Nicest way to break up with somebody? :(

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Moonbeam
The nicest way, in my opinion is bad news good news, like this. Dear Moonbeam, your girlfriend died, but she was wealthy and left her estate to you.

Heh.

 

[her209]

I'm a lesbian.

 

[Gnurb]

There is no nice way (imo) if you can't figure out a specific reason why the relationship didn't work.
edit: post 333. make a wish

 

[Moonbeam]

her209, try to stay on topic or start your own sex preference thread.

 

[GasX]

Originally posted by: Dezign
It just isn't going to work. I care about him and I would really, really, really like to stay friends...

Well, good luck with your break up. The above statement shows you don't know a lot about guys. "Staying Friends" is something that girls do not something guys do. If a guy agrees to "stay friends" it means he is just willing to wait a while before having sex with you.

 

[MazerRackham]

Originally posted by: Isla
Straight up is the best way.

Don't give mixed messages and don't offer any false hope.

Sometimes, you've got to be cruel to be kind...

Exactly. Don't candy-coat your breaking up with him. Be succinct and final with it. No hope for making things work, otherwise the guy will just end up tortuing himself trying to win you back.

Be mean to him now for his own good.

I've done this with girls I've broken up with, and it really is the only way to do it.

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: Mwilding

Originally posted by: Dezign
It just isn't going to work. I care about him and I would really, really, really like to stay friends...

Well, good luck with your break up. The above statement shows you don't know a lot about guys. "Staying Friends" is something that girls do not something guys do. If a guy agrees to "stay friends" it means he is just willing to wait a while before having sex with you.

exactly... i mean really the only reason to have a girlfriend over just a friend is the sex. so, like i said, if you don't want to have sex with him anymore, just get him another girl and you're all set.

 

[wolf papa]

I suggest a clean break, also. The "just friends" doesn't work, especially if one of the people still has romantic feelings for the other. Maybe, after sufficient time has passed, a friendship is possible, but not now. If you were to suggest that to him now, it would just be leading him on.

My .02

 

[Shelly21]

Originally posted by: GirlFriday
I agree with ohtwell, your first post says it sufficiently, but in a sweet way. Its obvious you care about him, all you can do is try to convey that as well as possible. Good luck, I hope it goes as easy as possible for you, letting someone down is always so hard to do.

Same thing....

Also, don't be too nice that gives him any hope of getting back together... It is cruel to give them that hope when it won't happen.

 

[KeyserSoze]

Originally posted by: radioactiveballpoint
use Homer's method: Welcome to dumpsville, population YOU

Dang, you stole my line.







KeyserSoze

 

[MichaelD]

I thought I loved you, but I was wrong
Your horse is leaving, so get along
Don't come back, don't call, don't write
Get on that damn horse
And get out of my sight


I should work for Hallmark....

 

[Hammer]

Email. Make sure and enable return receipt though, you know, so its official and all.

 

[obiwaynekenobi]

Originally posted by: NeuroSynapsis
from the guy's standpoint (i'm pretty sure alot of you share my sentiment)

just break it off with him and never talk to him again

it'll save you both (probably more him) trouble in the long run

It just isn't going to work. I care about him and I would really, really, really like to stay friends.

sorry, just isn't gonna happen

and it's very painful to attempt to remain friends. your better off just cutting contact.

 

[obiwaynekenobi]

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: Mwilding

Originally posted by: Dezign
It just isn't going to work. I care about him and I would really, really, really like to stay friends...

Well, good luck with your break up. The above statement shows you don't know a lot about guys. "Staying Friends" is something that girls do not something guys do. If a guy agrees to "stay friends" it means he is just willing to wait a while before having sex with you.

exactly... i mean really the only reason to have a girlfriend over just a friend is the sex. so, like i said, if you don't want to have sex with him anymore, just get him another girl and you're all set.

Until your not apposed to just giving him free booty which is always nice but it sometimes makes it diffacult to leave.

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: her209
I'm a lesbian.

this line, believe it or not doesn't work.
you say: "I'm a lesbian"
he hears: "I'm a lesbian but I still like you and the only solution to this problem is a threesome"

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: her209
I'm a lesbian.

this line, believe it or not doesn't work.
you say: "I'm a lesbian"
he hears: "I'm a lesbian but I still like you and the only solution to this problem is a threesome"

Haha, so true.

 

[Thegonagle]

Originally posted by: wolf papa
I suggest a clean break, also. The "just friends" doesn't work, especially if one of the people still has romantic feelings for the other. Maybe, after sufficient time has passed, a friendship is possible, but not now. If you were to suggest that to him now, it would just be leading him on.

My .02

I agree. "Just friends" is something to try only after you've both moved on.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: her209
I'm a lesbian.

this line, believe it or not doesn't work.
you say: "I'm a lesbian"
he hears: "I'm a lesbian but I still like you and the only solution to this problem is a threesome"

And how!

- M4H

 

[pulse8]

It took me a year before I could be friends with my ex.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Dezign
*sigh*



Sorry if I've neglected anyone lately, I've been a little down.

It just isn't going to work. I care about him and I would really, really, really like to stay friends. We were never in love with each other, but... *sigh*

This just sucks.

Peace,
Dezign

Oh and BTW, it's my humble opinion that you're being a typical woman and you want yet another "Male Organ Behind Glass". Ever see the Emergency Fire Extinguishers in the glass cabinet? "IN CASE OF EMERGENCY, BREAK GLASS!"

This way, on the rare night you don't have a date for the big party or maybe your just lonely, you call one of your "friends" to keep you company and maybe if he is lucky, he gets a ride on the Big Fun Time Party Bus.

Not cutting on you in particular. Most younger women are this way.

 

[imported_Tomato]

I don't keep men/"Male Organ Behind Glass" around for booty calls.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[tantos]

Just break it of with him already...sheesh..Is there a nice way to actually dump someone?
Dumping someone natually implies that you don't want to be with him anymore..Just tell him the truth, in the end its better. No BS lines needed.

So you're single now?

 

[Gnurb]

male organ behind glass

LOL!
So true and funny.

 

[imported_Tomato]

I'll be honest, but this is going to suck. This is going to really, really, really suck. I feel like throwing up. He just called me... he misses me, he bought me a Christmas present, he'll see me soon, he can't wait to hold me again, etc. etc.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[ndee]

never in love but still some nookie?