what most other have said...be honost and open, show strength and resolve. Also, make sure you are meeting in a public place...daddy might be mad. You never know what a person will do.
And here we have a winner!!!
That is of course the reality of the situation. She is not yet old or mature enough to understand that she'll be breaking away from her parents very soon and making her own life decisions, and that the feelings of her husband are going to become more imporant than the feelings of her parents.
Thumper's Mom loves me to death, her father cannot stand me. Oh well, his loss. I've tried a few times to make a connection with him, but he doesn't seem interested (her parents are divorced). I will of course try again, but his disaproval of me is not preventing Thumper from marrying me.
Interestingly enough, his problem with me is similar to Thumper's. When he and I first met, he asked what I did. When I told him I fly helicopters, he said, "that's nice son, when do you plan to settle down and get a real job that won't get you killed?"
And that was the end of that conversation, it never really recovered from that point...
*shrug*
: ) Hopper
Don't bother trying to hurt the friend. Never bother involving yourself in any kind of struggle with an idiot. She'll just bring you down to her level and then beat you with experience.
Update:
I am in trouble. Looks like her best friend wants to call the police on me because I called her a whore and that I am going to smack her mother in the face on another forum that they go on. I also told her to watch her back. I said this stuff the second I found out what happend. It was very immature of me, but I was really angry at the time.
They just called my mom's work and I don't know how they got that number, but they called it and told them they are going to call the police on me. My mother called me yelling at me. They are threatening to call the police and they made it clear I am not allowed to see their daugther anymore. The father still wants to see me later in the afternoon. My mother wants to come along now because she is telling me how they are crazy people and they will most likely hurt me.
Now my parents are angry at me. They didn't know she was religious and they are telling me to back-off and stay away from them "fanatics". History: We are both from Iran. She is religious .. meaning they follow the Quran and the woman cover up their hair .. just a scarf over their head. Lots of anti-U.S and Israel coming from her side of the family. She goes because they kill innocent "muslims". WHATEVER .. my family is totally against any of that. My family is different. We don't follow anything in the Quran, but we say we are Muslims (If anything) .. proudly wave the American flag and do not hate Israel. We hate nobody. We even celebrate Christmas ... and my parents are actually for the war Iraq.
Anyways, I think I got myself in a messed up situation. I didn't know this girl was THAT religious until now because she never wore her scarf around me.
The girl is 17 and I am 21. Can I go to jail? We did not have any sex.
I am in trouble. Looks like her best friend wants to call the police on me because I called her a whore and that I am going to smack her mother in the face on another forum that they go on. I also told her to watch her back. I said this stuff the second I found out what happend. It was very immature of me, but I was really angry at the time.
They just called my mom's work and I don't know how they got that number, but they called it and told them they are going to call the police on me. My mother called me yelling at me. They are threatening to call the police and they made it clear I am not allowed to see their daugther anymore. The father still wants to see me later in the afternoon. My mother wants to come along now because she is telling me how they are crazy people and they will most likely hurt me.
Now my parents are angry at me. They didn't know she was religious and they are telling me to back-off and stay away from them "fanatics". History: We are both from Iran. She is religious .. meaning they follow the Quran and the woman cover up their hair .. just a scarf over their head. Lots of anti-U.S and Israel coming from her side of the family. She goes because they kill innocent "muslims". WHATEVER .. my family is totally against any of that. My family is different. We don't follow anything in the Quran, but we say we are Muslims (If anything) .. proudly wave the American flag and do not hate Israel. We hate nobody. We even celebrate Christmas ... and my parents are actually for the war Iraq.
Anyways, I think I got myself in a messed up situation. I didn't know this girl was THAT religious until now because she never wore her scarf around me.
The girl is 17 and I am 21. Can I go to jail? We did not have any sex.
Don't go. All he's going to do is continue to make accusations and tear the relationship apart. I'd tell him that if he wants to talk to you like a man and objectively hear both sides of the story, then you'll meet with him, but if he plans on doing what he's already done, then you'll be no party to it.
Go with a baseball bat, a ski mask and a roll of duct tape. I'll leave the specifics up to you, but it should end up with the girl in the car and you involved in a high speed auto chase with the cops.
Well, given all of this...it doesnt seem to be worth the effort to me. Her dad still wants to meet, so he either is 1) Reasonable, and wants to hear what you have to say before doing anything or 2) Psycho, and will beat the sh!t outta you. Lets hope its #1. Dont let your mother come along, as it will show you do not mistrust the father. But do meet in a public place or have a friend or 2 nearby (dont tell the father this, and dont show up with them either) incase the sh!t hits the fan. Oh, and dont worry about the police. You have not done anything wrong that would be worth there time...although the "watch your back" comment was a bit too far...implied threat there. Next time be more careful.
Kevlar vests are getting easier to conceal BTW.
Calling her a whore and some vague threats on a message board aren't enough for her to call the police on you over here in the U.S. I think the police would most likely laugh it off if they did that.
You know, my advice, find yourself another woman a little bit older, and one that comes from a family which isn't so stupid. If they are so anti-american they really should go back to Iran or to another middle eastern country. (I am assuming both of you live in the U.S currently). You sound like your pretty sensible. Forget about this girl, if she was really worth it, you wouldn't have to fight through her family and friends like you are. I mean, she would make an effort to meet you halfway. It sounds like she hasn't even called you or contacted you in awhile. She's 17, she could contact you despite her parents if she really wanted to. Find someone more deserving.
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The more I think about this (and her best friends' antics), the more I say just to drop them all from your life. Leave everything behind and don't bother anymore. Harder said than done with someone you think you love, but you are only 21 and you don't need all of this trouble...
Ignore the threats, they can call the cops all they want, doesn't mean anything.
Depending on what state you live in, they may have that right, until she is 18. Then she can do what she wants. In many states, at 17 she can already do what she wants, so they might not have that right anymore.
Doesn't seem to be any point to that now.
If she doesn't wear the scarf, then she probably has rejected some of the religious stuff from her parents.
You need to talk to her before anything else, find out how interested in you she really is. If she's actually serious about you, then take it further, if not, then let her go and wish her a nice life.
No, you cannot go to jail... Even if you had sex, most states would not consider that a crime.
: ) Hopper
Originally posted by: 440sixpack
Sooooo I'm guessing this dad was no big fan of you, eh?
i've never gone to thailand if that's the question.
To answer your question, you will not go to jail.
But for the relationship, as much as you love/care for her, I don't think it will be worth it (easy for me to say, because I'm not in your situation). Parents are stubborn, especially concerning a daughter. Trust me, there are plenty of fish in the sea. If you still plan on seeing her, just meet with her father and be truthful but you'll probably end up with a mouthful from your mother and her father. Good luck.
But for the relationship, as much as you love/care for her, I don't think it will be worth it (easy for me to say, because I'm not in your situation). Parents are stubborn, especially concerning a daughter. Trust me, there are plenty of fish in the sea. If you still plan on seeing her, just meet with her father and be truthful but you'll probably end up with a mouthful from your mother and her father. Good luck.
Calling someone names (excluding racial slurs) is not too big of a deal but verbal threat has a certain degree of misdemeanor which means you might be charged for saying things such as I am going to beat you up or I am going to slap you in the face or you better watch your back and etc.
You will not go to jail for NOT HAVING SEX with a 17 year old and it seems like that you just need to make a stand and clarify yourself.
You will not go to jail for NOT HAVING SEX with a 17 year old and it seems like that you just need to make a stand and clarify yourself.
Maybe your parents will think again about getting you life insurance...jk
Hope the meeting goes well!
Hope the meeting goes well!
Of course this whole thread shows the overall maturity level of 17 to 21 year old kids, which they don't see, but which drives parents nuts I'm sure...
: ) Hopper
: ) Hopper
Given the new situation, I'd just have to say blow it off. You're too young to be worrying about one girl like this; you have your whole life ahead of you. And I find it highly unlikely that even though you're both from Iran that your relationship will be able to withstand the cultural differences between your respective upbringing.
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