question for men, does this make sense?

[rudeguy]

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl

Originally posted by: Brutuskend
Did you sleep with him?

And no, I didn't sleep with him, but he stayed over. Also, I was with someone for a long time until recently, and so John had been around the whole year, but this was the first time I met him. We are all pretty tight knit around here, so I also know I am the only one that he has done anything with this school year. So it's not like he does this alot aorund here.

I dont' have his phone number, and he lives 4 hours from here. On top of the fact that he's at a military academy, so I don't even know that I could call him.. but he does have AIM. That's how his friend talks to him.

The other girils in the apt suggest that I should go talk to his friend and ask him to tell him to IM me (as said above also I know) But I feel weird going to a guy and asking about his friend.... How would you feel?

sounds like you really like the guy...and I know that the guy will appreciate the extra effort you went through to get ahold of him...and if he doesnt want to talk to you, then you will at least find that out instead of sitting there wondering

 

[EvilYoda]

I'm assuming it's been suggested already, but yeah..."phone". Or email. Whatever...no college student is w/o a cell-phone these days, so you should be able to get ahold of him somehow.

 

[4Lclovergirl]

LOL, I don't have his phone number or e-mail addy. So that leaves all I have left, AIM and his friend. LOL.

SO, anyway, there are many reasons why he might not IM me, that I shouldn't take this as rejection out of hand? (you wanted into a girls mind, here you go, the things we think about!)

 

[rudeguy]

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
LOL, I don't have his phone number or e-mail addy. So that leaves all I have left, AIM and his friend. LOL.

SO, anyway, there are many reasons why he might not IM me, that I shouldn't take this as rejection out of hand? (you wanted into a girls mind, here you go, the things we think about!)

did you deny him or something? what kind of reasons do you think he has not to im you?

 

[4Lclovergirl]

no, he had a good time. I got that much from the guy next door. His exact words were I give good (insert word) and he had a good time. I guess I am nervous b/c I didn't ask him the next morning, but I was going on 3 hours sleep and had an hour drive ahead of me, I wasn't thinking straight. So I was jsut like I had a good time, good luck, hope you don't get sent off to war. We kissed and hugged, and that was the end of it.

But I am a female, and above all we fear rejection. So I have IMed him 2x now, and gotten no response. Of course it was after he'd gone Idle (he doesn't put up away messages) But now we are both on, and nothing. And i have too much pride to IM him again. So I guess my only resport is to wait or talk to the guy next door.

Oh, and my other fear.. I hate being a one night stand. Not that it was offically that, and I have done it to guys before, but it feels different on the other side of the fence.

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
LOL, I don't have his phone number or e-mail addy. So that leaves all I have left, AIM and his friend. LOL.

SO, anyway, there are many reasons why he might not IM me, that I shouldn't take this as rejection out of hand? (you wanted into a girls mind, here you go, the things we think about!)

It's really too early to say, i keep my IM on all day and all night, drives people crazy sometimes... especially when i'm out for a couple of days...

Wait and see, you have IM'd him now, the next step is his...

 

[flot]

The important thing you have to remember is that guys don't think like girls, and that guys are *usually* going to react favorably to a girl showing interest in them.

So if you're interested in a guy, *without being pushy* make sure he knows you're interested. I've had like 3 girls come up to me "after the fact" that were like "how come you and I never hooked up, how many hints did I have to drop that I was interested?" and I was just like "what? huh? are you serious?" because I just had no idea.

Now, girls that are AGRESSIVE can definitely scare guys away - but if you're just honest and straightforward, I think you'll get a better reaction. If you know the guy is getting your drift and he's still not reacting - well, we usually don't play games about that kind of thing - maybe you're just not his type. But don't read too much into anything he does until you know him for a while, a lot of times guys are just a little slow on the uptake.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Don't talk to him too much on AIM.

 

[Alistar7]

maybe you should have given him a little loving...

 

[OREOSpeedwagon]

Originally posted by: silverpig
Or maybe he's like me and always keeps all his messaging programs in away mode no matter where the heck he is...

haha, I thought I was the only one that did this!

 

[UNCjigga]

what does 'wasy' mean?

 

[Mookow]

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
yeah I said hi X, my name is Y, Z gave me your SN, Ihtouhgt I'd say hi

then when I sent the second, thinking maybe somehting happened with the first, I said hey it's Y, jsut wondering if you got my other IM.

I told the guy next door I IMed him and he didn't respond. But all he said was ok, I'm realy busy, ttyl. So now I am relaly confused...

The guy you are interested in probably is just trying to even the overall score between men and women in that department

 

[dquan97]

Originally posted by: uncJIGGA
what does 'wasy' mean?

typo for "easy"?

 

[dquan97]

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
no, he had a good time. I got that much from the guy next door. His exact words were I give good (insert word) and he had a good time.

:Q

 

[eakers]

i'd give up.

if he can't take all of 5 seconds to im you back then what kind of guy is he?

edit: i guess now that i've posted in this thread i'm a man

grrrrrrrrr

look at my penis and look at me crush this beer can on my head, so on and so forth

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
no, he had a good time. I got that much from the guy next door. His exact words were I give good (insert word) and he had a good time. I guess I am nervous b/c I didn't ask him the next morning, but I was going on 3 hours sleep and had an hour drive ahead of me, I wasn't thinking straight. So I was jsut like I had a good time, good luck, hope you don't get sent off to war. We kissed and hugged, and that was the end of it.

But I am a female, and above all we fear rejection. So I have IMed him 2x now, and gotten no response. Of course it was after he'd gone Idle (he doesn't put up away messages) But now we are both on, and nothing. And i have too much pride to IM him again. So I guess my only resport is to wait or talk to the guy next door.

Oh, and my other fear.. I hate being a one night stand. Not that it was offically that, and I have done it to guys before, but it feels different on the other side of the fence.

guys fear it just as much as girls, our dicks are what lead us to overcome it.

um yea, anyways given the head comment, i think he just wanted a hookup, with no strings attached

 

[weezergirl]

Originally posted by: dquan97

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
no, he had a good time. I got that much from the guy next door. His exact words were I give good (insert word) and he had a good time.

:Q

LOl...that's great that your new guy friend is discussing this with your next door neighbor friend. obviously he wasn't looking for anything serious with you...don't you think? I dunno about not being easy though, how long did you say you knew him?
Why dont' you get over him and if he wants to get in touch with you let him? He has AIM and he could easily get your SN, you've done your part. Don't go out of your way for him.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: dquan97

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
no, he had a good time. I got that much from the guy next door. His exact words were I give good (insert word) and he had a good time.

You give good head?

 

[hdeck]

Originally posted by: flot
So if you're interested in a guy, *without being pushy* make sure he knows you're interested. I've had like 3 girls come up to me "after the fact" that were like "how come you and I never hooked up, how many hints did I have to drop that I was interested?" and I was just like "what? huh? are you serious?" because I just had no idea.

i've been down that road before. we guys really are clueless.

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: hdeck

Originally posted by: flot
So if you're interested in a guy, *without being pushy* make sure he knows you're interested. I've had like 3 girls come up to me "after the fact" that were like "how come you and I never hooked up, how many hints did I have to drop that I was interested?" and I was just like "what? huh? are you serious?" because I just had no idea.

i've been down that road before. we guys really are clueless.

yea, same here, but i generally figure it out when i realize their lips are on me

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: hdeck

Originally posted by: flot
So if you're interested in a guy, *without being pushy* make sure he knows you're interested. I've had like 3 girls come up to me "after the fact" that were like "how come you and I never hooked up, how many hints did I have to drop that I was interested?" and I was just like "what? huh? are you serious?" because I just had no idea.

i've been down that road before. we guys really are clueless.

yea, same here, but i generally figure it out when i realize their lips are on me

I't pretty obvious when they give head.

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
no, he had a good time. I got that much from the guy next door. His exact words were I give good (insert word) and he had a good time. I guess I am nervous b/c I didn't ask him the next morning, but I was going on 3 hours sleep and had an hour drive ahead of me, I wasn't thinking straight. So I was jsut like I had a good time, good luck, hope you don't get sent off to war. We kissed and hugged, and that was the end of it.

But I am a female, and above all we fear rejection. So I have IMed him 2x now, and gotten no response. Of course it was after he'd gone Idle (he doesn't put up away messages) But now we are both on, and nothing. And i have too much pride to IM him again. So I guess my only resport is to wait or talk to the guy next door.

Oh, and my other fear.. I hate being a one night stand. Not that it was offically that, and I have done it to guys before, but it feels different on the other side of the fence.

Gah, when did I get old?!? There are other forms of communication outside of IM proggies.
Anyway...
You gave him a Lewinsky after just meeting him, he's not responding your your communication attempts, and his friend is giving you the run around. To me it sounds like you were a pitstop at the ol' Blow-N-Go. Get his phone number, call him or leave a message, if after a few days you still get no response then yes, you were a one-night stand.

 

[StormRider]

Originally posted by: FrustratedUser

Originally posted by: dquan97

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
no, he had a good time. I got that much from the guy next door. His exact words were I give good (insert word) and he had a good time.

You give good head?

Did he complete the act? Does she swallow or spit? :Q

 

[XCLAN]

just forget about him and gimmee a call

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: FrustratedUser

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: hdeck

Originally posted by: flot
So if you're interested in a guy, *without being pushy* make sure he knows you're interested. I've had like 3 girls come up to me "after the fact" that were like "how come you and I never hooked up, how many hints did I have to drop that I was interested?" and I was just like "what? huh? are you serious?" because I just had no idea.

i've been down that road before. we guys really are clueless.

yea, same here, but i generally figure it out when i realize their lips are on me

I't pretty obvious when they give head.

Yeah, that's generally a pretty good sign.