Originally posted by: palehorse
Originally posted by: FlashG
This was a problem that has been swept under the door for every war that I can remember. It was especially problematic after the Korean Conflict.
My ex-navy son at home is having problems as well. We are trying to be as supportive as possible. It the end it?s up to the individual to sort it out for themselves. All we can do is be there.
You should read my first post again... awareness and treatments and have come a VERY long way over the last eight years, or so...
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Originally posted by: palehorse
That was certainly the case years ago, but now we get briefings on suicide, PTSD, depression, etc -- how to seek aid or recognize other soldiers who might need it -- on almost a monthly basis at this point. That is why the high rates are so disconcerting for everyone, as the military is truly attempting to tackle the issue.
I lost a buddy of mine to suicide while I was on my first tour in Afghanistan. His reasons had nothing at all to do with the military, and he didn't display any warning signs at all. (We later found out his reasons). It was an incredibly sad incident for everyone in our unit, and we'll probably all spend the rest of our lives trying to figure out what could we have done to prevent it... but the truth is that sometimes, there's not much anyone can do.
You also need to remember that the military is filled with a lot of soldiers who join the service to get away from other serious problems or issues at home. I imagine that those problems have a way of catching up with some of them during their enlistment.
It's a damn shame when good people die...
Of the three suicides that I've been close to in the service, not one of them was related to the wars or combat stress. All three were done by soldiers with issues stemming from outside of the service. That doesn't mean that there aren't still too many that
are related to PTSD and/or combat stress, I just haven't seen them.
The military has really tried to tackle the issue... but they obviously need to do even more.
It's a tough nut to crack. Any recommendations or ideas would be more than welcome!
Did you read my first post? It's an impossible nut to crack because nobody wants it cracked.
The answer is rather simple, actually, though of course no in practice. People kill themselves because they are afraid to feel what they feel. What they feel, and it is a lie, but they feel in none the less, is that they are the worst person in the world. You feel that, I feel that, everybody on the planet feels that, save maybe some relatively few.
So the answer to this problem is to feel. The army, the world, needs to train people to understand that they have emotions which are lies but which they believe anyway, and the way to know this is to feel them. People need a supportive environment to investigate their feelings, and there is nothing better than a group of people doing this together, because they can learn from each other, support each other, and use their projections on each other to discover that what they see in others in themselves, what they feel. We have to find a way to break the hideous fear of feeling that is killing our world, the notion that you are weak if you feel. If you can get to your feelings of self hate you are tougher than almost all the people on the planet. If people could only allow themselves to suffer and grieve over what was done to them as children they would not anymore suffer.
I tell you this. Grief heals and when you morn your own psychic death, allow what is buried within to come out, you will heal. The world is profoundly ignorant and in the dark about our condition, and powerfully motivated to stay that way. It isn't fun being the worst person in the world. But it is even stupider to believe it and keep it buried when it is a lie.
The entire world is suffering from PTSD, you and me. The pain that is there you just would not believe.