Ok, sooooo...this is long as shat, so...if you don't like reading...i would suggest you find a different topic, lol 
Well lets start off. I've been going out w/ my girlfriend for 3 1/2 yrs now. Had it's ups and downs, good times and bad. I really do care a lot about her and we have shared so many things together as well as help the other in times of crisis.
Now, about 1 1/2 yrs ago, i met my current best friend. She is almost the female copy of myself and i love spending time with her. Everyone says we should be dating and that we are so much alike, bla bla bla, not to mention we say and think the same thing almost all the time. She also understands me extremely well, which is rare bcuz i am weird, lol. I also feel that i understand her a good amount of the time. All of her interests are the same or close to mine and we enjoy doing similar things. She has a boyfriend and they get along most of the time, though recently it has been kind of rough and i fear for their relationship.
Ok, so, whats the deal you might ask? Well, i really really care a lot about my girlfriend and dare i say love her. But, we are just so different. There aren'y very many common interests between us and the things i LOVE to do, she isn't very fond of. The things she loves to do, i'm not fond of. She understands me to a certain level, but sometimes it gets to the point to where she is just clueless. I understand her most of the time, but she has had an incredibly rough life (biological father and step father died, list goes on) and it is hard for me to understand the way she feels bcuz my life isnt so hard and the worst i've encountered is one of my best friends dying. I know that seems like i lot, but it is nothing compaired to her, poor thing
So, now about me. I know i'm just a kid and don't really know anything about love, but i see no point in being in a relationship that does not have the potential to become a marriage. I feel that it is a waste of time and it just makes people hurt. I also hate to hurt people (emotionally, lol). I dont really care that much about sex appeal and sex life (for now at least, i just cant handle kids atm, lol) , though both of the girls are extremely beautiful and kinky ( )
So...what is so bad about the girlfriend. Well, since we don't have a whole lot of common interests, we don't really do a whole lot. We spend time with eachother and do our thing, but...we never play video games together (what i like) and we never go to ballets and musicals (what she likes. omg i HATE musicals @_@ ) Recently it seems every time we speak she manages to piss me off (i'm not normally easy to piss off) and we fight a lot. Now, i know with love comes other things, and arguing and being mad isnt always a bad thing bcuz, it happens, but it just seems like it happens a lot, so it is making me throw a red flag up. I also cannot STAND her family...i feel bad for them and all bcuz of such a hard life, but the way they live and the way they act makes me embarrased just to be around them. My girlfriend however, does not act like them at all. Now, the upsides is she is extremely caring, and though she does things that piss me off, when i tell her, she really tries hard to correct her ways and we are normally pretty good at comprimising. I can tell that she also cares a lot about me and wants the best for me. She is also kind of a girly girl, which is good and bad.
Now, the other girl. She is one of those 'guys with boobs and long hair' type girl. I know some do not like the type but i find it intriguing (my spelling sucks btw, lol) because i am not really a girly-girl type of guy, though my g/f puts up with my 'guy-ness' anywho Anyways, she is really really cool. We had every period together for the last 1 1/2 yrs of high shcool (i think my councilor was trying to start something, lol..like i said, EVERYONE thinks we should be dating... ) including a Cisco Internetworking class which kicks total ass bcuz she is so smart and knows a lot about computers, gaming, etc (which i like) We also worked at the same store for around a year. Electronics store, lol. She is really down to earth and sees things on the same level as i do. Even though i have abstract views on things and bcuz i am always learning new things my ideas change, she still understands me. She is simply my best friend and i am hers. I have no secrets i have hidden from her while i have a few minor ones hidden from the girlfriend bcuz i know she wouldn't understand and get all pissy. Even when i screw up big time, instead of getting pissy and upset (like the g/f) she gets dissapointed but reminds me that i normally do stupid things (true, lol) and i always have the ability to do better. I really care a lot about her and i sometimes feel something 'inside' me that makes me feel like i love her a lot. I dunno how to explain it, but it is kind of like how somtimes adults are like "you wont understand how much i love u until you have ur own kids' kind of thing. I dont understand it, i just feel that way. I'm sure i could understand it if i tried hard enough, maybe i just havent? I also know that she cares alot about me and considers me like a brother. Now, the downsides to her. Bcuz she is a lot like me, she is stubborn, and this sometimes poses problems when we try to comprimise on things, but we normally dont have to becuz we think alike. She is also somewhat unforgiving if you wrong her deeply. Not that she won't forgive you, it just hurts her very badly and takesher a while to get over. I however, (not trying to brag) can't think of a time where i did not forgive someone instantainiously upon their asking for forgiveness and sometimes forgave w/o the asking. Also, she has a boyfriend and has now moved across the country. I think that she is somewhat happy in this relationship and i would never even think of trying to break them apart somehow bcuz i know it would break her heart. The previously had plans to be married, but they have since vanished and things are going much slower now. I have never told her the way i feel about her (well...never told her i car about her in that certain way, she knows i love her like a sister at least) and she has not told me either, so i don't know if she really does, though people seem to think so. She would tell me that her mom would pester her about me having the 'hots' for her and bla bla. soo..i dunno... She has said once that a marriage would never work between the two of us though bcuz we are to different. I think she was just saying that bcuz she was scared i felt a certain way about her and did not want to lose her boyfriend or hurt my feelings but shutting me down. It is quite obvious to me, others, and her (she has admitted it even, lol, very ironic) that we are quite similar.
So....now the time for decisions come. I've been battleing with my mind for months on how to approach the situation, so i figured some input couldnt hurt. soo...should i:
a) stick with the current g/f and abandon all hope of getting together w/ the other girl and focus my love on the person i already have.
b) leave the current g/f and just stay open to future oppurtunites. U never know, there might be another person that is even better.
c) leave the current g/f in the hopes that the best friend will one day feel the same towards me and things will work out. In the mean time chill with the bros bcuz they pwn, lol.
d) leave the current g/f, don't worry about any more relationships and just wait for something to happen on it's own and in the meantime hang w/ the bros, bcuz again, they pwn
also, any input is appreciated. thanks ppls
Well lets start off. I've been going out w/ my girlfriend for 3 1/2 yrs now. Had it's ups and downs, good times and bad. I really do care a lot about her and we have shared so many things together as well as help the other in times of crisis.
Now, about 1 1/2 yrs ago, i met my current best friend. She is almost the female copy of myself and i love spending time with her. Everyone says we should be dating and that we are so much alike, bla bla bla, not to mention we say and think the same thing almost all the time. She also understands me extremely well, which is rare bcuz i am weird, lol. I also feel that i understand her a good amount of the time. All of her interests are the same or close to mine and we enjoy doing similar things. She has a boyfriend and they get along most of the time, though recently it has been kind of rough and i fear for their relationship.
Ok, so, whats the deal you might ask? Well, i really really care a lot about my girlfriend and dare i say love her. But, we are just so different. There aren'y very many common interests between us and the things i LOVE to do, she isn't very fond of. The things she loves to do, i'm not fond of. She understands me to a certain level, but sometimes it gets to the point to where she is just clueless. I understand her most of the time, but she has had an incredibly rough life (biological father and step father died, list goes on) and it is hard for me to understand the way she feels bcuz my life isnt so hard and the worst i've encountered is one of my best friends dying. I know that seems like i lot, but it is nothing compaired to her, poor thing
So, now about me. I know i'm just a kid and don't really know anything about love, but i see no point in being in a relationship that does not have the potential to become a marriage. I feel that it is a waste of time and it just makes people hurt. I also hate to hurt people (emotionally, lol). I dont really care that much about sex appeal and sex life (for now at least, i just cant handle kids atm, lol) , though both of the girls are extremely beautiful and kinky (
)So...what is so bad about the girlfriend. Well, since we don't have a whole lot of common interests, we don't really do a whole lot. We spend time with eachother and do our thing, but...we never play video games together (what i like) and we never go to ballets and musicals (what she likes. omg i HATE musicals @_@ ) Recently it seems every time we speak she manages to piss me off (i'm not normally easy to piss off) and we fight a lot. Now, i know with love comes other things, and arguing and being mad isnt always a bad thing bcuz, it happens, but it just seems like it happens a lot, so it is making me throw a red flag up. I also cannot STAND her family...i feel bad for them and all bcuz of such a hard life, but the way they live and the way they act makes me embarrased just to be around them. My girlfriend however, does not act like them at all. Now, the upsides is she is extremely caring, and though she does things that piss me off, when i tell her, she really tries hard to correct her ways and we are normally pretty good at comprimising. I can tell that she also cares a lot about me and wants the best for me. She is also kind of a girly girl, which is good and bad.
Now, the other girl. She is one of those 'guys with boobs and long hair' type girl. I know some do not like the type but i find it intriguing (my spelling sucks btw, lol) because i am not really a girly-girl type of guy, though my g/f puts up with my 'guy-ness' anywho
Anyways, she is really really cool. We had every period together for the last 1 1/2 yrs of high shcool (i think my councilor was trying to start something, lol..like i said, EVERYONE thinks we should be dating... ) including a Cisco Internetworking class which kicks total ass bcuz she is so smart and knows a lot about computers, gaming, etc (which i like) We also worked at the same store for around a year. Electronics store, lol. She is really down to earth and sees things on the same level as i do. Even though i have abstract views on things and bcuz i am always learning new things my ideas change, she still understands me. She is simply my best friend and i am hers. I have no secrets i have hidden from her while i have a few minor ones hidden from the girlfriend bcuz i know she wouldn't understand and get all pissy. Even when i screw up big time, instead of getting pissy and upset (like the g/f) she gets dissapointed but reminds me that i normally do stupid things (true, lol) and i always have the ability to do better. I really care a lot about her and i sometimes feel something 'inside' me that makes me feel like i love her a lot. I dunno how to explain it, but it is kind of like how somtimes adults are like "you wont understand how much i love u until you have ur own kids' kind of thing. I dont understand it, i just feel that way. I'm sure i could understand it if i tried hard enough, maybe i just havent? I also know that she cares alot about me and considers me like a brother. Now, the downsides to her. Bcuz she is a lot like me, she is stubborn, and this sometimes poses problems when we try to comprimise on things, but we normally dont have to becuz we think alike. She is also somewhat unforgiving if you wrong her deeply. Not that she won't forgive you, it just hurts her very badly and takesher a while to get over. I however, (not trying to brag) can't think of a time where i did not forgive someone instantainiously upon their asking for forgiveness and sometimes forgave w/o the asking. Also, she has a boyfriend and has now moved across the country. I think that she is somewhat happy in this relationship and i would never even think of trying to break them apart somehow bcuz i know it would break her heart. The previously had plans to be married, but they have since vanished and things are going much slower now. I have never told her the way i feel about her (well...never told her i car about her in that certain way, she knows i love her like a sister at least) and she has not told me either, so i don't know if she really does, though people seem to think so. She would tell me that her mom would pester her about me having the 'hots' for her and bla bla. soo..i dunno... She has said once that a marriage would never work between the two of us though bcuz we are to different. I think she was just saying that bcuz she was scared i felt a certain way about her and did not want to lose her boyfriend or hurt my feelings but shutting me down. It is quite obvious to me, others, and her (she has admitted it even, lol, very ironic) that we are quite similar.So....now the time for decisions come. I've been battleing with my mind for months on how to approach the situation, so i figured some input couldnt hurt. soo...should i:
a) stick with the current g/f and abandon all hope of getting together w/ the other girl and focus my love on the person i already have.
b) leave the current g/f and just stay open to future oppurtunites. U never know, there might be another person that is even better.
c) leave the current g/f in the hopes that the best friend will one day feel the same towards me and things will work out. In the mean time chill with the bros bcuz they pwn, lol.
d) leave the current g/f, don't worry about any more relationships and just wait for something to happen on it's own and in the meantime hang w/ the bros, bcuz again, they pwn
also, any input is appreciated.
thanks ppls
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