Level of education

Toggle sidebar Toggle sidebar
A

Armitage

Banned
Feb 23, 2001
8,086
0
0
How about it?
I've been examining my recently failed marriage, and I suspect one of the problems we had the large difference in education & (corrospanding?) intellectual curiosity. I have an M.S. in engineering, and am constanly learning, either informally or formally. She was a H.S. grad when we met, and picked up a "vocational" associates degree (nursing) while we were married (and hated every minute of going back to school).

I suspect that disparity had alot to do with our problems ... she just wasn't interested in the kinds of things I got excited about. Of course you might have the same problem between engineer/non-engineer.

Inspired by the female engineers thread... And yes, I've know some very hot female engineers. One of the hottest was a girl with an M.S. in Aerospace Eng. from MIT ... and in the Air Force also.
 
minendo

minendo

Elite Member
Aug 31, 2001
35,560
22
81
Right now it is Bachelors vs. HS, but she will have her associates in December.

My parents are MS in Chem E and HS.
 
T

techfuzz

Diamond Member
Feb 11, 2001
3,107
0
76
Nope, we're both in college. Not any difference except in our majors. She's English, I'm Comp Sci.

techfuzz
 
M

Maverick

Diamond Member
Jun 14, 2000
5,900
0
71
I dated a girl that was a psych major a long time ago...she got a BS and I'm not sure if she decided to keep going with it. She thought math was hard and thought computers were for nerds.

Needless to say it didn't work out. My fiance now graduated with a BS in CS (just like me) except she hates coding so she's a technical consultant and we work in the same company. In our case it helped a lot that we both had the same level of education.
Now she's planning on doing an MBA and I may do the same so we can start a business later on.
 
DrPizza

DrPizza

Administrator Elite Member Goat Whisperer
Mar 5, 2001
49,601
167
111
www.slatebrookfarm.com
Wife has 3 associates degrees and a professional certificate (nursing - RN)
I've got 1 bachelors degree, finished 7 out of 8 semesters in engineering, and a load of graduate credits, but no master's yet.

Does 3 of a kind beat 1?
 
dullard

dullard

Elite Member
May 21, 2001
25,974
4,584
126
Me: PhD in Chemical Engineering
Wife: BS in German Education
Together almost 10 years, married almost 5.

We have no problems related to your post. My wife does take pride in the fact that she majoried in something that I know nothing about (since she used to compain that I was a know-it-all).

Studies have shown again and again that large IQ differences lead to problems with couples, but I haven't seen anything linking the amount of time spend in college to problems. Maybe there is an effect though...
 
bunker

bunker

Lifer
Apr 23, 2001
10,572
0
71
We both have bachelor's degrees. Have been together for 12 years now (married for 5).
 
cronos

cronos

Diamond Member
Nov 7, 2001
9,380
26
101
i'm MS, she's BA. no problem.
if there is a problem though, it's more because of engr vs. non-engr rather than the level itself (different interest, etc).
 
M

Mr N8

Diamond Member
Dec 3, 2001
8,793
0
76
Wife: Bachelors
Me: Associates (working on bachelors, starting this fall)

No problems at all. We both read and learn all the time, and we can hold conversations that are mentally enjoyable for both of us.
 
Nebor

Nebor

Lifer
Jun 24, 2003
29,582
12
76
I'm.... so lonely.... :p

I voted as if my significant other was my cat. Whos breath smells like catfood.
 
D

djheater

Lifer
Mar 19, 2001
14,637
2
0
My wife has a BS and I have a HS degree. It does not seem to matter in our relationship. We've been married 6 years and have 2.5 children.

We both love to learn and share many interests.
 
G

ggavinmoss

Diamond Member
Apr 20, 2001
4,798
1
0
I have a BS. My GF has a BS and a Masters. She makes me call her master. I am so humbled. :)

-geoff
 
A

AccruedExpenditure

Diamond Member
May 12, 2001
6,960
7
81
Originally posted by: djheater
My wife has a BS and I have a HS degree. It does not seem to matter in our relationship. We've been married 6 years and have 2.5 children.

We both love to learn and share many interests.
Click to expand...

2.5 :shocked:
 
D

djheater

Lifer
Mar 19, 2001
14,637
2
0
Originally posted by: Gnote
Originally posted by: djheater
My wife has a BS and I have a HS degree. It does not seem to matter in our relationship. We've been married 6 years and have 2.5 children.

We both love to learn and share many interests.
Click to expand...

2.5 :shocked:
Click to expand...

bun in the oven :D due November.
 
T

thawolfman

Lifer
Dec 9, 2001
11,107
0
76
Bachelors for me, she's working on her associates.

No problems here although her mom seems to think it will be~ :roll:
 
B

blackdogdeek

Lifer
Mar 14, 2003
14,453
10
81
i have a bs in math and some course work towards a ms.

she has a bs in math and comp sci.

we have completely different interests but neither the differences in interests nor the differences in education cause any kind of conflict.

i think the cause is deeper than just level of education as the OP states. i think it has to do with attitude or personality; and the level of education is a by-product of that attitude.
 
DT4K

DT4K

Diamond Member
Jan 21, 2002
6,944
3
81
I have two BS degrees (Computer Science and General Science w/ chemistry emphasis).
My wife has between one and two years worth of college credit.

But that is because we started having children, she wanted to stay home to raise them, and I completely agreed with that decision.
We just had our 4th child threee months ago. We are 99% sure she is our last.
My wife is very intelligent and could get a degree in almost anything she wants.
She hasn't decided what she wants to do, but she took a couple classes this past fall and winter terms while she was pregnant. She will probably take classes again in the fall to get her Associate degree done. Then we'll see what she wants to do from there. But she is planning on being home with our kids until the youngest is in school.
 
T

TwinkleToes77

Diamond Member
Jul 13, 2002
5,086
1
0
I wouldnt say my SO is higher/lower than me education wise. I went through 4 years of univ and failed to graduate because i dropped out.. He went to a trade school and got a diploma there. We both are very educated. We both love learning new things. A degree doesn't necessarily mean you are smarter than someone else.
 
G

ggavinmoss

Diamond Member
Apr 20, 2001
4,798
1
0
Originally posted by: Shanti
I have two BS degrees (Computer Science and General Science w/ chemistry emphasis).
My wife has between one and two years worth of college credit.

....
Click to expand...

You have a BS in "General Science" -- that sounds absurdly broad. That's like getting a degree in "Stuff." :)

-geoff
 
Nebor

Nebor

Lifer
Jun 24, 2003
29,582
12
76
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
I wouldnt say my SO is higher/lower than me education wise. I went through 4 years of univ and failed to graduate because i dropped out.. He went to a trade school and got a diploma there. We both are very educated. A degree necessarily mean you are smarter than someone else.
Click to expand...

It does to me. Dummy.






:p :D
 
A

Armitage

Banned
Feb 23, 2001
8,086
0
0
Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
i have a bs in math and some course work towards a ms.

she has a bs in math and comp sci.

we have completely different interests but neither the differences in interests nor the differences in education cause any kind of conflict.

i think the cause is deeper than just level of education as the OP states. i think it has to do with attitude or personality; and the level of education is a by-product of that attitude.
Click to expand...

I agree it certainly not as simple as just level of education, but I suspect it's a contributing factor.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

TRENDING THREADS

COMPANY
RESOURCES
FOLLOW
Top Bottom