Need advice concerning a nice girl I know.

[fbrdphreak]

Originally posted by: SMOGZINN

Originally posted by: bobbybe01

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
The question on my mind, is that where should next date be ? How far should I push on the fanciness button ? Also we all know the more you push the fanciness button the expense indicator shoots through the roof, so can someone give me an example of what would be suitable for this date?

Please avoid the fanciness business on the first date. This isn't the time for it--and she hasn't earned it yet.

Where's a good place for a 2nd date? A place that is sort of interactive where you can talk but there are enough "fillers" where you don't have to talk every single second. I tend to discourage dinners are second dates, unless it's a quick bite to eat. Maybe bowling, or a movie (if it's followed by a dinner or dessert). But I think bowling would be fun...it's not too "serious" but it's fun...and that's the goal for the first date.

I mean I do want to show her that I admire her

Whoa, whoa...settle down, Beavis. You don't need to show her that, yet. That's several dates down the road.

The fact that you are taking her out (by spending your time and a little money) should show her darn well that you admire her. Just treat her like a gentleman: open her doors and stuff like that...laugh at her jokes and compliment sparinly (they should have meaning--don't overdo it).

Don't get knocked head over heels about this girl...that's all she is...just a girl. She sleeps, drools, farts, poops, and gets headaches just like you and and everyone else. She probably doesn't want that much admiration just yet--unless you can build a foundation for that.

and want her to be surprised to where I am going to take her, but how high of a bill should I foot (reasonably) ?

Look--for a second date I discourage going over $40 period. If you're creative enough you can even keep it under $30. Of course, that's on my college student budget...but DON'T OVERDO IT.

The more $$$ you spend does not mean the date will be "better" or that she'll like you more--that's almost like prostitution. Just be reasonable.

Look at this date in terms of how you view things more than her. Of course you want her to be relaxed and you want her to enjoy herself. But look and see if she impresses you, not the other way around.

**Another tip: Don't agree with everything she says. I'm not telling you to be rude, but have an opinion on things. You don't have to get into huge debates over first dates. If she likes Burger King (and you really don't) -- then tell her. She seems to like you so far. Just be yourself, and be proud. [edit: changed 1st to 2nd dates].

A lot of what he said is good advice, but I would like to point out one thing, this advice is for a collage student. I would feel embaressed to take a woman out on a $40 date, I don't think much about spending that at lunch. You should spend what is comfortable for you, based on your income and lifestyle.
I agree that you should find a date location that has something to do or give a natural conversation, but you need to pick what that is based on your interests.
The whole point of a date is to get to know each other, to do that you need to show her some of who you are.

Listen to these guys, the advice is golden.

And yes you need to chill. You won't hear official confirmation from her that she feels the same way about you for several dates, maybe longer. You don't want to start talking serious junk for a while. Just have fun with her. She likes you, you are "in" as so many others have said. Whether its meant to be or not is determined on the dates, not before. You have to spend time with a person to get to know them to see if it will work. This is why you have to tell her if you hate Burger King or whatever. Don't go along with everything she says 'cuz you want her to like you, if that happens you will probably end up unhappy with her at some point. Just be yourself and be true to yourself 🙂

Just get some good plans together and call her early to mid next week to set them up as we have all recommended. You could even call her Jan 1-2 to ask how her New Years was, to show her you had been thinking of her. You don't necessarily have to discuss plans on that phone call. I would call her Jan 1-2 and ask how New Years was. Tell her you are figuring some plans out for the weekend and will call her in a couple days to discuss, or something along those lines. Then call her like Wed-Thurs and talk plans.
What do you all think?

I understand your anxiety in all this, been there done that many times. Just try to take it easy and don't rush it. If it is meant to be it will happen in due time. Just go out and have fun with the girl 🙂 Time will tell all my friend

 

[step-dawg]

I think BD2003 nailed it. Especially this part:

Originally posted by: BD2003

Women will ALWAYS tell you "they don't want a relationship". This is code word for I don't want a relationship YET because I DONT KNOW YOU. If you are worth her time, she WILL have a relationship with you.

The main point is you seriously have to STOP overanalyzing everything. I used to fall in the same trap. It is honestly the most simple situation every single time. "You are good enough, youre strong enough and doggone it, people like you!" There has to be no question in your mind you are worth her time, and she will recognize it. After that, the rest is cake.

Now about all the planning and scheming, it's never gonna work out like you imagine it will in your head. I mean, you do want to put thought into planning this date, but don't overdo it. good luck.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: step-dawg
I think BD2003 nailed it. Especially this part:

Originally posted by: BD2003

Women will ALWAYS tell you "they don't want a relationship". This is code word for I don't want a relationship YET because I DONT KNOW YOU. If you are worth her time, she WILL have a relationship with you.

The main point is you seriously have to STOP overanalyzing everything. I used to fall in the same trap. It is honestly the most simple situation every single time. "You are good enough, youre strong enough and doggone it, people like you!" There has to be no question in your mind you are worth her time, and she will recognize it. After that, the rest is cake.

Now about all the planning and scheming, it's never gonna work out like you imagine it will in your head. I mean, you do want to put thought into planning this date, but don't overdo it. good luck.

I think this strikes the middle chord about how it should be, that's true I do realize that I am overplaning which is exhausting me. I also need to fill some missing info for you guys here :

- Me and her are working Saturday from 9 o'clock in the morning till maybe 1 o'clock afternoon, she has then to take of her 2nd job and stay till 5-6 PM
- TODAY we are not working at the office, but maybe she is working this after noon at her Job.
- I have talked to her yesterday at work at the end of the shift "So what have YOU (I kind of emphasized the you to bring it to her attenrion that this is isn't a casual question) been up to lately ?"

She " Nothing really, why you ask ? "
Me : Mhhh I don't know ?
She : Are you ok (mild smiley) ?
Me : Oh ya I am ok, it's just that it has been borring lately this break that's all 😉. <----- That would have been a perfect time to ask her out, but for some reason I didn't plan that conversation, I only asked her that to see, if she is going to say "Ya I have been pretty busy lately" meaning well I don't really have much time for you now. OR "Well not much" meaning : Ask me out I am borred!

I wish I can ask her out tonight, I mean she might be at work, or she might not be expecting it and would feel confused about it. OK I know here we go again with overplaning but hey this isn't really planing just logical steps.

Let me get a general idea here , How many of you think it would be a good idea to call her today so we can go out tonight ?
I mean it's only around noon here and it would give her enough time to prepare , but since she is saying that she is pretty "much eating and sleeping " as she told me, then I guess there is a good chance that she might be available.

I am thinking some thing liek "I have heared that XXX is a nice movie and wanted to know if you would like to go out and watch it together, maybe kick that bordem away for ya 😀"

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: step-dawg
I think BD2003 nailed it. Especially this part:

Originally posted by: BD2003

Women will ALWAYS tell you "they don't want a relationship". This is code word for I don't want a relationship YET because I DONT KNOW YOU. If you are worth her time, she WILL have a relationship with you.

The main point is you seriously have to STOP overanalyzing everything. I used to fall in the same trap. It is honestly the most simple situation every single time. "You are good enough, youre strong enough and doggone it, people like you!" There has to be no question in your mind you are worth her time, and she will recognize it. After that, the rest is cake.

Now about all the planning and scheming, it's never gonna work out like you imagine it will in your head. I mean, you do want to put thought into planning this date, but don't overdo it. good luck.

Exactly! It will NEVER EVER EVER work out as you planned it. The reason why confident guys get the girls is not because confidence is some magic trait that girls are searching for. That is what the people who dont get it think. Confident guys get the girls because they dont go by a plan. Because they dont need a plan. And ANYONE can do this!

Do you want her to like you for you? Then you have to be yourself! If she doesnt like who you are, then its not going to be the relationship for you anyway.

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: step-dawg
I think BD2003 nailed it. Especially this part:

Originally posted by: BD2003

Women will ALWAYS tell you "they don't want a relationship". This is code word for I don't want a relationship YET because I DONT KNOW YOU. If you are worth her time, she WILL have a relationship with you.

The main point is you seriously have to STOP overanalyzing everything. I used to fall in the same trap. It is honestly the most simple situation every single time. "You are good enough, youre strong enough and doggone it, people like you!" There has to be no question in your mind you are worth her time, and she will recognize it. After that, the rest is cake.

Now about all the planning and scheming, it's never gonna work out like you imagine it will in your head. I mean, you do want to put thought into planning this date, but don't overdo it. good luck.

I think this strikes the middle chord about how it should be, that's true I do realize that I am overplaning which is exhausting me. I also need to fill some missing info for you guys here :

- Me and her are working Saturday from 9 o'clock in the morning till maybe 1 o'clock afternoon, she has then to take of her 2nd job and stay till 5-6 PM
- TODAY we are not working at the office, but maybe she is working this after noon at her Job.
- I have talked to her yesterday at work at the end of the shift "So what have YOU (I kind of emphasized the you to bring it to her attenrion that this is isn't a casual question) been up to lately ?"

She " Nothing really, why you ask ? "
Me : Mhhh I don't know ?
She : Are you ok (mild smiley) ?
Me : Oh ya I am ok, it's just that it has been borring lately this break that's all 😉. <----- That would have been a perfect time to ask her out, but for some reason I didn't plan that conversation, I only asked her that to see, if she is going to say "Ya I have been pretty busy lately" meaning well I don't really have much time for you now. OR "Well not much" meaning : Ask me out I am borred!

I wish I can ask her out tonight, I mean she might be at work, or she might not be expecting it and would feel confused about it. OK I know here we go again with overplaning but hey this isn't really planing just logical steps.

Let me get a general idea here , How many of you think it would be a good idea to call her today so we can go out tonight ?
I mean it's only around noon here and it would give her enough time to prepare , but since she is saying that she is pretty "much eating and sleeping " as she told me, then I guess there is a good chance that she might be available.

CALL HER. The only thing you need to plan is "hey how ya doin?" and think of a good place to eat. "Feel like grabbing a bite to eat after work?" Done! STOP PLANNING CONVERSATIONS!

Heh this is so funny. I was talking to my friend a while back about the same thing. He was overanalyzing every sentence. Thinking of the right time to call her. She was saying the exact same things your girl is.

She " Nothing really, why you ask ? "
Me : Mhhh I don't know ?
She : Are you ok (mild smiley) ?
Me : Oh ya I am ok, it's just that it has been borring lately this break that's all 😉

I swear to god this is female code for "ASK ME OUT NOW YOU PUSSY". She wants you so bad. But YOU HAVE TO GO GET HER.

I will give you a dollar paypal if you call her up and ask her out RIGHT NOW! 😉

 

[fbrdphreak]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
- Me and her are working Saturday from 9 o'clock in the morning till maybe 1 o'clock afternoon, she has then to take of her 2nd job and stay till 5-6 PM
- TODAY we are not working at the office, but maybe she is working this after noon at her Job.
- I have talked to her yesterday at work at the end of the shift "So what have YOU (I kind of emphasized the you to bring it to her attenrion that this is isn't a casual question) been up to lately ?"

She " Nothing really, why you ask ? "
Me : Mhhh I don't know ?
She : Are you ok (mild smiley) ?
Me : Oh ya I am ok, it's just that it has been borring lately this break that's all 😉. <----- That would have been a perfect time to ask her out, but for some reason I didn't plan that conversation, I only asked her that to see, if she is going to say "Ya I have been pretty busy lately" meaning well I don't really have much time for you now. OR "Well not much" meaning : Ask me out I am borred!

I wish I can ask her out tonight, I mean she might be at work, or she might not be expecting it and would feel confused about it. OK I know here we go again with overplaning but hey this isn't really planing just logical steps.

Let me get a general idea here , How many of you think it would be a good idea to call her today so we can go out tonight ?
I mean it's only around noon here and it would give her enough time to prepare , but since she is saying that she is pretty "much eating and sleeping " as she told me, then I guess there is a good chance that she might be available.

I am thinking some thing liek "I have heared that XXX is a nice movie and wanted to know if you would like to go out and watch it together, maybe kick that bordem away for ya 😀"

I dunno dude, I think it might be a little quick. You asked about New Years didn't you, and she said she had plans. I think if she wanted to get together before then she'd have asked then. When was your coffee date thingie? If the coffee date thingie was less than 48 hours ago, I would not try to go out w/her tonight; its a wee bit too soon.

I know you're excited but you just need to chill and take it steady; not slow, but steady 😉 I say stick with your original plan of getting up w/her to set plans for next weekend. If you want to pussyfoot around and see if she is looking for something to do tonight, I guess that can't hurt much; I just wouldn't push it personally 😉

 

[fbrdphreak]

Originally posted by: BD2003
CALL HER. The only thing you need to plan is "hey how ya doin?" and think of a good place to eat. "Feel like grabbing a bite to eat after work?" Done! STOP PLANNING CONVERSATIONS!

Also good advice. If you're going to try to get up w/her tonight, do it like this 😉

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
- Me and her are working Saturday from 9 o'clock in the morning till maybe 1 o'clock afternoon, she has then to take of her 2nd job and stay till 5-6 PM
- TODAY we are not working at the office, but maybe she is working this after noon at her Job.
- I have talked to her yesterday at work at the end of the shift "So what have YOU (I kind of emphasized the you to bring it to her attenrion that this is isn't a casual question) been up to lately ?"

She " Nothing really, why you ask ? "
Me : Mhhh I don't know ?
She : Are you ok (mild smiley) ?
Me : Oh ya I am ok, it's just that it has been borring lately this break that's all 😉. <----- That would have been a perfect time to ask her out, but for some reason I didn't plan that conversation, I only asked her that to see, if she is going to say "Ya I have been pretty busy lately" meaning well I don't really have much time for you now. OR "Well not much" meaning : Ask me out I am borred!

I wish I can ask her out tonight, I mean she might be at work, or she might not be expecting it and would feel confused about it. OK I know here we go again with overplaning but hey this isn't really planing just logical steps.

Let me get a general idea here , How many of you think it would be a good idea to call her today so we can go out tonight ?
I mean it's only around noon here and it would give her enough time to prepare , but since she is saying that she is pretty "much eating and sleeping " as she told me, then I guess there is a good chance that she might be available.

I am thinking some thing liek "I have heared that XXX is a nice movie and wanted to know if you would like to go out and watch it together, maybe kick that bordem away for ya 😀"

I dunno dude, I think it might be a little quick. You asked about New Years didn't you, and she said she had plans. I think if she wanted to get together before then she'd have asked then. When was your coffee date thingie? If the coffee date thingie was less than 48 hours ago, I would not try to go out w/her tonight; its a wee bit too soon.

I know you're excited but you just need to chill and take it steady; not slow, but steady 😉 I say stick with your original plan of getting up w/her to set plans for next weekend. If you want to pussyfoot around and see if she is looking for something to do tonight, I guess that can't hurt much; I just wouldn't push it personally 😉

The cofee thingie was WED morning , I had plans to ask her out next week maybe MON-TUE but I had a wild thought, well you know how crazy new year's eve parties can be and what kind of ppl you could meet in a new year's eve party, I would want to feel safe about geting her attention now before someone else does that, SO I thought a quick night out in the town would assure her that I mean business, because to be honest I don't think the coffee thingie was anything other than just checking pulse that's all.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak

Originally posted by: BD2003
CALL HER. The only thing you need to plan is "hey how ya doin?" and think of a good place to eat. "Feel like grabbing a bite to eat after work?" Done! STOP PLANNING CONVERSATIONS!

Also good advice. If you're going to try to get up w/her tonight, do it like this 😉

Well I wouldn't call it a good advice becasue today niether I or her are working at the office, that's why it won't work.

 

[fbrdphreak]

Hmmm, it is a Friday night

What the hell, go for it dude 🙂 But just do it like BD2003 described. Quick phone call/convo in person, ask if she feels like grabbing a bite to eat or doing whatever with you. Make it something simple, easy, and neutral. Go out, have fun, and see where it goes! Maybe she'll invite you to her new years thing 😉

BTW, if you think she is the kind of girl who would go to a new years eve party and hook up w/someone & forget about you, then this is not a girl you need to be having this much stress over. I stressed over a girl like that in high school and it was a complete & utter waste of my time. That said, if things go well tonight you should feel very good about things 🙂

 

[BD2003]

I will give you TWO DOLLARS 😛 (I swear to god!) if you ask her out for tonight! It doesnt even have to be a full fledged "date". Just get the damn girl on the other side of a table tonight!

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: BD2003
I will give you TWO DOLLARS 😛 (I swear to god!) if you ask her out for tonight! It doesnt even have to be a full fledged "date". Just get the damn girl on the other side of a table tonight!

That doesn't add up 🙂P followed by "I swear to God"), do you have my paypal account address ? 😛
I mean tonight is Friday, tomorrow me and her are pretty busy with work and new year's stuff, and fbrd no she isn't that type of girl that would hook up with someone at a party without knowing them, though what I meant new year's paty can be pretty emotional you know, it's easy to strike a chord with a lonely girl in such a time 😉

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003
I will give you TWO DOLLARS 😛 (I swear to god!) if you ask her out for tonight! It doesnt even have to be a full fledged "date". Just get the damn girl on the other side of a table tonight!

That doesn't add up 🙂P followed by "I swear to God"), do you have my paypal account address ? 😛
I mean tonight is Friday, tomorrow me and her are pretty busy with work and new year's stuff, and fbrd no she isn't that type of girl that would hook up with someone at a party without knowing them, though what I meant new year's paty can be pretty emotional you know, it's easy to strike a chord with a lonely girl in such a time 😉

You ask her out. You come back here and tell me you are going out tonight. You give me your paypal address and I will send you the two dollars. Simple.

Stop making excuses and just do it already!

 

[fbrdphreak]

Well whether you two are at work today or not, I think you should get up with her. Dunno what time zone you are in, but make sure to give her plenty of time. If she wants to go, she'll need time to get ready. Keep in mind that when guys go out on a date, they may spend a wee bit of time getting dressed and leaving on time. Girls put LOTS of time and attention into every detail from shoes to hair to teeth to boobs: they need time to get ready 😉

So depending what time it is where you are, you might wanna call soon 'cuz it is after 2pm on the east coast here 😉

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003
I will give you TWO DOLLARS 😛 (I swear to god!) if you ask her out for tonight! It doesnt even have to be a full fledged "date". Just get the damn girl on the other side of a table tonight!

That doesn't add up 🙂P followed by "I swear to God"), do you have my paypal account address ? 😛
I mean tonight is Friday, tomorrow me and her are pretty busy with work and new year's stuff, and fbrd no she isn't that type of girl that would hook up with someone at a party without knowing them, though what I meant new year's paty can be pretty emotional you know, it's easy to strike a chord with a lonely girl in such a time 😉

You ask her out. You come back here and tell me you are going out tonight. You give me your paypal address and I will send you the two dollars. Simple.

Stop making excuses and just do it already!

OK so I was thinking taking her out to AppleBee's , I for one never went to one (never had an ocassion to go to one) that's I mean one option, so I was thinking of telling her the following :

" Hi XXXXXXX , how are you doing ? I was thinking about how borred we were yesterday and thought I would invite you to have dinner with me tonight at XXXX restauraunt. Would you be intrested in that ?"

Does that sound good ?

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003
I will give you TWO DOLLARS 😛 (I swear to god!) if you ask her out for tonight! It doesnt even have to be a full fledged "date". Just get the damn girl on the other side of a table tonight!

That doesn't add up 🙂P followed by "I swear to God"), do you have my paypal account address ? 😛
I mean tonight is Friday, tomorrow me and her are pretty busy with work and new year's stuff, and fbrd no she isn't that type of girl that would hook up with someone at a party without knowing them, though what I meant new year's paty can be pretty emotional you know, it's easy to strike a chord with a lonely girl in such a time 😉

You ask her out. You come back here and tell me you are going out tonight. You give me your paypal address and I will send you the two dollars. Simple.

Stop making excuses and just do it already!

OK so I was thinking taking her out to AppleBee's , I for one never went to one (never had an ocassion to go to one) that's I mean one option, so I was thinking of telling her the following :

" Hi XXXXXXX , how are you doing ? I was thinking about how borred we were yesterday and thought I would invite you to have dinner with me tonight at XXXX restauraunt. Would you be intrested in that ?"

Does that sound good ?

Applebees is PERFECT. Hey how ya doin. Small chat blah blah blah. How's your day treating you blah blah blah.

Here is the important part. Ask her out like this:

"You should come out to dinner with me tonight. 🙂" Do NOT ask her if she is free first. Do NOT ask her if its ok if you ask her out. Do not ask her if she thinks it would be a good idea if you guys did something tonight. All of that is pussyfooting. Be direct. Be clear in your words that you know she wants to go out with you.

If she says she has other plans then say "Aww thats too bad. How about another night? " She WILL say "Sure!" Ask her when she's free. etc

Then just chat with her a little longer. Then great see ya tonight! Bye!

 

[fbrdphreak]

Don't ask her if she will be interested in it. If you want a script, here is what I would say:

"Hey, how's it going? I was going out to dinner tonight and wanted to know if you'd like to come with me. I was thinking Applebee's but I'm open to suggestions"

If you ask if she's interested, it doesn't show that you are confident she will be interested 😉 That and it makes you sound like a salesman 😛

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003
I will give you TWO DOLLARS 😛 (I swear to god!) if you ask her out for tonight! It doesnt even have to be a full fledged "date". Just get the damn girl on the other side of a table tonight!

That doesn't add up 🙂P followed by "I swear to God"), do you have my paypal account address ? 😛
I mean tonight is Friday, tomorrow me and her are pretty busy with work and new year's stuff, and fbrd no she isn't that type of girl that would hook up with someone at a party without knowing them, though what I meant new year's paty can be pretty emotional you know, it's easy to strike a chord with a lonely girl in such a time 😉

You ask her out. You come back here and tell me you are going out tonight. You give me your paypal address and I will send you the two dollars. Simple.

Stop making excuses and just do it already!

OK so I was thinking taking her out to AppleBee's , I for one never went to one (never had an ocassion to go to one) that's I mean one option, so I was thinking of telling her the following :

" Hi XXXXXXX , how are you doing ? I was thinking about how borred we were yesterday and thought I would invite you to have dinner with me tonight at XXXX restauraunt. Would you be intrested in that ?"

Does that sound good ?

Applebees is PERFECT. Hey how ya doin. Small chat blah blah blah. How's your day treating you blah blah blah.

Here is the important part. Ask her out like this:

"You should come out to dinner with me tonight. 🙂" Do NOT ask her if she is free first. Do NOT ask her if its ok if you ask her out. Do not ask her if she thinks it would be a good idea if you guys did something tonight. All of that is pussyfooting. Be direct. Be clear in your words that you know she wants to go out with you.

If she says she has other plans then say "Aww thats too bad. How about another night? " She WILL say "Sure!" Ask her when she's free. etc

Then just chat with her a little longer. Then great see ya tonight! Bye!

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Don't ask her if she will be interested in it. If you want a script, here is what I would say:

"Hey, how's it going? I was going out to dinner tonight and wanted to know if you'd like to come with me. I was thinking Applebee's but I'm open to suggestions"

If you ask if she's interested, it doesn't show that you are confident she will be interested 😉 That and it makes you sound like a salesman 😛

"pussyfooting" & "salesman" does it get any better ? :laugh:

OK the adjusted conv would be like :
"Hi XXXXX, how are you doing ? Listen I am heading to this XXXX for dinner and thought it would be a geat idea if I invite you to join me, want to come ? :evil:

 

[fbrdphreak]

Originally posted by: BD2003
Applebees is PERFECT. Hey how ya doin. Small chat blah blah blah. How's your day treating you blah blah blah.

Here is the important part. Ask her out like this:

"You should come out to dinner with me tonight. 🙂" Do NOT ask her if she is free first. Do NOT ask her if its ok if you ask her out. Do not ask her if she thinks it would be a good idea if you guys did something tonight. All of that is pussyfooting. Be direct. Be clear in your words that you know she wants to go out with you.

If she says she has other plans then say "Aww thats too bad. How about another night? " She WILL say "Sure!" Ask her when she's free. etc

Then just chat with her a little longer. Then great see ya tonight! Bye!

This guy is good :thumbsup: I'd be taking notes if I didn't have a gf of 4 years, haha

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003
I will give you TWO DOLLARS 😛 (I swear to god!) if you ask her out for tonight! It doesnt even have to be a full fledged "date". Just get the damn girl on the other side of a table tonight!

That doesn't add up 🙂P followed by "I swear to God"), do you have my paypal account address ? 😛
I mean tonight is Friday, tomorrow me and her are pretty busy with work and new year's stuff, and fbrd no she isn't that type of girl that would hook up with someone at a party without knowing them, though what I meant new year's paty can be pretty emotional you know, it's easy to strike a chord with a lonely girl in such a time 😉

You ask her out. You come back here and tell me you are going out tonight. You give me your paypal address and I will send you the two dollars. Simple.

Stop making excuses and just do it already!

OK so I was thinking taking her out to AppleBee's , I for one never went to one (never had an ocassion to go to one) that's I mean one option, so I was thinking of telling her the following :

" Hi XXXXXXX , how are you doing ? I was thinking about how borred we were yesterday and thought I would invite you to have dinner with me tonight at XXXX restauraunt. Would you be intrested in that ?"

Does that sound good ?

Applebees is PERFECT. Hey how ya doin. Small chat blah blah blah. How's your day treating you blah blah blah.

Here is the important part. Ask her out like this:

"You should come out to dinner with me tonight. 🙂" Do NOT ask her if she is free first. Do NOT ask her if its ok if you ask her out. Do not ask her if she thinks it would be a good idea if you guys did something tonight. All of that is pussyfooting. Be direct. Be clear in your words that you know she wants to go out with you.

If she says she has other plans then say "Aww thats too bad. How about another night? " She WILL say "Sure!" Ask her when she's free. etc

Then just chat with her a little longer. Then great see ya tonight! Bye!

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Don't ask her if she will be interested in it. If you want a script, here is what I would say:

"Hey, how's it going? I was going out to dinner tonight and wanted to know if you'd like to come with me. I was thinking Applebee's but I'm open to suggestions"

If you ask if she's interested, it doesn't show that you are confident she will be interested 😉 That and it makes you sound like a salesman 😛

"pussyfooting" & "salesman" does it get any better ? :laugh:

OK the adjusted conv would be like :
"Hi XXXXX, how are you doing ? Listen I am heading to this XXXX for dinner and thought it would be a geat idea if I invite you to join me, want to come ? :evil:

Do it EXACTLY as I said! "You should come out to dinner with me tonight. 🙂" Unless she is doing something, she WILL say yes. Say it with a smile on your face! Not with a "oh my god please say yes" look on your face. She can hear the smile on the other end, trust me. "Hows applebees?" She will say its fine, because she doesnt care where youre eating, as long as youre there eating with her.

Go walk around wherever you are afterwards and have a nice conversation. Get some coffee later in the night. It does not matter if you have work tomorrow. Then if the date went well (which it will) KISS HER GOODNIGHT!

 

[fbrdphreak]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator
OK the adjusted conv would be like :
"Hi XXXXX, how are you doing ? Listen I am heading to this XXXX for dinner and thought it would be a geat idea if I invite you to join me, want to come ? :evil:

Take out the "if I invite you part."

"...and it would be great if you would join me."

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003
I will give you TWO DOLLARS 😛 (I swear to god!) if you ask her out for tonight! It doesnt even have to be a full fledged "date". Just get the damn girl on the other side of a table tonight!

That doesn't add up 🙂P followed by "I swear to God"), do you have my paypal account address ? 😛
I mean tonight is Friday, tomorrow me and her are pretty busy with work and new year's stuff, and fbrd no she isn't that type of girl that would hook up with someone at a party without knowing them, though what I meant new year's paty can be pretty emotional you know, it's easy to strike a chord with a lonely girl in such a time 😉

You ask her out. You come back here and tell me you are going out tonight. You give me your paypal address and I will send you the two dollars. Simple.

Stop making excuses and just do it already!

OK so I was thinking taking her out to AppleBee's , I for one never went to one (never had an ocassion to go to one) that's I mean one option, so I was thinking of telling her the following :

" Hi XXXXXXX , how are you doing ? I was thinking about how borred we were yesterday and thought I would invite you to have dinner with me tonight at XXXX restauraunt. Would you be intrested in that ?"

Does that sound good ?

Applebees is PERFECT. Hey how ya doin. Small chat blah blah blah. How's your day treating you blah blah blah.

Here is the important part. Ask her out like this:

"You should come out to dinner with me tonight. 🙂" Do NOT ask her if she is free first. Do NOT ask her if its ok if you ask her out. Do not ask her if she thinks it would be a good idea if you guys did something tonight. All of that is pussyfooting. Be direct. Be clear in your words that you know she wants to go out with you.

If she says she has other plans then say "Aww thats too bad. How about another night? " She WILL say "Sure!" Ask her when she's free. etc

Then just chat with her a little longer. Then great see ya tonight! Bye!

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Don't ask her if she will be interested in it. If you want a script, here is what I would say:

"Hey, how's it going? I was going out to dinner tonight and wanted to know if you'd like to come with me. I was thinking Applebee's but I'm open to suggestions"

If you ask if she's interested, it doesn't show that you are confident she will be interested 😉 That and it makes you sound like a salesman 😛

"pussyfooting" & "salesman" does it get any better ? :laugh:

OK the adjusted conv would be like :
"Hi XXXXX, how are you doing ? Listen I am heading to this XXXX for dinner and thought it would be a geat idea if I invite you to join me, want to come ? :evil:

Do it EXACTLY as I said! "You should come out to dinner with me tonight. 🙂" Say it with a smile on your face! Not with a "oh my god please say yes" look on your face. She can hear the smile on the other end, trust me.

OK since I have TWO DOLLARS TO EARN FROM YOU 😛 I guess I will see how your method goes so let's look at this :
"Hi XXXX, How are you doing ? Listen you should come out to dinner with me tonight, I am going to this AppleBee's and I am sure you will like it.

 

[fbrdphreak]

I would stay open on the actual dinner place. You want to be firm about her coming out with you, doesn't matter where does it? 😉 Some women have very strong feelings about where they eat if they've had a bad experience there; or so say my gf who will never eat at Chili's or Applebee's, LOL

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
I would stay open on the actual dinner place. You want to be firm about her coming out with you, doesn't matter where does it? 😉 Some women have very strong feelings about where they eat if they've had a bad experience there; or so say my gf who will never eat at Chili's or Applebee's, LOL

I guess I am calling her in 5 minutes , :slaps himself to get rid of any remaining pussyfooting 😛;

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: BD2003
I will give you TWO DOLLARS 😛 (I swear to god!) if you ask her out for tonight! It doesnt even have to be a full fledged "date". Just get the damn girl on the other side of a table tonight!

That doesn't add up 🙂P followed by "I swear to God"), do you have my paypal account address ? 😛
I mean tonight is Friday, tomorrow me and her are pretty busy with work and new year's stuff, and fbrd no she isn't that type of girl that would hook up with someone at a party without knowing them, though what I meant new year's paty can be pretty emotional you know, it's easy to strike a chord with a lonely girl in such a time 😉

You ask her out. You come back here and tell me you are going out tonight. You give me your paypal address and I will send you the two dollars. Simple.

Stop making excuses and just do it already!

OK so I was thinking taking her out to AppleBee's , I for one never went to one (never had an ocassion to go to one) that's I mean one option, so I was thinking of telling her the following :

" Hi XXXXXXX , how are you doing ? I was thinking about how borred we were yesterday and thought I would invite you to have dinner with me tonight at XXXX restauraunt. Would you be intrested in that ?"

Does that sound good ?

Applebees is PERFECT. Hey how ya doin. Small chat blah blah blah. How's your day treating you blah blah blah.

Here is the important part. Ask her out like this:

"You should come out to dinner with me tonight. 🙂" Do NOT ask her if she is free first. Do NOT ask her if its ok if you ask her out. Do not ask her if she thinks it would be a good idea if you guys did something tonight. All of that is pussyfooting. Be direct. Be clear in your words that you know she wants to go out with you.

If she says she has other plans then say "Aww thats too bad. How about another night? " She WILL say "Sure!" Ask her when she's free. etc

Then just chat with her a little longer. Then great see ya tonight! Bye!

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Don't ask her if she will be interested in it. If you want a script, here is what I would say:

"Hey, how's it going? I was going out to dinner tonight and wanted to know if you'd like to come with me. I was thinking Applebee's but I'm open to suggestions"

If you ask if she's interested, it doesn't show that you are confident she will be interested 😉 That and it makes you sound like a salesman 😛

"pussyfooting" & "salesman" does it get any better ? :laugh:

OK the adjusted conv would be like :
"Hi XXXXX, how are you doing ? Listen I am heading to this XXXX for dinner and thought it would be a geat idea if I invite you to join me, want to come ? :evil:

Do it EXACTLY as I said! "You should come out to dinner with me tonight. 🙂" Say it with a smile on your face! Not with a "oh my god please say yes" look on your face. She can hear the smile on the other end, trust me.

OK since I have TWO DOLLARS TO EARN FROM YOU 😛 I guess I will see how your method goes so let's look at this :
"Hi XXXX, How are you doing ? Listen you should come out to dinner with me tonight, I am going to this AppleBee's and I am sure you will like it.

Too long winded. It sounds canned and planned. You CAN NOT PLAN THIS! Dont give her such a long sentence that she has time to think that youre asking her out while youre still speaking!

Just ask her out, plain and simple. Do not use the word IF at any point. This isnt a conditional statement. You are not asking her out IF anything. Just ask her out!

Dont mention where youre going, how youre going, how youre getting there ANYTHING until you have asked her out. TRUST ME, there is no better way to do it then "You should come out to dinner tonight. 🙂"

Don't tell her to listen, she is already listening. The fact that she's going with you, that youre invited, and that you are actually going to a physical place to eat is ALL IMPLIED. Deal with that AFTER you've asked her!

Call her up, chat her up a bit, then just spring out with it. Dont just call her up and start reading from a script.

Let me put it this way: You don't want to *ask* her if she wants to come out with you, rather, you want to TELL her that YOU WANT her to come out with you!