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Problem: Asian Male marries a White Female

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Have two weddings -- the first, make it a big wedding (the girls' parents are covering it anyway); For the second, a small family wedding with the guys' relatives. They'll have two sets of presents, too.

So sad to hear about the blatant racism, though. 🙁
 
what's the big deal? from the OP, it doesnt even look like the groom wants the rest of his family there because he is siding with his future in-laws. if the groom doesnt want them there, and the bride doesnt care to have them there, then what's the complaint.

j0hnny, needs to tell us what the groom and bride's take on this. do they want the asians there or not? if they do, then the groom should just grow some balls, if not, who are we to say. i am asian, and if i had the choice, and if it didnt hurt anybody's feelings, i wouldnt have invited half of my relatives. they nearly screwed up the wedding with their poor manners and cant comprehend simple instructions as when to sit, and where to sit. maybe the in-laws are aware of this and dont want the groom's family there.

but if it were me, and anyone had given me that ultimatum during my wedding, i would have gone against that ultimatum just out of spite. i dont know, like i said, it comes down to the bride and groom. i real doubt that the in-laws paying for the wedding has anything to do with it since the bride and groom have their own practice. so money shouldnt be an issue (unless its a volunteer service or they're really crappy lawyers).
 
Why does this remind me of the Malcolm in the Middle episode where the Asian guy was drugged into marrying Malcolm's grandmother? (j/k) Seriously, best of luck dealing with those racist bigots.
 
I think the groom is a moron and needs to grow a pair!!!

I'm a asian male who also has married a white woman (my wife and her family are from Georgia) and close to half the guest at our small wedding where from my side of the family. All my family and aunts and uncles and their kids attended, traveling from NYC to West Georgia)

Either this asian guy is a sissy boy or is ashamed of his family in my opinion.
 
Originally posted by: xospec1alk
Originally posted by: bozack
IMHO the parents are doing this to try and stop the wedding, they are purposely creating friction beforehand in the hopes that the children will call it off....

Classy mentioned that if they were hard core racists they wouldn't agree to the marriage, I think that if it gets close enough then this will come about....maybe they will not invite the asians and then at the last minute they themselves will say they are not going either?

either way, the guy should just leave the girl if she will side with her parents over him.
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i dont think the bride is so much agreeing w/ her parents as she is more threatened? or afraid of losing her family over this...so she will go along with it. she does not have the balls to deviate from this plan, just as her groom does not have the balls to speak up about it.

best solution, cancel the wedding, finance it themselves, do it on their own terms. if the parents get pissed off either which way they end up doing it, its their loss... the wedding is for the bride and groom, everyone else is just filler....
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Actually, that's got to be it. Both the bride and groom are idiots. But more so the groom for allowing this. Sorry, I'm still going to tell the parents to never speak to their son again because what he's done is the ultimate betrayal in my opinion.
 
Okay, this is beyond pathetic. This is supposed to be their DAY and it's ultimately their choice in all matters. They don't need her parents' consents since they're racist/snotty.

He should call off the wedding and just have their own little wedding. They can invite their friends and families, including her parents. They don't have to come if they don't want to. He doesn't call off the wedding now, this issue will arise again with their children's birthdays and whatnot.

SAD!
 
Originally posted by: Mill
Sickening to me. My Uncle married a Korean lady and there was never a problem. My cousin married a black man and that wasn't an issue either. People need to get over the whole interracial marriages are evil thing. Bastards are so myopic and think that being racist is "ok" because their "bloodlines" will be tainted. I bet your ass that you can get half of the family to miss the wedding day by offering free Dale Jr. shirts at the local Walmart.
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shens, they let fu manchu touch their daughters hoo ha yet they fear the family? oh noes! the yellow peril will infect us all if their family comes!😛 lol🙂
 
If the girl wants to marry the guy, she obviously does not subscribe to the beliefs of her parents. Screw the parents and invite the other family. If the parents still boycott, it is in the best interest of the girl anyway. She has to live her life, not her parents, and they obviuosly would feel they can continue to run her life if she allows them to make such an important decision for her as this.
 
Explain to this young man that no matter how pretty and elegant she seems..... if she is willing to treat his family this way ,or more specifically, allow his family to be treated this way,she is simply not the right choice. What is her family going to do if they have children? Not invite them to Thanksgiving?


Always remember, no matter how beautifu they are, someone, somewhere, is tired of putting up with her shit.
 
Sounds like the bride is either REALLY good in the sack or pregnant 'cause pulling a stunt on an asian family like that will get the guy disowned PRONTO!
 
Is this part of a reality show joke?

but wait, How the heck do the brides parents let her marry an asian guy if they hate asians?
 
Originally posted by: classy
Originally posted by: xospec1alk
Originally posted by: classy
Now wait a minute, I have to take the side of white family for a second. If they are not against their daughter marrying the asian guy I find it kinda hard to believe they would not want any of his relatives there for no reason or because they are hard core racists. That doesn't add up. Something seems to be missing.
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yep same here....thats why i was wondering if they were allowing their asian friends to attend...(provided they have any)....because if they really were racist...then NO asians would be allowed, why would they allow such concessions....
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I am in an interracial marraige, going on 9 years. I can attest that if they are hard core racists, one I doubt they would pay for the wedding and two if anything they would be boycotting the marriage. The original poster seems to have problem with his bride, jealousy maybe, and has left out some info and is just calling the white family racist and leaving out some info here.
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Agreed. This doesn't make sense at all.
 
Quite frankly I think this guy lying for some reason. If the groom agrees with them there is a reason for it. If a group of people were saying stuff to my parents telling them to disown me, ain't no telling what else this same group has said or done. I don't see how on earth a racist couple is going to pay for the wedding and they don't approve of the marriage. If this is what is happening its gotta be a first. But if this same group has this same attitude displayed by the guy who started this thread I find it hard to believe they aren't the instigators and I don't blame the bride's family, the bride, and the groom for not wanting them there. I wouldn't want them at my wedding either. And the last time I checked the marriage vows start with the saying of a man leaving his mother and father and becoming one with his wife. I am just surprised at this guy who is saying he's going to tell the parents never to speak to their son, what a joke. This story sounds good, but when you look at it a little deeper and think on it a bit, it looks like a bunch of bull to me.
 
Originally posted by: classy
Quite frankly I think this guy lying for some reason. If the groom agrees with them there is a reason for it. If a group of people were saying stuff to my parents telling them to disown me, ain't no telling what else this same group has said or done. I don't see how on earth a racist couple is going to pay for the wedding and they don't approve of the marriage. If this is what is happening its gotta be a first. But if this same group has this same attitude displayed by the guy who started this thread I find it hard to believe they aren't the instigators and I don't blame the bride's family, the bride, and the groom for not wanting them there. I wouldn't want them at my wedding either. And the last time I checked the marriage vows start with the saying of a man leaving his mother and father and becoming one with his wife. I am just surprised at this guy who is saying he's going to tell the parents never to speak to their son, what a joke. This story sounds good, but when you look at it a little deeper and think on it a bit, it looks like a bunch of bull to me.
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i dont think its a bunch of BS, just that we don't know the whole story.

j0hnny....i dont think you should tell the parents to disown their child, not like your opinion matters to much to them anyhow...i just dont think its the right course of action...marriage is between the bride and groom...and its not like the parents aren't invited...just other relatives...bfd...its not worth dis0wnage...
 
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