I really have no idea- I've never been that way...but a lot of my friends are and I can't seem to figure it out. Of course, there have been times when everyone around me has thought my boy was a jerk and I stayed with him through it and I'm glad I did.
well if you listen to loveline a lot, this will sound familiar, but i think it's because they didn't get enough attention from their dads when they were little, or they got the wrong kind of attention.
you bring up another good point btw, just because everybody says a guy is a jerk/asshole/prick, does not mean he is one. i'm a living example... the only reason i have the reputation is because this girl thought i was dating her, but i had no idea she thought so, and this led to her thinking i was "ignoring" her... the injustice...