Making a move on a woman who has a boyfriend

[paulxcook]

If I were single, I wouldn't do it, especially if it's been 2 years. If she's flirting with you, flirt back if you want, but trying to break up a 2 year relationship makes you kind of an asshat.

 

[jimbob200521]

Wrong: yes

I can't believe someone would even ask that...

 

[jman19]

Originally posted by: yllus
No ring = fair game.

That's how it works in the real world, not AT's fantasyland where everyone's got the personal code of a medieval knight. There's a reason that form of combat has long since been surpassed...

Of course she is technically fair game, but a lot of people frown on that crap. Unless she is showing interest in you, you're probably setting yourself up for a fall.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: EagleKeeper
If you succeed, what does that tell you about her.

You are now next in line to get the shaft

Actually, he'd be next in line to give shaft. :Q

- M4H

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: sixone
Morally wrong - No, why would it be?

But it's a pretty stupid move, IMHO. If she says no, then you've got all that awkwardness to deal with. If she says yes, then you're wasting your time on someone who will stay with you until something better comes along. Either way, you lose.

This is my thinking, too.

 

[meltdown75]

If she's got a boyfriend and you know it, I don't see why you would bother other than to stir the pot.

If you are out somewhere and it is a complete stranger, you are none the wiser until she makes it known...

 

[HendrixFan]

Originally posted by: yllus
No ring = fair game.

That's how it works in the real world, not AT's fantasyland where everyone's got the personal code of a medieval knight. There's a reason that form of combat has long since been surpassed...

Bingo. Once a girl is engaged or married I consider her off limits. Until that time, they are not committed to any one person, and should be free to choose whether or not to move onto someone better. A lifetime commitment like marriage is an agreement to settle down with just that one person.

The girl I am seeing now I have been after (with varying levels of pursuit) for over a year, the entire time she was seeing the same guy. Once things weakened between them just recently I really facilitated the breakup process, and now I have her. Of course, since I don't have a serious commitment (like marriage) with her, any other guy can come along and do the same. It all comes down to whether or not I am good enough to satisfy her or not.

 

[manowar821]

Here, if you were to hit on my girlfriend and you didn't know that I even existed, I'd let it go, no questions asked.

But if you knew about me? I'd kick your ass.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: JDub02
All is fair in love and war.

Indeed.

Originally posted by: EagleKeeper
If you succeed, what does that tell you about her.

You are now next in line to get the shaft

Originally posted by: spidey07
No wedding ring = available.

No ring means she is just dating. Free to date somemore.

Go for it man. You could be the guy she is more happy with or not .

Whats up with all of this BS in this thread...shes dating, shes not engaged or married.

Koing

 

[Flyback]

If she does something she would have done it anyways. You're doing the boyfriend a favor.

Let 'er loose.

 

[Flyback]

Originally posted by: spidey07
No wedding ring = available.

No ring means she is just dating. Free to date somemore.

Hell, why even let the ring stop you

 

[manowar821]

Originally posted by: LeiZaK
"Don't hate the player, hate the game"

LOL, what a F-ing stupid saying, am I right?

Why in the world do you think that the game exists? Because the PLAYERS invented the game. They make the game by playing it.

I'll hate the players all I like.

 

[Zolty]

It's not wrong, but you need to realize that he has the right to kick the crap out of you.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

no ring = she is single. a boyfriend is just a guy she is seeing until there is a ring.

 

[meltdown75]

I see this spiraling into the, "people aren't committed until they get married" thread, which is BS of course and will annoy the living crap out of me so I'm out.

 

[Mardeth]

Kids are the only definite no-no. Anything else is reviewed on a case by case basis.



2 years is a long time. Unless she is all over you, dont make a move.

 

[Kntx]

No. It's fine. If you think you're better than him and can pull a steal. Go for it. If she's happy you'll get rebuked. No big deal.

If she were engaged or married that would be different. Girlfriend is nothing but a hurdle.

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: tw1164
If she's happy, why would she entertain your advances?

That's my main question. If you can really get her, she wasn't happy. That's why I laugh when someone blames a third party for breaking up a relationship. The blame is always solely on the person in the relationship who decided to stray.

Personally, I wouldn't do it though. Why involve yourself in that kind of drama when there are plenty of single girls out there who have everything this girl does?

 

[manowar821]

The whole "no ring = fair game" is complete BS.

Why does a stupid religious institution make a relationship more "valid"? Some of us don't care for marriage, not because we're afraid of commitment, but because we believe the whole system is screwed up. Besides, far too many marriages fail to call married couples any more valid than what my girl and I have.

True love doesn't require a document, jerks.

 

[Flyback]

Originally posted by: manowar821
The whole "no ring = fair game" is complete BS.

Why does a stupid religious institution make a relationship more "valid"? Some of us don't care for marriage, not because we're afraid of commitment, but because we believe the whole system is screwed up. Besides, far too many marriages fail to call married couples any more valid than what my girl and I have.

True love doesn't require a document, jerks.

That's why even a ring == fair game

 

[Kntx]

Originally posted by: manowar821
The whole "no ring = fair game" is complete BS.

Why does a stupid religious institution make a relationship more "valid"? Some of us don't care for marriage, not because we're afraid of commitment, but because we believe the whole system is screwed up. Besides, far too many marriages fail to call married couples any more valid than what my girl and I have.

True love doesn't require a document, jerks.

Ok, how about ring = fair game? That make you happy?

 

[cherrytwist]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
I see this spiraling into the, "people aren't committed until they get married" thread, which is BS of course and will annoy the living crap out of me so I'm out.

She really did a number on you huh?

 

[manowar821]

Haha, well, if you two believe that ring OR no ring = fair game, then I'll just let it go.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: manowar821

Originally posted by: LeiZaK
"Don't hate the player, hate the game"

LOL, what a F-ing stupid saying, am I right?

Why in the world do you think that the game exists? Because the PLAYERS invented the game. They make the game by playing it.

I'll hate the players all I like.

Lol, no you are not right....like at all. :roll:

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: cherrytwist

Originally posted by: meltdown75
I see this spiraling into the, "people aren't committed until they get married" thread, which is BS of course and will annoy the living crap out of me so I'm out.

She really did a number on you huh?

happily married almost 4 yrs kthxbye