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I've got a problem

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Dari

Lifer
I'm supposed to get married next year. But I don't like jewelry; don't like to hold money; and don't like other people to touch me, unless it's my fiancee during sex.. I cannot imagine wearing a ring and I've let my fiancee know. She doesn't know what to say to this. I doubt that she has much of a choice on the matter but it won't look good when family comes around. They might think I'm cheating on her or something.

Is there a name for this problem I have?
 
Not wanting to get married? I don't know, can't you put on something as a buffer or something? Unless this is a diagnosed thing you need to suck it up.
 
Originally posted by: Mr Incognito
Not wanting to get married? I don't know, can't you put on something as a buffer or something? Unless this is a diagnosed thing you need to suck it up.
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Marriage isn't the problem, it's the ring I would have to wear.
 
Originally posted by: Dari
I'm supposed to get married next year. But I don't like jewelry; don't like to hold money; and don't like other people to touch me, unless it's my fiancee during sex.. I cannot imagine wearing a ring and I've let my fiancee know. She doesn't know what to say to this. I doubt that she has much of a choice on the matter but it won't look good when family comes around. They might think I'm cheating on her or something.

Is there a name for this problem I have?
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Supposed to? Most people would say "I am getting married next year."

You got bigger problems than jewelry and money, my friend. Please get some counseling before you take your vows.
 
Originally posted by: Dari
Originally posted by: Mr Incognito
Not wanting to get married? I don't know, can't you put on something as a buffer or something? Unless this is a diagnosed thing you need to suck it up.
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Marriage isn't the problem, it's the ring I would have to wear.
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Get a tatoo of the ring instead.

edit: the problem you seem to have is 'an irrational fear of commitment'.

 
Originally posted by: RKS
Originally posted by: Dari
Originally posted by: Mr Incognito
Not wanting to get married? I don't know, can't you put on something as a buffer or something? Unless this is a diagnosed thing you need to suck it up.
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Marriage isn't the problem, it's the ring I would have to wear.
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Get a tatoo of the ring instead.

edit: the problem you seem to have is 'an irrational fear of commitment'.
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But that would require someone touching him.
 
Originally posted by: sixone
Originally posted by: Dari
I'm supposed to get married next year. But I don't like jewelry; don't like to hold money; and don't like other people to touch me, unless it's my fiancee during sex.. I cannot imagine wearing a ring and I've let my fiancee know. She doesn't know what to say to this. I doubt that she has much of a choice on the matter but it won't look good when family comes around. They might think I'm cheating on her or something.

Is there a name for this problem I have?
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Supposed to? Most people would say "I am getting married next year."

You got bigger problems than jewelry and money, my friend. Please get some counseling before you take your vows.
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I think you're caught up on semantics.

Originally posted by: clamum
Why don't you want to wear the ring?
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I don't like jewelry.
 
i am married and dont wear a ring or any jewlery.

My wife is fine with it. She said she would get miffed if i started wearing it but didnt wear the ring.
 
Originally posted by: Dari
Originally posted by: sixone
Originally posted by: Dari
I'm supposed to get married next year. But I don't like jewelry; don't like to hold money; and don't like other people to touch me, unless it's my fiancee during sex.. I cannot imagine wearing a ring and I've let my fiancee know. She doesn't know what to say to this. I doubt that she has much of a choice on the matter but it won't look good when family comes around. They might think I'm cheating on her or something.

Is there a name for this problem I have?
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Supposed to? Most people would say "I am getting married next year."

You got bigger problems than jewelry and money, my friend. Please get some counseling before you take your vows.
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I think you're caught up on semantics.
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Could be. But denial isn't a river in Egypt. 😉



 
Few men are ever initially comfortable with rings. Put the thing on. It'll be a nuisance and it'll be itchy for the first two weeks. But after that, you'll definately miss it when it isn't on.

I was married for 6 years. I hated the ring for the first two weeks. But now that I'm divorced for 2 years, I still occasionally have a brief panic when I realize the ring isn't on and I think I lost it. Then I quickly realize it shouldn't be on. What I'm trying to say is that you get accustomed to it and it becomes a part of you. After 2 weeks it will NOT bother you at all.

Be a man and suffer for those 2 weeks. If you can't do that, you shouldn't get married.
 
Ignoring what could be some deeper issues, I will say that you'll get used to the ring. I had never wore a ring in my life prior to getting married. Hated jewelry of any sort, aside from a watch. We even had conversations about me possibly not wearing a ring because of the discomfort. But, I wore one and within a couple months, it was no big deal. And after a while, I actually felt really odd/naked without it on. I've been divorced for a while and every once in a while, I'll still catch myself feeling a bit odd without one on.

If your reasons go beyond just not liking the feeling of having jewelry on, then you may need to have those issues addressed before walking the aisle.

Edit: Beat me to the punch, Dullard. I too, get that same exact scare of having lost my ring at times, despite being divorced for a while now. Kind of freaky when it happens.
 
Originally posted by: dullard
Few men are ever initially comfortable with rings. Put the thing on. It'll be a nuisance and it'll be itchy for the first two weeks. But after that, you'll definately miss it when it isn't on.

I was married for 6 years. I hated the ring for the first two weeks. But now that I'm divorced for 2 years, I still occasionally have a brief panic when I realize the ring isn't on and I think I lost it. Then I quickly realize it shouldn't be on. What I'm trying to say is that you get accustomed to it and it becomes a part of you. After 2 weeks it will NOT bother you at all.

Be a man and suffer for those 2 weeks. If you can't do that, you shouldn't get married.
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The problem is not committment in any way, it is jewelry in general. I have a strong aversion to them.

Originally posted by: Allanv
i am married and dont wear a ring or any jewlery.

My wife is fine with it. She said she would get miffed if i started wearing it but didnt wear the ring.
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Is there a reason why you don't wear yours? Did you have to wear it during the wedding ceremony?

Originally posted by: 49erinnc
Ignoring what could be some deeper issues, I will say that you'll get used to the ring. I had never wore a ring in my life prior to getting married. Hated jewelry of any sort, aside from a watch. We even had conversations about me possibly not wearing a ring because of the discomfort. But, I wore one and within a couple months, it was no big deal. And after a while, I actually felt really odd/naked without it on. I've been divorced for a while and every once in a while, I'll still catch myself feeling a bit odd without one on.

If your reasons go beyond just not liking the feeling of having jewelry on, then you may need to have those issues addressed before walking the aisle.

Edit: Beat me to the punch, Dullard. I too, get that same exact scare of having lost my ring at times, despite being divorced for a while now. Kind of freaky when it happens.
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Do I really have issues that can be "fixed"? I'm not a dog, man, just a person that doesn't like certain things. Everybody's not the same.
 
Originally posted by: Dari
The problem is not committment in any way, it is jewelry in general. I have a strong aversion to them.
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Like I said, be a man and after 2 weeks you won't have an aversion to it. That has nothing to do with committment. But if you can't be a man you shouldn't get married. Again, not a committment thing, but just a society thing.

 
Originally posted by: Dari
I'm supposed to get married next year. But I don't like jewelry; don't like to hold money; and don't like other people to touch me, unless it's my fiancee during sex.. I cannot imagine wearing a ring and I've let my fiancee know. She doesn't know what to say to this. I doubt that she has much of a choice on the matter but it won't look good when family comes around. They might think I'm cheating on her or something.

Is there a name for this problem I have?
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What does the fact that you don't like to hold money or have other people touch you have to do with wearing a ring?
 
Originally posted by: dullard
Originally posted by: Dari
The problem is not committment in any way, it is jewelry in general. I have a strong aversion to them.
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Like I said, be a man and after 2 weeks you won't have an aversion to it. That has nothing to do with committment. But if you can't be a man you shouldn't get married. Again, not a committment thing, but just a society thing.
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What you just did right there isn't even fair. You defined what it was to be a man and you used your own definition against me. So long as I love my wife, work hard and pay the bills, WTF does a ring have to do with it. Besides, what if, instead of wearing a ring, you had to have one of your toes cut off, would decapitating yourself be considered manly?
 
Originally posted by: jiggahertz
Originally posted by: Dari
I'm supposed to get married next year. But I don't like jewelry; don't like to hold money; and don't like other people to touch me, unless it's my fiancee during sex.. I cannot imagine wearing a ring and I've let my fiancee know. She doesn't know what to say to this. I doubt that she has much of a choice on the matter but it won't look good when family comes around. They might think I'm cheating on her or something.

Is there a name for this problem I have?
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What does the fact that you don't like to hold money or have other people touch you have to do with wearing a ring?
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I don't like foreign objects touching me, aside from clothes and other appareils.
 
Originally posted by: Wapp
OP to rename this thread to "I've got PROBLEMS"
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I disagree. Quit being so hard on the guy. There's nothing wrong with them. He's a normal guy who doesn't like jewelery. So what? People aren't the same.

OP: I say go for it. Use the time saved not taking the ring off and not putting the ring back on after the shower and swimming and such and use that energy to show your wife how much you care a bit extra every day. **** a ring. It means nothing.
 
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Wapp
OP to rename this thread to "I've got PROBLEMS"
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I disagree. Quit being so hard on the guy. There's nothing wrong with them. He's a normal guy who doesn't like jewelery. So what? People aren't the same.

OP: I say go for it. Use the time saved not taking the ring off and not putting the ring back on after the shower and swimming and such and use that energy to show your wife how much you care a bit extra every day. **** a ring. It means nothing.
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Thanks man.
 
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