My Life is in Shambles

[flexy]

Originally posted by: Goosemaster
All I can say to comfort you is that in the end,
when you take your last breath,
when your heart and tissues and all cease to continue their normal tasks,
what will determine whether you die smiling or not is what you managed to accomplished in your life in spite of your hardships.


Dieing with a smile on my face is my only goal in life, which encomapsses everything else.

WRONG ! So..in essence you say you can only die/be happy once you accomplished many things ?

I think you're only truly happy and die with a smile when you're able to smile and be happy with WHAT YOU HAVE - in true "zen" style

--> Maybe ONE accomplishment would be *exactly* reaching this wisdom.

If you're going for (material ?) things...you LIKELY will never be happier....or show me the one person who is considered rich and is NOT longing for even more wealth. If you're (however) talking about accomplishments like "found my love", "be happy with my friends/family", "overall happiness despites the everyday struggles", then you're right on track.

my $02

And sorry for the OP..but it seems like the separation was your own choice (not commited...you say it !)...so you didnt care a lot in the first place. Anyway dont give up hope...even bad things somehow often are the creators of something positive. (Gee am i philosophical today...)

 

[DukeN]

All the best in 2006 man. Not easy but I would seperate from your ex-wife, which is even tougher in trying times. Stay strong and positive!

 

[flexy]

and stop giving her money and support her pimp and HIS baby...thats fvckin' retarded. Dont be a FOOL in addition to all that BS.

 

[Sheepathon]

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy

So you you can paste together unrelated posts, out of context. Your really clever:disgust:

Not trying to be clever at all. Just trying to find humor in a situation that needs it. You know, the one where the guy:
1)was in love with someone
2)married her
3)divorced her
4)pays for her baby from another guy (who is now her boyfriend, and just found out it was his)
and
5)still has sex with her on the side.

I empathize with the hurricane, the flood insurance, and the terrible situation with his brother, but...dude, that's a pilot for a sitcom right there.

 

[MazerRackham]

Wow, sorry to hear that news man Stay strong, take care of yourself and take care of your family...

 

[Goosemaster]

Originally posted by: flexy

Originally posted by: Goosemaster
All I can say to comfort you is that in the end,
when you take your last breath,
when your heart and tissues and all cease to continue their normal tasks,
what will determine whether you die smiling or not is what you managed to accomplished in your life in spite of your hardships.


Dieing with a smile on my face is my only goal in life, which encomapsses everything else.

WRONG ! So..in essence you say you can only die/be happy once you accomplished many things ?

I think you're only truly happy and die with a smile when you're able to smile and be happy with WHAT YOU HAVE - in true "zen" style

--> Maybe ONE accomplishment would be *exactly* reaching this wisdom.

If you're going for (material ?) things...you LIKELY will never be happier....or show me the one person who is considered rich and is NOT longing for even more wealth. If you're (however) talking about accomplishments like "found my love", "be happy with my friends/family", "overall happiness despites the everyday struggles", then you're right on track.

my $02

And sorry for the OP..but it seems like the separation was your own choice (not commited...you say it !)...so you didnt care a lot in the first place. Anyway dont give up hope...even bad things somehow often are the creators of something positive. (Gee am i philosophical today...)

No, there is no measure of accomplishment that will make everyone happy.

My point was that in this case, where one is living a life with various hardships, that person can find happiness in whatever they manage to achieve in spite of their hardships.

My point is that those harships make overcoming them that much mroe valuable.

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

and to make things worse, you named yourself like a POS Pontiac queer mobile.

 

[Aztech]

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats
and to make things worse, you named yourself like a POS Pontiac queer mobile.

Yeah, that may be the worst part. I wished I could change that too.

 

[zoiks]

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats
and to make things worse, you named yourself like a POS Pontiac queer mobile.

Sounds like you're trying pretty hard to hate the vehicle.

OP, I hope that things look up soon. There's always a light ahead but the sooner you see it, the better. Your brother is in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Aztech]

Originally posted by: flexy
and stop giving her money and support her pimp and HIS baby...thats fvckin' retarded. Dont be a FOOL in addition to all that BS.

I have supported her. Not any pimps or boyfriends. She's been alone through this. At least I finally signed the divorce papers today. It took forever since the courts were down due to Katrina. But yeah, I gotta let her go, I know that.

 

[Aztech]

Man, I knew I should've done a separate thread on the relationship thing.

Anyway, as I said, we were married for 7 years, we dated about 7 years before that. There's too much history there. I can't just make her vanish. My cousin's wife is her close friend, etc. She doesn't come around my parents though, 'cause she knows they're p!ssed at her.

We will move on when one of us starts a real new relationship, if not sooner. But I've only been with her and I've never dated before...

 

[Shadowknight]

Originally posted by: Aztech

Originally posted by: Shadowknight
She got pregnant within 5 months of your separation, then you got divorced. Even for a separation, it shows you got divorced while the gettin' was good. Also? Don't give her cash, it's not your kid or your responsibility. Use the cash for your brother or to get in a better housing situation.

You're saying that she already had someone in mind, or what?

It's possible. My main point is that you were separated, which always provides a possibility for reconciliation. By getting it on with 2 guys, in a five month period, it showed she wasn't really interested in trying to maintain your marriage. As to when she took up with them, who knows? During your marriage? A week after the separation?

As to the "settle for pretty good: part of your marriage; marriage isn't going to be wild/crazy/hot sex for the rest of your life; keeping a strong, steady relationship where you love each other, even in a more moderate way, is the best marriage you can have. Both partners maintaining a relationship have to work at it; It sounds like one or both of you thought you could trade up without thinking about how good you really had it, tossing it away.

But I've only been with her and I've never dated before..

Probably the reason you've been unable to break away from her completely.