"Open" Marriage

[theprodigalrebel]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
My parents (father and stepmother) were swingers and their marriage fell apart when they invited another married couple to come live with us.

Imagine that.

Is this something Social Services would have a problem with?
(If word got out or someone complained)

 

[DeadByDawn]

Originally posted by: Aztech
I added a poll. I guess that's the question I wanna ask...

Let's say it went like this. You love each other and the vast majority of the time, you're like most other couples. But, once in a while, if you wanna get some variety, you get to go have some. One is love, the other is sex. What's the problem?

The line between love and sex is not so easily drawn, especially when you involve women+emotions.

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: theprodigalrebel

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
My parents (father and stepmother) were swingers and their marriage fell apart when they invited another married couple to come live with us.

Imagine that.

Is this something Social Services would have a problem with?
(If word got out or someone complained)

We're talking circa 1986 here. Besides, our home environment was always safe. Embarassing for us as teenagers but always safe.

 

[Aztech]

I'm surprised that not more guys would go for it. It seems like people always complain about the "one person for the rest of your life" thing after they're married...

 

[theprodigalrebel]

Aah, thanks for clearing that doubt Smoochy

 

[secretanchitman]

no way...helllllllll no.

 

[ChaoZ]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: theprodigalrebel

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
My parents (father and stepmother) were swingers and their marriage fell apart when they invited another married couple to come live with us.

Imagine that.

Is this something Social Services would have a problem with?
(If word got out or someone complained)

We're talking circa 1986 here. Besides, our home environment was always safe. Embarassing for us as teenagers but always safe.

This has to be asked. What have you done with the married couple, or more specifically, the lady? Hmm?

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: Aztech
Would you ever consider it? What if your SO thought it was ok for you to see someone else, once in a while. Would you? Would you let them?

only if she was seeing another girl, and ONLY if i can join in

 

[Aztech]

Originally posted by: Spartan Niner
What would be the point of marriage then?

Tax benefits? I don't know. But I thought so many people on here aren't very religious, so if not a union before God, then what is the point?

 

[IronWing]

Originally posted by: Aztech

Originally posted by: Spartan Niner
What would be the point of marriage then?

Tax benefits? I don't know. But I thought so many people on here aren't very religious, so if not a union before God, then what is the point?

What does your god have to do with my marriage?

 

[ChaoZ]

Originally posted by: Aztech

Originally posted by: Spartan Niner
What would be the point of marriage then?

Tax benefits? I don't know. But I thought so many people on here aren't very religious, so if not a union before God, then what is the point?

Umm, how about a union to each other?

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: ChaoZ

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: theprodigalrebel

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
My parents (father and stepmother) were swingers and their marriage fell apart when they invited another married couple to come live with us.

Imagine that.

Is this something Social Services would have a problem with?
(If word got out or someone complained)

We're talking circa 1986 here. Besides, our home environment was always safe. Embarassing for us as teenagers but always safe.

This has to be asked. What have you done with the married couple, or more specifically, the lady? Hmm?

Nothing. I'm friends with the couple still to this day and still get along with my stepmom. My dad's a different story but it has nothing to do with any of this.

They were never bad to me or abused me. Besides, they didn't move in until I was late in teenage years.

I was just giving my perspective growing up in a swinging household. My parents (mother and father) were always swingers since the time I can remember as a little girl. Then my dad divorced my mom and then him and my stepmom became swingers. Let's just say that I didn't grow up in a sexually repressive household and I don't want this to become a thread hijack. :laugh:

 

[Aztech]

Originally posted by: JEDI

Originally posted by: Aztech
Would you ever consider it? What if your SO thought it was ok for you to see someone else, once in a while. Would you? Would you let them?

only if she was seeing another girl, and ONLY if i can join in

Seriously, would you then? I haven't gone into what the rules would be. But I guess this may make a difference to people...

 

[Mr. Lennon]

No way. I would get way too jealous. I had a ex gf hit me up for sex while she had a boyfriend (2 years). She asked if he could come watch.....I said ****** no. I tapped it without him there and he knew. I just dont get how he wouldnt get jealous or how he is able to get turned on by watching his girlfriend get boned by another guy.

 

[FP]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ChaoZ

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: theprodigalrebel

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
My parents (father and stepmother) were swingers and their marriage fell apart when they invited another married couple to come live with us.

Imagine that.

Is this something Social Services would have a problem with?
(If word got out or someone complained)

We're talking circa 1986 here. Besides, our home environment was always safe. Embarassing for us as teenagers but always safe.

This has to be asked. What have you done with the married couple, or more specifically, the lady? Hmm?

Nothing. I'm friends with the couple still to this day and still get along with my stepmom. My dad's a different story but it has nothing to do with any of this.

They were never bad to me or abused me. Besides, they didn't move in until I was late in teenage years.

I was just giving my perspective growing up in a swinging household. My parents (mother and father) were always swingers since the time I can remember as a little girl. Then my dad divorced my mom and then him and my stepmom became swingers. Let's just say that I didn't grow up in a sexually repressive household and I don't want this to become a thread hijack. :laugh:

Wow, I had no idea you were a girl.

 

[chambersc]

DEFINITELY not. It defeats the point of marriage.

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: chambersc
DEFINITELY not. It defeats the point of marriage.

:thumbsup:

 

[Aztech]

Originally posted by: chambersc
DEFINITELY not. It defeats the point of marriage.

So, what is the real point of marriage? Isn't it just to love and care for each other through the good times and the bad? I'm not saying to abandon any of that, but just spice the sex life up a bit...

 

[chambersc]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: chambersc
DEFINITELY not. It defeats the point of marriage.

:thumbsup:

From that reply, am I to assume that you're in a monogamous relationship?

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: chambersc

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: chambersc
DEFINITELY not. It defeats the point of marriage.

:thumbsup:

From that reply, am I to assume that you're in a monogamous relationship?

I'm not in a relationship right now but when I was (including my marriage), it was a monogamous relationship.

 

[chambersc]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: chambersc

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: chambersc
DEFINITELY not. It defeats the point of marriage.

:thumbsup:

From that reply, am I to assume that you're in a monogamous relationship?

I'm not in a relationship right now but when I was (including my marriage), it was a monogamous relationship.

Would you ever do an open marriage after experiencing what it's like with your parents?

 

[KoolDrew]

Definitely not.

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: chambersc

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: chambersc

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: chambersc
DEFINITELY not. It defeats the point of marriage.

:thumbsup:

From that reply, am I to assume that you're in a monogamous relationship?

I'm not in a relationship right now but when I was (including my marriage), it was a monogamous relationship.

Would you ever do an open marriage after experiencing what it's like with your parents?

No, I would not. I could go into more details as to why and why not and also give some examples from my 'adult' life but if you would like more information, you should PM me if you are interested in my reasoning. This is not my thread.

 

[waggy]

i kinda agree with it. to a point.

i would think 2 families could live in co-habatation very well (of course all would have to be fine with it). have 2 work and the other 2 stay home to take care of the house and kids.

 

[Kadarin]

I voted yes. However, let me qualify that by saying that it would really depend on everyone involved, because I can see it being very difficult making it work. I am not Christian, and I see "marriage" as an arbitrary codification of a long-term relationship.