omg!

[lawaris]

<< what if he has bad breath, what if he is the type that slobbers all over you, the possibilities are endless! i don't think this marriage is going to make it.

>>




well......do u always make it a point to kiss every single guy who could be a PROSPECTIVE mate ??


BTW : how many have u had so far ??

 

[djheater]

I've read most of the thread.

Wouldn't you guess that a woman (I doubt it's the man who's insisting) who wants no kissing/petting/sex was

A. Brought up in a very strictly "moral" household
B. Sexually molested

this of course is strictly speculation and may well be completely wrong. If it is the case though, they're going to have a lot more to deal with in the first year than just "gettin' to know each other". A recent study indicates a correlation between a very strict moral upbringing and pedophilia.... However it was a study of Catholic clergy and does not apply except by extension.

I guess my point is that if I were the male in this situation, I would have to carefully consider the reason for the woman's actions. I imagine I would find her reason(s) to reflect a moral outlook that is not paralell to mine, in that case I doubt I would consider marriage or any intimate relationship with a her. Certainly this does not mean that her perspective is not a legitimate one. Basically I agree with Weezer, she's wierd.

 

[rutchtkim]

well, believe it or not, but i've been to a recent wedding where bride and groom kissed for the first time at the alter

 

[911paramedic]

This is the only reason I can see for not kissing. :Q

 

[TallBill]

LOL 911paramedic!

 

[Daniel]

<< well, believe it or not, but i've been to a recent wedding where bride and groom kissed for the first time at the alter >>



My ex gf had 2 friends like that, they had only kissed though and never gone out with anyone else aside from each other. The girl was so unstable that saying "hell" in her presence was enough to bring her to tears, she almost fell apart when she finally admitted to her best friend that she had kissed her fiance, and bringing up any topic remotely sexual in any way was so off topic it wasn't even funny. Needless to say I was coached before I went to meet her on what was safe topics to keep the girl from crying.

 

Uh-oh! Shocker! Go Punk has declared me a bimbo. *Wears an imaginary trophy!* Oh, Mr. Go Punk . . . and by such logic, you must be some ugly, bald, fat guy, for only those who aren't handsome or beautiful possess such gift of intelligence.

*Crying 'cuz all this while I thought people were listening to me, they were just interested in my beauty/body.*

Go Punk, you need not stoop that low. You chose to turn this into a personal matter. The conduct of the person to whom the original poster referred was described as weird. So, in accordance, I stated I found your positions rather weird. And it is apparent and has come to my attention that the *winking* here serves no purpose.

So, Go Punk, I shall not further this conversation with you. If you wish to discuss anymore or express your discontent with my comments, you have access to my private mail box. Please keep it clean now and stay within topic.

Weeze Girl, you can try a little harder. I have made way more posts that do not even involve any persons in particular and are as generic as they come. So, where you got your preposterous conclusion is beyond me. Perhaps you are just fond of participating in such threads, thus concluded with your limited area of interest that those fairly represented my posts at this forum? Oh my God, I imagine you read my post about www.bolt.com two years ago (one of my first few posts) and felt intimidated! :Q

In case you did not know, I could not care the least what a bunch of strangers on the 'net think about me. I would hope you afford yourself enough esteem too, so that such would not affect you. By the way, did you for a moment read your original words and see how much you contradict yourself when you speak negatively of a lady who made a choice and one that was mutually reached with her significant other?

An irony, is not it? The subject matter here endorses affection and seems to degrade those who do not meet such criteria, yet the same people mock how much emoticon one uses. Interesting inconsistency. . . .

P.S.: If I wasted my time to link you to my pic, I'm afraid I would be giving people who are not worthy of my time the attention and consideration they do not deserve. Besides, I'm sure you will all be doubting Thomases 'cuz it would be embarrassing that you were proven wrong. I'm not about to get into some looks game with you guys. I know where I stand in that aspect and feel confident enough not to need validation from strangers.

For your information, I shall not entertain any more of this personal discussions. That's simply below my standard. If you wish to continue, that is your business and your right; so proceed at your expense and time, not mine!

 

[veryape]

To each their own. IMO though, any guy who agrees with that has a tiny d!ck and is glad to get a woman who doesn't know what a real man's package looks like. No offense meant to the little guys out there.

 

[RSMemphis]

<< my friend just told me she knows somebody who is getting married to this guy she has never even kissed before. (they both go to ucla) supposedly they want to WAIT TIL MARRIAGE. >>



Two unenthusiasted thumbs down for this newly found "Christianity"...

So, check before you bind yourself forever (best translation I could come up with of an old German saying)...

 

[ndee]

<< This is the only reason I can see for not kissing. :Q >>


ROTFLMAO!

 

[fastz28]

1. This is nothing new, people in other cultures have "arranged" marriages all the time.

2. Just becasue the relationship isn't physical doesn't mean it's doomed; if that's true, explain why there are plenty of failed relationships that are very physical.

3. gopunk and luvly, please kiss and make up.

 

[pulse8]

<< 1. This is nothing new, people in other cultures have "arranged" marriages all the time.

2. Just becasue the relationship isn't physical doesn't mean it's doomed; if that's true, explain why there are plenty of failed relationships that are very physical.

3. gopunk and luvly, please kiss and make up. >>


1. Yes, but how happy are those marriages?

2. You're dealing in extremes. You have to have a happy center in a relationship and both parties have to be near that center. Otherwise this causes a lot of problems. Just because one extreme doesn't seem to work, you can't say that the other will.

3. Yes. Kiss and make up. (psssst...and luvly....it's GOPUNK. One word, sweetheart.)

 

[bbarnes]

Hmm, thats just wierd.

 

[toant103]

crazy stuff

 

[weezergirl]

<< Weeze Girl, you can try a little harder. I have made way more posts that do not even involve any persons in particular and are as generic as they come. So, where you got your preposterous conclusion is beyond me. Perhaps you are just fond of participating in such threads, thus concluded with your limited area of interest that those fairly represented my posts at this forum? Oh my God, I imagine you read my post about www.bolt.com two years ago (one of my first few posts) and felt intimidated! :Q >>



ok "luv ly", i really have no idea what you are talking about here. i would link to several threads where you post about how "above us" you are but why bother, just read your posts in here! and yes, you probably do post normal threads but i guess the other ones stand out in my mind (i wonder why). but really, i wouldn't have made this conclusion if you never posted anything of the sort anyways, believe me, you can exist on anandtech without putting down everybody else. if you read any of my past posts i RARELY ever put down anyone, i can't even think of a post where i even do that. but believe it or not, your attitude is just so over the top i had to come out and say something about it. that should really say something about you. and sorry, i don't remember this bolt.com post you made, and i have no idea why i would be intimidated by you, we already came to the understanding that you are PC reincarnate.



<< P.S.: If I wasted my time to link you to my pic, I'm afraid I would be giving people who are not worthy of my time the attention and consideration they do not deserve. Besides, I'm sure you will all be doubting Thomases 'cuz it would be embarrassing that you were proven wrong. I'm not about to get into some looks game with you guys. I know where I stand in that aspect and feel confident enough not to need validation from strangers. >>



LOL. point proven.



<< By the way, did you for a moment read your original words and see how much you contradict yourself when you speak negatively of a lady who made a choice and one that was mutually reached with her significant other? >>



what? all i said was that it was weird, and i alreayd said i was joking about all of my comments, hence the , and yes, to me it is weird. weird means not of the normal to me and it not normal to me not to have kissed before getting married. i understand that in other cultures it may be different and that's totally cool with me. i am waiting before marriage to have sex and i get a lot of flack about that so i can totally understand where they are coming from. when i heard about her story i just thought it was interesting and wanted to share. i don't really see how i am contradicting myself.



<< For your information, I shall not entertain any more of this personal discussions. That's simply below my standard. If you wish to continue, that is your business and your right; so proceed at your expense and time, not mine! >>



ok, good. i like having the last word.

 

[gopunk]

Uh-oh! Shocker! Go Punk has declared me a bimbo. *Wears an imaginary trophy!* Oh, Mr. Go Punk . . . and by such logic, you must be some ugly, bald, fat guy, for only those who aren't handsome or beautiful possess such gift of intelligence.

you got me pegged. actually, you missed the logic. the logic is that people who are good looking will generally *not* be made aware of their flaws, because people like to suck up to good lookers. if you were ugly for example, you probably would have been rediculed to the point where you would have made a change.

Go Punk, you need not stoop that low. You chose to turn this into a personal matter. The conduct of the person to whom the original poster referred was described as weird. So, in accordance, I stated I found your positions rather weird.

actually, you turned this "personal":

I'm glad I'm not married to, engaged to be married or going out with any of you!

not to mention, calling us all weird, does indeed turn this personal. sure, we called that girl weird, but she is removed from the conversation, whereas you were directly addressing us.

And it is apparent and has come to my attention that the *winking* here serves no purpose.

good, because it doesn't. i don't think your comments are sarcastic or facetious so the winking is really irrelevant.

So, Go Punk, I shall not further this conversation with you. If you wish to discuss anymore or express your discontent with my comments, you have access to my private mail box. Please keep it clean now and stay within topic.

luvly, if for one second, you were sincere in wishing to just keep this on topic, you would have pm'ed me, instead of posting that. the fact that you did, shows everybody that you're just trying to make yourself look better. furthermore, if you were really so intent on keeping this on topic, you would have addressed the issues i brought up in my response, instead of posting:

I did not expect you would understand my statement, Mr. Go Punk , since this subject matter seems to be one in which you have vested interest. On another matter: I suggest it is best if those who typed up their statements and can vouche to their intents be the ones to state accordingly what their intents were.

and ignoring my response.

and i would never pm you over posting... it would defeat the whole purpose of my posts.

 

[911paramedic]

P.S.: If I wasted my time to link you to my pic, I'm afraid I would be giving people who are not worthy of my time the attention and consideration they do not deserve. Besides, I'm sure you will all be doubting Thomases 'cuz it would be embarrassing that you were proven wrong. I'm not about to get into some looks game with you guys. I know where I stand in that aspect and feel confident enough not to need validation from strangers.

I was lucky enough to find a picture of luvly online since she wouldn't share it with us herself.

 

[UNCjigga]

Are they Indian or Asian?

 

[b0mbrman]

<< This is the only reason I can see for not kissing. :Q >>


Eeeuw...

 

[b0mbrman]

<< Are they Indian or Asian? >>


Yes, do you have any more details weezergirl? I think we've all just arbitrarily assumed they were hardcore Christians...

 

[weezergirl]

i'm not 100% sure but i know they are christians and i'm pretty sure they are asian.

 

[yllus]

1. Anyone who believes that sex and physical attraction are not important to the long-term success of a coupling has probably been very single for a very long time now. Dream on!
2. It seems pretty illogical to not fully know what you're getting yourself into when you're talking something as final as marriage. That means, crudely, giving it a few good romps to make sure everything's in order.
3. luvly is one of those people who comes into threads seeking to look better than the average poster. "Looks might be important to YOU, but certainly not for ME!" Skip the post, skip the post...it's always fluff anyway.

 

[b0mbrman]

<< 1. Anyone who believes that sex and physical attraction are not important to the long-term success of a coupling has probably been very single for a very long time now. Dream on!
2. It seems pretty illogical to not fully know what you're getting yourself into when you're talking something as final as marriage. That means, crudely, giving it a few good romps to make sure everything's in order. >>


I think you hit it right on the button and someone had to say it eventually


<< 3. luvly is one of those people who comes into threads seeking to look better than the average poster. "Looks might be important to YOU, but certainly not for ME!" Skip the post, skip the post...it's always fluff anyway. >>


Oh, and btw, I think the most attractive feature of a female is her mind

 

[911paramedic]

Oh, and btw, I think the most attractive feature of a female is her mind

(quit looking in her ear, there are other attractive things too )

 

[yllus]

The thing is I've visited this topic over and over in my life - my parents would ideally like me to follow the same path the two weezer originally posted about took.

The whole arranged marriage dealie has its good points and bad (basically much more likely not to end up with psycho mother/father/siblings-in-laws), but when you additionally mix in religion (no touching! no sex!) it gets WAY out of hand. I'm too much of a touching person by nature to not have this be a priority in my, uh, overall assessment. But I absolutely can't live with a boring person, so wit and intelligence still places #1 on the desired traits list.