take this as you want, but it sounds like it's time for the baby of the family to ween himself off the tit.
narzy
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As much as I think Quitox is being childish and his mother selfish no one should ever call anyone else family member a 'bitch' or 'wise and beautiful woman.' It is unnecessary and completely out of line.
Quint, it's time to grow up man, if you love the city you're in and where you are at in life by all means stay there. 9 hours is not a an insane amount of time and I'm sure that you could find quicker modes of transportation if you so desired. I know you want to be close to your family but you come off as a serious momma's boy. It's okay to let go of the umbilical cord and quit sucking on the teat. Hell you might even find that you enjoy the freedom!
You've already admitted that you KNOW that you should support your dad in this decision so do the adult thing and support him. Help him help your mother understand that this is the best thing for him and the family and as upset as she is now seeing her husband and lover happy should bring a great amount of joy to her life.
(shit, I just replied to a quintox post...)
It sounds like me like your dad might be telling you that your fucking gravy train ride is over and that it's time to grow some balls.
I went to school 9 hours from home (by FUCKING PLANE!) just to prove to myself that I could be independant.
What are you planning to do? Live around the block from your parents for your entire life?
Does your mom still breast feed you?
Jesus fucking christ, are you and your mother co-dependent? Granted we're just getting your side of the story, and you are still all fail all the time. It is nice to be close to family, so as an adult maybe once you graduate college you can get an apt near them. His fault for taking the interview when you didn't want him to? WTF
Best of luck!
Best of luck!
newnameman
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PowerEngineer
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Then isn't it time for you to expect more of yourself? Why not stop being so "selfish" and start being "fair" to your Dad. Don't use your personal feelings as an excuse to justify "wrong and idiotic" behavior.
You may not be able to control your feelings, but you should be able to control your actions!
SSSnail
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IMO, if a MAN wants to do something, it's the WOMAN's job to be supportive.
Boo freaking hoo that the women doesn't like moving. Boo freaking hoo if she won't have her "friends"...
Her FAMILY is with the MAN, she made that choice when she married him. He is her friend, companion and confidence. It's hard enough for a MAN to deal with the pressure of career, money, etc... then he has to deal with some whiny WOMAN too?
If the WOMAN wants to stay with her friends and love the city so much, she should stay the fuck there and let the MAN be, because obviously she doesn't love the MAN enough to make a sacrifice or compromise. I'm sure the MAN has sacrificed many parts in his life to keep a lot of people happy, and when it comes time for him to move up, you selfish bitches try to keep him down. You know what the ironic thing is? He's trying to do better to give a better life to ... guess who?
I was being polite...
Boo freaking hoo that the women doesn't like moving. Boo freaking hoo if she won't have her "friends"...
Her FAMILY is with the MAN, she made that choice when she married him. He is her friend, companion and confidence. It's hard enough for a MAN to deal with the pressure of career, money, etc... then he has to deal with some whiny WOMAN too?
If the WOMAN wants to stay with her friends and love the city so much, she should stay the fuck there and let the MAN be, because obviously she doesn't love the MAN enough to make a sacrifice or compromise. I'm sure the MAN has sacrificed many parts in his life to keep a lot of people happy, and when it comes time for him to move up, you selfish bitches try to keep him down. You know what the ironic thing is? He's trying to do better to give a better life to ... guess who?
I was being polite...
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My mom is having a hard time with this as well because everybody she's been close to has had something bad happen to them (her mother died of cancer when she was young and her dad has Alzheimer's). She doesn't want to move because she doesn't want to leave us (me and my older brother). I don't know if I worded something wrong, but she doesn't care about any people here, friends, or anything, she doesn't want to move AGAIN and she doesn't want to leave us (college kids)
I'm not a baby who hangs all over my mom and kiss her everytime I see her and have her read me bedtime stories. It's not even about my mom. I just want to be close to my family, to my dad and my little brother. I don't see what the huge shock is. And no, I don't want to live with my parents after school, it's just good to have family nearby. (lol this will no doubly get quoted with my own quotes to make an ass of myself)
I'm not a baby who hangs all over my mom and kiss her everytime I see her and have her read me bedtime stories. It's not even about my mom. I just want to be close to my family, to my dad and my little brother. I don't see what the huge shock is. And no, I don't want to live with my parents after school, it's just good to have family nearby. (lol this will no doubly get quoted with my own quotes to make an ass of myself)
newnameman
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narzy
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No, it still sounds like you want someone to put a bandaid on you every time you get a boo-boo. You run home, whine to mommy and she busts out the peter pan brand bandage gives you the one with wendy on it and you go it to your room and JO while staring at it.
What you need to say is. "Okay, I understand better now, I will go talk to my mother and support my father." and then go do that...
What the fuck does her moving away have anything to do with anything? Is there some sort of direct connection to her not being around when bad things happen? With the extra money your dad will be making he can fly her back and forth all he wants.
No, really? It's about you.. read the rest of your own post.
I think your dad is trying to tell you it's time to grow a pair of fucking balls, because clearly yours haven't dropped yet, your parents WILL NOT always be here.
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How many times do I need to say that? I KNOW I AM WRONG HERE, I AM 100% WRONG.
It's just so weird that we were all happy here, then that company calls and now suddenly my dad isn't happy. It's frustrating. He even got a promotion literally weeks previous to this offer with a company car and more money.
This. I go to school 8 hours away and have to fly home. Are you expecting to depend on your family the rest of your life? I know it's hard, but try to see the good in this. It's unlikely that you'll be able to cling to your parents the rest of your life. College is a sort of quasi-independence from which it looks like you could learn. You still have the school and your parents somewhat holding your hand and guiding you. If you can't even handle college, what do you expect to do in the real world? It gets a lot harder. Let your dad move and do you a favor as hard as it may be.
Then stfu, sometimes your interests aren't always the same as your parents, it happens, thats why I moved out of my parents house, what works for them will not always work for you.
Seriously, stop opening your mouth (or in this case, typing) before you totally get castarated.
Seriously, I consider myself very close to my parents (hell, my mom still tries to control many things about my life, heeh) but living a good couple of hours by plane is no problem. Since your dad will now be making the big bucks, maybe you and he can cut a deal where they will buy you plane tickets to come visit them on some schedule (monthly?)
My grandparents, for whom travel is now difficult, have offered to bring me and my sister home anytime we want on their dime (they live next door to my parents). I end up coming home every month or two when I was in grad school and have scheduled to in the first few months of my first job..important for me to spend time with my grandparents, because they aren't getting any younger, and always good to see the rest of the family.
My grandparents, for whom travel is now difficult, have offered to bring me and my sister home anytime we want on their dime (they live next door to my parents). I end up coming home every month or two when I was in grad school and have scheduled to in the first few months of my first job..important for me to spend time with my grandparents, because they aren't getting any younger, and always good to see the rest of the family.
TehMac
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I'm sorry, I should clarify that. I was suggesting that if Quintox was describing the situation as that, then I do not withdraw my position: that is beyond selfish. When someone works that hard and finally achieves a bonus that, could do wonders for the style of living, and then meets such childish resistance from HIS OWN DAMN WIFE, that is pathetic.
That is when words such as I used truly apply.
However, I don't know the full situation, but stuff like this frustrates me. We moved away from Illinois, I liked it there, I had family, did I give my dad gufff? Did my mom? Hell, she had a great job in IL, we were hitting it off. But he got options for something better, and so we went.
We didn't sulk, we didn't obstruct, and we didn't cry cry cry; we as in my family and I.
And I was about 1/3 of your age.
How do you expect to achieve anything in life if your tied to your mommy and daddy's robe strings?
This is whats frustrating: this innane resistance to something that is GOOD.
If your dad was just moving to be next to the Casino, I'd agree with you, and probably recommend you kick your dad in the shin a few times, but this is ridiculous.
Originally posted by: Quintox
This is true
Ryan, I don't care if I 'get castrated' on the internet. I'm confused and just want to vent. If I was on the other end I'd probably be typing the same responses that everyone else is.
This is what your friends are for, you came on here to gripe to people that maintain an objective view and don't care about your feelings.
If you want to talk to people that will tell you its alright, go talk to your best friend, but at this point i think that might be your mom's tit, and that doesn't talk back unfortunately.
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Just do like I should be doing, man up, and admit that you were a dick for saying that about somebody's family member that you don't know. I know it doesn't really matter but I have lost all respect for you for saying that, may it be about my family or anybody else's.
And Ryan, I WAS AGREEING with you. I was not saying that to be an ass, I totally understand everybody's responses....
narzy
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No doubt that his mothers reaction is out of line. But if she acts this way after 20 years of marriage it is because she has been allowed to and it gets results from his father. The problems run deeper than they appear on the surface. It doesn't sound like his father has stepped in to address his mothers piss poor behavior.
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