question for men, does this make sense?

[4Lclovergirl]

OK, I met this guy 2 weeks ago, who goes to a different college then me, but he's best friends with the guy nextdoor to me. So I started hanging out with the guy next door, and met his friend. We had a great time, and hit it right off. He actually ended up staying with in my room that night (no I was not wasy!) but still. I had to leave early the next morning, and he knew that, but I felt bad asking him to leave. So I didn't ask him for any contct info etc, feeling weird and that I would probably see him again anyway, since he was always over.

So the next week I talk to the guy next door, and he tells me that his friend was telling him all good things about me, and that he had a good time, etc. And he actually suggested giving me his SN. So Sunday I got his SN, and IMed him, but it happened to be aftre he went to bed, and he just hadn't put anaway message up, and he wasn't on at all yesterday. So then today I saw that he was on, and IMed him again, and still no response. So what's the deal? Why would his best friend suggest I talk to him, and he kept encouraging me to IM him, and when I do I get no response? And I don' t think his friend would tell me to IM him if he'd said anything negative about me. SHould I just give up on talking to the guy again?

 

[StormRider]

He might have been too busy looking at porn to notice your IM.

 

[MichaelD]

Tell his friend that you want to talk to the guy, so tell him to call you or IM you or whatever it is you hip-kids do these days!

Back when I was in school, we just said "Hi, how you doin? Blah-blah-blah" and if it was good to go, you'd know it.

Good luck.

 

[gopunk]

maybe he's playing hard to get over im haha

i'd ask your friend to tell his friend to im you

then move on. if he im's you great, if not, oh well.

 

[zippy]

Did you introduce yourself when you IMed him? Could be he never got that first IM when I would assume you did. Another possibility is that when the IM window came up he had no idea who you were and chose not to accept the IM. Possibilities abound.

Ask the kid next door for his phone number and call him.

 

[olds]

You're asking a question for men on this forum?

 

[4Lclovergirl]

yeah I said hi X, my name is Y, Z gave me your SN, Ihtouhgt I'd say hi

then when I sent the second, thinking maybe somehting happened with the first, I said hey it's Y, jsut wondering if you got my other IM.

I told the guy next door I IMed him and he didn't respond. But all he said was ok, I'm realy busy, ttyl. So now I am relaly confused...

 

[4Lclovergirl]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
You're asking a question for men on this forum?

why not? what better place to find all the answers, lol!

 

[rudeguy]

phones work pretty well

 

[yoda291]

phone > IM.

Always.

 

[StormRider]

It's also possible he was away from the computer (perhaps for a long and lengthy bowel movement) and when he came back to his computer he was too embarrassed to talk to you and explain why he didn't answer your IM when you first sent it. Happens all the time to guys.

 

[silverpig]

Or maybe he's like me and always keeps all his messaging programs in away mode no matter where the heck he is...

 

[Platypus]

Why don't you just ask him?

 

[Pliablemoose]

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
OK, I met this guy 2 weeks ago, who goes to a different college then me, but he's best friends with the guy nextdoor to me. So I started hanging out with the guy next door, and met his friend. We had a great time, and hit it right off. He actually ended up staying with in my room that night (no I was not wasy!) but still. I had to leave early the next morning, and he knew that, but I felt bad asking him to leave. So I didn't ask him for any contct info etc, feeling weird and that I would probably see him again anyway, since he was always over. So the next week I talk to the guy next door, and he tells me that his friend was telling him all good things about me, and that he had a good time, etc. And he actually suggested giving me his SN. So Sunday I got his SN, and IMed him, but it happened to be aftre he went to bed, and he just hadn't put anaway message up, and he wasn't on at all yesterday. So then today I saw that he was on, and IMed him again, and still no response. So what's the deal? Why would his best friend suggest I talk to him, and he kept encouraging me to IM him, and when I do I get no response? And I don' t think his friend would tell me to IM him if he'd said anything negative about me. SHould I just give up on talking to the guy again?

You're really Goldenbear, arent you

 

[melly]

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
You're asking a question for men on this forum?

why not? what better place to find all the answers, lol!

you joined here in march and have yet to learn this forum only has one answer..."pics?"

 

[DerwenArtos12]

I bet he was just really busy caus alot of times i leave my IM up when i leave by accident and people IM me and i don't see it for hours which is usually after they have laready logged off.

 

[DerwenArtos12]

oh yeah and

Pics?




NOT!!!!


not everyone here only asks for pics you see some males out there have brains and speaking for those of us who do i resent the implication!

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
OK, I met this guy 2 weeks ago, who goes to a different college then me, but he's best friends with the guy nextdoor to me. So I started hanging out with the guy next door, and met his friend. We had a great time, and hit it right off. He actually ended up staying with in my room that night (no I was not wasy!) but still. I had to leave early the next morning, and he knew that, but I felt bad asking him to leave. So I didn't ask him for any contct info etc, feeling weird and that I would probably see him again anyway, since he was always over.

So the next week I talk to the guy next door, and he tells me that his friend was telling him all good things about me, and that he had a good time, etc. And he actually suggested giving me his SN. So Sunday I got his SN, and IMed him, but it happened to be aftre he went to bed, and he just hadn't put anaway message up, and he wasn't on at all yesterday. So then today I saw that he was on, and IMed him again, and still no response. So what's the deal? Why would his best friend suggest I talk to him, and he kept encouraging me to IM him, and when I do I get no response? And I don' t think his friend would tell me to IM him if he'd said anything negative about me. SHould I just give up on talking to the guy again?

Relax, if he want's to he will contact you, if not... well...

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: DerwenArtos12
oh yeah and

Pics?




NOT!!!!


not everyone here only asks for pics you see some males out there have brains and speaking for those of us who do i resent the implication!

You most certainly don't speak for anyone with brains.

 

[Brutuskend]

Did you sleep with him?

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: DerwenArtos12
oh yeah and

Pics?




NOT!!!!


not everyone here only asks for pics you see some males out there have brains and speaking for those of us who do i resent the implication!

Yes it is a HORRIBLE HORRIBLE thing when someone says "Pics?"...

 

[4Lclovergirl]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose

Originally posted by: 4Lclovergirl
OK, I met this guy 2 weeks ago, who goes to a different college then me, but he's best friends with the guy nextdoor to me. So I started hanging out with the guy next door, and met his friend. We had a great time, and hit it right off. He actually ended up staying with in my room that night (no I was not wasy!) but still. I had to leave early the next morning, and he knew that, but I felt bad asking him to leave. So I didn't ask him for any contct info etc, feeling weird and that I would probably see him again anyway, since he was always over. So the next week I talk to the guy next door, and he tells me that his friend was telling him all good things about me, and that he had a good time, etc. And he actually suggested giving me his SN. So Sunday I got his SN, and IMed him, but it happened to be aftre he went to bed, and he just hadn't put anaway message up, and he wasn't on at all yesterday. So then today I saw that he was on, and IMed him again, and still no response. So what's the deal? Why would his best friend suggest I talk to him, and he kept encouraging me to IM him, and when I do I get no response? And I don' t think his friend would tell me to IM him if he'd said anything negative about me. SHould I just give up on talking to the guy again?

You're really Goldenbear, arent you

who?

 

[YetioDoom]

He might have SNs blocked that aren't on his buddy list.

Give it a few more days.

 

[theNEOone]

phone....

 

[4Lclovergirl]

Originally posted by: Brutuskend
Did you sleep with him?

And no, I didn't sleep with him, but he stayed over. Also, I was with someone for a long time until recently, and so John had been around the whole year, but this was the first time I met him. We are all pretty tight knit around here, so I also know I am the only one that he has done anything with this school year. So it's not like he does this alot aorund here.

I dont' have his phone number, and he lives 4 hours from here. On top of the fact that he's at a military academy, so I don't even know that I could call him.. but he does have AIM. That's how his friend talks to him.

The other girils in the apt suggest that I should go talk to his friend and ask him to tell him to IM me (as said above also I know) But I feel weird going to a guy and asking about his friend.... How would you feel?