It's the same in NJ. These people have $500k homes and pay $10k in property taxes. They drive 2 cars, have a pool in their back yard, etc..
BUT... They don't have accumulated wealth. Both mom/dad make good money but how long could they possibly last if they both lost their jobs? They know how to spend, but they don't know squat about investing and saving. How can they have a high consumption lifestyle. The sad thing is their children will do exactly what their parents are currently doing. They will expect to live the same lifestyle that they had when they were living at home. They to will become high consumption adults.
Check out "The Millionaire Next Door." The book was written 15-20 years ago, but the principles in the book are timeless.
my family has done the complete opposite.......
we drive old cars/beaters...that are good on gas (besides a couple of nice cars, for special occasions, and those are just mid level) an Audi A6, an Escalade, and a Cadillac CTS..... besides that, it's chevy trucks, and cheap honda cars...
we eat wal mart food, go out to eat maybe once every two weeks...
we dont pay for cable, or a home phone (land line)
we dont have central A/C (old house, its heated in the winter by 3 fireplaces, and cooled in the summer by window units (electic bill stays under 300 in the most intense months......under 80, during the easy months
we own real estate......every single member of my family (mother, stepfather, father, stepmother, brother, sister, myself) all contribute 33 percent of our incomes, to the real estate mortgage payments, we'll pay it off way early) we own rent houses, and we do ALL the work... we dont buy throw away things... we dont "stack cash." we invest, in real estate, and back into our own businesses (4 in the family, My mother owns a mid size home hospice company, my stepfather owns a start up trucking company (2 trucks), my sister owns 2 tanning salons, and i run my IT/security consulting business...... my father and brother work together, they work for a large casino chain.. they do pretty well also..
me and my brother live in the first house my parents bought, my mother lives on 13 acres on a farm, with my stepdad, my sister right now bounces back and forth between me and my brothers place, and dads.... she's just finnicky.. she's got the latina and the jewish thing going on at once..so you can imagine.... Dad and His wife, live in there own house in town (closer commute to the casino, where his wife also works)
..... i'm very grateful my parents made excellent financial choices.... it's a blessing, and i'll make sure to carry on as well as i can in there footsteps..they set the bar pretty high though...
but, let me tell you.......to this day... we dont go blow thousands of dollars a night, or drive around in 100,000 dollar cars, to show off.... we mostly stay at home, eat in, real cooked food.. sometimes after i pay bills, i'm broke.... i literally dont have the money to (actual money, i dont use credit) go do those types of things.. not without messing up my budget, what i force myself to contribute, which is 33 percent of my income, end of the month, i transfer 33 percent of my profits to a common account, mother takes care of it from there, and i pay myself 12 bucks an hour to live on..... same amount i pay the guy that works for me part time...