My Life is in Shambles

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Aztech

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Wow, I can't respond fast enough. Thank you, thank you all. That's what I wanted, some nice quotes and words to lift the spirits.
 

Goosemaster

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Originally posted by: Aztech
Wow, I can't respond fast enough. Thank you, thank you all. That's what I wanted, some nice quotes and words to lift the spirits.

smile for us whydon'tyou :)
 

loup garou

Lifer
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Damn, that's rough. My families' houses were wiped out in Katrina too, but man, you've got a whole lot more on your shoulders. Keep up the positive attitude.
 

anno

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I'm sorry so many things have gone bad all in a row. :(

the cancer thing is a really hard thing.. my sister lost her husband to cancer last summer, after battling it for 15 months. it was a horrible horrible process.. I'm so sorry you're living through it too.

anno
 

hjo3

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Originally posted by: Aztech
Originally posted by: hjo3
Surely you're not giving your ex money while you're living in FEMA trailers? What kind of cancer did your brother get hit with?

Sorry things are going so badly. Oh well, could be worse, right? Small consolation, I suppose.

EDIT: Wow... that woman of yours is a peice of work. You should really get away from that.
Yes, I am giving her money. I still care about her. She had moved to an apartment and she got completely wiped out too. And even though, she seemed to quickly move on from me, I can't let her and her baby suffer.

My brother got kidney cancer, that spread to the lungs and lymph node(s).
Why isn't her "baby's daddy" supporting her?
 

Aztech

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Originally posted by: Shadowknight
She got pregnant within 5 months of your separation, then you got divorced. Even for a separation, it shows you got divorced while the gettin' was good. Also? Don't give her cash, it's not your kid or your responsibility. Use the cash for your brother or to get in a better housing situation.
You're saying that she already had someone in mind, or what?

 

diapickle

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Originally posted by: Aztech
Originally posted by: AccruedExpenditure
Originally posted by: kermalou
dump the b!tch and move on.

Did you read the damn thread you tool.

Stick in there man :beer:

Haha! Thanks, but he's kinda right. She still comes around, and I still giver her money and have sex with her:eek: I know that doesn't sound right.

That's seriously ****** up. It's time to move on man.
Good luck with everything.
 

Kadarin

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Your ex made choices, and now she has to live with them (as do we all). Just remember that you should never feel like you're under any obligation to send her any support for either herself or for her kid. Based on your words, it sounds like she's currently prostituting herself to you for money, even if there's no explicit contract.

As for your brother, well, I can only wish you both the best under such horrible circumstances. I hope his remaining time is filled with as much happiness as possible.
 

Sheepathon

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Originally posted by: Aztech
Anyway, I just signed the final divorce papers today. I think we should've just stayed together. I've done nothing to move on. She always calls me and needs money, and I give it to her. And she's just now telling the father about the baby. What a mess we made for thinking about greener grass.

THIS NEEDS TO STOP

She still comes around, and I still give her money and have sex with her

So essentially, she's prostituting to put herself through the remainder of college and support her baby and the baby's daddy. rofl.
 

Aztech

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Originally posted by: hjo3
Originally posted by: Aztech
Originally posted by: hjo3
Surely you're not giving your ex money while you're living in FEMA trailers? What kind of cancer did your brother get hit with?

Sorry things are going so badly. Oh well, could be worse, right? Small consolation, I suppose.

EDIT: Wow... that woman of yours is a peice of work. You should really get away from that.
Yes, I am giving her money. I still care about her. She had moved to an apartment and she got completely wiped out too. And even though, she seemed to quickly move on from me, I can't let her and her baby suffer.

My brother got kidney cancer, that spread to the lungs and lymph node(s).
Why isn't her "baby's daddy" supporting her?
He just found out that he had a baby yesterday! The baby is now 5 weeks old, and he didn't even know it might be his! It's a regular Jerry Springer episode, but what I'm saying is that she wasn't sure who the daddy was (out of 2 guys, one was a drunken one night-stand) until a DNA test was done with the person she hoped was the daddy, but no such luck!

 

GuitarDaddy

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Originally posted by: Aztech

Yes, I am giving her money. I still care about her. She had moved to an apartment and she got completely wiped out too. And even though, she seemed to quickly move on from me, I can't let her and her baby suffer.

You are a very kind and compasionate person, I admire your morals! You deserve better and I,m sure you will find someone deserving of you
 

Sheepathon

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Originally posted by: Aztech
Haha! Thanks, but he's kinda right. She still comes around, and I still giver her money and have sex with her:eek:

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
You are a very kind and compasionate person, I admire your morals!

lololololol
 

RedPickle

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You are a good man, I've been going through something similar, not quite as complex, but hard nonetheless. I admire your strength and your compassion in dealing with all of this. I seriously see myself moving on because of you. If you can do what you've done I know so can I =).
 

Aztech

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Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
Originally posted by: Aztech

Yes, I am giving her money. I still care about her. She had moved to an apartment and she got completely wiped out too. And even though, she seemed to quickly move on from me, I can't let her and her baby suffer.

You are a very kind and compasionate person, I admire your morals! You deserve better and I,m sure you will find someone deserving of you
Thanks. I guess there's a fine line I could cross to where I'm being taken advantage of, but I'm trying to be aware of that. Plus, we mutually agreed to separate. As far as I know, she was faithful during the marriage, so she didn't really mess me over. We were on our way to divorce anyway, I guess.

 

hjo3

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Originally posted by: Aztech
Originally posted by: hjo3
Originally posted by: Aztech
Originally posted by: hjo3
Surely you're not giving your ex money while you're living in FEMA trailers? What kind of cancer did your brother get hit with?

Sorry things are going so badly. Oh well, could be worse, right? Small consolation, I suppose.

EDIT: Wow... that woman of yours is a peice of work. You should really get away from that.
Yes, I am giving her money. I still care about her. She had moved to an apartment and she got completely wiped out too. And even though, she seemed to quickly move on from me, I can't let her and her baby suffer.

My brother got kidney cancer, that spread to the lungs and lymph node(s).
Why isn't her "baby's daddy" supporting her?
He just found out that he had a baby yesterday! The baby is now 5 weeks old, and he didn't even know it might be his! It's a regular Jerry Springer episode, but what I'm saying is that she wasn't sure who the daddy was (out of 2 guys, one was a drunken one night-stand) until a DNA test was done with the person she hoped was the daddy, but no such luck!
Wow! This woman is a real drama-magnet; makes brilliant decisions too (doing at least 3 guys in a short period of time, not using birth control/RU486...). I'm going to guess she was the one who suggested the separation...? Is she still going to college, i.e. making you pay for her baby when she could probably do it all herself if she just didn't take classes?
 

Baked

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Your ex's using you to keep her pimp happy. Cut the bitch loose.

You need to move the hell away and start fresh.
 

preslove

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Aztech
Originally posted by: hjo3
Originally posted by: Aztech
Originally posted by: hjo3
Surely you're not giving your ex money while you're living in FEMA trailers? What kind of cancer did your brother get hit with?

Sorry things are going so badly. Oh well, could be worse, right? Small consolation, I suppose.

EDIT: Wow... that woman of yours is a peice of work. You should really get away from that.
Yes, I am giving her money. I still care about her. She had moved to an apartment and she got completely wiped out too. And even though, she seemed to quickly move on from me, I can't let her and her baby suffer.

My brother got kidney cancer, that spread to the lungs and lymph node(s).
Why isn't her "baby's daddy" supporting her?
He just found out that he had a baby yesterday! The baby is now 5 weeks old, and he didn't even know it might be his! It's a regular Jerry Springer episode, but what I'm saying is that she wasn't sure who the daddy was (out of 2 guys, one was a drunken one night-stand) until a DNA test was done with the person she hoped was the daddy, but no such luck!

Dude. If you're already counting your blessings, count one more for that being some other guy's kid.
 

hjo3

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Originally posted by: Sheepathon
Originally posted by: Aztech
Haha! Thanks, but he's kinda right. She still comes around, and I still giver her money and have sex with her:eek:

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
You are a very kind and compasionate person, I admire your morals!

lololololol
To be fair, that's not immoral on his part. It's dumb, but it's not immoral.

EDIT: No offense, Aztech.
 

GuitarDaddy

Lifer
Nov 9, 2004
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Originally posted by: Sheepathon
Originally posted by: Aztech
Haha! Thanks, but he's kinda right. She still comes around, and I still giver her money and have sex with her:eek:

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
You are a very kind and compasionate person, I admire your morals!

lololololol

Nice:(

So you you can paste together unrelated posts, out of context. Your really clever:disgust: