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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: K1052
Perhaps try different cologne?
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Perhaps a different face would work out better heh.
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Unless you've been hit in the face with a jar of hydrocholoric acid, you should do fine.

Just keep fishin'.
 
hes just one guy in a sea of man-o-whores.

maybe hes just using the old "act like you dont care" trick that works on some women?
 
Originally posted by: casper114
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: casper114
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
And nothing happened. He didn't even seem too interested in talking to me, even though he asked me to come over. Just text messaged some friends, and sat way on the other end of the couch. And when it was time for me to leave (around 11), he didn't even get up. I just said I should probably be going, and he didn't seem to care.
Nor did he offer to walk me to my car since there was a gang of about 15 black dudes fighting about something outside the apartment.
Am I that repulsive? That's what I get for venturing outside my apartment.
Oh well.
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Well....er....uh .... I guess he's not worth your time??? Not to used to dude on dude relationship conversations
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Who knows. Everyone tells me to get over it. That I am cute, and that I should talk to more guys. So I did.
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Well if it was me.. (with a woman) and she didn't pay attention to me I would keep drawing cards untill I got the right hand.... I know there is a guy who works across the hall from me... He went to school has a great job, and I don't think he has any trouble finding dates..... You have to like yourself before anyone else will like you, so I guess work on you before you work on anyone else liking you.... hope this helps.
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I tried to be good company.
He said he had a 98 Mustang, and so I asked him about his car and car related things. He didn't even know if it was a v6 or a gt.
Then I saw some art on his wall, Van Gogh, and I asked him about it and art in general, and he said, "Van Who?" He just thought they were pretty.
Then we were talking about movies, and I asked him about a few he might like and he didnt know what I was talking about.
Then we got to talking about gay right, and a GLBT club at the school here, and I knew more about it than he did, and I am not enrolled.

I tried to find a major area of interest for him, but I kept hitting dead ends.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: casper114
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: casper114
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
And nothing happened. He didn't even seem too interested in talking to me, even though he asked me to come over. Just text messaged some friends, and sat way on the other end of the couch. And when it was time for me to leave (around 11), he didn't even get up. I just said I should probably be going, and he didn't seem to care.
Nor did he offer to walk me to my car since there was a gang of about 15 black dudes fighting about something outside the apartment.
Am I that repulsive? That's what I get for venturing outside my apartment.
Oh well.
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Well....er....uh .... I guess he's not worth your time??? Not to used to dude on dude relationship conversations
Click to expand...

Who knows. Everyone tells me to get over it. That I am cute, and that I should talk to more guys. So I did.
Click to expand...

Well if it was me.. (with a woman) and she didn't pay attention to me I would keep drawing cards untill I got the right hand.... I know there is a guy who works across the hall from me... He went to school has a great job, and I don't think he has any trouble finding dates..... You have to like yourself before anyone else will like you, so I guess work on you before you work on anyone else liking you.... hope this helps.
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I tried to be good company.
He said he had a 98 Mustang, and so I asked him about his car and car related things. He didn't even know if it was a v6 or a gt.
Then I saw some art on his wall, Van Gogh, and I asked him about it and art in general, and he said, "Van Who?" He just thought they were pretty.
Then we were talking about movies, and I asked him about a few he might like and he didnt know what I was talking about.

I tried to find a major area of interest for him, but I kept hitting dead ends.
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Well I guess what I was really hinting about is the way you are presenting yourself right now, You are talking about how you think you are repulsive... that's just not the attitude to have. You have to think it's his problem not yours.... especially if it went down like you said it did.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: gigapet
how did the two of you meet?
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Online of course.
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did you swap pics and talk on the phone at all before hand?
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Yep, and emails. he seems nice, just disinterested and not attracted to me at all, which is fine.
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Ummm.....Im not going to pretend im a master of yoru type of relationship but....

1) he would not have invited you over if he was not attracted in the first place

2) maybe he's the submissive one and you were supposed to be the aggressor


 
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: gigapet
how did the two of you meet?
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Online of course.
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did you swap pics and talk on the phone at all before hand?
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Yep, and emails. he seems nice, just disinterested and not attracted to me at all, which is fine.
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Ummm.....Im not going to pretend im a master of yoru type of relationship but....

1) he would not have invited you over if he was not attracted in the first place

2) maybe he's the submissive one and you were supposed to be the aggressor
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Well I am not going to attempt to get any closer to someone who shows signs that they might be uncomfortable with that type of attempt.
Most guys, and girls, will at least flirt if they find whomever is there is attractive.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
And nothing happened. He didn't even seem too interested in talking to me, even though he asked me to come over. Just text messaged some friends, and sat way on the other end of the couch. And when it was time for me to leave (around 11), he didn't even get up. I just said I should probably be going, and he didn't seem to care.
Nor did he offer to walk me to my car since there was a gang of about 15 black dudes fighting about something outside the apartment.
Am I that repulsive? That's what I get for venturing outside my apartment.
Oh well.
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He was a bit scared and uncertain.. didn't want to make the first move. But what's your problem? The last guy tried to maul you, and you weren't having any of it. 😛
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: gigapet
how did the two of you meet?
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Online of course.
Click to expand...

did you swap pics and talk on the phone at all before hand?
Click to expand...

Yep, and emails. he seems nice, just disinterested and not attracted to me at all, which is fine.
Click to expand...

Ummm.....Im not going to pretend im a master of yoru type of relationship but....

1) he would not have invited you over if he was not attracted in the first place

2) maybe he's the submissive one and you were supposed to be the aggressor
Click to expand...

Well I am not going to attempt to get any closer to someone who shows signs that they might be uncomfortable with that type of attempt.
Most guys, and girls, will at least flirt if they find whomever is there is attractive.
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Not if they are really shy. It sounds to me like that was the case. There is an easy way to find out....send an email and invite him over your place. If he accepts he was just shy, if he doesnt answer or makes an excuse or flakes out he's not interested. End of story.
 
I thought with man-on-man it's like, hey, wanna fvck? And then you have a couple of beers afterwards and/or just leave. What's with all the trying to have a conversation and stuff? 😀
 
Originally posted by: ATLien247
I thought with man-on-man it's like, hey, wanna fvck? And then you have a couple of beers afterwards and/or just leave. What's with all the trying to have a conversation and stuff? 😀
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lol, I wish that's how it was with woman to men!
 
Originally posted by: aidanjm
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
And nothing happened. He didn't even seem too interested in talking to me, even though he asked me to come over. Just text messaged some friends, and sat way on the other end of the couch. And when it was time for me to leave (around 11), he didn't even get up. I just said I should probably be going, and he didn't seem to care.
Nor did he offer to walk me to my car since there was a gang of about 15 black dudes fighting about something outside the apartment.
Am I that repulsive? That's what I get for venturing outside my apartment.
Oh well.
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He was a bit scared and uncertain.. didn't want to make the first move. But what's your problem? The last guy tried to maul you, and you weren't having any of it. 😛
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I didn't want this guy to maul me, just show some interest.
The last guy climbed on top of me and started kissing me when I hardly knew him. That's too far and way to fast for someone I don't really know. Plus I was still going through the roughest part of my breakup for me.

I guess I will take Gigapets advice and ask him out to eat or for a cup of coffee. If he says yes, fine, if he says no, fine.
 
Originally posted by: ATLien247
I thought with man-on-man it's like, hey, wanna fvck? And then you have a couple of beers afterwards and/or just leave. What's with all the trying to have a conversation and stuff? 😀
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With some it is. I wish I were joking.
 
Maybe it was his first time (experimental time) and he got scared. Just means you scare away all the noobies 😛
 
Originally posted by: casper114
Originally posted by: ATLien247
I thought with man-on-man it's like, hey, wanna fvck? And then you have a couple of beers afterwards and/or just leave. What's with all the trying to have a conversation and stuff? 😀
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lol, I wish that's how it was with woman to men!
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"Hey man, you want to go out with us to watch the game at BW's? Afterwards we're going back to my place to fvck each other."


What's that movie where the guy is expounding on his ideal of "a world where guys just did each other, but it wasn't gay, because there's no women"? I can never think of it.
 
Originally posted by: sonz70
Maybe it was his first time (experimental time) and he got scared. Just means you scare away all the noobies 😛
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No it wasn't. We talked about his previous bfs and how they cheated on him.
I felt so bad for him.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: sonz70
Maybe it was his first time (experimental time) and he got scared. Just means you scare away all the noobies 😛
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No it wasn't. We talked about his previous bfs and how they cheated on him.
I felt so bad for him.
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If it wasn't that, from reading the rest of the thread, it seems like you guys hit dead silence a few times, and the sitting on the couch not talking prolly made it worse. Some people just don't click, don't worry about it too much. Just go and try to find someone else.
 
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