Mixed Signals on proposal

[Numenorean]

For one, you shouldn't be a douchebag and insult my wife. You know nothing about her.



Lavish?!?!? LOL, a $5K ring is LAVISH?!?!?! Wow, you guys need to get out more.



Good for her. Others aren't that way.



I guess it sucks not to have hobbies, eh?



LOL, want to compare trips/vacations and other events we've done in the past year? I don't think you do.

No need for me to compare anything to you - you could spend all your money on a million different things and it wouldn't compare. Because it's not about money. You seem to think differently so I guess you and your wife are probably a good match. You value yourself by your money, which is sad.

 

[Perknose]

Well then find a better woman. Like mine. Except you can't have her.

Yes he can. Sorry to burst your bubble, but anyone with $59.85 can.

Anyway, we all know why "your woman" didn't want a ring. :awe:

 

[AstroManLuca]

I assume you guys are computer enthusiasts like most of us here. Imagine you see this new decked out i7 system with a Radeon 6870, 16 GB of RAM, 300 GB SSD, dual or triple 30" monitors, etc. that you REALLY want and it so happens, you have the money to buy it. You are excited beyond belief, as you have always wanted a machine like this. It is literally the machine of your dreams!

Your wife looks at it with you, looks over to the right, and sees a $370 eMachines and says "Buying that expensive machine is stupid. That machine over there costs 10% as much and it can surf the web just fine."

You would not be happy. I know both of you will probably say "But...but...I'd never spend that much on a PC!" You may not, but surely there is a hobby you have that you wish, just once, you could buy a top-of-the-line piece. That is what a ring is to a woman. $5,000 is a reasonable expense and presented zero burden for me.

Not really, actually. My computer was like $700, and it's almost two years old. No plans to replace or even upgrade it.

I have a 32" LCD TV. I'd love a bigger one but chances are if we want a second TV we'll just get another cheap 32", maybe 37".

I got a telescope this past summer, it was something I wanted for a long time. Didn't go all out though; you can easily drop thousands on one with tons of electronic gadgets and stuff but I got a basic model that's just as good but cost $500 and has no electronics at all.

Come to think of it I have never splurged on anything really big.

I did buy a new car a couple years ago but it was a very basic one. In retrospect I probably should have bought used but I don't think I'll ever spend more than $20k for a car (well, maybe in many years to account for inflation).

EDIT: The one thing I did splurge on was my phone. I got a Samsung Epic. But since I got it subsidized, it was $250. And yeah there's the whole data plan cost but it's not really in the same league as far as total cost.

 

[thegimp03]

Yes, get a ring. Pretty much can guarantee that she will be sad if you don't surprise her with one.

 

[Numenorean]

Yes he can. Sorry to burst your bubble, but anyone with $59.85 can.

Anyway, we all know why "your woman" didn't want a ring. :awe:

Hey asshole, stop projecting your problems on other people.

 

[thegimp03]

Heh, $5k. I spent $5k on my wife's eternity (diamonds all around) band. I won't tell you what I spent on her engagement ring.

 

[The Boston Dangler]

if she said "i don't want an engagement ring" then i would not get her one.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

No need for me to compare anything to you - you could spend all your money on a million different things and it wouldn't compare. Because it's not about money. You seem to think differently so I guess you and your wife are probably a good match. You value yourself by your money, which is sad.

Excuse me? You're the one fixated on money, not me. I made a simple remark that $5K is a reasonable limit and here come the naysayers with their insults, etc.

You know nothing about me. The "3 plasma TV" remark was a remark made to illustrate a point which obviously went way over your head. The point being, of course, is that I have my hobbies which in the grand scheme of things, are probably stupid yet she tolerates them. I bet you have hobbies that in the grand scheme of things, are stupid too and your wife/SO tolerates them too.

I've traveled all over the world. I've had a lot of experiences in those travels (and here at home) that I wouldn't trade for any amount of money. And you know what? I will have more of them. I will visit more countries and see more things. Don't sit here and presume that you know anything about me. Go ahead with your whining, but for some of us, $5K is no burden at all and I'm not about to look at my wife and say "I need to buy this new computer!" or "I want to go on this trip!" and then tell her she can't have the ONLY thing she ever asked from me.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Yes he can. Sorry to burst your bubble, but anyone with $59.85 can.

Anyway, we all know why "your woman" didn't want a ring. :awe:

Thanks Perk. :thumbsup:

 

[rcpratt]

First of all...I would get a ring.

I'll never understand the big issue here with spending a fair bit of money on an engagement ring. I'm not advocating anyone spend beyond their means or get an expensive ring just because it's expensive, but I would have no qualms spending $5k for a ring for a girl I loved. It's not a computer or console or TV that is going to last 2-5 years. It's something that will last several decades. (Insert "omg 50% of marriages end in divorce" comment here). If you aren't sure, don't marry her.

 

[Numenorean]

Excuse me? You're the one fixated on money, not me. I made a simple remark that $5K is a reasonable limit and here come the naysayers with their insults, etc.

You know nothing about me. The "3 plasma TV" remark was a remark made to illustrate a point which obviously went way over your head. The point being, of course, is that I have my hobbies which in the grand scheme of things, are probably stupid yet she tolerates them. I bet you have hobbies that in the grand scheme of things, are stupid too and your wife/SO tolerates them too.

I've traveled all over the world. I've had a lot of experiences in those travels (and here at home) that I wouldn't trade for any amount of money. And you know what? I will have more of them. I will visit more countries and see more things. Don't sit here and presume that you know anything about me. Go ahead with your whining, but for some of us, $5K is no burden at all and I'm not about to look at my wife and say "I need to buy this new computer!" or "I want to go on this trip!" and then tell her she can't have the ONLY thing she ever asked from me.

lol

 

[IndyColtsFan]

First of all...I would get a ring.

I'll never understand the big issue here with spending a fair bit of money on an engagement ring. I'm not advocating anyone spend beyond their means or get an expensive ring just because it's expensive, but I would have no qualms spending $5k for a ring for a girl I loved. It's not a computer or console or TV that is going to last 2-5 years. It's something that will last several decades. (Insert "omg 50% of marriages end in divorce" comment here). If you aren't sure, don't marry her.

:thumbsup:

This guy gets it (unlike a certain person in this thread).

 

[James Bond]

Ask her mom/sister

 

[thegimp03]

First of all...I would get a ring.

I'll never understand the big issue here with spending a fair bit of money on an engagement ring. I'm not advocating anyone spend beyond their means or get an expensive ring just because it's expensive, but I would have no qualms spending $5k for a ring for a girl I loved. It's not a computer or console or TV that is going to last 2-5 years. It's something that will last several decades. (Insert "omg 50% of marriages end in divorce" comment here). If you aren't sure, don't marry her.

Agreed. When I was looking for her engagement ring I wanted something that she'd love wearing the rest of her life.

 

[Barfo]

Dhitb

 

[Barfo]

Ask her mom/sister

Only if they're hotter.

 

[zinfamous]

She's a woman...so it's still your fault.

:thumbsup:

 

[Jaepheth]

May I reiterate that making a ring:
A. costs only a few hundred at most and a few hours a week for a handful of weeks.
B. May introduce you to a creative new hobby. (As an engineer you should find it a simple hobby)
C. Lets you give something to your lady which she will consider priceless.
D. With the proper inscription will allow you to bind her soul in eternal servitude to your dark will...
Ash nazg durbatulûk, ash nazg gimbatul,
Ash nazg thrakatulûk agh burzum-ishi krimpatul.

 

[kranky]

First of all...I would get a ring.

I'll never understand the big issue here with spending a fair bit of money on an engagement ring. I'm not advocating anyone spend beyond their means or get an expensive ring just because it's expensive, but I would have no qualms spending $5k for a ring for a girl I loved. It's not a computer or console or TV that is going to last 2-5 years. It's something that will last several decades. (Insert "omg 50% of marriages end in divorce" comment here). If you aren't sure, don't marry her.

:thumbsup:

This guy gets it (unlike a certain person in this thread).

What about the "IF she wants one" part of the premise? That's what the OP was concerned about.

 

[zinfamous]

May I reiterate that making a ring:
A. costs only a few hundred at most and a few hours a week for a handful of weeks.
B. May introduce you to a creative new hobby. (As an engineer you should find it a simple hobby)
C. Lets you give something to your lady which she will consider priceless.
D. With the proper inscription will allow you to bind her soul in eternal servitude to your dark will...
Ash nazg durbatulûk, ash nazg gimbatul,
Ash nazg thrakatulûk agh burzum-ishi krimpatul.

lolwtf....:hmm:

 

[MotF Bane]

May I reiterate that making a ring:
A. costs only a few hundred at most and a few hours a week for a handful of weeks.
B. May introduce you to a creative new hobby. (As an engineer you should find it a simple hobby)
C. Lets you give something to your lady which she will consider priceless.
D. With the proper inscription will allow you to bind her soul in eternal servitude to your dark will...
Ash nazg durbatulûk, ash nazg gimbatul,
Ash nazg thrakatulûk agh burzum-ishi krimpatul.

:thumbsup:

 

[rcpratt]

What about the "IF she wants one" part of the premise? That's what the OP was concerned about.

I think she wants one, which is why I said I'd get one.

Even if she truly doesn't want one, I would get one anyways. It's just money and if it brings a couple (giving it and seeing it and being proud of it would certainly be enjoyable for me as well) the slightest bit of happiness it would be worth it to me.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

What about the "IF she wants one" part of the premise? That's what the OP was concerned about.

I saw that, but I think she is being modest about her wishes or maybe even testing the OP. I'd buy her one anyway.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

I think she wants one, which is why I said I'd get one.

Even if she truly doesn't want one, I would get one anyways. It's just money and if it brings a couple (giving it and seeing it and being proud of it would certainly be enjoyable for me as well) the slightest bit of happiness it would be worth it to me.

I always did say Purdue grads were smart. :awe:

 

[Gibson486]

All signs point to get one.

Problem is that the signals just get convoluted. Doing the inverse of it is pretty tough....

Putting things in the chick domain seems frustrating and the results usually do not add up. Maybe I should treat the function as non-linear....

But yeah, ring is the right idea, i guess.