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Mixed messages from Girl

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She wants to cuddle...so cuddle. Without saying anything (there's a time to shut up), put your hand somewhere that says, "we're more than just friends." A kiss will happen naturally at that point, and from there, well, I assume you know what to do.
 
/me slaps forehead. Damn it, I should've banged my hot HS teacher and the college TA. Damn, missed free sex.
 
Originally posted by: BigDonJohnson
**EDIT** We havent messed around or anything, we just sit and talk and talk. So nothing has went down yet.

WTF is up?! Should I tell her I am willing to wait (I really like her) or what?
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With your name BigDonJohnson why do you need advise?
 
Here's my advice. PM me and I'll tell you how to source everything you need to make some fvcking drugs that will make her rape you. 3,4,methylenedioxy,n,n,methamphetamine anyone?
 
Sounds to me like if you don't GET ON THAT RIGHT NOW you will be in the friend zone forever. she may not be looking for a relationship but that doesn't mean she will reject one if the opportunity arises. it just means she isn't desperate. which is a good thing. so just make your move and see what happens, let the chips fall where they may. after all, they call it "falling" in love, not "deciding" to be in love. it's something that sort of happens by accident.

my current GF wasn't looking for a relationship, either. in fact, she was fairly adamant about wanting to be single. i didn't let it slow me down and now we have a solid relationship. so there you go.
 
Originally posted by: BigDonJohnson
Originally posted by: yllus
If you tell her you're willing to wait, you'll become her emotional tampon and have to listen to all her worries and crap minus the sex - don't go there.

Best to pretend that she never said that she wasn't looking for a relationship. Don't press the issue, but carry on as the more-than-friends you're acting like right now and I give you odds that you'll end up in a relationship anyways.
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Excellent advice. I think that's probably the best way to go about it. And yeah, tonight I'll slip a hand down and see what's up.
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You couldn't be serious; could you? :roll: Reading more of your posts has made more skeptical of your story or request for advice. However, if you're really serious, read my response below.

Originally posted by: BigDonJohnson
Ok, so we work together.

I've always had a thing for her and recently broke up with the gf of 3years. We started talking at work a lot, going out for lunch, etc.

Then we started talking on the phone and text messaging eachother crazily (400 in like 5 days).

The last 3 days she has been here til atleast 3 or 4 AM.

Now today we talked about how she wasnt really looking for a relationship, and didnt want to hurt me or lead me on. I told her I had feelings for her but she never said if she had any for me. She always said she still wants to cuddle.

Now she is on her way over (40 min drive) to watch a movie.

**EDIT** We havent messed around or anything, we just sit and talk and talk. So nothing has went down yet.

WTF is up?! Should I tell her I am willing to wait (I really like her) or what?
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Ugh! I can't understand guys wanting to jump into a new relationship so quick before even getting over their long-term relationships. Deal with [recovery from] your long-term relationship before worrying about a relationship with a co-worker! Frankly speaking, even in the best circumstances, this type of relationship almost never lasts. How much then one with a co-worker, where the dynamics are so different and complex? You're playing with fire, in my opinion, because like it or not--this is going to be a fling. It won't last at all. If you still want it, make sure both of you have a mutual agreement on where you want this to go. There's no question that she is interested in you, but you shouldn't make any advances. Allow her initiate anything because once again this is the workplace. You're subject to charges of sexual harassment, especially in your position of power (albeit different departments), if you aren't careful. A woman tells you no and you believe the no to really mean yes. You act upon it and end up facing a lawsuit and discharge from work. As much as I'm certain that she does have interest in you, respect her words and don't move fast. Do not read in between the lines. And again, remember that this in all likelihood will just be a fling or possible tension between the two of you at the end. My general advice is no relationship at workplace, but that's just me.
 
Originally posted by: cmdrmoocow
Originally posted by: BigDonJohnson
I'm a supervisor at the Best Buy and she is a senior. 2 Totally different departments.

Rhin0: It's easy to hit it when u don't respect it. I didn't want to move too fast but since she doesn't want a relationship, maybe thats a sign that she just needs to get slammed.
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You're walking a tightrope with that kind of work relationship. If thinks go arwy, it will be very, very bad.
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I'm very big about not dating people I work with. That being said, I worked at a Best Buy in High school and my first year of college and rogered quite a few of the girls I worked with. It's not quite the same environment as an office.
 
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: cmdrmoocow
Originally posted by: BigDonJohnson
I'm a supervisor at the Best Buy and she is a senior. 2 Totally different departments.

Rhin0: It's easy to hit it when u don't respect it. I didn't want to move too fast but since she doesn't want a relationship, maybe thats a sign that she just needs to get slammed.
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You're walking a tightrope with that kind of work relationship. If thinks go arwy, it will be very, very bad.
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I'm very big about not dating people I work with. That being said, I worked at a Best Buy in High school and my first year of college and rogered quite a few of the girls I worked with. It's not quite the same environment as an office.
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Word. You don't dip your pen in the company ink, but I don't see any quill pens at most McJobs.

Edit - Man, I f*cked that quote up. 😕

- M4H
 
Sounds like you've been to nice to her, so you're getting slammed into a friend zone slot. This calls for major damage control. Stop calling her for 2 weeks, then show up at her house at 3am drunk and tell her she has a "slammin' ass". Chicks totally love that.
 
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