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Marriage name change troubles

SoylentG

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Alright, so my last name is Spanko, and my fiance's last name is Rodriguez. She dislikes my last name, and doesn't want to take it. I'm not particularly fond of it, but you don't choose your last name based on like/dislike in my opinion. If everyone just named themselves what they wanted, we've have a lot more lame ass names going around, and a lot of peolpe with RL names like Vash and such.

She's asking her soap opera board about possible name consolidations, but I just don't see the point in bucking tradition here. I'm not exactly the full on traditional type of guy, but it just doesn't make sense to me..

Thoughts?
 

ruffilb

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If she doesn't want to change her name, don't make her.

You're still married, your last names don't matter.
 

IronWing

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I don't know how to solve your dilemna but Spanko Rodriguez sounds like a great name for a baseball player.


Other than that, just support whatever name your fiance comes up with for herself. You don't have to change your name in anyway but don't try to dictate what she wishes to call herself.

 

aidanjm

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You could come up with a completely new name, that satisfies both of you. No rule says either of you have to keep your original surname.
 

doze

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I think she should take your last name, the name change thing is traditional

A customer called me the other day and her last name was Assman. Assuming she is married, Spanko is nothing compared to that.
 

TwinkleToes77

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I havent changed my last name yet.. and its been 3 years.. its not that big of a deal to not change it.. ppl still direct me as Mrs (husbands last name) but on paperwork im still with my surname. He doesn't care either.
 

xSauronx

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Originally posted by: aidanjm
You could come up with a completely new name, that satisfies both of you. No rule says either of you have to keep your original surname.
 

Circlenaut

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My dad would have my head if my wife one day doesn't take my last name. Strefling is a dying name with only a few tens around the world (stupid WWII...) Dunno, I'd clear this up before marriage.
 
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Originally posted by: Pippy
My dad would have my head if my wife one day doesn't take my last name. Strefling is a dying name with only a few tens around the world (stupid WWII...) Dunno, I'd clear this up before marriage.
As much as a name meant before, in these times it means nothing. The only thing that matters is if you put value on the name and tradition. If you're doing this for your father, you might regret it.
 

TwinkleToes77

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Originally posted by: Pippy
My dad would have my head if my wife one day doesn't take my last name. Strefling is a dying name with only a few tens around the world (stupid WWII...) Dunno, I'd clear this up before marriage.
my family's name has already died... all of my dad's brothers had daughters..
 

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: SoylentG
Alright, so my last name is Spanko, and my fiance's last name is Rodriguez. She dislikes my last name, and doesn't want to take it. I'm not particularly fond of it, but you don't choose your last name based on like/dislike in my opinion. If everyone just named themselves what they wanted, we've have a lot more lame ass names going around, and a lot of peolpe with RL names like Vash and such.

She's asking her soap opera board about possible name consolidations, but I just don't see the point in bucking tradition here. I'm not exactly the full on traditional type of guy, but it just doesn't make sense to me..

Thoughts?

lol, I'd go with you taking her last name, I cannot imagine going thru life with Spanko as a name. The torment must be endless :)
 

RKS

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My wife hinted at the whole hypenation thing. I told her if she wanted to get married she had to take my name or she could keep her name and we could just move in together.

She went from an old German name to an old Indian one.
 
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Originally posted by: RKS
My wife hinted at the whole hypenation thing. I told her if she wanted to get married she had to take my name or she could keep her name and we could just move in together.

She went from an old German name to an old Indian one.
What were the names?
 

RKS

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Originally posted by: LoKe
Originally posted by: RKS
My wife hinted at the whole hypenation thing. I told her if she wanted to get married she had to take my name or she could keep her name and we could just move in together.

She went from an old German name to an old Indian one.
What were the names?

the english translation for her name is/was bucketmaker now it is "don't squeeze the Sharma"
 
Jun 4, 2005
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Originally posted by: RKS
Originally posted by: LoKe
Originally posted by: RKS
My wife hinted at the whole hypenation thing. I told her if she wanted to get married she had to take my name or she could keep her name and we could just move in together.

She went from an old German name to an old Indian one.
What were the names?

the english translation for her name is/was bucketmaker now it is "don't squeeze the Sharma"
Bucketmaker, rofl. What was her name in actual German?
 

Baked

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Alright, so my last name is Spanko, and my fiance's last name is Rodriguez. She dislikes my last name, and doesn't want to take it.

I stopped reading after that. She doesn't like to get spank I take it? Well that's contrary to Latin women getting freaky.
 

EGGO

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I wouldn't want my last name to be Spanko. What my family usually does is they keep the mother's last name in the middle name.
 

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