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OMFG Sometimes I hate my wife

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Originally posted by: jalaram
Originally posted by: PingSpike
On one hand, yes...but on the other hand...there are certain things you cannot compromise on without throwing your own happiness out the window. If I want no kids and the wife wants 8, we have 4. You think I'm going to be happy with that compromise?
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I would imagine that's a subject to be discussed before you got married. One relationship I was in fell apart because I wanted kids (max 2) and she didn't want any. You don't go into a marriage if you can't compromise on huge subjects like that.

All marriages are compromises or give/take. Sure, you may lose on certain subjects, but it should be balanced by getting your way on others. What's most important is communication. That's the only way to know what is important/not important to your partner.
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Ideally, but not everyone has that forsight.
 
Is your wife on any kind of medication that would affect your hormones? Perhaps a new birth control pill or something?

When I was dating my wife in college her doctor put her on a birth control pill that totally fvcked with her hormones and made her highly irrational and moody. I was about a week from breaking up with her before she went back to the doctor and went on a different birth control pill that let her return to the woman that I knew before.
 
damn she's a brunette too... I dig brunettes but they can be bitchy (i'm engaged to one!)

in any case, you should talk to her and resolve the problem. if you don't realize what's bothering her, then you're just as much in the wrong as she is. Although she should have been more honest to you in the beginning if she wasn't happy about the idea.
 
Originally posted by: DurocShark
Originally posted by: chuckywang
pics? pretty please?
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Wife and daughter a little over a year ago.

We were 20 when we got together.

I'll be the willow tree and bend, as usual. I made the decision to stay, even after many other much worse issues. This thread was just blowing off steam.
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If you've been miserable ever since you've moved back to Cali, why bend and think it's all going to get better?
 
Originally posted by: Mwilding
Originally posted by: Gurck
Originally posted by: Mwilding
I would guess that she doesn't want to make the move and is lashing out. This is an unacceptable form of "communication" and you need to sit her down and talk it out.

Moving is hard on everyone, but you and she have responsibilities - especially with the children - and she should be focusing on making this whole thing smooth, efficient and as un-traumatic as possible for them.

She isn't holding up her end of the bargain and you better nip that in the bud or you are going to have a whole lot of pain in your future.
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He's married, he's going to have a whole lot of pain in his future regardless.
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As a married guy, I can tell you that there is everyday pain and then there is extraordinary pain. The key is minimizing the later... 😉
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holy crap that is so true its worth quoting.
 
Originally posted by: DurocShark
As some of you may know, I'm moving from Cali to Colorado.

Back in Feb I drove my bus to CO to spend 3 weeks in a hotel working at the new data center and look for an apartment. 3 weeks.

Damn near every night my wife would call and pick fights. While it sucked, I wrote it off to the stress of moving and me being gone. But during that time she was supposed to be doing final goodbyes to friends and family, and start the packing process.

I flew back into town last Friday night. I walk into my apartment and find virtually NOTHING had been done. WTF?!?!?! All she did was unload our storage units into the apartment. Nothing was packed. The kids were all confused and scared about all the changes.

I spend the weekend saying my goodbyes, including one last trip to Huntington Beach. She gives me sh!t about wanting to visit some last people, having one last night out, etc. Keeps picking fights. Then gets mad if I want to go to bed at 10. We're supposed to start loading the truck today and I wanted an early start.

So at 8am this morning I'm up and packing, and she has the nerve to come out and yell at me for making noise. WTF? I'm doing what you should have been doing for the past 3 weeks!!!

This is not fun.

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urgh, that sucks🙁
 
Originally posted by: DurocShark
Originally posted by: chuckywang
pics? pretty please?
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Wife and daughter a little over a year ago.

We were 20 when we got together.

I'll be the willow tree and bend, as usual. I made the decision to stay, even after many other much worse issues. This thread was just blowing off steam.
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Just a thought, grow a pair and confront this demon. What other worse issues, fvckin around behind your back while you sit home tending to the needs of your children? Her abusing your children? Come on you can't leave us hanging here.
 
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: preslove

How old were you guys when you married?
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irrelevant in my humble opinion.
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I agree. i was 19 and my wife was 20 when we got married. and no it wasent because she was pregnant, we didnt have our first kid until we both were 25. Anyway we are both 37 now and just as much in love as the day we got married. Age at marriage has nothing to do with how happy a couple will be.
 
Originally posted by: KingPhil
What are you on ATOT if you are supposed to be packing? heheeh 🙂
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Cig breaks. 😀

Yes, she cheated several times over the years. Those are the worse issues.

I'm still moving. Can't back out now...
 
Originally posted by: DurocShark
Originally posted by: KingPhil
What are you on ATOT if you are supposed to be packing? heheeh 🙂
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Cig breaks. 😀

Yes, she cheated several times over the years. Those are the worse issues.

I'm still moving. Can't back out now...
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wtf, she cheated on you several times and you're still with her? F*** that, dump the bitch!
 
Originally posted by: DurocShark
Originally posted by: KingPhil
What are you on ATOT if you are supposed to be packing? heheeh 🙂
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Cig breaks. 😀

Yes, she cheated several times over the years. Those are the worse issues.

I'm still moving. Can't back out now...
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that woulda been a deal breaker for me...after someone cheats on you, how can you ever trust them again? and if you cant trust someone...well, a relationship is kinda pointless imho
 
Originally posted by: quakefiend420
Originally posted by: DurocShark
Originally posted by: KingPhil
What are you on ATOT if you are supposed to be packing? heheeh 🙂
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Cig breaks. 😀

Yes, she cheated several times over the years. Those are the worse issues.

I'm still moving. Can't back out now...
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that woulda been a deal breaker for me...after someone cheats on you, how can you ever trust them again? and if you cant trust someone...well, a relationship is kinda pointless imho
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Yeah, my wife and I already have an understanding that if one of us cheats on the other it is over.
 
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