20, 2002
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In small town South Dakota, there's not much else to do. But I don't drink so I only go on special occasions. I know a lot of local musicians so I go support local events and such, but it isn't a nightly or even weekly "thing" for me.
 

Iron Woode

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Oct 10, 1999
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For me...
Cost.
And no one goes anymore, so therefore I don't either.
Otherwise it was generally good times.
Hey Craig!!!!

I'd go with you for a few drinks and shoot the shit. :)

assuming my GF lets me. :p
 

Josh123

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I'd much rather invite friends over to drink. It's nice being able to grill or order a pizza and kick back. Plus you don't have to worry about driving home and if anyone is in a position they can't drive they can always crash on the couch.

I hate knowing I'm paying for a small mixed drink that is about 1/3 of the price of a full bottle. That or a domestic beer for $5 or more? Totally not worth it.
 

Iron Woode

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I'd much rather invite friends over to drink. It's nice being able to grill or order a pizza and kick back. Plus you don't have to worry about driving home and if anyone is in a position they can't drive they can always crash on the couch.

I hate knowing I'm paying for a small mixed drink that is about 1/3 of the price of a full bottle. That or a domestic beer for $5 or more? Totally not worth it.
that is what I ended up doing.

I found it more fun to grill up some eats (hotdogs, burgers, sausages, etc) and have a few friends over and take it easy. I would have a case of beer, a few bottles of soda or even water on hand for whoever wants something to drink. Maybe watch a movie or just sit on the patio and listen to some classic rock and talk about stuff.

I really miss those days the most. Now most of my friends are married and just don't have time to be as sociable anymore due to kids or work.
 

PingSpike

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Feb 25, 2004
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The only reason I can think of to go to a club or even a bar is to try and sleep with drunk chicks. And frankly, its probably a lot more cost effective, more likely to succeed and less likely to end up with vomit on you if you just hire a prostitute. They're loud so you can't hear anyone, filled with drunks many of whom are grade A assholes, the men's room is usually coated with wall to wall piss so you feel like you have to burn your shoes after you leave, they cost a fortune and you usually can't even find a seat or get drinks in a timely manner. And if you get drunk now you have to find a way home. I really only went to them a handful of times in my early 20s and I can't remember having a good time. Its not my scene but frankly I'm not sure why its anyone's scene...unless you like getting in drunken fights and paying out the nose for the opportunity.
 

Vdubchaos

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I really miss those days the most. Now most of my friends are married and just don't have time to be as sociable anymore due to kids or work.

They have plenty of time to do what they want. What happened is that their priorities changed and "going out"/"clubs/bars" etc is no longer appealing/waste of time.
 

purbeast0

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Sep 13, 2001
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that is what I ended up doing.

I found it more fun to grill up some eats (hotdogs, burgers, sausages, etc) and have a few friends over and take it easy. I would have a case of beer, a few bottles of soda or even water on hand for whoever wants something to drink. Maybe watch a movie or just sit on the patio and listen to some classic rock and talk about stuff.

I really miss those days the most. Now most of my friends are married and just don't have time to be as sociable anymore due to kids or work.

i don't really think it is that. i think some people just grow out of it faster than others and just don't want to do that.

like i play on a football team and after the games a lot of people go to the bars. i've been on the team through like 14 seasons (twice a year). there are still a good group of people who go after EVERY game still. i personally just don't want to go to the bar on a saturday afternoon and spend my time at a bar. there are other things i'd rather do. and i've already done it so it isn't anything new to me.

and at the same time, the ones that do like to always go are single, while i'm married. so they just have different priorities. i'd rather spend a nice saturday afternoon fishing than at a bar.

i have plenty of time to socialize with friends, and i do, just not the ones that always want to go to a bar and do nothing else.
 

AstroManLuca

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Jun 24, 2004
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1. I have a 10 month old. But I stopped going to bars long before she was born.
2. I'm married. But I stopped going to bars before I got married.
3. Grew up.
4. Always hated drinking and feeling drunk anyway. I almost never drink and when I do, it's maybe one beer, for the flavor, not the drunkenness.
5. Alcohol is overpriced enough when you're buying it at a liquor store, and 5x worse at a bar.
6. Bars are full of loud, obnoxious assholes and all I ever want to do when I'm in one is leave as fast as humanly possible. Basically, if I have the spare time to go to a bar, there are a million other things I'd rather be doing, like working, cleaning up dog shit, sleeping, or watching a Twilight movie.
 

waggy

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I'd much rather invite friends over to drink. It's nice being able to grill or order a pizza and kick back. Plus you don't have to worry about driving home and if anyone is in a position they can't drive they can always crash on the couch.

I hate knowing I'm paying for a small mixed drink that is about 1/3 of the price of a full bottle. That or a domestic beer for $5 or more? Totally not worth it.

/this

This is what we do often now. I get a few cases of cheap beer. a few diffrent 6 packs that i know some prefer and fill up the coolers. we then grill out a bunch of food and have a fire in the back yard.

it works great since the kids are running around playing and the adults are enjoying themselves.

I never enjoyed going to college bars. The music is so loud you cant talk, it so dark you can't tell who you are talking to and full of assholes.

i enjoy going to a nice bar where i can get some good food, beer and actually talk with my friends.
 
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polarmystery

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depends completely on the city. In B-more, everyone seems to know each other from high school and they act as if they've never left. DC is a much better crowd. Most of the time I just can't stand the obnoxious d-bags that ruin it for men everywhere. What a shame.
 

JamesV

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Jul 9, 2011
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$9 beers and $10 mixed drinks are why I stopped.

It's ridiculous to charge $9 for a beer, when the six-pack costs around $7 (Budweiser).
 

Linflas

Lifer
Jan 30, 2001
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Got married and finally figured out that it didn't make sense to spend all that money to make myself feel like shit the next morning.
 

Drako

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Jun 9, 2007
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Never really started, and obligatory:

I drink alone
Yeah with nobody else
You know when I drink alone
I prefer to be by myself
 

MaxPayne63

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Too loud, too crowded, and the cost is stupid. A couple years ago I bought a pool table and refrigerator for my basement, then put an old PC with acceptable speakers and a 37" screen down there. Far more enjoyable.

Oh and if I want to I can smoke a cigar while playing pool.
 

soundforbjt

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Feb 15, 2002
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I only go to bars/clubs with live music, If I want to hear "canned music" I can sit at home and hear it much better.