Making a move on a woman who has a boyfriend

[DougK62]

I think a lot of people are confusing the question. None of us would be happy if some guy were hitting on our girlfriend. The question is if it's morally wrong.

 

[crt1530]

Originally posted by: Flyback

Originally posted by: crt1530
A better question: what you will do when she tells her boyfriend and he decides to beat you up the next time he sees you?

Why the ATOT answer, of course: whip out your concealed .45 and bust a cap in him.

I don't know any CHL holders who would try to steal another man's girlfriend.

 

[frankie38]

She will let you know if your attention is desired.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
lol this is tooo deep for me. In caveman days it was irrelevant what player haters said or did. The player already knocked up the player haters women. Further producing another generation of caveman with stronger dominant dna. This process came to almost a halt with the creation of religion and marriage etc. Know the stronger dominant dna has less chance to propogate with all the social consturcts in place. THis IS the result of player haters!

Actually, in caveman days, the player hater beat the player to death with a blunt object, and that was the end of it.

- M4H

 

[jdoggg12]

Originally posted by: DougK62
I think a lot of people are confusing the question. None of us would be happy if some guy were hitting on our girlfriend. The question is if it's morally wrong.

Yes.

is it morally wrong to hit on a married woman? of course

is it less wrong to hit on a girl in a relationship? no. why? b/c either way, you're trying to ruin the relationship, the difference is one is legally binding, the other simply hasn't gone that far.

If you honestly think its fine to hit on someone in a relationship, i hope it happens to you and you lose someone you love deeply. You'll feel like the tool you are.

 

[FeuerFrei]

Originally posted by: DougK62
I think a lot of people are confusing the question. None of us would be happy if some guy were hitting on our girlfriend. The question is if it's morally wrong.

I concur. It's not really an issue of morality, it's more of an etiquette situation. You're basically trying to undermine someone's relationship.

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: jdoggg12

Originally posted by: DougK62
I think a lot of people are confusing the question. None of us would be happy if some guy were hitting on our girlfriend. The question is if it's morally wrong.

Yes.

is it morally wrong to hit on a married woman? of course

is it less wrong to hit on a girl in a relationship? no. why? b/c either way, you're trying to ruin the relationship, the difference is one is legally binding, the other simply hasn't gone that far.

If you honestly think its fine to hit on someone in a relationship, i hope it happens to you and you lose someone you love deeply. You'll feel like the tool you are.

I can understand your view, but it still just makes no sense to me. If the girl you're with loves you back then she'd tell some new guy hitting on her to go fly a kite.

 

[honkee]

I will smash your face on the house for all the dudes out there that hate mfers like you "dougK"

 

[honkee]

Its wrong, your lame as fuk for even making this thread
/end thread

get back to wanging off to your ten sec clips buddy

 

[ViviTheMage]

rofl, id whoop you!

its morally wrong. imo

 

[jdoggg12]

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: jdoggg12

Originally posted by: DougK62
I think a lot of people are confusing the question. None of us would be happy if some guy were hitting on our girlfriend. The question is if it's morally wrong.

Yes.

is it morally wrong to hit on a married woman? of course

is it less wrong to hit on a girl in a relationship? no. why? b/c either way, you're trying to ruin the relationship, the difference is one is legally binding, the other simply hasn't gone that far.

If you honestly think its fine to hit on someone in a relationship, i hope it happens to you and you lose someone you love deeply. You'll feel like the tool you are.

I can understand your view, but it still just makes no sense to me. If the girl you're with loves you back then she'd tell some new guy hitting on her to go fly a kite.

Many people have "the grass is greener..." syndrome. You may be utterly in love, but with enough wooing, a partner can stray. It's called seduction. There are enough women out there that if you cant find a gf w/o stealing her from someone else, you deserve any retribution your thievery gets you.

If shes in a relationship and initiates it... thats a different story. Still wrong to pursue it till she breaks it off, but you're not the a$$hat you would've been if you initiated it.

 

[AUMM]

Originally posted by: HendrixFan

Originally posted by: yllus
No ring = fair game.

That's how it works in the real world, not AT's fantasyland where everyone's got the personal code of a medieval knight. There's a reason that form of combat has long since been surpassed...

Bingo. Once a girl is engaged or married I consider her off limits. Until that time, they are not committed to any one person, and should be free to choose whether or not to move onto someone better. A lifetime commitment like marriage is an agreement to settle down with just that one person.

The girl I am seeing now I have been after (with varying levels of pursuit) for over a year, the entire time she was seeing the same guy. Once things weakened between them just recently I really facilitated the breakup process, and now I have her. Of course, since I don't have a serious commitment (like marriage) with her, any other guy can come along and do the same. It all comes down to whether or not I am good enough to satisfy her or not.

agreed

:music:
So homie dont bring your girl to me to meet cause Ima flirt
And baby dont bring your girlfriend to eat cause Ima flirt
Please believe it unless your game is tight and you trust herrrrr
Then dont bring her round me cause Ima flirt :music:

 

[thegimp03]

Yeah, it's wrong. Put yourself in the boyfriend's shoes. If I was ever to be in that position I'd dropkick someone for doing that.

 

[slsmnaz]

Originally posted by: DougK62
I'm honestly surprised by the results. I figured the bars would be flipped.

Every once in a while ATOT proves it's inhabited by real people.

 

[SSSnail]

May the best man win. Who's to say she won't be happier with you? Perhaps she'll see that her man is a better man than you, so things could go either way.

I have no problems with anyone that wants to hit on my gf, as she's being hit on constantly and she tells me about it, too. I find it quite funny, and flattering at the same time. Honestly, I wouldn't want a gf that nobody else wants.

So, if you think you can win, more power to you. It all comes down to the girl, not you or her man will have any say in it.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: jdoggg12

Yes.

is it morally wrong to hit on a married woman? of course

is it less wrong to hit on a girl in a relationship? no. why? b/c either way, you're trying to ruin the relationship, the difference is one is legally binding, the other simply hasn't gone that far.

If you honestly think its fine to hit on someone in a relationship, i hope it happens to you and you lose someone you love deeply. You'll feel like the tool you are.

I really don't see how it is morally wrong at all. You're not trying to ruin a relationship, because if she accepts the relationship was already ruined and you're just taking the spoils.

It's their choice to jump to something better, you're just showing them that there is something better available.

 

[honkee]

Some women are just nice and flirty in general.
If she came out and told you she was having problems with her BF, go and do the damn thing.
But if you got a little ickling in your pickling, dont let your other head think that things should go your way.

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: jdoggg12

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: jdoggg12

Originally posted by: DougK62
I think a lot of people are confusing the question. None of us would be happy if some guy were hitting on our girlfriend. The question is if it's morally wrong.

Yes.

is it morally wrong to hit on a married woman? of course

is it less wrong to hit on a girl in a relationship? no. why? b/c either way, you're trying to ruin the relationship, the difference is one is legally binding, the other simply hasn't gone that far.

If you honestly think its fine to hit on someone in a relationship, i hope it happens to you and you lose someone you love deeply. You'll feel like the tool you are.

I can understand your view, but it still just makes no sense to me. If the girl you're with loves you back then she'd tell some new guy hitting on her to go fly a kite.

Many people have "the grass is greener..." syndrome. You may be utterly in love, but with enough wooing, a partner can stray. It's called seduction. There are enough women out there that if you cant find a gf w/o stealing her from someone else, you deserve any retribution your thievery gets you.

If shes in a relationship and initiates it... thats a different story. Still wrong to pursue it till she breaks it off, but you're not the a$$hat you would've been if you initiated it.

"stealing"? "thievery"? Women are not property.

 

[realEZE]

Originally posted by: DougK62
Is it morally wrong to make a move on a woman when you know that she has been with her boyfriend for a fair amount of time (say 2 years), and appears to be reasonably happy?

All is fair in love and war.

 

[ScottFern]

How about this. You pull this girl and you guys start going out. Then lets say 12 months from now everything is fine and this new guy starts at her work and they start flirting and eventually she does the same crap you did with someone else!

I am sure the guy she is with right now thinks that they are in love and definitely right for each other, so who says that can't be you in 12 months.

 

[dmcowen674]

Originally posted by: DougK62
Topic Title: Making a move on a woman who has a boyfriend
Topic Summary: Is it wrong?

Is it morally wrong to make a move on a woman when you know that she has been with her boyfriend for a fair amount of time (say 2 years), and appears to be reasonably happy?

Not as long as he is there in the room with you two.

 

[CKent]

Originally posted by: 49erinnc

Originally posted by: DougK62
Is it morally wrong to make a move on a woman when you know that she has been with her boyfriend for a fair amount of time (say 2 years), and appears to be reasonably happy?

Simple answer:

Would you want a guy making a move on your girlfriend if he knew she had been with you for 2 years and was happy? Didn't think so.

If his move had a chance of success, I'd have to reexamine the strength of my relationship. I wouldn't blame him, no. Women are adults capable of making their own decisions.

I've been the bad guy in this scenario. I didn't really make the move so much as she did, and it certainly wasn't my intention to break up a relationship (though last I heard, he never knew and they were still going out). If someone - man or woman - cheats, it's their responsibility.

 

[Flyback]

Originally posted by: ScottFern
How about this. You pull this girl and you guys start going out. Then lets say 12 months from now everything is fine and this new guy starts at her work and they start flirting and eventually she does the same crap you did with someone else!

I am sure the guy she is with right now thinks that they are in love and definitely right for each other, so who says that can't be you in 12 months.

I'll come back to you with this one:

If you are, to your knowledge, in a happy relationship with a woman but it turns out she would rather be with someone else, would you like to keep living that lie?

Women aren't property (well they are, if you're a protectionist). I wouldn't want to be in a relationship just because someone else didn't challenge it now and then. If she moves on, then she wasn't happy with you in the first place (or, liked the other person more in which case she should be with him).

 

[ShadowOfMyself]

I voted no... if she is truly happy she will ignore you bad or something along those lines, and if I was the boyfriend and my girl let herself be seduced by some other guy, it would be clear the relationship wasnt worth it

 

[jdoggg12]

Would it change your mind if it was a non-married couple with a kid they were raising together?