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Ummm if your wife doesn't agree with it being done, it shouldn't be done.


You can't make these decisions without her input just because you own the computer and shes not smart enough to stop you.




Pretty soon she'll be breaking your reign of terror.

In a motel 6.

With a guy she met on myspace.

.....who lets her kids use myspace.
 
Originally posted by: DayLaPaul
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when he married her it became their house and their kids. so it should be their rules - not just hers. united they stand or divided they will fall.

OP, blocking myspace is a good thing cause people (kids) are so stupid sometimes that they give out personal info without realizing the repercussions.

 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: DayLaPaul
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when he married her it became their house and their kids. so it should be their rules - not just hers. united they stand or divided they will fall.

OP, blocking myspace is a good thing cause people (kids) are so stupid sometimes that they give out personal info without realizing the repercussions.
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That is almost exactly what I was going to say. Kids cannot comprehend the lengths a sociopath will go through to track somebody they fixate on, educate them.
 
Divorce is the only solution for step-childern. I tried with two and discourage anyone from
trying to parent someone elses childern. It's twice the job than if they are your own.

My asshat step-son is 25 and he knows I will kick his ass if I ever meet him on the street.
Lieing thief, knocking up girls, ditching school, several arrests=waste of my time.

...Galvanized
 
You did the right thing. Your wife may not think it's a good idea for whatever reason, but just tell her that it's because you care about her kids' safety.
 
block it, I did at my house. im 19 with a 16 year old sister, 20 year old sister, 14 year old brother, 17 year old sister.
They wont be putting that trash on my network!!
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: DayLaPaul
her kids her rules
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when he married her it became their house and their kids. so it should be their rules - not just hers. united they stand or divided they will fall.

OP, blocking myspace is a good thing cause people (kids) are so stupid sometimes that they give out personal info without realizing the repercussions.
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Wow, I had to wade through the entire thread before I found someone who finally pointed that out. Newsflash: the world is filled with sexual predators. The odds of your kids having some sort of interaction (conversation, etc.) with one offline is pretty low. The odds are even lower of them developing some sort of trusting relationship with one offline. The odds of them interacting with one and developing a relationship online are significantly higher. Myspace is relatively well known for having a significant number of such individuals. And, there's a simple reason why: because myspace is a place where a large number of teens gather online. I can understand that many parents aren't tech savvy enough to know how to block myspace; and many probably don't realize the seriousness of the problem - despite the billboards that say 1 in 5 children will be sexually solicited online.

However, in the interest of convincing your wife, have her make up a nickname on myspace such as "14yroldblondecutey" and see what happens after chatting with strangers for about 30 minutes. Or, have her watch that segment on tv where they set up a sting operation and arrest guy after guy who think they're showing up to have sex with children. These guys aren't travelling hundreds of miles to show up.

Someone above stated it quite well: myspace isn't a place where kids go and chat with friends... it's a place where they meet new friends. There's no way to know what kind of person is at the other end though. Since your wife apparently enjoys myspace, ask her how many people she chats with who she met online vs. how many she chats with that she already knew.

And lastly, at 12 years old, kids should be chatting with their friends in person while playing in the park, not while sitting at home on a computer.
 
Well said DrPizza.

Originally posted by: LoKe
Originally posted by: danzigrules
Originally posted by: DayLaPaul
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I don't think so. I have been around these kids since the youngest was 11 months old, and their natural father is a bum that owes us $150,000 in child support.
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Just because you're not biologically their father, doesn't mean you shouldn't have just as much influence. She should agree with your decision, as long as you have a good basis and make a good argument.
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Loke is right, you should be allowed a say in the children's parenting. The fact that you have been there for them for so long makes it so. Or even just the fact that you would take on the burden of raising 3 children who are not your own.

This thread hits home for me because my biological father left when I was very young, and I remember my mother struggling by herself to raise my 2 sisters and myself. She met and married my dad when I was 6, and even at the time I had immense respect for a man who would make such a choice. I was and am proud to call him "Dad."

My situation may be a bit different, because my dad legally adopted me, but I have always listened to him as much, if not more than my mother. I also know that he only tries (well, tried. I'm 26 and married) to parent me because he truely wants the best for me. I know that because it was his choice to be there in the first place.

I hate the term "stepparent".

 
Originally posted by: BigJ
MySpace is a plague on humanity. You are doing the nation and your fellow man a service by blocking it in your household.
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..:thumbsup: superfluous use of technology and a total waste of time. More parents need to step up to the plate and accept responsibility as parental supervisors for their litters rather then trying to be a "best buddy".
 
Originally posted by: danzigrules
Originally posted by: DayLaPaul
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I don't think so. I have been around these kids since the youngest was 11 months old, and their natural father is a bum that owes us $150,000 in child support.
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I'm sure the courts would say the father doesn't owe you anything. All that money belongs to the mother.
 
And what does the wife say about receiving threatening/weird phone calls?

My 17-year old brother-in-law lives in my house. I blocked MySpace as soon as my wife and I saw his site and all the innappropriate things posted by him and others. Right now he's banned from all internet activity by his mother because he can't behave while online.
 
Originally posted by: CarlKillerMiller
You're 100% right in blocking it, but you may have gone about it the wrong way.

The key here is to justify blocking it by talking to your kids and your wife about the destructive nature of the website and how its influence is not something you want in your home. Justify, justify, justify. Not so much to your kids as to your wife.
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If he is a man, he doesn't have to justify anything.
 
I don't know... most kids these days use Myspace, Facebook, Livejournal or some form of those...

I can totally see the family situation too. Honestly I would sit down with your wife and start laying down some ground rules for Myspace use as well as internet use. Agree on rules for the kids. You have 3 girls right? You are going to need some authority and control. You don't want your girls to become the highschool tramps / party girls. Especially in college.

-Trav
 
First off, if you have to come down hard like that without talking with your wife first and if she is 'calling' you "Hitler," then I suggest you work on your marriage before coming down hard on myspace. The benefits of united parenthood aside, those are not the signs of a healthy, productive relationship.

That said, myspace is a wart on the @$$ of society, a place for angst teenagers to hate on their parents, emo kids to be attention whores, and all sorts of psychpath predators....kudos on working against those influences entering your household.
 
Um why not just monitor what they do on myspace? In fact, if the kids don't know that you're doing that, it's probably going to be MUCH more useful than anything you can ever do to keep watch on what the kids are doing, and that probably includes bugging their bedroom and all the phones.
 
Originally posted by: Queasy
And what does the wife say about receiving threatening/weird phone calls?

My 17-year old brother-in-law lives in my house. I blocked MySpace as soon as my wife and I saw his site and all the innappropriate things posted by him and others. Right now he's banned from all internet activity by his mother because he can't behave while online.
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He's 17 years old, and you're trying to parent him?

Exactly what are those 'inappropriate things' that are on his myspace?

Man, some of you guys who are in power of responsibility are completely ignorant on how to deal with that responsibility. If it's in his nature to act 'inappropriately', you really think banning him from the internet is going to resolve that problem? It's like trying to stop a drug addict by locking up your medicine cabinet, you really think that's going to solve anything?
 
You don't just outright block it. That is just childish.

A model parent would first talk with the kids and the wife, come to an agreement, then decide if blocking it is the right thing to do (which probably is).
 
Originally posted by: Looney
Originally posted by: Queasy
And what does the wife say about receiving threatening/weird phone calls?

My 17-year old brother-in-law lives in my house. I blocked MySpace as soon as my wife and I saw his site and all the innappropriate things posted by him and others. Right now he's banned from all internet activity by his mother because he can't behave while online.
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He's 17 years old, and you're trying to parent him?

Exactly what are those 'inappropriate things' that are on his myspace?

Man, some of you guys who are in power of responsibility are completely ignorant on how to deal with that responsibility. If it's in his nature to act 'inappropriately', you really think banning him from the internet is going to resolve that problem? It's like trying to stop a drug addict by locking up your medicine cabinet, you really think that's going to solve anything?
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If he's 17 years old and doesn't want to be parented, he can get the fvck out of their house and find his own place.
 
Originally posted by: Looney
He's 17 years old, and you're trying to parent him?

Exactly what are those 'inappropriate things' that are on his myspace?

Man, some of you guys who are in power of responsibility are completely ignorant on how to deal with that responsibility. If it's in his nature to act 'inappropriately', you really think banning him from the internet is going to resolve that problem? It's like trying to stop a drug addict by locking up your medicine cabinet, you really think that's going to solve anything?
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After him being told several times to stop what he was doing...yeah. At some point warnings and talkings are meaningless. If he can't act responsibly with a privilege than that privilege gets taken away. Pretty basic.
 
Originally posted by: Queasy
Originally posted by: Looney
He's 17 years old, and you're trying to parent him?

Exactly what are those 'inappropriate things' that are on his myspace?

Man, some of you guys who are in power of responsibility are completely ignorant on how to deal with that responsibility. If it's in his nature to act 'inappropriately', you really think banning him from the internet is going to resolve that problem? It's like trying to stop a drug addict by locking up your medicine cabinet, you really think that's going to solve anything?
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After him being told several times to stop what he was doing...yeah. At some point warnings and talkings are meaningless. If he can't act responsibly with a privilege than that privilege gets taken away. Pretty basic.
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\Exactly what innapropriate things was he doing? Less he was meeting people OR idk posting naked pics??? I don't really see much as innapropriate. Cursing?
 
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