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Is this considered cheating?

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Cook1

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Ok guys, help me out here.

A co-worker came up to me today and told me all this crap about her personal life about what's going on...actually made the time pass more quickly. Anyways, her husband of 10 years of marriage has been for the past year and a half has been calling phone sex lines. She wanted my opinion on it because the friend's she has talked to about it are kinda split down the middle. Some say it's not cheating because there was no physical sex involved, others are saying that it is because of the action itself. Me being 22 talking to a 45 year old lady about this I kinda told her I'd think on it. Oh and she was nice enough to tell me that they haven't been intimate in the past year...yeah, I had an interesting afternoon...

So now I'm curious what others think!
 
lusting in one's heart is cheating by my defination. If I had a guy who I knew had deep lust for another woman, he might as well as hit it... cause he is aleady guilty in his heart and that is enough for me.

🙂
 
I would consider that cheating. It appears the intent is for him to somehow satisfy sexual need outside of marriage, without his wife's consent/approval. I also get the impression that she's interested in cheating on him with you (or otherwise feels the need to confide in you for some other reason?). Perhaps she's letting you know in an indirect manner that she herself is rather lonely..
 
You mean people actually call those? This guy must really be a spineless, pathetic, sack of sh!t.

And I don't think it's cheating any more than watching porn is. Which isn't.

- M4H
 
Yeah she needed another opinion she told me because she doesn't know what to do or anything along those lines. Me having next to zilch on this kind of experience couldn't offer her much for advice. Just basically told her that I would think on it, but it was deffinetly wrong.

Oh and she found out because he was out on a fishing trip for a week and the cell phone bill came two days early. So she caught him in the act, and when she called him to ask him about it, he was yelling at her.
 
Originally posted by: OulOat
Tough call, by KarenMarie's definition lusting over a movie star would be cheating.
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No.. there is a difference between fantasizing and lusting after. But if he were lusting after a movie star to the point where it affected our relationship... he would be gone for a lot of additional reasons.

😉
 
what if he's thinking about HER when he's on the phone with the others? his heart still lusts for her or something.

someone start a thread where would you rather:
1. have your significant other has an affair but thinking of you during the act
or
2. have your significant other think of someone else while doing you.
 
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
lusting in one's heart is cheating by my defination. If I had a guy who I knew had deep lust for another woman, he might as well as hit it... cause he is aleady guilty in his heart and that is enough for me.

🙂
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I agree with you. Similar situations have come up with my friends and they all disagree with me. Since we're all guys, I get razzed about this quite a bit. They think I'm breaking some kind of male code or something. Lusting in one's heart is absolutely cheating as far as I'm concerned.
 
Originally posted by: HN
what if he's thinking about HER when he's on the phone with the others? his heart still lusts for her or something.

someone start a thread where would you rather:
1. have your significant other having an affair but thinking of you during the act
or
2. have your significant other think of someone else while doing you.
Click to expand...

But it has to be a poll...
 
PICS??! I need to know if I'd hit it...😛

Anyway it's a lot like looking at pr0n when you're married. There was a thread about it a few weeks ago here in ATOT, but seriously, if you're married and you still need to look at pr0n or phone sex, you've pretty much lost it.
 
Originally posted by: Cook1
Originally posted by: HN
what if he's thinking about HER when he's on the phone with the others? his heart still lusts for her or something.

someone start a thread where would you rather:
1. have your significant other having an affair but thinking of you during the act
or
2. have your significant other think of someone else while doing you.
Click to expand...

But it has to be a poll...
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absolutely. but since i don't show uber1337platinumblingedout member under my name, i'd probably get -1 vote 😕 😀
 
Originally posted by: HN
what if he's thinking about HER when he's on the phone with the others? his heart still lusts for her or something.

someone start a thread where would you rather:
1. have your significant other having an affair but thinking of you during the act
or
2. have your significant other think of someone else while doing you.
Click to expand...

why is there a choice?

Why would he have to think about his wife while calling sex lines? She is right there, no?
And why is it a choice of a or b... why not just be with the one you want... or not being with them and being somewhere else? Why should there even be an option to be with one and want another?
 
Not cheating.
Why no sex for a year?
If I went on a fishing trip and hadn't had sex for a year I would order up some "escorts" not call phone sex numbers.
 
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