Is this consider rude/impolite?

[Attrox]

Let's say you are driving with 2 passengers. You dropped off 1 person who were sitting next to you.

EDIT:
Do you feel uncomfortable or maybe you don't mind if your friend choose to NOT sit in the empy front seat?
Or have you sit in the back seat when the front seat is empty? Do you feel the need to move to the front, why or why not?

Back in my home country I & my friends consider this rude and always move to the empty seat in the front. Last week I got into an argument with my japanese friend. She sat in the back and at first refused to move to the front even though I asked her to move (She lives about 10 minutes from where we were at the time). She finally moved to the front once it's obvious that I was kinda pissed. She told me she doesn't know about this and it's probably a cultural issue. I think this is BS since it's more of a common courtesy, what do you think?

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[FoBoT]

not rude, just a little unusual

 

[brunswickite]

why does it matter, if they sit in the front or back? especially if it was only 10 minute ride and was a friend.

 

[pyonir]

I don't like it when they don't move...but i don't think i'd go so far as to call it rude or impoliet. I usually ask them, "where would you like to go today Miss Daisy!?"

 

[Attrox]

Originally posted by: FoBoT
not rude, just a little unusual

Yeah, I told her that I don't want to feel like her personal driver but she said she is confused and kept asking "why?"

 

[MadPeriot]

If you're a child or elderly person they usually sat in the back seat. Suppose to be safer than the front. But if it's just a friend should move to the front. It be kind of rude if they don't move.

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: brunswickite
why does it matter, if they sit in the front or back? especially if it was only 10 minute ride and was a friend.

yea why would it matter? I don't consider it impolite and never heard of this courtesy before. Perhaps she felt awkward sitting in the front?

 

[PanzerIV]

Originally posted by: pyonir
I don't like it when they don't move...but i don't think i'd go so far as to call it rude or impoliet. I usually ask them, "where would you like to go today Miss Daisy!?"

Hahaha!!

 

[Attrox]

She is the girlfriend of my friend and I know her at first because she is the girlfriend. The problem is she is very childish (26 yrs old) and lately really get on my nerve but I never say anything.

The problem is, I asked her nicely to move and told her I don't want to feel like her personal driver. She kept insisting on not moving til it's obvious I became pissed. She kept saying this is because she has different culture.
I'm just wondering whether it is, because I will ALWAYS move if the seat in the front is empty. What about you guys?

 

[anxi80]

Originally posted by: pyonir
I usually ask them, "where would you like to go today Miss Daisy!?"

ha! i do the same thing!

 

[Attrox]

Originally posted by: pyonir
I don't like it when they don't move...but i don't think i'd go so far as to call it rude or impoliet. I usually ask them, "where would you like to go today Miss Daisy!?"

LOL :thumbsup:
I'll try that line in the future, dunno if she even know what I'm talking about though

 

[Howard]

I generally move to the front. It's a better seat anyway.

 

[Passions]

In Asian culture, the boss or socially higher of rank sit in the back. You are like her driver, therefore by sitting in the back, she is of higher rank.

If you two are friends, then she has no reason to sit in the back unless she wanted to make a point that you were inferior to her. What a nutjob.

 

[dullard]

Most people want to sit in the front (kids fight over this priviledge). Thus most people will naturally do it. But I have concerns.
[*]Why do you get pissed at a friend who wants to sit in the back for just a short car trip?
[*]Is it rude to be pissed at your friend and demand she move?
[*]Some people get sick in the front seat and are better in the back, is it rude to force them to be sick?
[*]Why do we have to consider where people sit rude? Why can't we have a free country? Why hold on to this baseless notions that a person MUST sit here or else?
[*]Was it rude for you to drop off the person in the front seat first? Or to not insist on that person in the back to begin the trip?
[*]You are a handsome guy, maybe she felt she couldn't keep her hands off of you and wanted to sit in back...

 

[Attrox]

Originally posted by: Anonemous

Originally posted by: brunswickite
why does it matter, if they sit in the front or back? especially if it was only 10 minute ride and was a friend.

yea why would it matter? I don't consider it impolite and never heard of this courtesy before. Perhaps she felt awkward sitting in the front?

Highly doubt that she felt awkward, I drove her alone too before. I'm thinking she gets too comfortable since she know me well now and just have no respect for me (I asked her nicely to move to the front). I doubt she'll refuse to move if I just know her.

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: Howard
I generally move to the front. It's a better seat anyway.

yea I've always considered riding shotgun to be the best seat, never thought about the driver/chauffeur angle before though...

 

[yllus]

Huh. Weird. A Chinese friend of mine did that once to sit with her other female friend, leaving me alone in front to drive. It felt odd.

 

[eelw]

Boy, you're taking it over board. You asked if she would like to sit in the front, but she declined - leave it alone. Especially for a 10 minute ride.

 

[Attrox]

Originally posted by: dullard
Most people want to sit in the front (kids fight over this priviledge). Thus most people will naturally do it. But I have concerns.
[*]Why do you get pissed at a friend who wants to sit in the back for just a short car trip?
[*]Is it rude to be pissed at your friend and demand she move?
[*]Some people get sick in the front seat and are better in the back, is it rude to force them to be sick?
[*]Why do we have to consider where people sit rude? Why can't we have a free country? Why hold on to this baseless notions that a person MUST sit here or else?
[*]Was it rude for you to drop off the person in the front seat first? Or to not insist on that person in the back to begin the trip?

1. I didn't get pissed right away, I ask her whether she can move and first I thought she was playing when she insist on not moving.
2. See #1
3. No, a lot of time she sits in the front
4. I feel uncomfortable if I have to drive her sitting in the back.
5. LOL, we went to a restaurant (which by the way, I was treating them dinner) and the boyfriend need to be dropped off somewhere first and I'm driving his gf back to her home.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: Attrox
4. I feel uncomfortable if I have to drive her sitting in the back.

So lets work on this one. Why do you have to feel uncomfortable? Have fun with it instead. Different situations are what makes life good.

 

[Attrox]

Originally posted by: eelw
Boy, you're taking it over board. You asked if she would like to sit in the front, but she declined - leave it alone. Especially for a 10 minute ride.

LOL, the day after the incident I jokingly told my friend (the bf) about this and he told me he had the same argument with the gf about this before.

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: Attrox
Let's say you are driving with 2 passengers. You dropped off 1 person who were sitting next to you.
Is it consider rude/impolite if the other passenger continue to sit in the back instead of moving to the seat next to you?

Back in my home country I & my friends consider this rude and always move to the empty seat in the front. Last week I got into an argument with my japanese friend. She sat in the back and at first refused to move to the front even though I asked her to move (She lives about 10 minutes from where we were at the time). She finally moved to the front once it's obvious that I was kinda pissed. She told me she doesn't know about this and it's probably a cultural issue. I think this is BS since it's more of a common courtesy, what do you think?

japanese people have wierd "cultural things" too, ask her if she has a rape fantasy/fetish


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[Attrox]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: Attrox
4. I feel uncomfortable if I have to drive her sitting in the back.

So lets work on this one. Why do you have to feel uncomfortable? Have fun with it instead. Different situations are what makes life good.

You'll feel uncomfortable if you raised with this sort of culture before too, I guess western culture does not have this issue. But for some Asian country, only Boss sits alone in the back separate from the driver. The problem is if I feel uncomfortable and clearly show it to her, why the hell she didn't offer to move until it's really apparent that I was angry.

 

[rh71]

yeah it kinda feels like you're a cab driver if nobody moves up to the front... definitely unusual for anyone not to understand that.

 

[Anonemous]

Originally posted by: Ameesh

Originally posted by: Attrox
Let's say you are driving with 2 passengers. You dropped off 1 person who were sitting next to you.
Is it consider rude/impolite if the other passenger continue to sit in the back instead of moving to the seat next to you?

Back in my home country I & my friends consider this rude and always move to the empty seat in the front. Last week I got into an argument with my japanese friend. She sat in the back and at first refused to move to the front even though I asked her to move (She lives about 10 minutes from where we were at the time). She finally moved to the front once it's obvious that I was kinda pissed. She told me she doesn't know about this and it's probably a cultural issue. I think this is BS since it's more of a common courtesy, what do you think?

japanese people have wierd "cultural things" too, ask her if she has a rape fantasy/fetish


ohhh prrrrreeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaasssseeeeeeeeeee mr. harrriiiiisssssss nooooooooooo


wrick my stocking!

that just came out of left field...