Nicest way to break up with somebody? :(

[imported_Tomato]

*sigh*



Sorry if I've neglected anyone lately, I've been a little down.

It just isn't going to work. I care about him and I would really, really, really like to stay friends. We were never in love with each other, but... *sigh*

This just sucks.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[isekii]

tell em you're a pre-op transexual~..

that'll scare em away nicely~

 

[ohtwell]

Tell him what you just told us. Only do it face to face.


: ( Amanda

 

[isekii]

Originally posted by: isekii
tell em you're a pre-op transexual~..

that'll scare em away nicely~

oh wait..
you're a woman~..

um.. just be honest with him.. then~ i'm sure he'll understand~.. ( he really wont cuz us men dont understand women )

 

[Gulzakar]

Just explain things to him. The difference of love and being in love. The worst thing you could do is to start dating someone immediatly after him. He will use every logical argument to stay together...because he is in love, you must show him that it takes two, not one.

Once its all done, I ask you kindly to give a few months before you start dating again. Make him feel as though he were special and a little difficult to get over.

 

[radioactiveballpoint]

use Homer's method: Welcome to dumpsville, population YOU

 

[BD2003]

Tell him over IM that he should have taken your hints a long time ago?

Sorry, couldnt resist.

 

[richardycc]

Originally posted by: Dezign
*sigh*



Sorry if I've neglected anyone lately, I've been a little down.

It just isn't going to work. I care about him and I would really, really, really like to stay friends. We were never in love with each other, but... *sigh*

This just sucks.

Peace,
Dezign

just tell him "let just stay as bed buddies until one us find true love."


rich

 

[Yeeny]

I agree with ohtwell, your first post says it sufficiently, but in a sweet way. Its obvious you care about him, all you can do is try to convey that as well as possible. Good luck, I hope it goes as easy as possible for you, letting someone down is always so hard to do.

 

[Isla]

Straight up is the best way.

Don't give mixed messages and don't offer any false hope.

Sometimes, you've got to be cruel to be kind...

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Gulzakar
Just explain things to him. The difference of love and being in love. The worst thing you could do is to start dating someone immediatly after him. He will use every logical argument to stay together...because he is in love, you must show him that it takes two, not one.

Once its all done, I ask you kindly to give a few months before you start dating again. Make him feel as though he were special and a little difficult to get over.

I don't think he's in love... well, he might be... but if even if he is, I doubt he'd admit it to me unless I said it first. Which I don't, so I haven't... *sigh*

A few months before I start dating again. I think that's a good idea... take some time to myself again. I haven't gone more than a week without dating anyone since I was 18, but I guess now might be a good time to start. I guess I'll be spending a lot of time alone... most of my friends were his friends, and it might be weird after I break things off.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: GirlFriday
I agree with ohtwell, your first post says it sufficiently, but in a sweet way. Its obvious you care about him, all you can do is try to convey that as well as possible. Good luck, I hope it goes as easy as possible for you, letting someone down is always so hard to do.

Thank you... I just don't even know where to begin. He didn't do anything wrong... it's just that I've been thinking about our situation, and... well, it just won't work. The hardest part is there's no specific reason why...

Straight up is the best way.

Don't give mixed messages and don't offer any false hope.

Sometimes, you've got to be cruel to be kind...

I know, Isla. I want this to be as painless as possible... but I have a feeling it won't happen. No mixed messages... *sigh* I don't want to push him away though... he's been one of few people I could turn to for emotional support (in person, although ATOT has been wonderful) here in LA. The whole situation is rough... I almost wish we'd just stayed friends from the beginning.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[lilFajita]

the nicest way? HONESTY

we often confuse the nicest way with the easiest way. The truth is, if he really likes you, like Gulzakar said, he will find loopholes in any excuses. Just be straightforward with how you feel, and what you expect to happen.

depending on how into you he was, be patient- he might get mad, and he might push you away, but he deserves a little time. Hopefully, if you can give him that respect, he will be able to your friend. I know it must be hard to do something like this when you really care about someone, as it looks like you do.

good luck...

 

[Aquaman]

Basically what all the wise people before me have said. Just tell him the truth and how you feel. Stay single for a while.......... heck your young (Just out of college right?).

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[obiwaynekenobi]

Is there a nice way? Not really. I mean no matter what it's gonna hurt, unless he wants to break things off too.

Honesty is the best policy.

 

[eakers]

just tell him what you said in your first post that you care about him but you feel like the relationship isn't working out.

 

[Ns1]

from the guy's standpoint (i'm pretty sure alot of you share my sentiment)

just break it off with him and never talk to him again

it'll save you both (probably more him) trouble in the long run

It just isn't going to work. I care about him and I would really, really, really like to stay friends.

sorry, just isn't gonna happen

 

[db]

Sorry you have to go thru that. There's no easy way; there's only the least worst way and that's still not painless.
It's not that anyone is a bad person--it just doesn't work, and it's not good for either person for it to continue.

 

[gopunk]

the nicest way has two parts.

first, you find him a slut
second, you never talk to him again

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: gopunk
the nicest way has two parts.

first, you find him a slut
second, you never talk to him again

*shaking head* so... so many comments...

 

[bolido2000]

Just tell me what you said in your first post.
You can probably stay friends with him. I am still friends with my ex. Although I sometimes wonder if I still want her back (its been 6 months since the breakup)

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: Zakath15

Originally posted by: gopunk
the nicest way has two parts.

first, you find him a slut
second, you never talk to him again

*shaking head* so... so many comments...

but you know it's true... the breakup is going to hurt him no matter what... but hey, a little new booty to accompany it magically eases the pain

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: gopunk



but you know it's true... the breakup is going to hurt him no matter what... but hey, a little new booty to accompany it magically eases the pain

lol Way to go.

 

[ragazzo]

tell him the truth, even if it hurts more. at least it's the truth and he'll be able to cope it instead of wondering where things went wrong or whatever.

 

[Moonbeam]

The nicest way, in my opinion is bad news good news, like this. Dear Moonbeam, your girlfriend died, but she was wealthy and left her estate to you.