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SmoochyTX

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Originally posted by: TridenTBoy3555
Because... It isn't, and I am going to explode in anger/sadness eventually.

I don't know what to do, and I hate my life... blog.anandtech.com

Parents showed me the house they are most likely getting. (They are 100% confident; if there is a god they would fucking not get my parents this house) So, me being the optimistic person goes to the house thinking, "Hmm, this will be a nice house I have heard good things. I think this is the same house they were saying about owners keep it nicely." Well, it wasn't. It wasn't that nice house. No, indeed... See, my parents... They think they can fix everything, apparently. Of course they don't realize how much effort fixing these OMG HUGE problems require. SO I am looking at this house, at first I am thinking, "Oh shit.." Soon as we pull up. I was looking at the house as we were going by and I am like, "NONONONONONO" Screaming it in my head... We pull in and well.. Shit-storm already fell upon me. I already knew this was a POS from the outside. It looks like crap from the outside, and the inside is no better. Let's just say these people must have had 4 kids and never taught them how to clean. Because there are HUGE amounts of stains in the carpetting and I rather we just toss the whole thing out. There are nails all over the walls and these are not just ones where you can pull them out either, you'd have to pull out a 5"x5" bit of the wall to get them out.. My parents just made it sound so good, and let me down. The garage is shit, but they said it was great. It's terrible.

I just fucking hate everything. The room I am going to be in is even smaller than the one I am in now. I would fucking move out if I could right now, but I can't afford it. Seriously, 40 hours a week at min wage won't get a place to live here! It's fucking insanity, and they never listen.

anyway, fucking do-it-yourselfer meets children meets morons and you get this house. They set up some "surround sound" in the living room and it looks like shit on a stick. First off, tiny ass speakers are not going to get you any good audio. These speakers they put in must have been TINY. Probably sounded like crap too... There are wires everywhere, they fed so many through the carpet and they are all over the walls.. There are stains ALL OVER THE WALLS. The bedroom my parents picked out for me has a ton. The bathrooms are terrible, and the fixtures are horrid. (Cheapest fixtures you can imagine) It's like, so fucking bad. We looked at a place before this that I thought was bad(like I thought it had a bad backyard and the garage was too small), but now I fucking wish we had gotten that place because it was way better. Although we couldn't because it was practically sold when we looked.

To end it all, I fucking hate life... I don't know when, or how it will ever pick up. I really don't. I just imagine myself in misery for the next, two years I guess... Then maybe I will go off to a university, and be semi-happy? I imagine I could get a crack house that is better than this. You don't have to respond, we can let this float away forever.. Just yeah.. Rant.

Boo fucking hoo.

So are you going to help them fix it up or are you going to be always gone or in your room trying on makeup?
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: TridenTBoy3555

I don't want to ask how much it is.. I imagine at least $190k. Probably $200K+. I don't want to ask, because.. ugh, man.. it's so bad of a house and I just don't want to know how much they spent.. It'll probably make me feel horrible.

And how much of that mortgage are you paying? You aren't allowed to have an opinion on it, it's your parents house and they are kind enough to let you live there. If my kids ever talked like you are talking their ass would be out of the house immediately and disowned. It's very ungrateful and disrespectful.
 

Kyle

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Really? Are you serious? Your unmanageable "stress" in life is that your free housing room is too small and the house sucks?
If you can't deal with that, you've got no chance w/ real stress...
 

Kyle

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Originally posted by: TridenTBoy3555
Originally posted by: Kyle
Really? Are you serious? Your unmanageable "stress" in life is that your free housing room is too small and the house sucks?
If you can't deal with that, you've got no chance w/ real stress...

What would real stress be then?

You must realize I have no life, and thus have nothing else to live around except my living conditions.

Death of a loved one, losing your job when you're actually paying rent and trying to keep a roof above your head, car breaking down, relationships ending, problems with your health...should I keep going?
 

Rufus12

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Originally posted by: TridenTBoy3555
Originally posted by: Kyle
Really? Are you serious? Your unmanageable "stress" in life is that your free housing room is too small and the house sucks?
If you can't deal with that, you've got no chance w/ real stress...

What would real stress be then?

You must realize I have no life, and thus have nothing else to live around except my living conditions.

Your life is what you make of it. You are capable of getting a job and moving out, yet you don't. You only have yourself to blame.
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: TridenTBoy3555
Originally posted by: Kyle
Really? Are you serious? Your unmanageable "stress" in life is that your free housing room is too small and the house sucks?
If you can't deal with that, you've got no chance w/ real stress...

What would real stress be then?

You must realize I have no life, and thus have nothing else to live around except my living conditions.

Loss of parents, loss of loved one, death of a child, loss of job, not being able to put a roof over your head. Those are the normal definitions of stress.
 

Jeff7

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Watch some nice, cheerful porn, get a Fleshlight, fap, whatever - you'll feel better, for awhile anyway. :p


What are the dimensions of this new room of yours?
How many square feet is the new house?


 

SmoochyTX

Lifer
Apr 19, 2003
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Originally posted by: TridenTBoy3555
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: TridenTBoy3555
Originally posted by: Kyle
Really? Are you serious? Your unmanageable "stress" in life is that your free housing room is too small and the house sucks?
If you can't deal with that, you've got no chance w/ real stress...

What would real stress be then?

You must realize I have no life, and thus have nothing else to live around except my living conditions.

Loss of parents, loss of loved one, death of a child, loss of job, not being able to put a roof over your head. Those are the normal definitions of stress.

Loss of parents right now would suck. It would put college on the back burner and I don't know where I would live. I wonder if they have life insurance policies. I don't think they work now though, since I am 18... Right? I am ignorant.

Death of a child, that's really far off. Loss of job, yep.. same. That goes with job too I guess.

Damn you sound like a brat.
 

spidey07

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TridenTboy,

Here's the real advice I will give you. You perceive stress because you feel you have no control over the situation and your living conditions. You do have control but you are choosing not to exercise it - that is what is causing you stress. You can either accept this new environment or change it by moving out, the later will have much more stress than the paltry whineyness you're feeling.
 

Q

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I think you just hate change, which nothing is wrong with that, I'm the same way.
 

Nik

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Well first of all, you don't. You can't lie to yourself. It's impossible. You can't hide something from yourself, it's just silly.

If you know things are going to be bad, you tell yourself just that. You brace for it. You consider all your options, prepare for the worst, but you bust your ass in an effort toward the best outcome. Don't like how something is going? Don't bury your head in the sand. Try to change it. If you can't change it, part of growing up and maturing is learning to deal with things outside of your control.
 

Jeff7

Lifer
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Do try to get some dimensions on that room, I'm curious to see just how small or "small" it really is.
How many people are going to be living there?

2000 square feet sounds about like what I grew up in. You can get quite a lot of space out of that.
Upstairs:
- My bedroom
- Sister's bedroom
- Parents' bedroom
- Bathroom
- Diningroom & kitchen
- Livingroom

Basement (finished):
- Stove room/storage
- Sewing room (mom's)
- Office (dad's)
- My computer room
- Mom's computer/puzzles/projects room
- Small storage room

You can get quite a lot into 2000 square feet.
With me and my sister pretty much moved out now, my parents are looking at selling the house sometime in the coming years. The yard is fairly large, and it'll become too much to take care of as they get older, and there's just more space in the house than they need.


 

Robsasman

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Originally posted by: Nik
Well first of all, you don't. You can't lie to yourself. It's impossible. You can't hide something from yourself, it's just silly.

If you know things are going to be bad, you tell yourself just that. You brace for it. You consider all your options, prepare for the worst, but you bust your ass in an effort toward the best outcome. Don't like how something is going? Don't bury your head in the sand. Try to change it. If you can't change it, part of growing up and maturing is learning to deal with things outside of your control.

This^^ and maybe try helping them fix it up, I'm sure you can paint walls, it's not hard.
 

Capt Caveman

Lifer
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Wow, what a little baby. Maybe, this will motivate your lazy ass to get a job, car, girlfriend and GTFO of your parents house.

Can't stand cry babies who won't do anything about their situations.

Jesus Christ, he's getting his college tuition paid for and free room and board.
 

kranky

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Oct 9, 1999
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You'll feel a lot better if you help your parents get the house into shape - cleaning, painting, etc.
 

Tiamat

Lifer
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:wine:

You don't know real stress at all. Many families cannot even all of the things you are taking for granted. Step back, and think about how many luxuries you are enjoying as given. While you are seeing some of your luxuries being taken away, many people don't even get the chance to experience them at all. Just be thankful for what you have and stop whining.