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OMGWTFBBQ!! UPDATE: YAGT: How to tell GF she's gained weight

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Originally posted by: Alkesh
So what i'm thinking about going with is:

"Would you like to join me on my Monday Wednesday runs?"
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Only if you run regularly yourself, o/w it will look suspicious. But yes, this is probably the best way to do it.
 
Originally posted by: Malak
155 doesn't sound bad. Is she like 4'11" or something?
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Agreed. Weight means nothing without a height along with it. If she's 5'6 or over, this is still considered to be normal weight.
 
Originally posted by: DAGTA
I'm sure she's noticed she has gained weight. She probably noticed it before you did.

Clearly she feels comfy enough in the relationship to not worry about it. Good luck finding a way to talk to her about this that won't have her going apeshlt on you.
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There is nothing wrong with saying "honey, you need to lose weight...this isn't the person I fell in love with and I can't bear to make love to you anymore."

If she doesn't ship up, then ship her out.

No double standards - if a guy becomes a fat disgusting pig a woman can do the same thing. lose weight or get out.
 
Sounds like she's having psychological problems hence the weight gain..... Probably troubles at work and she's medicating herself with food.

I bet if you talk openly about her problems with her the pounds will go as well.
 
Originally posted by: gnumantsc
Sounds like she's having psychological problems hence the weight gain..... Probably troubles at work and she's medicating herself with food.

I bet if you talk openly about her problems with her the pounds will go as well.
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We're both college students. And she's not stressed at all compared to me.
 
Do you live together? Why would you end up on the couch? If she's put on weight, there's obviously something behind it besides shoving the devil dogs down her throat. Is she depressed? Suffer trauma lately? Or if she's just lazy, tell her go get to steppin' and find yourself someone you're actually attracted to. And for the love of God, DON'T get her pregnant.
 
Originally posted by: Alkesh
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: Alkesh
ok my estimate was off, were talking 165 and about 5'1"
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holy crap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

do you have to unfold her to find the poo-nany?
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haven't tried for that poonani in a while.
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Well then you've answered you own question. you can't love a woman you are disgusted by.
 
thanks for all the help guys. We're gonna have dinner now and I will make it a point of conversation. I will tell you how it goes.
 
Originally posted by: Alkesh
ok my estimate was off, were talking 165 and about 5'1"
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Okay, that is pretty significant, then. With those stats, she's got a BMI of 31.2, which is obese. Sit down with her and talk about how you're concerned about her weight and all of the health problems that come with being overweight. Don't make her feel crappier about herself, though, and make sure she knows that you still care about her and everything... just that you're concerned. I'd say that being pretty open is the best way to go about this.

If she makes no effort to change and you're still not attacted to her, end it.
 
Originally posted by: Alkesh
ok my estimate was off, were talking 165 and about 5'1"
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that may be getting a bit chunky, also depends on how much muscle she has

i' say be blunt about the problem but don't sound mean (like calling her fatty)

suggest that you both do some exercise and eat right

if you go through all this WITH her it may make it easier on her
 
Tell her? Why do you have to tell her? Do you think she's oblivious to her weight gain? 😕

What you really want to know is how to tell her you're not happy with her weight gain. If that's the way you feel, grow a set of balls and tell her you're not happy with her weight gain you pussy. Trying to find a way to sugar-coat is isn't going to make a difference.
 
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