I guess.. but if I would've known she was going to leave me in a ffew weeks the last time we had a spat I would've done something about it..
I just had no idea... I mean... I would have done anything... I didn't know she was considering leaving me.......
SP33Demon
Lifer
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Good luck bro, had it happen once and it sucks. The good news is that there have been 3 women since then, and I broke up with 2 of them b/c they didn't meet my standards.
Life goes on, but it will take awhile for you to recover. You can do better than your ex.
Life goes on, but it will take awhile for you to recover. You can do better than your ex.
moshquerade
No Lifer
- Nov 1, 2001
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Don't drink too much... you'll end up with a worse problem than you do now. I've found that the best thing to do in those situations is to start working out, go to a tanning bed, whatever makes you feel more attractive to the opposite sex. Once you start having girls flirt with you, I think it helps you realize that there are plenty of fish in the sea, and its not an impossible task to find another girl that'll be better suited for you.
Yeah, I was going to post "weed," but I see you've already gone there.Originally posted by: Eli
I wish I had some alcohol..Originally posted by: dug777
crapola mate, have a few beers with some mates, usually makes me feel better when i'm down
on second thought, maybe it's not such a good idea. I'll stick to my marijuana.
Dude, if weed doesn't help, you're in trouble.
Helps take away the huge empty feeling and nausea, but that's about it.Originally posted by: Ilmater
Yeah, I was going to post "weed," but I see you've already gone there.Originally posted by: Eli
I wish I had some alcohol..Originally posted by: dug777
crapola mate, have a few beers with some mates, usually makes me feel better when i'm down
on second thought, maybe it's not such a good idea. I'll stick to my marijuana.
Dude, if weed doesn't help, you're in trouble.
Originally posted by: Eli
Helps take away the huge empty feeling and nausea, but that's about it.Originally posted by: Ilmater
Yeah, I was going to post "weed," but I see you've already gone there.Originally posted by: Eli
I wish I had some alcohol..Originally posted by: dug777
crapola mate, have a few beers with some mates, usually makes me feel better when i'm down
on second thought, maybe it's not such a good idea. I'll stick to my marijuana.
Dude, if weed doesn't help, you're in trouble.
Have you tried adding Harold and Kumar (or movie of your choice) + close male friend to the mix? It isn't a cure, but it might get your mind off things.
Not that I have anything against weed, but did you smoke on a daily basis? Is it part of your normal routine? Perhaps that can explain part of your confusion, ESPECIALLY if your girlfriend was only an occasional smoker.
Yes.
She was occasional compared to me, but still everyday after work.
I asked her and told her over and over again that if it was the problem I would have no problem quitting right this minute... but she had already made up her mind...
there are bigger issues... I just wish I knew what they were and could have fixed them before it was too late...
Eli, hate to be the first as$hole to say this, but if you want to have extended, mature relationships in the future, the smoking weed levels need to drop. Smoking every day is not conducive towards growth, and any woman worth a damn will not tolerate it. I know cause I used to smoke a lot but don't anymore. A habit like pot smoking that keeps your brain numb and altered all day has a dramatic effect on perception and your ability to grow as an individual. Look at yourself closely and realize that sacrafices need to me made sometimes, even if they are difficult.
Wow man... so sorry to hear...
Cheer up... everything happens for a reason... You will meet someone new in a while and realize it was for the better.
Cheer up... everything happens for a reason... You will meet someone new in a while and realize it was for the better.
mugs
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Oh wow... I thought this was going to be one of those threads where the title says she left you, then the post says she went away for the weekend. I mean, I thought you two were practically married for all intents and purposes. Nothing I say can really help you. I'm sorry.
She was the one that had a lot of growing up to do. She had always been immature... I met her when she was 16, for Christ's sake.
For some reason we just weren't able to grow out of it...
I have no problems with communication, speaking my mind, etc... But she would never talk to me.. she knew it was a problem... dunno.
I know what you're saying though.
I go through phases.. just like with anything else. It is not overly difficult for me to quit..
It just seemed nomatter what I said she was unresponsive, thus I came to the conclusion that her mind was already made up..
In talking with her mom(who is a good friend... i'm not sure if it's going to help or hurt the situation tho), it appears that her bioligical father is highly manipulative... sooo.. I dunno..
the whole thing is just so fscked up I can't even believe it...
Sorry to hear about this Eli. From your posts I've always pictured you as a kind hearted person so don't let this change that. As others have pointed stay active, exercise, eat right, keep in touch with friends/make new ones, start a new hobby, quit the drugs (they are bad for you), and in time this will pass. It will never be easy but it will get easier. Take care Eli.
I was hanging out at a friends house in August of 2000, and his roommate (stupid beyotch!) knocks on the door, I open it, and she hands me divorce papers from my then wife. Talk about getting served.
Talk about a shock.
Seems like there are alot of "been there, done that" posts so far, just thought I'd mine, and the only piece of advice that worked for me... to find closure, even in the smallest sense. Be prepared, because most women who do this (unless they are totally and utterly evil), will eventually come back into your life in some sort of way, i.e., wanting to repair the relationship, trying to apologize out of a guilty conscience, wanting to be friends. Just something to prepare for.
Condolensces my fellow ATer.
Talk about a shock.
Seems like there are alot of "been there, done that" posts so far, just thought I'd mine, and the only piece of advice that worked for me... to find closure, even in the smallest sense. Be prepared, because most women who do this (unless they are totally and utterly evil), will eventually come back into your life in some sort of way, i.e., wanting to repair the relationship, trying to apologize out of a guilty conscience, wanting to be friends. Just something to prepare for.
Condolensces my fellow ATer.
I was a little mean to her just before she left and now I feel really bad about it..
I took her cell phone away because it's on my plan ....
I took her cell phone away because it's on my plan ....
She was the one that had a lot of growing up to do. She had always been immature... I met her when she was 16, for Christ's sake.
That's your problem right there. She had to take some time to see what's out there in the world besides you. I don't think anything you could have done would have kept her from going out and exploring some. She probably seriously needs to spend some time alone by herself figuring out who she is if you two were serious while she was at such a young age.
How much older are you than her? If she had a screwed up relationship with her biological father, she may have been seeking out a father figure as part of your relationship. If she has been reapproaching her biological father after a long peroid of estrangement, it is possible that she is working through some serious identity issues and she needs to figure out who she is before she can have a truly healthy relationship.
That's your problem right there. She had to take some time to see what's out there in the world besides you. I don't think anything you could have done would have kept her from going out and exploring some. She probably seriously needs to spend some time alone by herself figuring out who she is if you two were serious while she was at such a young age.
How much older are you than her? If she had a screwed up relationship with her biological father, she may have been seeking out a father figure as part of your relationship. If she has been reapproaching her biological father after a long peroid of estrangement, it is possible that she is working through some serious identity issues and she needs to figure out who she is before she can have a truly healthy relationship.
If this were true, how come you still smoke? How do you know how easy it is to quit? Seriously now, I have a lot of friends who smoke, say they've quit, and then a while later go back. That is NOT quitting. That is taking a break.
Forget about the woman, focus on improving yourself so you don't need intoxicants to survive a regular day. Remember, although most of your thoughts are probably on Her, you are the important one.
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