need seriosu life help please wife and i are splitting up

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Stark

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Originally posted by: clarkey01
Im sorry, it sounds very harsh, when I hear stuff like that It makes me not wanna get married.

it's generally better when you don't live with your parents and have a drinking problem...
 

Chode Messiah

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Originally posted by: Stark
Originally posted by: clarkey01
Im sorry, it sounds very harsh, when I hear stuff like that It makes me not wanna get married.

it's generally better when you don't live with your parents and have a drinking problem...

yeah, who lives wit der parents, no offense, but that might be weird. (sex, privacy, etc.)
 

chiwawa626

Lifer
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Is she a good mother? Would you really be a better father? Sounds like you just want to get back at her.
 

chiwawa626

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Chode Messiah
Originally posted by: Stark
Originally posted by: clarkey01
Im sorry, it sounds very harsh, when I hear stuff like that It makes me not wanna get married.

it's generally better when you don't live with your parents and have a drinking problem...

yeah, who lives wit der parents, no offense, but that might be weird. (sex, privacy, etc.)

Could be why the mairrage sucks. Some women still do view life with men being the providers, if a man lives in his parents' house that might really kill the idea of having your own life togather, married.
 

Apathetic

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1) Sober up.
2) Find a good lawyer and give him copies of all the "evidence" your friend gave you.

Dave
 

Mo0o

Lifer
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Getting drunk is definitely not the best way to make your case for custody.
 
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Originally posted by: clarkey01
Sounds like it blows, f*ck getting married.

That's why marriage is like a tornado. It start with a lot of sucking and blowing, but in the end you loose everything you own.
 

rudder

Lifer
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lets the kids go with her. Hell you don't seem to care and want your parents to take them. I would leave my spouse if I had to live with the in-laws.
 

iwantanewcomputer

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hahaha good thread. maybe you should get her drunk and "make up with her" and then kick her out of the house.

seriously though, sober up and get a lawyer
 

CVSiN

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you know most wives and girlfriends dont like living in your parents house....
maybe your friend has his own place.


how the hell do you get married then live under mommies roof...

yeh that will work real well.
 

nick1985

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"Also reciently found out shes been trying to hook up with a good friend of mine at least he sent me the emails and aims shes been having with him and he even recorded the phone calls and gave me the tapes nothing physical has happened but he is atleast 100%honest with me so i know this is over bet heres what i am gonna do to this point she wants 2 weeks to leave f that shes out in 14hours update later."


the worlds longest sentence.
 

KingPhil

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Stealing your kids away is not the best idea........

1- get your own house. I'm sure she isn't thrilled about having to live with your parents...

2- get a councelor / mediator.

3- never fight in front of the kids.

(how old are the kids anyways???)

4- keep all of that stuff your buddy gave you, so you can try to make yourself look more "fit" as a parent when it comes to court.

5- I wouldn't be hiding the kids, she might call the poe poe on you for that one. Kinda like kidnapping.
 

djheater

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Originally posted by: cjgallen
No child deserves a father who posts on the internet drunk.

Hey now...

Let's not be rash.


Don't take the kids from daycare. That's abduction and will not look good for you.
 

Alex

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Originally posted by: stnicralisk
1. Move out of your parents house.
2. Do NOT kidnap your own children, itll just make things harsher when you go to court for custody.
3. Get sober you need to think - especially since youre posting here for advice.
4. Call a lawyer.

 

gigapet

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how do you have kids, living with your parents still. grow up.

that being said why did you get married in the first place....did you thin kthey were joking when they said "most marriages end in divorce"

sorry dood but reality is the wife usually always gets custody unless you can prove they are unfit to raise the kids or that you can provide a significantly better lifestyle for them. From the sounds of it....living with your parents is going to be a hard argument in family court.

You are also fvcked financially for the next 18 years.

Welcome to hell on earth



<<<<<<<<SINGLE FOR LIFE.......... or at least a long time
 

Fritzo

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I would let her take the kids and go take a couple of English courses at the local community college :confused:

Anyway, you're married and living with your parents. Sounds like things are going well. You might want to let her go, get yourself situated with a decent job (or a decent education and then a decent job), then try making a family again.
 

ZOOYUKA

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What a man...posting on the ATOT that he is going to kick his wife out of his parents house. I wouldn't be suprised if he gets his mommy to ask her to leave.
 

sixone

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Originally posted by: KingPhil
Stealing your kids away is not the best idea........

1- get your own house. I'm sure she isn't thrilled about having to live with your parents...

2- get a councelor / mediator.

3- never fight in front of the kids.

(how old are the kids anyways???)

4- keep all of that stuff your buddy gave you, so you can try to make yourself look more "fit" as a parent when it comes to court.

5- I wouldn't be hiding the kids, she might call the poe poe on you for that one. Kinda like kidnapping.

6- Format your computer so that this hair-brained idea doesn't get used against you in court. Dumbass.