What you or I fear doesn't matter, what matters is how other people react.
I stated that people carry a gun out of fear only because I couldn't think of any other reasonable reason to carry a gun and I haven't heard anything other than wanting to be a hero.
For some reason simply stating this puts gun holders into a frenzy. It's akin to those that are against gay marriage because they are homophobic.
There is nothing wrong with either of the above but lets at least be honest about it. You guys seem to have no problem pointing out others fears and ridiculing them and yet you want them to respect your views but you don't want to respect theirs.
The reasonable reason to carry a gun is the same reason you wear a seat-belt. Do you buckle up out of fear? Are you constantly afraid of a car wreck as you drive? Of course not (at least I hope not). Having driven for 10 years in some of the worst traffic in the nation I've had exactly zero accidents. Odds are I could unbuckle and be perfectly fine, but I buckle-up anyway.
The same mentality applies to carrying a gun. I carry, I train. I'm prepared. Once that gun goes into my pocket I can forget about it until it's needed (or until I encounter some local legalities). There's no constant state of fear, no worry about being mugged, none. I'm prepared in the event that I find myself in a mugging or robbery, but I'm not "afraid" of either of said events.
Likewise a gun is not required to sooth any "fear", because said fear is, for me and many others, nonexistent. I can't legally carry my gun if I go out drinking, so guess what? I leave the gun home and go out drinking, at arguably the time of week when the most crime happens, and I have fun like anyone else. My lack of gun doesn't even cross my mind.
I'm sorry if that differs with your perception of the world, but that's the reality.
Now as for mutual respect, I haven't met a gun owner yet who will disrespect someone for not owning a gun. I know I don't judge someone for not owning a gun, nor do I question their decision (if they ever made one). On the flip side, it's quite common for a gun owner, let alone a gun carrier, to encounter "you own THAT? Why do you need one of those? Why do you need to carry one of those? What are you afraid of? What's wrong with you?" and then having to defend him/herself.
When gun owners "make fun" of non-gun owners' fear, we're usually making fun of their fear more than the actual person. In our view, if they simply educated themselves via a few google searches, a lot of their fears would be allayed. When non gun-owners make fun of a gun owner, they're typically making a direct stab at the gun owner's character and seriously insulting him/her as a person.
Gun owner makes fun of non-gun owner: "You're ignorant."
Non-gun owner makes fun of gun owners: "You're a bad person, there's something wrong with you." Implied: "You should be stopped."
Of the two, the latter is far more judgmental and insulting, and you wonder why it gets the reaction it does?