Possible? I'm gay and want to be straight. Help!

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GeekDrew

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To those who say being gay is a choice in every case, you don't know your ass from a hole in the ground.
Thanks!

I used the term "active" because once the "hole" has been poked it can't be unpoked. I did NOT use the term "active" because I think that it is state of mind, or in your mind.
We're thinking along the same lines...

You don't need to be straight, you just need to be a man. Tell those who criticize and make snide remarks to go f**k themselves, and stop worrying about your private life, as it's none of their business unless you allow it to become so. Be the best person you can be and stop worrying what others think about you, as if they base their opinion of your value as a person on whether you're gay or straight, their approval isn't worth having.
Many of my friends don't base their opinions of me upon whether I'm gay or straight. I get along with them great. I will just know that there is that certain barrier...

I don't get it. You like men. How do you propose you change? If you really like men, why would you want to change?
I don't know how to change. I want to change because I am tired of being the odd one out. I don't know... sometimes that seems rational to me, sometimes it doesn't.

Dude I swear I've seen you post pictures of a HOT girlfriend before.
LOL, nope, sorry.

I think that's the issue, not you being gay or straight. You should be able to have a satisfaction with your sense of self and not conflate that with your sexual identity. I think that you may wish to consult with someone who can help you deal with the first issue, and that may well lead to a diminishment of the second as a consequence.
Yeah, I should probably consult with someone, but haven't got the time nor money to do so. Although everyone around me tells me that I'm awesome, this genious, best kid ever, blah, blah, blah, it doesn't mean anything to me. I don't like myself for a ton of reasons (the largest of which is that I'm gay, followed by many more).

Andrew
 

NikPreviousAcct

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Originally posted by: Jellomancer
Originally posted by: Pepsi90919
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Originally posted by: Pepsi90919
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Originally posted by: Pepsi90919
Originally posted by: BillGates
Being gay is a choice....

nope, no it's not

Prove it.

no. being gay is not a choice.

Yes it is.

no it's not.

Well Nik.. if it's a choice, I'd like you to prove it by being turned on by a picture of a naked man.

And I'd like to see you prove that it isn't a choice by showing me the gene that makes ya a homo.
 

Reel

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Maybe you should go talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist. I think you need to accept yourself and let things be how they will be. Imposing a change on your natural feelings just sounds wrong. If the behavior is self-destructive, then I could understand, but I do not feel sexual preference can be self-destructive.
 

Deeko

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Originally posted by: Deeko
Dude I swear I've seen you post pictures of a HOT girlfriend before.

just ran a search, that would be shinerBURKE not shinerTECH...so I'm not TOTALLY insane.
 

LordMaul

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Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Originally posted by: LordMaul
Originally posted by: wfbberzerker
Originally posted by: LordMaul
Sure thing. Here's how...


Get pictures of hot guys, and pictures of hot girls, as well. Sit down nekkid, and look at the pictures of the hot girl. If nothing happens down there, look at the ones of the guys. If something begins to happen, slash your arms with a sharp blade. Then look at the girl again...if nothing happens, go back to the guys, slash your arms, etc. etc. etc. until you are either bloodless or too scared to NOT get turned on by the women!

ahhh... i knew lordmaul would be posting in here :D

Gee, ya think?!

Sheesh... isn't he a dummy, LordMaul? I mean gosh... EVERYBODY knows that you flock to homo threads like man on ...

okay nevermind.

Oh, you. You know how to really ruffle my feathers, you big mean boi, er, boy.




:Q
 

Pepsi90919

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Zebo

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I'm more interested in why you don't like yourself than if your gay. To me this is a bigger problem.
 

GeekDrew

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Originally posted by: ReelC00L
Maybe you should go talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist. I think you need to accept yourself and let things be how they will be. Imposing a change on your natural feelings just sounds wrong. If the behavior is self-destructive, then I could understand, but I do not feel sexual preference can be self-destructive.

Changing my natural feelings probably is wrong... but oh well. Sometimes I think it's self-destructive cause I feel suicidal many times after I think about gay sex.
 

GeekDrew

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I'm more interested in why you don't like yourself than if your gay. To me this is a bigger problem.
I have a list of reasons I don't like myself:
I seem to hurt or piss off those that I love
I hate being gay
I can't stand the gay stereotype that is applied to me, or that people don't believe that I'm gay (which is contradictory, I know)
I hate being overweight
I hate having to rely on others for money and aid right now while I'm in college
I hate not being able to have a boyfriend or girlfriend
I hate not being able to associate with others my own age that have my preferences

I'm all hated out at the second... I just drew a blank. Be patient, the other bazillion things will come to me.

Andrew
 

Danman

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Uh, this guy really serious or is this another Skoorb thread? I see ffmcobalt and Skoorb replying saying this is fake, is this real shrinertech? Or are you just wasting our time...:confused:
 

Howard

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Originally posted by: LordMaul
Sure thing. Here's how...


Get pictures of hot guys, and pictures of hot girls, as well. Sit down nekkid, and look at the pictures of the hot girl. If nothing happens down there, look at the ones of the guys. If something begins to happen, slash your arms with a sharp blade. Then look at the girl again...if nothing happens, go back to the guys, slash your arms, etc. etc. etc. until you are either bloodless or too scared to NOT get turned on by the women!
There was an experiment long ago that was similar to this: the penises of homosexual men were hooked up to shock generators, and they were shown gay porn. Every time they attained an erection, they were shocked.

Turned out they became masochistic homosexuals.
 

GeekDrew

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Originally posted by: cashman
Uh, this guy really serious or is this another Skoorb thread? I see ffmcobalt and Skoorb replying saying this is fake, is this real shrinertech? Or are you just wasting our time...:confused:

I'm being very serious... I'm not wasting your time.
 

Praetor

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Originally posted by: Howard
Originally posted by: LordMaul
Sure thing. Here's how...


Get pictures of hot guys, and pictures of hot girls, as well. Sit down nekkid, and look at the pictures of the hot girl. If nothing happens down there, look at the ones of the guys. If something begins to happen, slash your arms with a sharp blade. Then look at the girl again...if nothing happens, go back to the guys, slash your arms, etc. etc. etc. until you are either bloodless or too scared to NOT get turned on by the women!
There was an experiment long ago that was similar to this: the penises of homosexual men were hooked up to shock generators, and they were shown gay porn. Every time they attained an erection, they were shocked.

Turned out they became masochistic homosexuals.

:Q
 

NikPreviousAcct

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Originally posted by: Pepsi90919
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Originally posted by: Pepsi90919
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Originally posted by: Pepsi90919
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Originally posted by: Pepsi90919
Originally posted by: BillGates
Being gay is a choice....

nope, no it's not

Prove it.

no. being gay is not a choice.

Yes it is.

no it's not.

Yes it is.

no it's not.

Yes it is.
 

NikPreviousAcct

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Originally posted by: shrinertech
Originally posted by: ReelC00L
Maybe you should go talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist. I think you need to accept yourself and let things be how they will be. Imposing a change on your natural feelings just sounds wrong. If the behavior is self-destructive, then I could understand, but I do not feel sexual preference can be self-destructive.

Changing my natural feelings probably is wrong... but oh well. Sometimes I think it's self-destructive cause I feel suicidal many times after I think about gay sex.

Uh... so stop thinking about gay sex.
rolleye.gif
 

Praetor

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Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Originally posted by: shrinertech
Originally posted by: ReelC00L
Maybe you should go talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist. I think you need to accept yourself and let things be how they will be. Imposing a change on your natural feelings just sounds wrong. If the behavior is self-destructive, then I could understand, but I do not feel sexual preference can be self-destructive.

Changing my natural feelings probably is wrong... but oh well. Sometimes I think it's self-destructive cause I feel suicidal many times after I think about gay sex.

Uh... so stop thinking about gay sex.
rolleye.gif

Or have gay sex so you won't have to think about it... you'll be doing it.....
 

NikPreviousAcct

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Originally posted by: Praetor
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Originally posted by: shrinertech
Originally posted by: ReelC00L
Maybe you should go talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist. I think you need to accept yourself and let things be how they will be. Imposing a change on your natural feelings just sounds wrong. If the behavior is self-destructive, then I could understand, but I do not feel sexual preference can be self-destructive.

Changing my natural feelings probably is wrong... but oh well. Sometimes I think it's self-destructive cause I feel suicidal many times after I think about gay sex.

Uh... so stop thinking about gay sex.
rolleye.gif

Or have gay sex so you won't have to think about it... you'll be doing it.....

If he's suicidal while thinking about it, he'll might follow through afterwards if he does it. Lets not suggest something that detrimental to someone so emotionally unstable.

ST, Just grow a spine and stop thinking about it. Take control over yourself and change yourself into whatever you want that to be.
 

ThePresence

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Originally posted by: LordMaul
Originally posted by: Jellomancer
I don't get it. You like men. How do you propose you change? If you really like men, why would you want to change?

Because liking men....when you are a man....is...well...severely gay.

:D
 

CraigRT

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Originally posted by: Pepsi90919
Originally posted by: BillGates
Being gay is a choice....

nope, no it's not

I tend to agree... but then again most people don't know cause they're not gay.
but i don't think it's a "choice" entirely.