If I were the one getting married, i wouldn't do it.
It's just wrong to have a wedding and NOT ALLOWED to invite any of your (asian)friends, or family.
What kind of wedding is it when the only people allowed from your side are your parents?
It's just wrong to have a wedding and NOT ALLOWED to invite any of your (asian)friends, or family.
What kind of wedding is it when the only people allowed from your side are your parents?
this is just utterly horrible. even if they love each other this much, this is not the way to go about getting married. not at all.
i'd talk to the presiding pastor or whoever will officiate and get advice from him/her. also, i'd hijack the wedding invitation list and tell the bride's family friends (the parents friends in particular) that the parents are racist and there is no reason for these other people to attend such a bitter[sweet?!] wedding. maybe with enough furor that could possibly be generated over this event, someone might see that they're doing more harm than good.
we're all people. racism should not be tolerated in any shape or form, especially when it involves two children in love.
i'd talk to the presiding pastor or whoever will officiate and get advice from him/her. also, i'd hijack the wedding invitation list and tell the bride's family friends (the parents friends in particular) that the parents are racist and there is no reason for these other people to attend such a bitter[sweet?!] wedding. maybe with enough furor that could possibly be generated over this event, someone might see that they're doing more harm than good.
we're all people. racism should not be tolerated in any shape or form, especially when it involves two children in love.
Are you trying to be funny or this the dumbest comment in this thread?
It sounds like the groom is doomed at this point if has this little respect for his family. Simply put she is not worth the sacrifice and more importantly, he should be willing to place himself in second class citizen stage. Further it is a strong sign that his wife does not love in a healthy way if she is willing to allow her family to behave in that manner.
Simple put this is a disaster in the making. I vote cancel the wedding and other move one or seek family counseling because at this point they both flunk the emotional I.Q. test for a health relationship.
I was aobut to give the asian guy props for marrying a white woman, but then I am dissapointed to see he is completely dissing his family like that.
If the male is chinese, i'd suggest saying this to the fiance's parents/family
"dew nay lo mo"
If the male is chinese, i'd suggest saying this to the fiance's parents/family
"dew nay lo mo"
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Tough situation..
No matter how much he loves the girl, he shouldn't disregard the feelings of his family.
Like the others said, I'd do the wedding myself and invite both families, and let whoever wants to come, come.
Any family member on either side who cares about their happiness would make it, the others have too much hate in their hearts.
Tell your friend to be a man, otherwise he isn't ready yet for marriage.
No matter how much he loves the girl, he shouldn't disregard the feelings of his family.
Like the others said, I'd do the wedding myself and invite both families, and let whoever wants to come, come.
Any family member on either side who cares about their happiness would make it, the others have too much hate in their hearts.
Tell your friend to be a man, otherwise he isn't ready yet for marriage.
Pretty dang disrespectful to his parents. Assuming his parents are good people, he needs to break up with the finance, get his head screwed on straight and then find a respectful girl.
Think about from the guys point of view. He is broken amount that other family. Any agression you show him will jsut add to the stree he has to deal with it. I have seen this occure ten fold, and yet no one understands this.
What ou need to tell the family is that they need to accept how difficult thsi is for their son. Make them realize how stressful it is and that msot of that stress is due to respect that he might stil have for them. Let them know that the only way the will get through to him is by being nice and honest.
I recommend that the groom and his family go out to a restaurant in different groups (at msot 5 at a time) and have a discussion whereby everyone attempts to tell him their feelings in an honest fashion. Let him know that you love him and care for him, and are only looking out for his best interests. Let him KNOW that his destiny is his own, and that all you want for him is joy and long life.
If he chooses to betray and family as such, let there be no hate between any of you. Jsut simply forget about him. Be nice when he shows up, but never let him endluge i nthe joys of family life.
Make an effective effort ot keep him without anger or frustration, and if he betrarys you Make an effective effort ot keep himout without anger or frustration.
What ou need to tell the family is that they need to accept how difficult thsi is for their son. Make them realize how stressful it is and that msot of that stress is due to respect that he might stil have for them. Let them know that the only way the will get through to him is by being nice and honest.
I recommend that the groom and his family go out to a restaurant in different groups (at msot 5 at a time) and have a discussion whereby everyone attempts to tell him their feelings in an honest fashion. Let him know that you love him and care for him, and are only looking out for his best interests. Let him KNOW that his destiny is his own, and that all you want for him is joy and long life.
If he chooses to betray and family as such, let there be no hate between any of you. Jsut simply forget about him. Be nice when he shows up, but never let him endluge i nthe joys of family life.
Make an effective effort ot keep him without anger or frustration, and if he betrarys you Make an effective effort ot keep himout without anger or frustration.
I didn't read through the entire post, so I don't know if this was suggested, but his family could always host a seperate reception to celebrate the marriage. It is an unfortunate situation, but with racist people (and even worse when it's a group of them) there is just no reasoning with them. It's too bad that the woman did not stand up for her future husband and his family. At least with a seperate reception they would be able to enjoy the celebration and not have to put up with a bunch of racists.
Why is anyone encouraging this train wreck? Both of these people need to get some counseling. Marriage at this point would just be creating a house of woe for them and even more so for any children. Either seek help or cut the loses now because this is not a healthy foundation,
Sigh, there can be no long term winners in this. Racism seems to be at the very depths of human nature in its varying degrees. Oh boy, ill make the post when my parents meet my black girlfriend. (asian guy btw)
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