I figured the OP was 19 or something. Dude 23 is too old to be living at home with your folks still. I'm 23 and I own my own house (as of today I've had it 1 year), c'mon.
sourceninja
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I moved out directly after graduation. I couldn't conceive being an 'adult' and living with my parents. I bought my first house at 25.
Just take a shower the night before and start saving your pennies so you can move out and spend 2 hours in the shower.
Jeff7
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There is no "set" age for moving out. Some people NEED to get away, and BOOM, they're out of there as soon as they possibly can. Others don't fell such a need, and so long as no one minds, why should it be a problem? I lived at home until I was 24, and I left only to go back to college.
After high school, I attended a community college full time and worked part time. Afterwards, I worked retail full time for over 2 years - the community college major really didn't suit me; it wasn't at all what I'd expected it to be.
My parents considered charging me rent, but decided against it because I was useful around the house. Neither of them are too mechanically or technically inclined, my mom's on disability, and my dad has rheumatoid arthritis. Having me around meant not only saving money from me fixing broken things or doing preventative maintenance, but it was also easier for them just having someone else around to help out in general.
I also have a good relationship with my parents - with all this, there was no big push for me to leave. I felt no urgent need to leave, and they liked having me there. It was really me getting tired of working at a lousy retail job that made me look at going back to college, and that happened to entail moving out. I think it was harder on my parents than on me. I never really felt "homesick," oddly enough. They though had been quite accustomed to me being around almost constantly, for 23 or 24 years.
After high school, I attended a community college full time and worked part time. Afterwards, I worked retail full time for over 2 years - the community college major really didn't suit me; it wasn't at all what I'd expected it to be.
My parents considered charging me rent, but decided against it because I was useful around the house. Neither of them are too mechanically or technically inclined, my mom's on disability, and my dad has rheumatoid arthritis. Having me around meant not only saving money from me fixing broken things or doing preventative maintenance, but it was also easier for them just having someone else around to help out in general.
I also have a good relationship with my parents - with all this, there was no big push for me to leave. I felt no urgent need to leave, and they liked having me there. It was really me getting tired of working at a lousy retail job that made me look at going back to college, and that happened to entail moving out. I think it was harder on my parents than on me. I never really felt "homesick," oddly enough. They though had been quite accustomed to me being around almost constantly, for 23 or 24 years.
FuzzyDunlop
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ATOT is renowned for OP bashing, but I totally agree with most of it. And same with this topic.
To the OP: Yes, your dad was uncool but shutting off the water. He deffinently could have confronted you in a more timely and effective manner. But if this is what makes you post about your dad, then there must be some other underlying issues that you need to deal with.
To be honest 15-20 minutes is long.
Talk to your Dad about it instead of complaining to us. The true sign of maturity is a healthy relationship with your parents. If thats impossible, get your shit together and move out. Your freaking 23 already. I moved out at 17, and owned my own house at 22.
Do it to it, lars.
To the OP: Yes, your dad was uncool but shutting off the water. He deffinently could have confronted you in a more timely and effective manner. But if this is what makes you post about your dad, then there must be some other underlying issues that you need to deal with.
To be honest 15-20 minutes is long.
Talk to your Dad about it instead of complaining to us. The true sign of maturity is a healthy relationship with your parents. If thats impossible, get your shit together and move out. Your freaking 23 already. I moved out at 17, and owned my own house at 22.
Do it to it, lars.
u paid off your entire house congrats, you don't own your home if your paying a mortage, the bank owns your home.
- Jan 3, 2005
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LOL wow @ the bashing responses here. I expected that much from ATOT, all my threads get counter bashed so its all good.
My dad 98 % of the time gets up to work at 5 am so he has all the hot water he needs, but he doesnt even do anything in the morning, because if YOU READ MY POST, you would know he takes 1-2 FULL WATER HOT BATHS the night before. Today for some reason he stayed home from work, so he had to stir up as much drama as possible.
FYI for all the people saying I Should live alone, your right I should, but I don't have the cash and Id rather save up a bit more and get my own place, instead of renting and never having enough capital to buy my own house/condo.
Also FYI to all the people in this thread telling me to pitch in for utilities, I more then gladly offered to pitch in for my water/gas bill. Also I do pay for the cellphone/internet/telephone/cable bills in the house, not to mention I buy groceries 1-2 times a week. I also buy stuff for the house, like couches, tv's, etc.
He's paying 300 bucks a month for heating because we live in a crappy insulated house that lets all our heat escape, and due to the fact that he enjoys a boiling enviroment, he himself cranks the heat up to the max.
@ my mom and teeth brushing comment, I think she was trying to rinse...
My dad 98 % of the time gets up to work at 5 am so he has all the hot water he needs, but he doesnt even do anything in the morning, because if YOU READ MY POST, you would know he takes 1-2 FULL WATER HOT BATHS the night before. Today for some reason he stayed home from work, so he had to stir up as much drama as possible.
FYI for all the people saying I Should live alone, your right I should, but I don't have the cash and Id rather save up a bit more and get my own place, instead of renting and never having enough capital to buy my own house/condo.
Also FYI to all the people in this thread telling me to pitch in for utilities, I more then gladly offered to pitch in for my water/gas bill. Also I do pay for the cellphone/internet/telephone/cable bills in the house, not to mention I buy groceries 1-2 times a week. I also buy stuff for the house, like couches, tv's, etc.
He's paying 300 bucks a month for heating because we live in a crappy insulated house that lets all our heat escape, and due to the fact that he enjoys a boiling enviroment, he himself cranks the heat up to the max.
@ my mom and teeth brushing comment, I think she was trying to rinse...
alkemyst
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- Feb 13, 2001
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Originally posted by: GeekDrew
I'm probably one of very few people in this thread that agrees w/ the OP that the dad is nuts.
I'm 23, and also live 'at home'. It's beneficial to me because I don't have to pay as much for rent here as I would if I moved out, and mom routinely indicates that she likes me being home, so that I can help pay bills, occasionally replace appliances for them (!), and help out on the farm if needed.
My dad used to throw a fit all the time about everyone taking long showers. I shower every morning, almost always 10 minutes exactly... if I feel like taking my time, maybe 15. I was getting ready for some event a few years ago, and dad decided to turn the water off while I was in the middle of a shower, and mom was getting ready in her bathroom... don't remember what she was doing. We were both livid. She pushed him out of the way and told him to stfu, and told me to go turn the water main back on. Later that night, she had a very short and to-the-point lecture for dad, telling him that if he ever did that again, she'd be happy to ship his belongings to any one of his siblings' houses, and he could move in with them. Then again, dad has never earned even 1/2 as much money as mom (and he wasn't terribly pleased when I earned more in my first job than he has ever made), and he showers once per week, if he thinks he has to.
Hell fuck moving out ever...just stay there, get married and move her in to...profit.
I am sure you mom loves you there, but it would be in your best interest if she encouraged you to grow up.
Living with your parents is fine temporarily with a purpose (ie one year to save a down payment, major financial loss, etc).
Living with your parents full time never has you becoming a true adult.
irishScott
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- Oct 10, 2006
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Wow. OP's getting it easy. My thread about my mom reorganizing my already neatly organized papers without my permission got me everything from "you little immature bitch" to slurs on my manhood.
Ah, the wonder that is ATOT.
Ah, the wonder that is ATOT.
DanTMWTMP
Lifer
- Oct 7, 2001
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I do think your dad is being unreasonable there. But of course, you are in his domain. But it shouldn't be that black/white. He should also listen to his household's concerns.
But just be glad that he didn't do what my dad did to me.
The words "pissed" and "shower" and "dad" is getting mentioned way too many times in this thread. It's making me uncomfortable.
But just be glad that he didn't do what my dad did to me
. The words "pissed" and "shower" and "dad" is getting mentioned way too many times in this thread. It's making me uncomfortable.
moshquerade
No Lifer
- Nov 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: DanTMWTMP
I do think your dad is being unreasonable there. But of course, you are in his domain. But it shouldn't be that black/white. He should also listen to his household's concerns.
But just be glad that he didn't do what my dad did to me
The words "pissed" and "shower" and "dad" is getting mentioned way too many times in this thread. It's making me uncomfortable.
so what are you saying exactly?
Maybe the dad had tried to talk w/ the OP but the OP is apparently a juevenil (either by age or attitude). The mom running while brushing her teeth is dumb, but dumb people are not a rare breed. If the dad is immature, it seems to have rubbed off on the OP.
Ns1
No Lifer
- Jun 17, 2001
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Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: DanTMWTMP
I do think your dad is being unreasonable there. But of course, you are in his domain. But it shouldn't be that black/white. He should also listen to his household's concerns.
But just be glad that he didn't do what my dad did to me
The words "pissed" and "shower" and "dad" is getting mentioned way too many times in this thread. It's making me uncomfortable.
so what are you saying exactly?
His dad gave him a golden shower
it is both, depending on who you are talking aboot
you should never take anything in OT tooooo seriously
but really, there isn't much we can do about your shower/water/communication problems with your dad
either talk to him and work something out or what? no one here can give you a magic bullet to make you and your dad get along or fix whatever is going on between the two of you
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